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I'm friends with Lindsay Tomas, but that's not my last name. :]
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I'm 13/f and I'm having trouble with my body image. I used to be overweight (about 2 years ago) but then my mom helped me get into a better diet and now I'm not SO overweight and fat. Over the past few months I've been starting to eat sweets here and there but I'm still exercising a lot. The feeling of "Oh my gosh I've gotten so fat" suddenly came on in the past month. I have even gained weight and I'm really, really close to being over weight according to the weight chart. I will admit that I'm one of those girls who says "I'm fat" in front of my friends and especially my mom and expect to hear "oh no you're not." So when I said "I've gained a lot of weight!!! GOSH I'm starting to get so fat again..." to my mom she didn't say anything like "you're over reacting...you look just fine." She simply said "well, you're going to have to work on that." I was shocked =O I couldn't believe that even she had started to notice (and in a way agreed with me) and now I'm starting to wonder if other people notice. So...I got really depressed about it...and said to myself "if I could just be skinny I'd feel so much better about myself..." I hate thinking that the only way to get thin is to just not eat. I also realize I'm putting how I LOOK in front of my HEALTH and it's bothering me that I am ignoring what becoming a semi-anorexic would do to my health. I'm not exactly "huge" but I do have plenty of extra pounds I want to get rid of. At the moment I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. When I talked to my mom she just said "well, you need to get back into eating healthy" but I am and it ISN'T WORKING. She also says "You are also over reacting about becoming anorexic. you're being such a drama queen." HELLO! I'M SERIOUS HERE!! and i don't plan on becoming skin and bones. I really need some advice on what to do...I'm worrying myself by the way I'm thinking! =[
I know where you're coming from, honey, and you're definitely not alone. As long as you are in the normal range of the weight chart, you're fine. Could you improve upon your health? Yes, and its good that you recognized that. But you also have to realize that you lost a great deal of weight and took a giant step to being healthier, and you should definitely be proud of that.
As to the "semi-anorexic" thing... I was just like you. During lunch, I never ate, and when I did, it was half of a 100 calorie pack. I starved myself until dinnertime, where I didn't even eat my full meal. It didn't pay off. I only lost 2 pounds a month. Now that I'm eating more and eating correctly, I can loose an easy 4 pounds a month if I try hard enough. So, my point is, eat, and eat right, because you actually gain weight by skipping meals.
I know your self image is suffering right now, but you need to be confident in yourself. You are beautiful inside and out at this very second, and you will still be just as beautiful, no more, no less, if you loose your weight. But, you will be healthier. If you loose too much weight, you won't be so healthy anymore. Once you are in the middle range of your weight chart, I would stop trying to loose your weight. Maintain the diet and exercise, just allow yourself to splurge every now and then on a sweet or two.
Dose anyone know any good healthy exercise to do to make my stomach flat(i dont wanna be completly skiny i just wanna lose some fat in my stomach)
Situps and crunches strengthen your abs. But, in order for your muscles to grow and your flub to melt off, you have to do some cardio, at least half an hour 4x a week, if you only want a flat stomach.
Yay! My mommy told me that when I'm at camp, they are going to repaint my room. We are going to go somewhere to pick out a color before I leave but I'm just wondering what are some good color ideas. Probably something bright and cherey but yet somewhat subtle! Any ideas?
A lavender is always cute. Pastel pink isn't too bad, but may get on your nerves after a while. Pick a shade of your favorite color.
hey, im a 14/f & im desperate for redecorating my bedroom. its been looking the same for like 10 yrs. the thing is that i spent all my money in clothes, and i have no money to redecorate. so do you guys have any ideas or any websites that can help me? thanx. =]
To start, take down all the little kid things. Yepp, the cute yellow ballerina bunny on your wall has gotta go. Replace that stuff with cool posters. Try asking your parents to buy you a new and cooler bedspread. If you have a plain chair or loveseat in your room, replace it with a mushroom chair. (You know... the chairs that you can fold that have a dip where you put your butt.) Buy some cute pillows and put them around your room. They really add an affect, and you can find some cool ones at Wal-Mart or Target for around 4 bucks each.
Good luck and have fun!!!
in my room, my big furniture things are white. like the rails on my bed, my armoire, my dresser, bookshelf, etc. and the walls are blue, so its kinda of pleasant you know? well.. i got this computer desk thats wooden, like dark wood. should i chunk it and wait until i get a new one, or does that kind of sound ok? if you walked into one of your friend's rooms and saw all white then ugly wood, what would you think?
I don't think it would look horrible, but I don't think it would lok exactly right either. Maybe you would like to put a white cloth over it, underneath your computer, kind of like a doily but cooler. It would brighten up the desk a bit and you wouldn't have to trash it.
i am moving today and i was wondering if you have any tips for my bedroom.. its pink!! i need some decorating tips..please help;)...14/f
Since your room is pink, I suspect you're girly? Maybe a funky flower theme would be cool. Like, matching bedspead and curtains. Maybe a creme flower outlines? Brown, green, and yellow all look good with pink. I've seen a bedspread design with a creme background and dark green, brown, and pink flower outlines in some store, maybe Target or Wal-Mart. Also, you might want a different design for your blankets and pillows than your bedpread, because too much of the same design looks a bit overdone. Maybe a hot pink or pastel pink?
Incorporate things that you like in the room. Obsessed with Johnny Depp? Put posters of him on your walls. Like to dance? Leave an area of your room empty to practice your routines. Just do what you want and have fun. Good luck!
Everyone is always saying i am too sensitive, even my friends! Once i was playing cards with my friends and then we played a joke on a friend taking away her card and she slapped my leg at least 5 times. So i told my friend and this boy was listening and said what you going to go cry about it. I get sad so then people say to me i am starting drama. I really need help on this!
When your friend slapped your leg, she was probably just trying to be playful. If she really did do it with intentions to hurt you, then you have a right to be upset. As to what the boy said, he was probably just trying to upset you. That's just what boys do. Never listen to them. ;)
Try not to take things so seriously. Interpret other's feelings and intentions before you start getting angry or upset.
My best friend is just like me exact! i mean we say all the same thing at the same time and everything! she taly alsome! we do everthing to gether.Do u think well stay best friends?
Aaah, maybe. You might get irritated with him/her when you get older. Spend as much time with them as you do with your other friends; don't be with them all the time. For now, stay best friends, because nobody has a time machine that we can refer to to see the future of you and your friend.
Ever since a few days ago, I've been discharging WAY more than I ever have. It feels like I'm peeing, when I'm not...
I'm not sexually active, and I shouldn't have my period for another two weeks.
Why all of a sudden am I discharging so much?
&, i repeat, i have NEVER discharged this much before in my life.
Also, when I go to...well, i'll be blunt, wipe myself after i go to the bathroom, it looks like i sneezed there is so much discharge on the toilet paper.
It's really disgusting, and it's really uncomfortable. Two questions.
1. what might be the cause of this?
2. how can I make it not as thick?
You might have a yeast infection. Is it itchy "down there"? Does it kind of burn when you pee? If so, you definitely have a yeast infection. If its your first time, make an appointment with a doc and he/she will give you some meds. If you've had one before, go to a drugstore with your mom, older sister, aunt, whatever, and pick out a good med to treat it.
ummm...ok im 16/f and im a b.36 cup size...my mom is a DD does that mean im going to be large chested aswell?
Genetics do play a part, but just because your mom is a DD doesn't mean you will be also. Since your mom is large-chested, it means that you are probably going to be also, but you might end up to be a high C instead of a DD.
My husband has planned our summer vacation every year since we have been together. With the exception of last year, we traveled out of state to my nephew's wedding. (He now says that was my turn at planning)
Usually we do things that I am not interested in, but I go along with it because I want the kids to have fun. At the beginning of this year he agreed I should plan the vacation. I planned on a fishing/boating trip. He agreed at the time, but has now changed his mind. He told our 12/yr old son (the older kids aren't going) we will go to World's of Fun and a baseball game. (without consulting me) I don't like the rides, and I don't like baseball. He won't take the boat due to gas prices, and besides we have the Missouri River out our back-door. I tried to work out a compromise, but he won't budge. I told them to go without me and I will find something else to do here.
He says now, thanks to me the vacation is cancelled, because he refuses to go without me.
I don't want to dissapoint my son. So now what?
Ask your son what he wants to do. Then do that. If your husband and you can't make an agreement, leave it up to your son. Or even propose the two ideas to your son, what you want to do and what your husband wants to do, and have him pick one. No mommy and daddy fights and the kid is happy. How much better can it get? ;)
Hi peeps ,
Just a quick question ..I have a 14 years old niece and she wants to get a job(to buy some extra clothes,make up etc)...But is this right ??...she may loose focus on her studies...I saw another nieces of mine work at this age and some of them the parents loose control over them becuase they think they work and have everything they need so they think they do not need their parents anymore...On the other hand it stimulate them to work for what they want but...it may leed them to fatal distractions working at so young age..just for buying extra clothes etc etc....
Am I worrying to much..?????
I will rate very high for good answers...
For having a teenager, having a job builds responsibility and they learn lessons about money management, so jobs are definitely a good idea. Just make sure its not a full-time job... they'll have so much money and no time to spend it or do regular teenage things. My advice is to get a summer part-time job, not year-round. If you're worried about how the money is going to be spent, maybe the parents should limit the money spent and take away a certain amount in each paycheck to save for college or put in the bank.
My 17 year old sister is gone to bootcamp. She wont get out till January 17th 2007. I'm only allowed to see her 2 times between now and then. She is also allowed 1 phone call a week for a max of 5 minutes. Oh My God I'm so freakin' sad cuz we were so close and the day she left, when it came time to tell me bye, she went hysterical crying, that didnt make it any easier when I was trying with everything I had to suck it up and not cry. We were told to write her as much as possible but after 3 letters, I'm getting stumped, Ive already went on and on about how proud I was of her and told her things that were going on in my life, but I'm not that interesting lol so there's only so much I can say about that. I need help on topics to talk about in the letters, or what to discuss to keep her in on the latest news and stuff (She lovesssss music) I dunno... Any Ideas are much appreciated and I will certainly rate and give feedback for your time.
Talk about whatever's going on in your mind. Big tests that you did well on, parties you went to, the biggest world and local news... talk about what you used to talk about when she was at home. She'll appreciate the sense of normality in your phone and letter conversations.
i gess this would go in love life..well i have a boyfriend and im in 7th and hes sposed to be in 9th but he stayed back so hes in 8th and my family are fighters like gangs and stuff like that so im used to that but he is peaceful and it seen weird also hes a loner or what some people would call a loser and i think im going to get madefun of for going out with him plus hes emo and i kinda am and i cant brakeup with him becaue he has tryed to kill himself also my family would kill me if they new i was goin out with him and i feel bad that i have to keep it a secret but i really like him but my family would never alow it and so dont say talk to them im so confused i need help
Okay, this sounds very complicated, but I'll try to take a crack at this. First of all- Don't pay attention to what other people think. If they've labeled him a loser and he obviously isn't, then why listen to what they say?
Second- If he's that far on the edge, that he'd kill himself if you broke up with him, then you definitely need to get him some help. You need to try to reason with him, and if that doesn't work, you need to get him some professional help. If you can't get into touch with a police officer or psycologist, try calling the Suicide Help Line:
1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
You can talk to them anonymously about your boyfriend and ways to help him.
Third- If your parents wouldn't approve, then you probably shouldn't be going out with him. But, you're in this deep already, and considering your other problems, I don't think either telling them or breaking up with him would be good resolutions at the moment. Get your boyfriend straightened out, then tell your parents about your situation. Trust me, once your boyfriend gets help and they understand that you just can't break up with him right now, I'm sure they won't be as mad at you.
me and my boyfriend have been dating on and off for the past 2 years.I recently found out he cheated on me 3 times with some girls from Johnston.Now he asked me if we were dating about 2 days ago and i stupidly said "Yea,I guesss".Today he came to my house and told me that he has a new girlfriend. I said "i thought me and you were together" and he said "O well shes hotter".5 minutes later he tried kissing me.What should I do about all of this???Now im stuck the single one!
PLEASE HELP ME FAST!:(
You don't deserve a guy like that. You want someone who respects you and would do anything for you, not someone who dumps you with an "Oh well" and makes a move on you right after. This type of guy will probably come crawling back to you right after his new girlfriend breaks up with him, but don't let him sway you with his sob story. I would never let a guy back into my life that cheated on me 3 times and is so disrespectful of my feelings.
Forget about him and move on. Find a guy that would never cheat and cares about you. And never think about this jerk again.
So I've got a bit of acne that I'd love to get rid of. I've proactive and many over the counter lotions to get rid of it, and it didnt go away. My question is, should I get something like Differin, a prescription lotion/cleanser, or the Zeno zit zapper?
and if anyone on here has Zeno, how well does it work?
Ask your doctor what might work best for you, if you haven't already, then try it. If you're sure you've tried everything possible, ask the doctor about one of the over-the-counter meds you mentioned.
okay, i'm 14/f and there's someone that i like, but he's 2 years younger than me. is it okay to like or date someone 2 years younger? it seems kind of weird, but it's not that big of a difference and in fact i think my parents are 2 years apart. thanks
It can be a big deal at your age, but when you get to be older it isn't such a big deal. It all basically depends on maturity level. If this kid is in your grade, I don't think it would be huge, but if he was in a lower grade then it might be an issue. Just follow your heart and do what you think is right.
Im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend even though we've been dating for a long time. I want things to be perfect. How do I prepare myself for sex? I shave everything in that area and I know about protection, but I want to know some ways that girls get ready for sex, or any opinions of what guys like. If he gives me oral Im scared that it will like taste funny down there...are there ways that I can make sure its okay? Any advice is apprecitated. Thanks
I'm assuming this is your first time? Honey, don't do anything now that you will regret in the future. Even if you don't think you'll regret it now, you will, trust me. Loosing your virginity to someone is a big deal, and you shouldn't do it if you're not 100% sure. If you're going to break up with the guy soon, or if you aren't completely sure that you will be together a year from now, or two years from now, you definitely should not even consider having sex with him. My advice: Save yourself for marriage.
yea im kinda self conscious about the way i look and i look down on myself a lot like i dont only think i know that im ugly and sometimes it bothers me when my friends are like ur ugly and i just laugh it off or just say i know i dont know if they are serious or just joking with me but i dont know.. but like when i say mom im ugly shes like no your not your beautiful i know she doesnt mean it she just says that because shes my mom.. but ya whatever thats why im very careless of my looks like i dont really know what to do so that i wont look down on myself so much and not to think about how ugly i am thats why i dont really care about my appearance n e more is that a bad thing??
Alright, let's get something straight: You ARE beautiful, no matter what anyone tells you. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and I can guaruntee you that someone out there thinks you're one of the most beautiful people on earth. Never look down on yourself. When you're feeling self-conscious, remind yourself of all of your good qualities.
Yes, you should care about your appearance. There is a difference between feeling good about who you are right now and wanting to improve upon yourself to make you look even better. Don't like your eyes? Experiment one day and go out to the mall with a little mascara and eye shadow. Hate your complextion? Try some cover-up or foundation. Whatever you do, be sure to stay true to the real you and accept yourself the way you are.
As to your "friends" calling you ugly... no friend of mine would call me ugly. If you can't tell if they are kidding or not, they've definitely crossed the line. If you don't listen to anything else I say, be sure to listen to this: Get new friends. Nobody needs people dissing them, especially the people they care about most.