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ok look you guys,,, i really REALLY like this guy but he is 19 yrs old and we just broke up cause of our age differnce and i didnt want to get him in any trouble. But me and him still have a unbreakalbe connection, he still kisses me and everything, and he told his best friend and his best friend told me that he still wants to be with me!! but we both know we cant be 2gether, but we want to know if we should start dating again or not... so if you guys could pleazzz help me out (link)
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If i may ask...how old are you? what is the age diffrence?
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im 16/male
my brother is 18
i just wanted to know what is wrong with me. me and my brother get into fights pretty often, but when we dont, we're good friends. When we fight, its pretty much 50% yelling and 50% pushing. He does most of the pushing. He think hes stronger and bigger and better than me, but truthfully, he is not. He is only like an inch taller and maybe 10 pounds heavier. He is super skinny for an 18year-old, and im more on the meduim build side. I know i can tear him up, but for some reason, i dont. I always let him push me around and scream in my face, and i can say its gotten to the point where i seriously want to fight him back. But if we do, we will never stop, only until one of us is dead. So thats why im smart enough to now fight back.
any advice? this kid if small by the way, hes not like an intimidating big brother you would normally think of. I've had people tell me that maybe in a year, i'll be the one looking out for him. LOL. advice please, i dont know what to think right now. (link)
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Youre being smart about knowing your limits, we all have them and there will never be anything wrong with you just walking away. Sometimes we need distance to help us to be close. Im not sure if you have ever let him know you love him but its important for you to be the leader until he gets in control. He might be your older brother but that doesnt mean hes wiser. You should always respect him and vise versa but i personally do not agree with you fighting back ...he is your brother. Then what do you do?...stay away if you see a opportunity to talk to him about how much he hurts you then go for it but do not back away from the fact that you too will have to appologize..see alot I mean alot of times you can control a fire by saying " im sorry" even if its not your fault. Its best to have one fool than to have two fools fighting. My opinion is again to take action by trying to talk to him when he is cool and in control and find out what is it that hes so angry with you? let him know you love him and that you are his brother and not his enemy. I would like to ask you ...how do your parents feel about this? and how can they help you. I hope this helps if it does not let me know.
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If i have a permit in New York for driving a car, and i get my license, will I have to retake the test if i move to California? How does that work? (link)
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If im not mistaking yes you will have to retake a written test im not sure if the driving will be needed to be retaken. if you are a minor you might need to also take drivers ed.
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I'm 17/f and I have (or had) this best guy friend named Paul. Just to make this clear, we weren't together or dating and I never had any type of crush or romantic feelings for him, we were just best friends for like almost all of high school. Over this summer, especially we hung out all the time and went shopping and stuff. He was always the one I could vent my complaints to about other people and he did the same to me because we almost always shared the same views and didn't have other people who agreed with us. So there are these two friends that we have, Holly and Dani. They were pretty much his best friends next to me and I was (and still am) really good friends with Holly. The whole junior year, he started to get fed up with them and would complain about them all the time. Over this past summer when we would hang out all the time, all he could talk about was how annoyed he was with them and how he was "seriously considering not being friends with them anymore". I honestly didn't mind his complaining about them and even agreed with some stuff. but i said to him why did you get yourself into a whole friendship with them in the first place if you don't like them? I know, though that he didn't feel that way about me because I know we had a connection and could really, really relate to each other which him and Holly or Dani never did.
So then the first day of senior year comes. I'm really, really good at reading peoples' attitudes and have a really good sense of when people are being even the slightest bit snippy or moody or avoiding. From the first week of school until the fourth week of school this was the case with him. It wasn't too bad but I could tell he had a slight change in attitude towards me from what it was during the summer. He even canceled on me like twice when we were supposed to hang out, for reasons like, "now I don't have time" and "I'm too tired". AND every single time I turned my head I would see him with Holly and Dani. Like, if he could pick either me or Holly to walk in the halls to class with he would walk with Holly and not bother waiting for me. I mean, don't get me wrong we still talked all the time the same as we always did but it was just different from what it was over the summer. And the thing is, I did absolutely NOTHING that he could be potentially annoyed or upset with me about. So it's not friendship breaking material but definitely something he should be confronted about.
I call him and try to talk about it in a very calm, civil manner, trying not to make that big a deal and before I can even really say anything he's like, I don't wanna talk about this now, you're just in a bad mood. So I had no choice but to take the immature route and write him a fb message about how I felt. I was so annoyed that he was too immature to handle talking to me on the phone. I decided, I said what I have to say, now it's his turn to say something to me. It's been almost 4 weeks and he hasn't said anything to me. I really feel like he just doesn't care or he's too immature to have the balls to talk to me and confront the situation. I just feel really let down. I really don't want our friendship to end, but on the other hand, if he doesn't care it's not worth it right? In a way I feel like if he really wants me as a friend, he would talk to me but then again maybe he's just being immature, so if he's that immature i really shouldn't be friends w/ him anyway, but then should I let his immaturity in this one situation ruin our friendship? Should I say something to him or still wait for him to say something to me? This situation is just so middle school-esque but I feel like I shouldn't spoon feed him by talking to him. From the bottom of my heart I really want it to work out but idk if that's realistic. What should I do?? (link)
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I dont think you did anything wrong. Unfortunately people change and those change hurt alot and alot of times, I think you did the right thing in staying as calm and polite but sometimes we do need to take that step and bring the topic up. It all really depends on how you expressed yourself in the fb mess. As to why he changed? I think it could have been that you told him " why did you get yourself into a whole friendship with them in the first place if you don't like them?" that may have been a point in his life that he felt he really relied on you alot and might have made him think alittle more about how he saw holly and danni. I dont think you should bring this topic up instead just stay in touch and fb mess him "hey buddy i miss you" or " hey when are we going to hang out again?" something that will not express that your upset...for some reason guys always think girls are upset...but again i think he changed and you have to in a way understand that hes still changing body and mind will change just like yours which sometimes makes things really confusing. I had a very close friend that i had a very good relationship then she started to distance herself and i never got upset or brought it up i just always let her know with my actions that i was alaways there for her, it wasn until i saw her making a mistake that i did talk to her about letting her know that i really care about her and that i did not want her to suffer horrible aftermath, she realized that i really cared for her, it made our bond strong. being a friend is tough and especially when you feel your friend abandoned ship without the need to. be neutral and be ready to be there and prove that you are a true friend. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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hi i'm a junior. and my bf and i have been going out for a year and a half. I'm not ready for sex just yet , but whenever we go out he usually fingers me. BUT i don't feel pleasure at all, and it's really starting to bug me! What is wrong with my body? should i get it checked out? (link)
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NO theres nothing wrong with you at all. not sexually not emotionally nothing is wrong with you. there not need to rush into sex or to start sexual exploring. the reason i say all of this is because you said something that i really believe that he should have already figured out...You are not ready...becasue you do not feel ready and most importantly of all you made that choice and i honestly belive you have made a good one. Try talking to him and let him know that you do not feel ready and that you dont want to do that anymore and you dont want him to do that to you either, theres many ways of expressing desire, although the term "expressing love" is used often i dont think its love if you dont feel love. I really think you should sit down with him and ask him why he likes to finger you? and whats his hope in fingering you..in other words whats his goal? is it to get you to give it to him? how does he feel about sex? how does he see your relationship? where does he sees you in his future? all of these questions are very important to help you see and understand not only why you dont feel comfortable in having sex but perhaps you just dont feel comfprtable with him touching your body. it could be many reasons maybe deep down insde you you feel that you really do not want it to happen this way and you have the right to choose how and when and with who you have sex. I have said this before SEX can ruin good relationships and lives and bring upon a great deal of heart ache, theres so much pressure about having sex that we feel that if we disagree in having sex then we are outlaws and the truth is that you really do have the right to say no im not ready and nobody should ever presure you into doing something that you are 1. not ready 2. do not 3. have decided (made your choice) not to.
Now think also for a moment this other angle if you do not feel pleasure with HIS finger ...what makes you think HIS penis will do better?
Now im not putting him down but what i really think is happening is that you dont really like t his idea of pleasure or love and his inttentions. GIRLS need to understand that no matter what you do let no man/guy/boy ever make you feel you need to do something or "else" if anyone ever threatens to tell everyone about how you let them "eat you" or "finger you" or Have sex or do oral sex...thats pathetic for someone to try to force you into a sexual positon. it tells you alot about how low and mean that person can be and a glimpse on to how much willing to hurt you he is willing to do. I really hope you do talk to him and let him know youre not ready..PERIOD and that you hope that his sexual desire/hunger is NOT larger than his love for you. make sure his love will always be there to understand, listen, care , respect and cherish your feelings thoughts and always your body. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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this is the most random question ever but when my face is relaxed, i look mean and ugly. i'm pretty when i smile, and i do smile alot but when my face is relaxed i have a frown and it looks like i'm giving people mean looks but i'm really not. so is their anyway i can make my face not so frowny and mean when its relaxed? (link)
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i totally understand you i suffer from the same thing. Friends have asked me why i look so serious and ticked off and i really have no clue there may be many reasons why we do this sometimes its because we have had a bad life, rough childhood, never have friends or just plain simple...never been taught??!!say what??? yeap believe it or not we may have never been taught to relax so if we are 15 or 80 or 100 years old and never have learned to smile or relax its no wonder why our facial epressions are at default . so what can you do? well...laugh tell yourself constantly to smile and keep an eye on it remind yourself that its ok not to be serious and to frown. remind your self that there is nothing to frown or to be serious and try and enjoy the good things in life. Itll be tricky but i have learned that life can be serious but you can always be happy for life itself. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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17/f. okay so my best friend and i are alike in every way except when it comes to boys. she has had her share of crushes and sometimes the guys like her back, but no major relationships. i have had a few relationships, one lasting over a year, and many hook ups, but am not at all promiscuous.
getting to the point- my friend (mary) has had a family friend (kyle) for the longest time. her whole family is friends with his whole family, and mary and kyles younger sister and brother are friends too. recently i have been hanging out a lot with kyle when mary does. he is really cool and we flirt a lot. i dont know if its just how he is, or something else, but i am beginning to be interested in him. yesterday we went and saw a movie with me, mary, kyle, and their little sibblings. it was fun but obviously i didnt get any alone time with him and mary was between us the whole time. i talked to mary about how alike kyle and i are and she agreed and we jokingly talked about kyle and i being together, so i know she wouldnt be mad if we dated. and last night i texted kyle a smiley face and we started talking about the movie and other stuff. i know im going skiing with mary and kyle and their families in jan so what can i do before them to like flirt with him but without being too extreme. also what can i do to take us to the next level? i think he wouldnt be too opposed to it because he flirts back (link)
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My opinion is that i dont think you need to flirt i am sure you have pretty good qualities that he could easily see if you are someone hed like to have in his life. I think one of the first things you need to do is analyze if you really do like him, are in love with him, find him attractive or all of the above OR if its just a "flirt" if you do feel deep inside you that this is a person you would like to give the opportunity to grow and to learn and to love then You should really accept that this person is someone youd like to include in your life, and ask your friend if she has any feelings for him and why? or why not? it will be easier if your friend agrees with you...why? well you wouldnt want her 1. trying to stop you 2. trying to prevent a relationship between you and him and most important of all ruin your friendship. if she agrees and all looks good then she will give you time and to get to know him and the best part she knows him more than you so thats your advantage as to if he will be resposible or if hes just not ready for a girl in his life.
If she tells you she has feelings for him then you will have to accept that she may not see him as a "flirt" but rather is taking the time to make sure that shes not risking losing him as a friend. see it this other way ..would you like it if you had a long time friend that you didnt know how to say i am growing feelings for you but you wewre being cautious and a friend of yours just goes behind your back and takes him from you? real friends will always understand each other and respect is so important..i have mentioned before that i once let go of a job that i and a friend worked for but i ended up leaving the job so that he would have a better and easier life...hes my friend and as a friend i know he would have done the same for me...its good to have true friends i ended up going to work for
another company and made even more money than i did and more than he does but he respects me and i him and hes happy and so am i and i think its because we respect each other we dont compete.
So i think its a good idea to talk to your friend ask her first and if it goes well then tell her you find him interesting and that youd like to know if hed like to get to know you and maybe build a relationship. But what ever you do dont FLIRT you might end up looking bad not only to your friend but to him too. I hope this helps if it does not let me know :)
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now and i feel like its the same old stuff. I go over his house, we make out, he might feel up my shirt or something.. and thats it. i'm not interested in any type of sex so i'm wondering how i can change things up. i really have no ideas. i mean we do just hang out sometimes and like make cupcakes like last week but its usually the same. Thanks! (link)
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its great that you do not at least at this time want to let sex be part of you relationship and itsawesome how you feel that this is the choice and that you really belive a love relationship can be had. Its true theres tons on thing you both can do to not have sex but i do see something in your relatioship i can see that you have decided but i think the biggest question that can also become a challenge is does he feel the same way? if he does then the likely hood of you both in having sex is very low and is in your favor but if he does the opposite then you might want to think is this really what i want? and is he really compatible with me? have you both talked about this subject? and what is hes reasons for wanting to go to the next level? can you honestly in your own heart and mind analize the whole scenario and conclude that his reasons for wanting sex are going to be your reasons to express yourself and give yourself to him and his deisres? I know im not answering you with answers but alot of time we can answer questions with ...questions to reasure us of the choices we want or want to take. If he is not willing and commited in understanding and supporting and being part of that then see it this way you can walk away knowing that you have lost nothing but have learned and seeing a new view in how diffrent points of view can really be. I hope this helps and i it does not let me know so that i can be of good service
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well me and my ex girl friend were going out for almost a month and im 13 and shes 14,
i have a really good friend that is a girl and i licked her face as a joke, my ex found out about it and told me she was okay. but the next dday she saw me flirting with a girl but i didnt even notice i was flirting. so yada yada yada all this stuff went on and she dumped me. do u think this is a valid reason for her to dump me? (oh and btw she sed she was the type of person to try and work things out, but i asked her if we could work things out and she sed they are already worked out) or do u think she just tried to find a way out because i noticed i few days before this she wasnt as enthusiatic about it and she seemed like she was starting not to love me any more. (link)
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I hate to say this but it could be that shes just having a bad day. she is growing and going through not only horomonal changes but shes going through what life is ...life. If you want to work it out DO NOT PRESSURE HER. be easy and express to her your concern and appologize for what you did and explain to her that you meant no harm and that you really do not the relationship to end because of a mistake you did not know you were doing. But over all if she still doesnt want you in her life you ARE GOING TO RESPECT her decision regardles . Give her time and if there was ever love in the relationship she will not want to loose. I hope this helps if it does not let me know.
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sooooo ok my boyfriend was eating me out and it feels good when he puts his tounge like in the hole and stuff haha but he was suckin on my clit n it made me like twitch at 1st n i couldnt stand it so i told him to stop then later he was doing it again and told me to hold out and if i did i would orgasm so i held out for 15 minutes and had to hold onto the bedposts it felt so weird and not so much in a good way. and i never orgasmed? but the next day my clit hurt so bad when he would touch it and it was red and swollen? is that normal????? (link)
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is it normal? NO. is it the reaction to his action? Yes
see sex is not suppose to hurt and yes even though you might feel the rush you still should be careful and practice not just "prevention" but even more important safe sex. For what i can see it seems like your clitoris is very sore, irritated and it seems likes he might have done a little kickey on your clit. just be carefull and let hime know that that was not a good feeling and you would not like to add that dessert to your menu. I hope this helps
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Hello
Long story short i had this huge crush on this guy 2 years ago but he had gf and she freaked out when she knew i liked and now today i DO NOT like him and now both of them giving me terrible looks and they still think i ike him so there al over each other when im around and when i talk to other guys the guy i liked pushes them into me a laughs and high fives his friends !! :@ what can i do to stop this anything will help!!
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So sorry for him being a jerk to you.
My opinion....ignore him youre worth much more than his opinion about you. You did the right thing you respected his girl and now shes ungracefull for you doing so. move on you have so many things in life ahead of you to deal with. their stress its not worth it. people will find out the truth and it will come back to them. By talking to them about this is showing them not only how much they can hurt you but getting you to make a big scene about it. Dont worry they are not going to define who you are. You are and i know that the youth can do some really nasty stuff but you have to always stay in control. let there alwasy be two idiots but dont let it be you one of them. I hope this helps..if it does not let me know
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Which is better? Which is more common? (link)
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to do or not to do. As far as i know there is no true known medical reason for circumcision. Although it was a huge practice and was thought at first to prevent "balanitis" it turns out there is no proff that circumcision will prevent that from happening. I really think its more of a religious belief and a tradition. In my opinion if you do not feel comfortable in having your child circumcised dont. there is no medical advantage. I would never want to have a child circumcised (male or female). there are some cultures that call for it to be performed on girls! a circumcised male might not have full feelings during intercourse after all a portion of precious nerves get cut out and may not be able to achieve full erection...in other words its possible to be bigger if uncircumcised. i personally believe if you want to uncircumcise anyone do it to yourself..then youll see and feel how horrible a child has to go through if that choice is chosen by his parent....by the way men who have had it done as adults say its the worse feeling ever to go through the pain is horrible. I hope this helps
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17/f
For the past few days I've been PMSing.. Getting crabby, having cramps, sore breasts. I'm on birth control and I'm not supposed to get my period for another week but today I got my period and I'm feeling all crampy and such like I always do when I have my period. Why is my period arriving early? (link)
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as long as you are using bc pills your body will react in diffrent ways, your body is getting tricked into thinking its pregant so you wont get pregnant...so whats that has todo with your early period? since the pills will be delaying or changing your menstrual periods you will need to give it time to regulate. Now not all birth control is the same and this experience i would definetly talk to a physician just to be safe. I have heard of many young or older women having problems adjusting and chang to diffrent dosage levels or types, and different methods. See and talk to your doctor, if you are having heavy bleeding and problems and just straight up know and feels theres just something wrong please seek medical emergency. I hope this helps
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i'm not exactly sure what catagory this would fall under, but i was wondering if you start on the birth control just after getting a nipple piercing, could the whole stretch when the boobs start to grow from the pill? (link)
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Not really. The way as i understand birth control pills work is by getting your hormone into tricking your body is pregnant so that your body will not release an egg. im not sure if the pill also stimulates the milk producing glands in the breast beacuse of the pill. I do know that bc pills are used to help regulate periods and help also at times with acne, and they do have a reputation for increasing your weights but with all medical questions its best to ask a doctor. So to answer your question i Dont think it should effect the size of your nipple piercing beacuse of the pill. I hope this helps
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14/f
no one's ever treated me like this before, and it's just small little things, but it's getting on my nerves.
He's basically avoiding me.
A couple weeks ago I met this guy, he seemed like a bit of a jerk but I talked with him pleasantly enough, but then he said he could mistake me for a boy.. well, that's where that prospective friendship ended. I didn't get mad, I just didn't say anything at all and moved onto a different conversation.
We don't have any classes together but during passing periods when we pass each other I've caught him looking at me a couple times, and he always looks away really quickly and seems to disappear. Like he's on the run and avoiding me.
Just the other day I needed into the school after hours (long story), so I ran up to him and said, "Hey, wait, let me come in too." And he is suddenly like 3 feet ahead of me holding the door open a bit and starts to say "yeah", but me being the confident, quick-paced girl I am, I walked right in, said "thanks" and went off to get my brother. Later I needed to come back and he was blocking the door from his friend, and I start to say, "Excuse me," when all the sudden he's on the other freaking side of the room, door unblocked.
I've never been avoided like this before. It's rare that I don't get along with someone. I never said ONE mean thing to him, but he calls me a boy and suddenly avoids me.... what the crap?
my friend says he could be scared of me, but how could that be? I'm a good half foot shorter than him, and he can lift a guy his own size so he could probably freakin break me in half.
kids love me, so I'm obviously not scary...
It's just bugging me to not know why someone is avoiding me.
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I dont think he hates you and i dont think he likes you. Theres jut something about you he finds curious and interesting yet he doesnt want to make any commitment. Im wondering if maybe you might find him just as he finds you curious obviously its on your mind and i do think its on his mind too. I think he is just trying to make sure he doesnt give you the "wink Wink" idea that he likes you so he runs away hoping to give you the idea that he is not interested in you in that way. I hope this helps
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Hi there,
Please don't do anything like this again:
"read my colum for valuable info. If you still need advice ask."
... If you are going to answer a question, cool, if not then leave it for someone else who will.
If this happens again your account will be suspended. (link)
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sorry about, and to be honest i meant no harm. ill be honest i really didnt know this was wrong and i actually did answer this way to i think to 2 others. If you are still aupset i will understand and accept suspension.
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I'm getting worried. my boyfriend and I are long distance. We only have intercourse every 1 or 2 times a month. for the past 4-5 months we would have intercourse and a day later I would bleed for a bout a week. It's fairly heavy, like my period would be, but see the thing is my period would be like a week or two away. So does sex speed it up or what the hell? I have back pain, breast tenderness, cramps, HORRIBLE cramps I may add, all those of my normal period (yes including the cramps that sometimes make me want to carve out my ovaries... :b) Altough, I may add also, that the first two times we'd "tried" having sex, they were failures do to muh pain, he was my first. Well anyways, we didn't get it in at all, so it was more oral, no figering at all or anything, yet the next day I got some bleeding, I thought it was my period. I'm pretty convinced it it...since after this I don't get any bleeding till the next month. It's been bothering me, we use protection/ condoms. I don't know what is happening but it is worrying me, so please anyone know what could be going on? Don't tell me to go a doctor, I know that already and I will sooner or later, if that's all you can provide as advice save yourself the finger exhaust and don't type anything at all. ;O
A few things, The day before yesterday so, Monday we had intercourse, yesterday Tuesday the bleeding accured, it's fairly heavy and doesn't seem to be lightening up. Hmmm...
I have just one more question, oh and I'm sorry if this is too long, and has many questions spread about. >. (link)
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ive said this before here in california law allows for sex ed, consultation, informations, medical advice and birth control options that are not only free but extremeley private. I can clearly remember when i found out my younger sister (then 15) using condoms and birth control pills she got from a teen clinic all without parental consent and again all private thats the law here...so i dont know if your in california but like you said you know you should seek medical counsultation...any how theres a lot of things that can be goin on one is which i hope is not going on with you but it can be deadly again seek medical advice he could be tearing or irritating your vaginal walls or beleive it or not you might be allergic to him..SAY WHAT!!! yeahp there has been some cases where females would be allergic to 1. their lovers sperm.semen or 2. their body horomone/ chemistry. also check my colum for one of my previous advice in regards to a tampon story..do you wear tamopons? if you do then read the story. what can also be happening in whihch i think is whats going on is that you are still not fully sexually developed in other words your body is still adjusting itself and now since you are no longer a virgin has to readjust itslef to a penis involved. it can slo be that you are still healing from your first sexual penetration. the fact you mention that your breasts are tender and you get cramps does makes me wonder...and dont get me wrong but..you could be pregnant!. Now everyone thiks well i had sex and that was a couple of day ago or a week ago and now im on my period....but the thing is you know what a period feels like and you know how your vagina behaves during a period the question is Does it actually feels like a period? bleeding and then stop bleeding is considered spotting and that "spotting " can occur during pregancy..there are numerous cases that a woman"spots" feels cramps and what feels like the flu OR just the cramps and the "period " symptons and find out they are Pregnant! so you can take a urine exam which are not difficut to get and do ( walmart, longs cvc )2 for $14.99) take the test in the morning on a full bladder . pee into the test strip and wait for the results. I strongly recommend talking to a gynocologist or a professional medical practitioner that works woth teens or clinic.
I hope this helps andif it doesnt let me know
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I also wanted to mention that if he is performing oral on you or using his finger he want to make sure he keeps his nails very clean and well trimed and NO edges not only beacuse of the cuts and pain but also beacuse of introducing germs and unfriendly bacteria....now there is also medical studies that have shown that some males are able to stimulate periods due to that women do get stress and sex is a form of a stress reducer and brings relief so maybe he does that for you...he might be helping your period, remember menstruation occurs because of horomone activity and sex involves alot of horomones and alot of activity. research the laws in your city state in regards of their medical privacy laws and towrads teens. also Even though i do not advice in having sex at a early age (for medical/personal reasons if youre curious ask me an ill tell you) If you are concerend about the limits of birth control pills and how expesinve they are...then if you can get hold of some contraceptives then go for the Nuva ring it all all possible or the patch or the shot. If you are not comfortable and want to be more private then use contraceptive gels they are over the counter and generally can be found at a walgreen,longs drugs/CVC, and even Walmart most of the time it can be found in the feminine hygene isle or in the baby care section. Theres also the contraceptive film which in my opinion also a very good product. and theres the contraceptive pill that YOU DO NOT DRINK but instead insert/push into your vagina. But the best way to prevent any doubt and 100% pregancy proff way to have sex is to NOT HAVE SEX...any type...you and i both know that touchy touchy will lead to sexy sexy...I hope this helps..if it doesnt let me know.
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I seriously need some help.
Ok, so 2 weeks ago... at the start of the school holidays, my boyfriend and I attended this party, everyone was piss wasted, and I was so out of it...
I don't remember a lot, but...
My boyfriend told me to make out with this really hot chick, so I did... Then this random dude was like, ALL over me... and He was kissing me and feeling me and shit.
And... my boyfriend saw and he was being all emo the rest of the night, I tried to make it up to him, but he wouldn't talk to me, like at all.
The next morning, I went to another state and went to another suburb... (like for the holidays)
I haven't seen him in two weeks, and just recently he's been talking to me online, asking me "if this is really working" and "if you wana break up, just say so."
-Does that mean he want's to breakup with me, but he doesn't want to do it? Like he wants me to dump him?
He says he doesn't trust me.
What can I do to gain his trust?
Probably nothing huh?
I just, hate this!
He makes me feel so shit about myself, all the
time. Like even before all this shit happened...
If he only know how much he was hurting me.
What should I do?
P L E A S E !
I'm so desperate. (link)
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first of all i want to say im sorry your going through this. second i think he should have prevented this from happening ..in other words i hold him more responsible for this situation than you. 1. He should have never let you get so wasted like that 2. he should have never asked you to make out with another girl 3. He should have stepped up and be a man and ..no offense mark his territory and told the other dude to back off. 4. accept he has a lot of fault for what happened. if i may allow me to expaine each point.
1. he really should worry alot more about your well being theres nothing wrong with having a great time and enjoying the night BUT as your boyfriend he really should have talked to you and reminded you that hey we need to stay sane and not go insane here thats how girls end up getting raped or even killed.
2.He should have asked to do this inprivate yeah it may have turned him one but guess what it also apparently turned on a bunch of other guys too so know hes got one choice if hes out numbered ..Share which i dont think he enjoyed it.
3.If he was willing to let you be a turn on for the rest of the folk there he should have accepted that there were going to be uninvited guests and if he didnt like the idea of sharing then he should have brought back up or just not done a free for all. if he wasnt able or willing to defend you then he shouldnt have put you in that situation.
4. He should accept his error he screwed up. If he did not like the idea of other guys kissing and fonding you he should have done a private party ( you the other gal and him) but because he knows he messed up and set himself up for this he is now trying to blame you and use you as the scape goat whichis not cool. My thought is find someone you see that you cant live without not with...he obviously doesnt see you with respect instead he now sees you low for letting yourself do that which equals to him seeing you as something he can live with but not without which i think means he doesnt want you anymore. I msorry if i have offended you but i really think you should not be with someone whos makes you feel bad.. i think that the person you are with should always try to lift up your spirit, cheer you up and on, and bring out he positive feeling and qualities from with in you not obress them or put you down thats not love that thinking your feces dont stink which by that way everyones does so he aint perfect. I hope you can be strong and let him go. I know youll learn from this a valuable lesson one which i am no one to lecture you about but one that im sure you will learn from. I hope this helps if it doesnt let me know
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I've been with my boyfriend for almost three weeks, and people keep saying to me 'Awh, you and * look so cute together!' or things along those lines, and I'm not sure how I should respond. I mean, naturally I'm happy, but I'm just not sure what an appropriate response to that would be.
Any suggestions? :) (link)
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If you are happy then Congrats!! coninue and i wish the best to you both. If your not then id understand whyd youd be ...unsure what to say. it seems to me youre happy so say thank you hes awesome and smile or just say thank you. it might be tough at first to express your self and feelings for him in public and thats normal but dont be afraid to let everyone know that he man you are with is the man you want to be with because YOU are happy with him. I hope this helps
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firstly, there`s this guy i have known for about 5 months now. we were friends at first but it wasnt long before we started flirting w/ eachother. we have kissed && stuff but we have never actually "dated" i mean i like to get to know someone before i jump into a relationship and he feels the same. any way recently we have argued a lot. && now we arent talking to eachother no more. i really liked this guy && he said he really liked me. we argued because he said he thinks i dont care about him. maybe bcoz i was still playing hard to get, but thats just me. we havent spoken for a couple of weeks now but we have gone through a phase like this before but we made up weeks later after we had time to think. more to the point, i am trying to get over him (because we may have fallen out forever for all i know) but i can`t. there are about 3/4 other guys who are interested in me && i cant bring myself to flirt with them. it is not bcoz of the guy i like, but when i am with the other guys i jus cant be bothered flirting w/ them && i lose my patience when they are telling me how much they like me. i duno what to do :| im 16/F/FL
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please do not get offended by my opinion...Girls do not have to flirt Never lower yourself into potential emotional problems and confusion. in other words theres no need to flirt when you got the goods ( brain,character, self esteem, confidence, loks etc, etc) If you really like this guy this is what you should do...Appologize and do not play hard to get...that hurts guys feelings too you know. I do not believe its proper for a guy or a gal to play hard to get i mean if you like him and he shows he like you why make it hard on him? would you like that? you can really avoid a lot of heart aches if you always begin a relationship being honest and have a strong will to communicate. Look im not trying to lecture you really im just saying if you go around looking around so much youll end up doing worse. again if yo ulike this guy tell em sorry and let it go enjoy his companionship and let bye gones be bye gones. I hope this helps..if not then tell me.
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