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What do do other than sex
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now and i feel like its the same old stuff. I go over his house, we make out, he might feel up my shirt or something.. and thats it. i'm not interested in any type of sex so i'm wondering how i can change things up. i really have no ideas. i mean we do just hang out sometimes and like make cupcakes like last week but its usually the same. Thanks!
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Honestly, you guys seem quite shallow. If you want this relationship to be deeper, more meaningful for the both of you then I suggest you start doing a little more talking and less doing.. Since you both are comfortable with each other on a physical level, it is probably time to work on your emtional closeness. So maybe talking about things that you don't normally tell other people, things that reall get to you, just feel comfortable about talking about anything. And some things for you to do would probably be romantic things, if you're the romantic; maybe picnic at the park, lying on the grass under the moonlit sky or the sunlit sky, just being with each other and talking about whatever and just being close. I think that would definately give your relationship more essence than right now!
Touch each other on a deeper level, a non-physical level. ;)
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its great that you do not at least at this time want to let sex be part of you relationship and itsawesome how you feel that this is the choice and that you really belive a love relationship can be had. Its true theres tons on thing you both can do to not have sex but i do see something in your relatioship i can see that you have decided but i think the biggest question that can also become a challenge is does he feel the same way? if he does then the likely hood of you both in having sex is very low and is in your favor but if he does the opposite then you might want to think is this really what i want? and is he really compatible with me? have you both talked about this subject? and what is hes reasons for wanting to go to the next level? can you honestly in your own heart and mind analize the whole scenario and conclude that his reasons for wanting sex are going to be your reasons to express yourself and give yourself to him and his deisres? I know im not answering you with answers but alot of time we can answer questions with ...questions to reasure us of the choices we want or want to take. If he is not willing and commited in understanding and supporting and being part of that then see it this way you can walk away knowing that you have lost nothing but have learned and seeing a new view in how diffrent points of view can really be. I hope this helps and i it does not let me know so that i can be of good service
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There has to be a billion things that you and your boyfriend can do other than sex. Your relationship most definately does not need to revolve around him feeling you up or trying to get to the next base. You're very right to not want to engage in sexual acts right now.
So, make lasting memories of your youth together. Do things that can bond you two and help others, too. It can be really simple things you do together or things you two can do apart and then talk about together. A few example:
Visit the elderly.
Yeah, that sounds a little weird but then you two can get together afterward and talk about all the crazy stories they had to tell you. It creates inside jokes between you two and is very bonding. It also helps someone else out too.
Things like that includes:
Reading to children. Volunteering at a homeless shelter. Volunteer at the local animal shelter.
All of that also really helps your self-esteem and is fairly relaxing activities to help de-stress from daily life.
Other suggestions would be:
Go roller-blading.
Take him out to a concert...
A carnival or fair...
An art gallery or museum...
Or even to the zoo or circus!
Go to the park and watch old people in love. :)
Go on movie dates. Double dates!
Try out new recipes--together!
Read books together. Take turns.
Talk to strangers together and see if you can help brighten their day.
Take a drive to look at the Christmas decorations (Near Christmas, of course)
Have a board game night.
Together, clean your parents' house as a surprise.
Take dance classes together (they will be useful later, trust me).
Go on a picnic! Invite your closest friend and her date.
Go bowling together.
Throw a small party together (parent approved)!
Take up a hobby together like painting, music, bike-riding, fishing, etc.
Stargaze! Even get a cheap telescope, yeah?
Some people even suggest coloring together, though I think painting would be more fun, myself.
Just help each other grow.
Like I said, there are a ton of things you two can do that aren't sexual and will build a stronger bond between you two. Just think of a few things you would like to do and see if you can put your partner into those things with you. It can be REALLY fun and you can learn a lot about each other. Remember that sometimes doing the same activity, only apart, can help you two also when you two engage in the next conversation. Having "stories" to tell is terrific.
Hope you two have lots of fun. If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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