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i need advice
well me and my ex girl friend were going out for almost a month and im 13 and shes 14,
i have a really good friend that is a girl and i licked her face as a joke, my ex found out about it and told me she was okay. but the next dday she saw me flirting with a girl but i didnt even notice i was flirting. so yada yada yada all this stuff went on and she dumped me. do u think this is a valid reason for her to dump me? (oh and btw she sed she was the type of person to try and work things out, but i asked her if we could work things out and she sed they are already worked out) or do u think she just tried to find a way out because i noticed i few days before this she wasnt as enthusiatic about it and she seemed like she was starting not to love me any more.
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Well it's not so much about what you did but how it made her feel... she may think you don't like her as much anymore.
When she broke up with you... did she just say 'it's over' or did she tell you how it made her feel or did she ask you why you were flirting or liking your friend's face or... did it at all seem like she was actually hoping you would do or say something that would make it okay? If it seemed like she had no problem breaking up with you, like if she wasn't very sad when she did it, then maybe either she thinks you're the kind of guy that flirts a lot with other girls and therefore not worth fighting for or trying to work things out with or.... she doesn't want to be in the relationship. However, if you can tell what you did bothered her or if your break up lasted long... if it seemed it was hard for her to let you go, than she definitely still wants to be with you. For example, I once broke up with a guy because I thought he liked his ex. I did like him though. It took me one hour to break up with him.
Anyways... based on what you tell me... I do think she likes you. If she was looking for excuses to break up she would ahd found some. Being a girl myself, I know how petty we can be. She could had told you to stop hanging out witht he girl who's face you liked or something.... I personally think it did bother her that you liked that girl's face but she just didn't know how to tell you.... and if it didn't bother her or if she managed to let it go.... it definitely bothered her when she saw you flirting. Whether or not you were flirting, your girlfriend may be insecure about how you feel about her....
My advice for if you want her back,... first, call her or send her a text message... just to tell her you care about her and if she wants to talk that you will be there for her and you still have feelings for her. Then give it a week or two. Don't flirt with other girls or do anything that will make it seem like you are trying to flirt with other girls. If she doesn't come to you then go to her after those 2 weeks are up. Tell her how you feel about her. Ask her why she broke up with you. Explain yourself. If she does like you she will have missed you like crazy during those 2 weeks that you were apart and she will have gone through the flirting scenario a million times in her head and thought to herself "if they were just friends and i misunderstood this whole thing then ir eally scerwed up by breaking up with this great guy". Ask ehr to be your girflriend again. by the end of those 2 weeks if she does still like you, she wuill be your grielfriend again. If she still doesn't seem to believe you or doesn't seem itnerested.... it's time to move on.
I hope it turns out happy and you get your girl back,
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I hate to say this but it could be that shes just having a bad day. she is growing and going through not only horomonal changes but shes going through what life is ...life. If you want to work it out DO NOT PRESSURE HER. be easy and express to her your concern and appologize for what you did and explain to her that you meant no harm and that you really do not the relationship to end because of a mistake you did not know you were doing. But over all if she still doesnt want you in her life you ARE GOING TO RESPECT her decision regardles . Give her time and if there was ever love in the relationship she will not want to loose. I hope this helps if it does not let me know.
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