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should i stay friends with him?
so one of my good guy friends found out that i fancy him. but he still has feelings for his ex.
he doesnt mind me fancying him but i do have the feeling that things are kind of awkward when we talk :S.
the thing is that i reaally like him & now i dont know if i should stay friends with him or just completely cut him out of my life :/
we've only known eachother for a month anyways but we just klicked. & im new at this school & he was one of my only friends. i dont know what to do because just seeing him hurts me:/
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This sounds all to familiar...I liked my one best friends in high school named Poland (nickname). I thought he was flirting with me and that he liked me so I started liking him and it turns out he didn't feel the same way. It sucked I felt horrible for feeling the way I did but I really had a crush on him and I finally told him because I couldn't hide it anymore.
One...he still has feelings for the ex so that can never be good you don't want to be with a guy who is still hung up on his ex.
Two...I know it may seem weird right now because you like him but he doesn't like you. Honestly its going to be weird for awhile...soon on you'll realize you can do better and if you're really suppose to be friends then you'll be friends.
Three...you need to do whats best for YOU...don't worry about him worry about you. Put yourself first and make sure its all about you.
I'm still best friends with Poland and we've been friends for 7 years now which is a long time. We worked things out and now we can have phone convos, texting, and hangouts without feeling weird or without feeling awkward.
Good luck! :)
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Hi honey,
I know it hurts, and that sucks, but you need friends too. You'll see friends are very important. After all your new to the school. And if you end up with no friends, that will hurt even more.
Give him some time. Many great love affairs grow out of friendship. Be patient, and don't mention that you have stronger feelings for him, because then he'll start to avoid you. Let him take it from here. And since you are new to the school, look around maybe you'll see other boys that you could like as more than a friend.
As far as pain goes, honey if you don't want to get hurt, then join a convent, because that is the only way to avoid it. Life and love sometimes cause hurt feelings. But in time you'll find the right person, and all those old hurts won't matter. This is a time in your life when you get to know people and learn about them and yourself and relationships. Don't pass it up. YOu need to experience these things. Of course respect yourself and others. Good luck to you dear
Michele
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