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im 16/male
my brother is 18
i just wanted to know what is wrong with me. me and my brother get into fights pretty often, but when we dont, we're good friends. When we fight, its pretty much 50% yelling and 50% pushing. He does most of the pushing. He think hes stronger and bigger and better than me, but truthfully, he is not. He is only like an inch taller and maybe 10 pounds heavier. He is super skinny for an 18year-old, and im more on the meduim build side. I know i can tear him up, but for some reason, i dont. I always let him push me around and scream in my face, and i can say its gotten to the point where i seriously want to fight him back. But if we do, we will never stop, only until one of us is dead. So thats why im smart enough to now fight back.
any advice? this kid if small by the way, hes not like an intimidating big brother you would normally think of. I've had people tell me that maybe in a year, i'll be the one looking out for him. LOL. advice please, i dont know what to think right now.
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Youre being smart about knowing your limits, we all have them and there will never be anything wrong with you just walking away. Sometimes we need distance to help us to be close. Im not sure if you have ever let him know you love him but its important for you to be the leader until he gets in control. He might be your older brother but that doesnt mean hes wiser. You should always respect him and vise versa but i personally do not agree with you fighting back ...he is your brother. Then what do you do?...stay away if you see a opportunity to talk to him about how much he hurts you then go for it but do not back away from the fact that you too will have to appologize..see alot I mean alot of times you can control a fire by saying " im sorry" even if its not your fault. Its best to have one fool than to have two fools fighting. My opinion is again to take action by trying to talk to him when he is cool and in control and find out what is it that hes so angry with you? let him know you love him and that you are his brother and not his enemy. I would like to ask you ...how do your parents feel about this? and how can they help you. I hope this helps if it does not let me know.
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I'm the same way with my little sister I don't get along with ehr but when we were younger we would fight all the time. You name it we would fight about it...she still tries to pick fights with me but jsut walk away. Just walk away from the situation if he starts to get angry don't touch him just walk away and ignore it. My sister yells in my face, pushes me, and hits me but ignore it and walk away because I don't need to deal with it. I knwo you want to get him back for fighting with you but revenge may seem satifying in the moment but it feels really crappy later on. Avoid the fights ONLY for my Mom because I don't want her to go crazy. I've been told by others that when my sister and are a lot older we'll get along just fine...I really don't know how true that is though.
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