Oh kay so my boyfriend wants to like have sex with me and shit-i mean he already fingered me and i gave him a BJ but i don't know if i should have sex with him i am only 13 and i don't want it to get around my school! HELP!!
Say no. If there is even the slightest doubt in your mind, then you do not want to. It doesn't matter how much you love your boyfriend. Sex is about love, but it is also about mutual respect for each other's values. If you don't want sex yet, your boyfriend needs to understand. It's your own personal decision, and clearly you want to stay a virgin. Don't let anyone manipulate you into thinking otherwise.
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What age should you start having sex? I really just have to know because I'm afraid I might do it too early or too late. Thanks for the time.
It's not about age, it's about deciding to do it or deciding to wait. There is no "too late". There is however a "too early", and that would be when you are unsure of what you want - aka now. Don't do it.
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how can i become an amazing kisser?
Kissing should be more about the connection between you and the other person and less of a skill. Honestly, I don't get all of this good/bad kisser garbage. You are a good kisser if you care about the person you are with. Period.
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Im 15 years old and i was addopted at 6 i feel so spaced out from my parents and not sure what to do, i wish i lived with my birth parents but i cant find them till im 18 what do i do?
Get a therapist. Dealing with something like that can be difficult, especially when you haven't met your birth parents. You need help sorting out your feelings and thoughts.
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do vaginas smell bad?
No, they don't. A lot of girls worry about that, but that's just their nerves. As long as you wash down there, you should smell fine.
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since drinkging red bull makes your heart race really fast...would that be counted as excercising?
No, and I can tell by this question that you need to get up off of your computer chair and run a few laps.
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So, I'm kind of preceived as a slut. No matter what I do or how long I stay single&&don't flirt with boys I can't really seem to get rid of my reputation. and I've had a crush on a guy for idk 3 months now and he HAD one on me but I think I scared him away. And now we have to go our seperate ways and I won't see him for 2 years. But I'm madly inlove with him. What should I do?
These are two separate problems.
As far as your reputation goes, don't worry about it. There's not a lot you can do about what other people think. You shouldn't try to change yourself just to win over other people's approval/ Just make sure that when you actually start dating someone, you let them see your serious side so that they know you aren't just fun and games.
Now, about that boy - tell him how you feel. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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My mom wants me to be a total conformist and I flat-out refuse, but she yells at me because I don't wear make-up or spend years on my hair or dumb myself down for boys. Then she yells at me for not doing my schoolwork and stuff that just contradicts everything she said 5 minutes ago she wants me to do. I usually have really good control over my temper but she simply will not allow me to remain calm when we argue, so I yell at her (she's the only person I've ever had to yell at in my entire life) and she smacks me! Do you see a way out of my predicament, because I don't. 15/f
I suggest not letting it bother you. Every mother wants a picture-perfect daughter. She probably wants to live vicariously through you. Just don't pay any attention to her. Be yourself and mind your own business.
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This is a very strange question, I'm sure. I'm 14 years old, and most people I meet for the first time outside of my family and friends think that I'm at least 17 years old, because of my appearance and general demeanor. I met a guy who I thought was 17, and he thought that I was that age as well... but he turned out to be 19 years old. Anyway, nothing really happened but I still think of him after a year, and I haven't spoken to him in at least half a year. I'm upset because this happens a lot; people think I'm much older than I actually am. I get emotionally attached to some of these people, and vice versa, but consequently nothing ever works between us. I'm not sure what I should do in these circumstances, because I've been through lots of emotional trauma because of it.
This is the easiest piece of advice I've given all day: don't lie about your age. Make it clear that you are only 14. Honestly, I do not understand how you can become "emotionally attatched" to someone who does not even know how old you are. Obviously your relationships are not built off of honesty or actually getting to know each other.
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14/f
I'm going to use fake names: the first person is Andrew and the other is Nick.
I started taking classes at my high school early, and, naturally, I got to meet new people and started to hang out with them. Well, Andrew one of the guys that I talk to, and he points out little stuff about me, but not in a bad way (ex. my hair, my shoes, whether I'm talking a lot or not, etc.). I started to hang out with the girls a little more during our breaks, and he always manages to find where we sit, but break is pretty much over by then. Andrew keeps staring at me in class too. Does Andrew like me? Or is he just being nice to me?
Thanks for any of the helpful advice! Answer soon!
He seems to "like" you. That being said, he also seems to hardly know you. Talk to him more, spend time with him, etc. You need to actually get to know him.
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my friend and i have been best friends for ever,but shes gettting on my nerves. she is so annoying all she does is talk about guys. theres even a i hate:blank club all my other friends hate her what do i do i dont want to hurt her and i dont wanna gove up are relationship tottaly i just want space...kinda for awhile ???
You've been best friends 'forever", but you are considering seeing her a lot less all because she talks about guys? Your friendships should mean more to you than that. Why would it bother you so much anyway? I suggest you let your best friend talk about whatever she wants. If she is important to you, you should be able to accept her for who she is (unless of course these guys are mean/rude/uncaring towards her).
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im 15 and ive been questioning my sexuality a lot. ive never been with a girl but i feel more attracted to girls than guys. ive never been in a real relationship. ive hooked up with guys but i didnt like it.latley i been believing i was gay. i told my sister but she doesnt believe me. shes like your not gay u have never been with a girl and she just laughs at me. i want to go out with a girl but im nervous sence it would be my first and most likely the other girl has already been with other girls and i dont have any experience. im the kind of person who is really shy and quiet unless i know you. idk im just really confused
It's okay. Find a homosexual girl you think is attractive, get to know her, and share your feelings. She'll understand you and you will feel a lot less alone. As far as the whole lack-of-experience issue, that most likely will be an issue for you. You may be pressured into doing things you just aren't ready for, or you might just feel plain nervous about everything. My advice is don't. There's no need to be nervous or take things quicker than you would like - being a lesbian does not automatically make you wild.
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im 17/f my boyfriend is 18. weve been together for about 6 months but have wanted each other for almost a year. he has a very flirty personality but since he has been with me he's toned down some, i thought. i went on his myspace tonight [i know i know, shame on me, i shouldnt have done that, but i did, it was the first time] and i found messages he's been sending this girl sayin hey sexy n he wishes he woulda had a chance to go out with her [apparently she moved] and that he woulda made her the happiest girl in the world and i love you and all this shit. what the hell am i supposed to do now? we've had some probs lately but i thought we were trying to work through them, he talks like im the only one he wants and im the best thing he's ever had. i cant exactly break up with him without expressing what ive learned but on the other hand i cant tell him i went on his myspace and read the messages. i feel so hurt right now i dont even know what to do and i need some help!
The fact that you invaded his privacy isn't nearly as bad as the fact that he is telling another girl he loves her - talk to him about it, and don't let him make you feel guilty for snooping. Obviously you had reason to.
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15/ f
i've been going out with my boyfriend for 2 years.
i care about him alot, the thing is if we break up for good he's going to move back to where he use to live, which is 8 hours away by plane.. I would lose a best friend, and a boyfriend. A reason why we would break up is because of me.. i could see myself marrying him, but not right now. I wanna "play the field" alittle bit.. be with other guys but i cant or he'll move. Any advice on any of this?
Are you surprised that you can't marry the guy and "play the field" at the same time? Honestly, you are in a real relationship where your only problem is the fact that you feel it's too comfortable. So comfortable in fact, that you want to dump the guy just to shake things up. I envy you, and also have no real advice for you. The choice is yours: a meaningful relationship or some fun teen dating. It's a personal choice, so it's up to you.
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O.k. sorry if this takes a while, but there's sort of a lot to it. I'm sixteen female. I've liked my best friends brother for quite a while, maybe 2 years now, but in the past couple months, about the last 7 months I've Really liked him. It sounds petty but to be honest I've never liked a guy like this, ever. I always thought it was sort of stupid how girls become obsessed with a guy just because he's cute. But, it's not that. And I understand how they feel. Not to sound like a creepy stalker but he's seriously in so many of my dreams I can't help it. He's super quiet, but not in a wierd way, I know there's more to him.. he just has this way about him. He's never had a girl friend, and he's a year older than me. My best friend knows how much I like him.. well actually I don't know if she really knows, she always brushes it off because obviously it's wierd. But every time I get a chance I'll make casual jokes about it, and recently I've done it more and more.. actually.. about a million times in the past ten months. The thing is, I know we'd be perfect, if that didn't sound creepy, but whenever he sees me, which is really rare.. he gives me this smirk, that's really hot. Haha. Anyway, I never see him because when my best friend and I do something together it's usually not at her house but out somewhere, and if it is he's at work. We're both sort of quiet and don't talk to eachother much at all. He's not that type of guy really. So it would be really awkward to say something wierd about how much I like him to his face. And trust me, his sister doesn't want to hear it. So I guess I just want at least Something to happen by the end of the summer. And I know it takes time, but I've been waiting for about a year now, maybe longer. And it's all I can think of.. well sort of. I guess my question or questions is/are, how can I approach someone so quiet, yet really appealing, without it seeming wierd? How can I include him in something me and his sister are doing, without her protesting, and without it seeming odd? And please don't say she should understand if I like him this much, it's not that simple. I guess, how can I get something to happen? Help would be appreciated times a million. Thanks :)!
Honestly is the best policy. Start with your friend. Tell her how you feel. Make the conversation serious - she needs to fully understand the situation and how much you like her brother. Then, feel free to talk to him whenever you see him. Flirt, smile and when you get closer, tell him how you feel.
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mmk. So I was with this guy for maybe 8 months? Okay. Well we were really close and he had told me that he loved me, and that it would never change. Then all of a sudden he just disappeared off the face of the Earth. He was gone for about 3-4 months. And I never received any notice that our relationship had ended, but when he came back, he wouldn't talk to me and he ignored me. Then finally one day. Oh and I hadn't ever tried to talk to him when he came back, because I was nervous. But one day he decided to talk to me, and it was just like it used to be. But then he refused to talk to me after that. I have no idea what's going on. He still hasn't told me it's over. Although I assume it is, for obvious reasons. But it's like he's holding back and I don't know why. Then not too long ago he told me that he 'forgot that he ever loved me'. Can you forget that? What's his problem? And should I just ignore him right back? I haven't made any move to speak to him again, because he hurt me so bad.
I'm just terribly confused and any advice on what's happening would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
This guy sounds either extremely confused or extremely selfish or both. My guess is both, since no one who isn't confused tells someone they love them and then "forgets" and no one who isn't selfish completely ditches someone they say they love. My advice would not be to ignore him, it would be to tell him you think he's being a jerk. Let him know how you feel. If things turn around, then you know he's a good guy. If nothing changes even after he hears of your feelings, you aren't losing out on much - he only cares about himself.
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thank you at least someone agrees with me..unless thats what shes trying to do is be distant and forget about me and maybe she is seeing someone but i dont no like you said you wont no until i go see her and talk about it so thats what im g2 do it cant hurt me...i appreciate the time its been nice talking to you..if you need any advice feel free to ask anytime
You're welcome, and thank you very much =) I appreciate it. Good luck with your girlfriend.
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were dating 10 months and shes been in previous relationships that she has been screwed over alot and worse than what i did..so shes scared so when i pulled that stunt i broke the trust even though in my heart i didnt do anything wrong..so now any little thing thats strange to her her mind just triggers it off and she starts thinking things..like if i work late or if i go out those type of things..thats y she wants time to think but i think its goin to far its been a month she wont even attempt to call me or talk about it and work things out
You are right, you guys do need to talk about it. Nothing will get solved by taking time apart. You'll only get more distant. You need to make her understand that this fear is all in her mind and that you are someone she can trust.
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believe me thats all i been thinking of is just g2 see her and straighten this out but i think she would get pissed cuz i tried calling i left messages emails and she told me straight out if i dont stop shes not g2 talk to me ever again. she wants to call me when shes ready and its been a month already. i asked her if she was seeing anyone else but she never responded back so idk what to think
Don't let her do that to you. Seriously, how long have you been dating this girl, and why does she feel that she can leave you hanging for a month? To be honest, she has no right to get "pissed" and you have every right to talk to her. You should probably tell her face-to-face that you love her and think she is making a big deal out of nothing. Then, make her choose. You shouldn't be kept waiting forever.
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im so sorry this is so long..
I dont really know how to explain it and most peopel jsut dont udnerstand but 2 years ago i was with this guy for 10 months. i was in love and he was in love and it was our first time for both of us being in love. We were always that couple people looked up to and we barely fought but we broke up in the summer. It wasnt a horrible break up bu it wasnt great. during our relationship his exgirlfriend always triedto bother me and us and harass me because apprently she was in love with him. it got to the point where it broke us up. weeks after we broke up we started hooking up again for a couple months. we couldnt be away from eahcother. then we stopped and we both "moved on" we got with oher people but now it is 2 years later and i am still in lvoe with him. sometimes i ebtter than otehr days but i can say that there isnt oen day where i dont think about him. he has a girlfriend right now and tehyve been going out for 9 months and me and him still talk. about us about her about everything. i know he still has something for me and we are still exteremly close. its so hard when i know he wants it and i want it. but i cant and he cant becuase he has a gf. which i knwo sounds crazy because hello he has a gf of 9 months but u just have to be in the situatio. apprently he is craazy about her but i know that he does not need her. i knwo him so well and he is reli honest with me always and i know hes not in love. or at least the love we had. i think my question is wat do i do. if its been this long and we still think about each other i don't feel like i should forget it. it means something. i can see myself with him forever and we have talked about that too. but at the same time it hurt so much sometimes. what do u think i should do?
It sounds like the two of you are more best friends than lovers- always there for each other, but not always there with each other. If you are dead set on dating him, tell him you are tired of this. Let him know how you are feeling, and make him choose between you and his current girlfriend. Tell him that if he doesn't pick you, the friendship has end. You have to make him understand that he can't have you back (even as flirtatious friends) once he's done with this girl/when things aren't going so well with her. Either that, or you could just surrender to being friends with him for life. Neither option is perfect, neither is horrible. Good luck =)
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