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can anybody suggest a really good men's cologne for me. I'm 15/m and i'm looking for something masculine, sexy and powerful, and it has to last. My price limit is $100.
Axe- it's cheap and it comes in deodrant, spray and bodywash.
Hey you guys seem to have really good taste in movies. I was wondering if you'd give me any recomendations. Anything that deals with
psychology, drug use or a movie that makes you think. I've seen Thirteen and Spun so anything else would be great. Thanks alot.
Cinderalla man, Donny Darko
i have a lot of guy friends and less girl freinds and its been like that for like my whole life and im like not the tomboy type and im like girly as everyone saya. i have girl freinds like a lot but i have more guys. what does taht mean? sometimes i think taht girls dont liek me cuz im like too boyish but everyone says im not? then wat does that mean?
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Be happy! Most girls would kill to have all the guy friends you have! And it's okay to have more guy friends. It doesn't mean anything. Just that you happen to hang out with more guys.
lyds
AHHH I start high school tomorrow and I haven't been to public school since fourth grade. i'm really nervous :-/. 1stly, because i don't know ANYONE, and i'm afraid i'm not gonna make any friends. 2ndly, i'm gonna be terrible with finding classes, and with all the different teachers! so... HELP? thanks! i'll rate ya 5's:-)
Of course you're nervous! You have every right to be, I'm nervous and I've been at the same school witht the same friends. For me the scariest part is finding someone at your lunch to sit with. What you may want to do is just ask someone in the class before lunch if you can sit with them. It might be really akward but after a couple days it won't feel so wierd. Besides that there's nothing you can really do! Just be yourself!
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i am redoing my room. the walls are white, and the rug is light-blue, which i cant change. does anyone have any ideas on what colors/theme i should use. i'm 14 if it helps.
I'd recommend going to furniture websites to see what you like! Try Ikea, Rooms to go, Pbteen, even target, Pier 1, and wal-mart. All have really great stuff! Good luck!
lyds*
why is it considered wrong(for lack of a better word) for a teenage guy to be hanging with his mother at the mall and stuff?
Personally I think it's cute. To other guys it's probably dumb because guys are so egotistical
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I've been cutting for a while, and i have tried to kill myself before.And its all over a boy whos name is aaron and i think i'n in love with him. And the only time he notices me is when he wants something like sexual and then he goes to another girl when hes done with me and when hes done with the he comes back. And i wanted to know if you knew anything that might help me stop.Because everything i try doesnt work.
I don't know what you've tried.. but just get the hell over aaron and find a guy that deserves you. Obviosly you're a good person because he wants something from you so another guy will too!
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Ok, now get this. I'm a 14 year old male, turning 15 in October, I'm 6' 2", and I weigh 130. I'm not skinny, as most people think when I say that. I do have a 30-31 inch waist, but I also have a large six pack, large chest (100+ lb. bench press, free weight, 180-190 machine), good biceps (35 lb. one-arm curl, 75 lb. two-arm), my forearm is larger than my elbow joint sideways, and my shoulders and neck are worked pretty well (40 pushups are nice and easy). I don't have any stats for my legs right now but I have really large upper legs and calves about the same size. I play baseball and I can run a 4:40 MILE easy (to give you an idea of my legs). But I want some more weight. I have all the size I need but I'm gonna start working with the football team soon for the next season (b/c I'm obviously too small right now) and, well, yeah, I need some more weight. Protein shakes aren't my favorite recommendation, to me they're like a legalized form of steroids. And they basically just build muscle - not the strength with it. But I'm thinking about 'em, but if I did do protein shakes, I'd only do one round. But chyeah, any suggestions on ways that I could go from 130 up to around 160 or 170 within the next few months (before the end of this year)? And hopefully to around at least 200 lbs. by the end of this school year (next May)? Oh yeah, and I'm at least 97-98% muscle and I'd like it to stay that way. Thanks for any and all suggestions I might get. ~All 4 Him 4eva~
Actually my brother used protein shakes and he really saw a difference. He was about your size when he was your age. Protein shakes were recommended to him and he is at the naval academy. They do work! But if not, If you don't want to gain fat then all you can do is work out. Doing sprints rather then long runs will bulk you up better. I think there's some kind of bar you can take-but yeah i'm just getting that from Mean Girls so i dunno. Good luck!
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Im a preppy girl who wears really preppy close. Im pretty, i wear make up and i look cute everywhere i go. It makes me feel good about myself but... theirs this one place that i would choose to go over any places. The girls are not preppy they dont liek bright colors their ghetto bitches. I get along with them but im pretty sure they might tlak shit behind my back becasue i get a lot of attention when im in the neigborhood. This might make them jealous? They just dont understand that im humble and i want to show them that. Im, lets try.. afraid of what they might think. They dont have much money to buy what i have so thats why i dont liek to be around them i hope they dont feel bad. I want to show them that im not stuck up just cuz the way i look. How can i do this?
Honestly it sounds like you are...maybe you need to work on that! Sorry!
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im a freshman in like two weeks. i want to ask if its really going to be as bad as some people say it is (acedemically & socially)
thanks for the advice!!
x3 dw33bi3
Ha no it's not that bad. I lOooved my freshman year. Acedemically it'll be the easiest year so enjoy it while it lasts! Have a blast!
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well i have been crushing on this guy at my school name Shaun. i have liked him for two years now, but i'm not sure if he really knows i like him or if it's a trick that his sister is playing on him. even though he broke my heart when he turned my down at the school dance i still like him alot. why won't he talk to me?
I'm sorry but it's just that he's not interested. Find a new guy! You deserve someone better then Shaun!
idk how to scrunch hair! i really lik how it looks i need to kno what product(s) work best and whats the best way to do it...
gracias
I use the Frizz-Ease products. They work great! I use step 4 & 5. *you can follow the directions on the can* But what you do is you get some hair-curling-moose and put it all through your hair, then dry your hair with a diffuser. You can find a diffuser next to the hair dryers. It's hard to explain how to use one w.o pictures. My hair is wavy so all i do is gather hair in my palm-squeeze- while blow drying it. Good luck!
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ok, this might seem a bit confuseing but here it goes. Ok me and this guy Brian and his mom and my mom were hanging out by the pool. Brian is 17 by the way. When we first got there Brian asked me how old i was. And I told him i was 13. Then after a while of talking and swimming. He comes and sits beside me while our moms are gone to get something to eat. Right out of nowhere he says " Well what do u think about me?" Then I got so imbarassed and told him what I thought. He kept going on and on and on about how he would kick his youger sisters ass if she botherd me ( who is in my grade). Then after a few minutes he comes and sits beside me again and says " You know what?" " I can spoil you." I looked at him and said " Oh yea, I bet you can" Then he goes " I can give you a missage and that will spoil you." I loked at him funny and said " I don't think so "
Does he like me. ( plz ezcuse the messed up spelling and crap.) I rate high 4 good answers!!
Okay well honestly, he doesn't like you in the way that you hope he likes you. Um.. it's like this.. you're young and inexperienced and he's not. He may want to take advantage of you. At this time in both of your lives it's not normal to have a 4 year age difference. 4 years is a lot when you're a teen. He will most likely use you. Of course, maybe you want that. Then that's your choice. But I highly doubt he's looking at you hoping for a mature relationship that will last more then a couple weeks. I recomend you find someone worthy of you, in your grade or even just a grade older then you. Good luck!
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my birthday is coming up soon.
i want to rent a limo.
but the only problem is . .
i dont know where it would take us!
does anyone have any ideas of places to go? thanks!
You and your friends should get all dressed up and just go out to eat! Afterwards just spend the night riding around in the limo.
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How does anorexia harm you or your body? I know pukeing will stain your teeth but what else?? cuz if thats it, then whats the harm right?
Well if you aren't getting anything from your food then you'll die eventually because of your lack of nutrients. Don't plan on having a baby because you won't be able to get the nutrients it needs to sustain life. And something that it hurts your throat a lot because it's like used to having the food come up. You'll get disgustingly skinny and really no guy likes that. People will call you anorexic behind your back if you look like it and people will talk to you and think of you differently. Not to mention is just so freakin dumb! If you want to lose weight do it the right way- don't be so lazy. Oh and you also won't have much energy and since you'll always be hungry you won't be able to concentrate in class or at your job. You won't be able to handle kids when you get older or a good job because you'll be tired and weak. If you want more facts about why anorexia is the dumbest thing since diet pills then google it and find some answers from scientist. The ONLY good thing about it is that you'll lose weight. And not that quickly either. First you'll gain weight. And everytime you do actually eat you'll gain more wieght from it then normal people because your body doesn't know when it will recieve it's next food. Sorry to be harsh but to me it's just so dumb to see girls throw their lives away just to fit a picture of what they think they should be.
Ok i like this dude we call Mouse. My "friend" Gail is totally obsessed with him and loves him to death and has for like 4 years. The thing is, they have never went out, and he can't stand her! he told me and all his friends earlier that he can't stand her cuz she tries to control who he likes and who he dates and she freaks out on anyone he likes or dates so that they get scared off. then he told me on the way home that he likes me and yea i defenitly like him ...a lot! and anyways, Gail said that she isn't going to stop me if i wanna go out with him and that she won't get mad at me. but Louann says that since Gail is my friend I shouldn't go out with Mouse. and that if I did go out with Mouse then she (Louann) would get mad at me and either hurt me or not talk to me (unless its yelling) ever again. but yea, i really really really really like Mouse.....how can i get Louann to accept that me and Mouse wanna go out???
Don't go out with Mouse. I don't care what Gail says, if she loves him to death she obviosly will be totally crushed if her good friend goes out with him. If you do it'd be totally selfish of you.
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ok i have this really good friend(we will call her sue) who really likes this guy(we will call him joe) and has liked him for like 5 years and is seriously obsessed wiht him. but the problem is that i now like Joe and my other friends want me to go out with him but i dont want Sue to get mad at me. and i no for a fact that Sue would hate me for life for she wanted to kill this other girl that was going out with him for a while. Also my friends who want me to go out with Joe have been talking with him and they said that he said that i should not care what Sue thinks and i kind of have the feeling that He will never go out with sue anyway. advice on what i should do please? thanks.
Don't go out with him, unless Sue says she is okay with it. Even though you know she'd be lying. Don't ruin a friendship for a guy, it's dumb. Maybe find a guy for her, then she wouldn't mind as much. If you do go out with him, do not talk to her about it. good luck!
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Ok..this guy..I really like him and like everyone had told me that he likes me too..then my bestest friend like came with me to see him and they were all dancing and like they were flirting but she has a boyfriend ((of 5 months)) and like i think she is gonna ruin what me and ((we'll call him mm))MM have and like i dont want that to happen..should i just like not take her back or what should i do!? please help i rate high!
Ask her what she was doing, but ask her nicely. She might not have realized she was flirting. If she's your bestest friend then I'm sure she wasn't trying to hurt you! Maybe she's had a crush on this guy forever too and didn't want to tell you. Most likely, she's not doing it just to hurt you. That only happens in movies. And anyways, it'd just be dumb. I wouldn't think you'd be bestest friends with someone who you probably knew could or would do something like that. Good luck!
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get ready for a long one..please help!
ok well one day i met this girl online, jackie, she seemed cool..over time we became best friends and called eachother all the time and stuff, gave eachother b-day presents in the mail (( by the way i live in fl and she lives in Ny )) and yah well one day i scammed her favorite sn and jackie didnt know it was me..yes she has a verry good reason to dislike me!!.. so0o its been about a year and i told her..she hated me for a while, but we soon became friends. now on the othher hand, jackie has a friend named paige and she is always trying to break me and jackie up..well she finally did, paige hacked all of jackies sns and then changed the password to caroline,((that was the pw of the sn i scammed)), and made it look all like i did it but i didnt and jackie doesnt belive me, now shes leaving me nasty messages and mean calls on my phone and i didnt hack it i tryed to explain that to jackie, but i want my best friend back, please help me!!
luv, x3 hannah
Maybe try leaving a sincere message on her cell phone. Mention that if you did do it that you would have told her by now since she was already mad at you. Also, that you told her once why wouldn't you tell her again? And how do you know it was paige? If you're sure, try asking paige *sincerely* why she's doing what she is doing. Good luck!
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Hi! (this is kind of long...)
I'm 14, and most of my friends have dated or are dating. I feel like I stand out, almost like I will never be able to date. Whenever my friends talk about dating, I am happy for them, but I just think I'm never going to date, with hopelessness.
I have tried finding girls by being friends with them and then after a while, asking some of them if they have BFs. Some of them do, and most of them don't. I am still friends with them, but whenever I'd ask the ones without BFs if they'd like to do something together (almost like a date), they usually say "no" or "maybe not" or "sorry, I'm busy". I know they are either not ready or they just wouldn't want to date me. Sometimes I feel terrible or depressed about it, but other times, I get a strange feeling like I would want to stand out and not date.
My analogy on dating with comparison of my friends and me is that dating for my friends is like taking an airplane from ME to CA, but for me, it's like walking there and I can't find any other way to get there. I feel like I'm hopeless, like no matter how much I try, I'll never find a girl. :-( I am a very nice guy, at least that's what my friends say, but I'm not sure why I haven't been very successful. I just can't seem to figure it out.
If you have any advice, I'd be glad to hear what you have to say.
Thanks. :-)
Just keep asking. There's plenty of girls that are in the same position as you! Maybe start asking the right girls, and just ask if they want to see a movie sometime. Oh and by right girls i mean girls that seem to be like interested in you, if you know what i mean. You don't want to ask a friend out if you're not sure she likes you because it'd just be so akward! Good luck!