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I have to go for my first "girly" check up alone because I am having problems at school and they are being slowly sorted out but my parents know nothign about it but my health is going down. What I want to know is during this check up do they really look at your vagina and boobs and what do they do to them? Also do they do anythign to your bum? I am really embarrest andits happening in a month please give me some advice. (link)
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its nothing to be embarrased about hun. they will just check you for any infections just stay relaxed nothing should feel embarrasing if you realize they look at female bodies all day. yes they will look at your vagina and breastif its a gynocologist. just relax and let them because its necessary for you to have checkups to maintain proper female health. good luck hun
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I am tired of looking at my plain white painted windowsill in my dorm. What's a plant that looks pretty but will not die if (more like when) I forget to water it, or leave it shut up in my cold room for a month while I am at home for break? (link)
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bamboo is good all ya need is to get a stalk of bamboo and some rocks and a glass of water put the stalk in water with the stones or decorative rocks. all ya need to do is make sure the glass is pretty full can even add a fish to it
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My girlfriend and I live togehter and we both believe she is pregnant. She was told by her doctor years ago that she has endometriosis and that she coold not have kids. We had a scare several months back. She took 5 at home pregnancy test. 3 came back positive and 2 were negative. 2 weeks later she had her monthly cycle. She is now late again 2 months. She again has taken at home tests. All 5 have come back positive. We are pretty certain that she is but need a doctors blessing before we tell our families. Problem is that she has no insurance until mid January 06'. We cannot go through the holidays without letting our parents know. Do you know of any places close to or in Geneva IL. where we can get a doctors exam that will not cost us over $100. I have called several OBGYN offices and with no insurance it will cost atleast $135-$175.00.
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you should check with planned parenthood i believe they are located all across the united states good luck and sometimes when a woman is close to the day her cycle starts her bodys hormones will be high and indicate pregnant on a test when its not. but being that shes late i would definitly check with a doctor. also is she normally irregular?
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I really don't like to eat -- I think it's a waste of time and I have always thought that. I eat the bare minimum to survive. Sometimes I get problems (headaches, mental confusion, memory loss, hysteria) because of my blood sugar dropping to nothing because I haven't eaten. I don't think I'm fat or anything, and my weight, which is within normal limits, has been basically the same since I was 14 (I'm 20 now, and female, incidentally). There are only about 12 foods I like and maybe another 12 I can eat but don't like -- the rest I will not touch no matter how hungry I am. Oh, and when I do eat, about half the time I get really sick later, not on purpose, very painful and embarrassing diarrhea and gas problems.
I honestly don't think it's that big a deal, I'm used to it, but my friends are disturbed by my behavior when they eat with me, or rather when they eat and I pick at my food. Do I have an eating disorder or is it just a quirk? (link)
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i think you may have an eating disorder. you may not see it as a problem but your body will somewhere down the lane. i think you should try to incorporate more of a variety of foods in your diet. if you ever wanna have a child you need to care for your body now to have it prepared to hold a child 9 months. or you may have a hard pregnancy. i know we all dont think of this stuff at a young age but later on it wont be only about you it will be the choice of having miscarrages a deformed malnourished child or worse a still birth or your death. you pick whats important to you......that food you dont like or your body withstanding future elements
good luck.
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theres this guy and hes a freshman and im a 8th grader and weve been talking for 4 months not boyfriend and girlfriend tho cause we dont wanna go threw all the breaking up stuff. but hes fingered me 3 times and we made out alot but i dont wanna go any farther i wouldnt mind maybe giving him head i just dont wanna have sex. is there anyway when were "hooking up" to make sure nothing goes too farr? (link)
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slow down a little in my opinion you are young for all that. just stay in public places with him till you get to know each other and feel safe and sure of how you feel about it.
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I was talking to my boyfriend on the phone tonight and just casually he guessed what his gift was and he didn’t sound all that pleased. What makes it worse is that he asked if he had guessed right and I blurted out No, just because I was scared and upset!
I’m a little panicked. I thought I had a good idea but he sounded really unimpressed…
I’m totally lost as to what to do now! Should I try and get something else? Or just go with it and admitted I didn’t tell the truth?! (link)
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honestly i would go with it and give him what the original gift was. dont give yourself a headache over it. if he isnt grateful and happy with it oh wel you tried and had a giving heart. just be glad that you are a generous giver and thats a great quality expecially at christmas time. i would be honest and tell him he guessed after you give it to him. explain to him how scared you were to give it to him and if he truely doesnt like it then he can exchange it possibly????? hope it all works out hun goodluck
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Hi im 14 years old. And on thursday dec.7th i had sex with my boyfriend. We used a condom but it ripped. It had that stuff called spermacide on it. But im not sure if any of his sperm got in me,because there was a not big but a normal sized spot on my sheets. I just got off my period like 3 days before we had sex. Im not having any syptoms that im pregnant but im having little pains once in a while at the bottom of my stomach. Im not only scared that im pregnant but i dont know how to tell me mom && dad. They dont even know im having sex. What is the percent chance that im pregnant? and any other advise will help. Thanx alot. im so scared.
always- scared.confused.
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first of all any time you have sex even with a condom there is a possibility you can get pregnant. my advice to you is stop having sex at a young age or get on the pill and have emergency contraception"morning after pill" you can get it at plan parenthood look up planned parenthood.com
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Is there anything that promotes you to get out of bed in the morning? I always feel so miserable getting up, and I need something to jumpstart my mornings. (link)
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blink your eyes really hard and sit up and open the curtains and turn on lights and music. i have a hard time too. if its cold in the house sleep with warm jammies and socks so you wont be terrified of the chill in the morning. also a hot shower helps
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umm i want to look really pretty friday and i was wondering if anyone had make-up tips or tricks!??
thanks if you answer
p.s. if you can recommend make-up that'd be great too (link)
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sally hanson has a spray on foundation that actually airbrushes your face get it in nude and wear it under your makeup for a flawless look.
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I have a question, and I know it's gonna sound stupid, but you know how when you were little and got all excited about Christmas? You'd count down the days and get up early to open presents, and you just had that special feeling that you only get around Christmas? Well, I don't get that anymore, and I haven't for a while. Why is that? Is it just cause I'm older and more mature? I still love Christmas, but I don't get that special feeling anymore. It's like Christmas is gone or something, and I just feel so weird. I want that feeling again. Can anyone help? I know, dumb question, but I needed to ask. Thanks. (link)
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is your life lacking tradition? that could be why if the answer is yes. try to make a tradition of something. listen to christmas music and think back on what was special and let the songs bring back the good times.alsooooooooooooooooo watch the movie polar express rent it it might help you see some stuff
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if you have urin test. when it comes back would they be able to see if you were pregnant even if they weren't looking for it and would they tell you? (link)
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normally yes. because the hormone levels would be higher.
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ok my dad does weed and i just know my mom does it too. and well they are always saying how much they hate people that do drugs and here they do it. well i hear that if your parents smoke and stuff well the kids are liable to start and well i smoke ciggaretts and my parents dont know about it. my point is will i start doing drugs since they do? an help will work thanks jennie (link)
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you probaly wont do drugs if you keep your mind focused on how drugs can destroy family, people, and lives. just do good things hun. just cause your parents do something doesnt mean you will. if deep in your heart you feel something is wrong dont do it. trust me i have watched peoples lives be destroyed over drugs and its so not worth it. hang in there and keep an anti drug attitude. you will get further in life without it.
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I have been involved with a guy for over 2 years. We have a near perfect relationship. He is my best friend and the person I know God sent to me to spend the rest of my life with. My boyfriend says he feels the same way. We recently graduated from college and were lucky enough to have found jobs in the same city. We have been living together for over eight months and especially the last three months, we couldn't be happier. I now find myself constantly thinking about marriage and looking at dresses and engagement rings. Is that normal?
He says that he is ready to marry me but he doesn't want to spend the money it cost to buy me an engagement ring. The ring that I have chosen cost $3000 and he claims that is too much to spend on a ring. I told him that I don't care how much he pays for a ring as long as he puts a lot of thought in the ring he chooses. Lately, he constantly reminds me of the $3000 ring and makes me feel as if it is my fault that engagement rings are so expensive. What should I do or say to him to convince him that I just want a nice ring? Also, what can I do to convince him that this is not a time to be a cheap-skate and that a decent ring will cost over $1000? (link)
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sweety i cant get more clear then this. it is better to have a good man than a good ring. and if you get both whooooooooohoooo for you. but trust me, the amount of your ring will not matter when you love that person. cause marriage is in the heart not on the hand.
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Hey everyone,
I want to create a calm atmosphere for my new room. What are some key elements? placement of furniture, and colors that can help me relax.
Oh and if anyone has any websites on stress busting you room I would appreciate it ! Thanks. (link)
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use blue its a tranquil color and tends to relax people.
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I've been seeing this guy for a few months and and we have a great time together. Yesterday he asked me to tell him how i feel about him. For some reason that is very hard for me to do. I know it has to do with past relationships and not wanting to get hurt. I really care about him and don't want to push him away but i don't know how to break down the wall that i've created. I don't know how to put into words what i feel for him. Please help me. (link)
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well you need to realize that he is not them."them"as in the ones that did hurt you. he may be an authentic man. he might just be the one who wont hurt you. you need to stop doing that to yourself because you are a slave to your past. move forward and experience love to fullest baby. you deserve it. you pushing men away only lets the men from your past be the winners and YOU become the loser. be daring in life, take a risk. true love is often found when you risk things you normally wouldnt to find your destiny. dont hold back. dont play mind games. thats childplay. let him know how you feel. of couse be a lil mysterious cause men like a good mystery.whatever ya do have fun ,live and triumph in the fact that you have moved on from the pain and have licked your filthy lil wounds those assholes gave you.
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I am a 17 year old boy, the only son in family. I have four sisters, three are elder and one is younger. My all family members love me a lot as I am the only brother. I also love them. But I don’t know why I have dirty feelings about my sisters. My mind always filled with dirty feelings about them. My mind always work on dirty schemes.But they all think me a innocent boy.I share a room with me eldest sister she is about 24 years old. She has a fat body. She snores during sleep. When she is in deep sleep I touch and caress her body and feels the softness and smells her private parts, specially her hips. I also try to hear the sound from washroom when she use it. Many times I have shown my male organ to her as I come out after taking bath in towel. I like to see her impressions when I (posing that I am unaware) give her view. Twice I have also shown to my youngest sister (she is 13 year old).
My sisters are friendly in nature, I have habit of slap and pinch their hips. Some time we fake fight with each other and during that I touch their private parts posing my self innocent. They believe this brotherly love but I have dirty thinking. I try to see them using washroom or taking bath from the backyard and when ever I succeed many days spend in dreaming about that
In spite of all this I have no sex thoughts about my sisters, I never thought about that. I just like to do the above mentioned things & enjoys.
Please give me an advise, how should I control my self to avoid such things. IS I am sick?
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well first have you ever had sex with a woman? if you havent i think you should but not with your sisters. maybe if you read a magazine instead it will take your sexual focus off of them. i really feel it is wrong for you to touch her while she sleeps and fantasize about them. i think that your sexual curiosity has really gone a little to far i think you need to not get physically close with them like that. i hope that you are persuing women outside of the family. that would be a good thing. your little sister should not be looked at like that and i think that can be a dangerous situation. i think that you need some counseling hun. i dont mean it in a bad way but i feel you should seek anoymous counsoling. it can be done in private.good luck hun and i dont think you are sick i just think your hormones have been way too high and you need to stop playing with the sisters and meet women and have sex with them.
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I bought my boyfriend of two months, an Ecko tshirt, an earring, & a 10 dollar gift card @ Barnes and Nobles. I didn't want to go overboard since we've literally only known each other 2 months, but do you think that seems like enough?
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oh my god yes i think thats alot for 2 months
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What are some ways to calm down and relax? School is making me CRAZY. I'm extremely stressed out and I just feel like giving up. HELP PleaSE. (link)
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take a hot bath with candles and breathe slowly and deeply. also it is relaxing to me to be on the computer and play games. also taking a walk helps . also studies have shown animals lower blood pressure so be around a dog or cat a little more. also always remember to do one thing at a time and realize rome wasnt built in a day. just every day remind yourself you can only do what "you" can do and thats it you are only one person. prioritize and make a list of important things to do and not so important and start from there . things that must get done that day at the top of the list then what is unimportant can wait. sometimes we focus on the whole picture and it blurs. divide things and tasks up so they wont seem like sucha hurricane.good luck hun
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is it true that if you work out with layers of clothing on like sweatpants and sweatshirt that you'll lose more weight?
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you would loose water weight not fat.
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can social isolation make you go insane?
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sure it can have you seen the movie castaway with tom hanks. yea human beings are not meant to be alone. it would cause all kinds of behaviors
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