My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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i never do anything on the weekends except hang out at home... and with only one frined...i dont know what to do i want to start hanging out with more people but they always have plans (link)
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Try calling up your friends to make plans. Maybe you could go to the mall, movies, or just hangout at your house. If you know two friends are hanging out one day, ask if you can join. Or maybe you could join a sports team. It will keep you occupied, and you make new friends!
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Ok what I want to know is each side of the story. I want to know why people like pro-choice and why others like pro-life. Give me feedback and I will rate high. (link)
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I am pro-life. I feel that once the baby is in a women's womb, it is a living person. The baby has no choice as to whether or not it can live. I mean, at least have the baby and give it up for adoption, or (in MA anyways), they have something called "Safe Haven" (sp?). It allows you to bring your baby to a hospital, fire station, or police station without being charged. It's for the better of the baby, and it allows the baby to live. The ONLY way I am against it is if the doctor's know the baby is going to have birth effects (ex: down syndrome). The reason I think that is because I don't feel too many people would adopt a baby like that. Not necessarily because they're different, but because they take A LOT of work to take care of them. Somebody always has to watch over them in their life. I hope that made sense.
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im 14 and my sister is 17. she has a boyfriend that shes really close with and a just got a car. shes supposed to come every other weekend but since she got her car she never comes. shes always at her boyfriends and if she does come she just leaves anyways. i really love spending time with her and i miss her a lot cause i never see her anymore. i know that shes older and doesnt want to spend time with her family, but i still do. what should i do? i dont know if i could really talk to her. (link)
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I know how you feel. The only way to fix it, is to talk to her. She can't read your mind, she can't tell how you feel. You don't even have to talk to her in person. You could try e-mailing her or something. Or maybe you could ask your mom to talk to her for you. Just remember she loves you, a lot of older sisters do the same thing. But sometimes they don't realize they're hurting their younger siblings.
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The boy I have a crush on has been leaving me out of everything and likes someone else. One of my best friends is ignoring and avoiding me because another one of my "so called" friends told him I liked him. I look like a nerd, my grades are going down, and I've been down lately. To make it short, I hate my life. Its miserable right now. What do I do to cheer myself up or solve one or more of my problems??
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There's plenty of stuff you can do! Try talking to someone about your problems. Whether it be your mom, a close friend, a teacher, someone you trust. Sometimes bottling stuff up can make things worse. If you're always sad, you might want to talk to your mom about going to a counselor.
You seem young. There'll be plenty of oppurtunities to meet good guys, try letting him go. Try looking at all the bad things about him, saying to yourself why do I like him?
In your life, try looking at the positive things. Maybe you could joing a sports team, or drama or something at your school. Sometimes those things can get your mind off things. Or maybe you cou could try getting together with your friends more often.
About your grades, you can get them back up! Just start studying harder, and try putting more effort into your work. Everyones grades eventually drop at one point because of one thing or another. You seem like you're really smart, and I think it'll be no problem getting them back up!
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Well there is this guy in my class that i have a crush on him since i met him. I knew him since kindergarden and i am almost a freshman. Well, my bestest friend loves him still, because she hadnt gotten over thier break up since seventh grade ( i think). He has just gotten out of a relationship with one of our other friends, and he said he didnt want anybody fighting. Well that went well. He had been flirting with my friend and i and he was playing us. He would tell me one day that he likes me more than my friend, but at the end of the day, he told my friend that he really didnt like me, but liked her. I dont know what to do. My friend still wants to go out with him, but i dont want her to get hurt again because how it went last time. She wont listen to me, because she thinks that i am just jealous. I just want to be good friends with him, like we were before he started flirting with us. I just dont know what to do. Can u help me... us? (link)
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Well, I guess the only way to prevent it from happening again is to keep telling your friend. Tell her what you told us. Tell her you don't want her to get hurt again, look what he's doing now, saying he likes me, then the next day he says he likes you and not me. Tell her she can find a better guy than him, and she deserves more. Just be honest with her. Tell her you honestly could careless about going out with him, you just want to be his friend. She still has plenty of time to find a good guy! Goodluck, I hope everything works out!
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hey guys i didnt know what to put this under but, i want to get a tan this spring break since im not going anywhere. the thing is m, my mom doesnt want me to go in a tanning bed. what are some ways i can convince her to let me go? thanks anyone that replies! (link)
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Well, everyone else said what I was going to say.
A) Tanning beds aren't good for your body at all. I guess if you REALLY REALLY want to do it just this time you can try explaining to your mom you just want to do it for spring break. Or maybe using your age as a factor to why you should go. I, personally, don't think being tan is worth putting your body in danger..
B) Try getting tanning lotion. I don't know too much about them, but maybe you could go to a store and ask the workers to help you out.
C) Go outside to tan.
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i am a 6 ft 15 yr old female and i was just wondering, is being tall a turn off? i have a thin frame and get called 'hot' sometimes, so excluding looks is being tall a bad thing? through a mutual friend i have with my brother i found out what my brothers mates were saying about me 'imagine having sex with bozzas sister what a tall freak forget that I'd rather have sex with bozza' (LOL, note: that was the cleaned up version) (link)
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It all depends on the guy. Like somebody else said, some guys like short girls, some like tall, some don't care. I know some guys think it's a turn-off if the girl is taller than them. But once they get to know you they shouldn't care about your height! And the taller you are, the thinner you are. I always get told I should be a model because I'm tall. At 15, I wouldn't worry too much about guys yet, some guys at that age are very shallow, not all, but some.
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I'm starting a my space..does anyone know how to update journal entries and change the font and backround of the page? thanks.. (link)
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Try going to www.pimpmymyspace.com
It helped me out a lot with mine. It's pretty easy. Then when you're done paste it in your interests (or anyone of those columns ex: about me.. it doesn't matter which one)
For the blog near the bottome there's a blog section. One link will say Post a Blog. Click that and there you go!
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I moved to a new school and made friends with a lot of people but the ones I usually hang out with are Michelle and Mimi...well....personally, I don't really like them. We're just in the same homeroom and stuff. The other friends of mine, they are like a group and really close to each other so whenever I talk to them I always get lost and just sit there and listen to their conversation. Well, Mimi, she lies a lot, she's a copy cater, and a wannabe. Michelle, she acts really nerdy and a copy cater too. I've noticed that they copied me a lot...I don't really want to be friends with them but I don't want to hurt their feelings or anything and some other reasons like Mimi would starts spreading rumors about me...so What should I do?
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Maybe you could try telling them you feel your friendship has been fading apart. Or that you feel you've both changed, and feel that the friendship isn't working out. It's up to you though. I hope everything works out ok..
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i want to play some sports.. but idk what ones are good. any recommendations? (link)
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There's so many great sports out there! It depends on your age, and what you're interested in. My personal favorite is soccer. It's harder than a lot of people think though. Some other good ones are: track; keeps you in shape + it's fun, basketball, baseball/softball. There's so many! It depends on your gender too, you could try hockey, but some cities don't have teams for women. Sports are so much fun.. I hope you find one you love.
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I have so much going on in my life right now and i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to and i found out all the people i thought were my friends are just using me or are just jerk and my family is always fighting and my parents are divorced and i had to live up to all these high standardands and i cant get over this guy ahhhh i dont want to go back to my bad habits...drinking...drugs...cutting...any of that can you please help me (link)
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Well, to start off, you can IM me if you ever want to talk to me. I would suggest talking to one of your parents, whatever one you trust more. Tell them how you've felt lately, and maybe suggest to go to a counselor. If you don't want to tell your parents, you could go to your school guidance counselor. You should talk to somebody though, keeping things bottled up can lead to more problems. Maybe you could even write in a journal or something. If you go to a therapist they might be able to give you some anti-depressent pills, which might help you out. Just out of curiousity, how old are you? Are you a teenager? A lot of teenagers feel the same way as you do. Good job for not going back to drinking, drugs, or cutting. It can be very tempting sometimes, and takes a lot to not do it. I would suggest seeing a therapist overall.
Hope I helped! Remember, you can always IM me.
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Hey! I know, I ask a TUN of questions about tracK!
but, I have a meet on monday! (Im asking this on Saturday Morning) and I have HORRIBLE pains in my knees and ankels when i run, and after i run i have the pains in my ankels. it always feels like my i am going to sprain my ankel!
I have pratice in about an hour!
so, i need some help! what should i do to make myself go faster, despite the pains.
I know how to at the meet because i only have to do it one time, but at pratice wtih the continous working, what should I do??
and any ways to go faster, and im in the 4X1 relay! anyone have sugestions for that either?
Also- I know what the pains are coming from-its the track.
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sorry its so long, but i only have a little over one hour before i have to leave for pratice!
Thanks In Advance!
-*KelC*- (link)
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I wouldn't push yourself. If you're in a lot of pain, pushing yourself can make it worse. I would recommend seeing a doctor. You could try to ice it, or put a heating pad over it. Or maybe you can wrap it in an ace bandage. Maybe stretching your knees and ankles might help a little too.
If you want to run faster, you probably just have to practice more. Practice in your backyard or something, start off slower and over time your pace should increase. But right now I would try to get your ankles and knees to feel better. Goodluck!
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One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help. (link)
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I'm so sorry to hear that. You're being a great friend by supporting your friend! Black is a very common funeral color, that's probably the best color to wear. People usually don't give gifts, unless it's flowers or a sympothy card. I wish your friend's family the best of luck.
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Grr, I hate this! My family hates who I am and what I am. They want me to be just like a prep and shit! I so totally don't want that. I'm a full on metal head and I usually never go to church since I made my communion. They listen to Ja Rule and all this pop bitches like Britney Spears and Hilary Duck...and freaking spanish songs. I hate that shit and like I don't know how to tell them to fuck off and let me be who I want to be. Some one help and no fucking lables please, no freaks or else I'll laugh in your face! (link)
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Like everyone else was saying, you are who are! Nobody can change that, be who YOU want to be, not who others want to see. So many people have trouble finding themselves, and your lucky you know who you are. Keep your head up, and don't let people tell you who to be. Tell them to accept you for who you are, and you're not going to change whether they like it or not! Goodluck.
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my friend just broke up with her bf after 3 months and shes been reallly sad.. and i`ve been there for her the whole time listening to her say the same things over and over... but i just listen and tell her how bad i feel for her. but i also like this guy and everyonce in a while i talk about how he doesnt even notice me and it makes me sad. and she started freaking out about how i have nothing to be complaining about and its rele stupid and she gets rele annoyed that i talk about him "all the time". this was the first time i found out it was annoying her, and i dont even talk about him that much.. i was thinking that after listening to her complain so much, maybe i had a little room to talk about me for a second... isnt that unfair that she wont even support my problems??? i`ll rate high! x3 (link)
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That is unfair. Like somebody else said, she broke up with him! If she still had feelings for him why did she do it? I would confront her. It's not fair that you're always there to support her, but she can't do the same for you! Real friends support each other no matter what! Goodluck, I hope everything works out!
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when i was a little girl my aunt went out with this really tall and ugly guy. he was nice but he liked to play with my private area and he stuck his in side mine a few times. i dont considder it rape or sexual abuse but i dont no what 2 say when people ask me if i am a virgin cuz besides that little thing i havent had any sex. what should i tell people. i dont mind it if people no that i am not a virgin but i really mind it if i have to tell them how i lost mi virginity and when. so am i still considerred a virgin or not and wat should i say wen people ask me that question?
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Wow, whether or not you think it, he raped and sexually abused you. How long ago was this? You might want to tell someone about that. It's not right, at all.
Personally, I would still consider you a virgin. You didn't chose to lose your virginity, someone forced it on you.
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So i met this guy, and by his looks he is definitely not my type. Infact, i dont go for guys out of my race. (He's still half white though). But he has an amazing personalility, all the qualities of a guy im looking for; he's beyond perfect. I want to ask him out, but the looks are bothering me. I know looks have nothing to do with anything, but even though i like him, i dont think i could do anything physical with him like kissing. Do you think its just because its in my head? And do you think a relationship can last even though you arent sexually attracted to them? Do you think i should just be friends or go for something more? (link)
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Like you said, looks have nothing to do with it. It seems like you know what you're looking for in a guy, and this particular one seems to have those qualities. I would go for it. I mean, once you get to know him more I think all the thoughts in your head will fade away. I, personally, think it's just in your head. It's all about what's on the inside. "Don't judge a book by it's cover". Goodluck, if you need anything you can IM me..
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My friend ((We'll call her M)) is a total sl**. She knows it and is proud of it. She stabs people in the back and screws you over. She turns on you and talks crap on you behind your back. My 2 best friends and i ditched her because we knew she wasn't a good friend to have. Now she is friends with lots of girls... at least she thinks she is. They all hate her, but they won't tell her! I wouldn't mind becoming friends with her again, but how can i learn to trust her and believe what she tells me if she did all this stuff to me the first time around? (link)
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I would give it a little time. She if she changes. If she does, she'll probably realize what a loss it was to lose you as a friend, and will go back to you. If you don't want to do that, I would get to know her better. If you truly think she changed, and has become trustworthy, then you could try telling her something. Maybe you could tell her something little, that you don't care if everyone knows, and if she blabs you know she hasn't changed. I wouldn't trust her right away, I would do it little by little, only if you feel she has changed. "It takes years to gain trust, but seconds to throw it away..."
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This issue requires so background info: Long story short is that my best friend and ex bf (well call bob) broke up with my best friend (well call chica) to go out with me. She was hurt at first but now we are ok. One of my other close friends, well call Joe, goes out with a freshman. That is not the issue. The issue is that he is doing the same exact thing that Bob did with chica. He is dating freshman because she is safe. She is in 'love' with him and thinks they will marry. He knows it won't last and just lets her believe whatever she wants. he doesn't understand that the longer he waits to break up with her the more it is going to hurt her. On to of all that his best friend, well call ashley, likes him and he likes her. When I try to explain to him what he is doing he starts to ignore me and is like I really don't care. Joe and I are like brothers and I just want him to at least realize that he is going to hurt freshman more if he waits. And he is loosing Ashley as a best friend and even maybe a girlfriend the longer he waits to break up with freshman. I just want to know if what i am doing is right and how i should approach him. (link)
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Personally, I think you're doing the right thing. It's not fair to Ashley. Just tell him how much Ashley loves him. Basically tell him what you told us. Try explaining to him "What if you loved a girl SO much, and wanted to marry her, and she didn't love you. She only went out with you because she thought you were safe?". Maybe you could even try explaining to Ashley that Joe only goes out with her because she's safe, and the relationship probably won't go too far. Goodluck with everything, I hope I answered your question correctly.
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Hey, sorry if this is confusing. But yeah, since it's lent, I have to go to confession today. And I know I've sinned, everyone does, but I just can't think of anything to say. Can someone help me? Is there anything I should tell him? I just can't think of anything. Thanks! (link)
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You can basically say anything. You can say I'm sorry for disobeying my parents/or elders, for stealing, for lying, for being mean, for using God's name in vain. Obviously only if you have actually done that stuff. Just anything you've done you feel was wrong. Goodluck..
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