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I don't know how to get through to him
This issue requires so background info: Long story short is that my best friend and ex bf (well call bob) broke up with my best friend (well call chica) to go out with me. She was hurt at first but now we are ok. One of my other close friends, well call Joe, goes out with a freshman. That is not the issue. The issue is that he is doing the same exact thing that Bob did with chica. He is dating freshman because she is safe. She is in 'love' with him and thinks they will marry. He knows it won't last and just lets her believe whatever she wants. he doesn't understand that the longer he waits to break up with her the more it is going to hurt her. On to of all that his best friend, well call ashley, likes him and he likes her. When I try to explain to him what he is doing he starts to ignore me and is like I really don't care. Joe and I are like brothers and I just want him to at least realize that he is going to hurt freshman more if he waits. And he is loosing Ashley as a best friend and even maybe a girlfriend the longer he waits to break up with freshman. I just want to know if what i am doing is right and how i should approach him.
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yes, you r ok. your friend -Joe- just seems like he doesn't want to hurt her and he wants to have her + n e one else, i guess he just doesn't want to let go. hope you can get through to him!
=)=)luv ya! t-28 old1
yes you are doing the right thing. just remember that in the end you know that you tried to help.
good luk 2 ya!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young 1
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I'm so confused...........Leave it alone.
I know you are concerned but stay out of it before someone gets upset with you.He's not listening anyway.
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I think what you're doing is the best thing you can do in a situation like this. Joe shouldn't be fooling around with the freshman if he doesn't really like her, because someone could, and probably will get hurt. I'd say to take it cautiously and to gradually bring up a conversation with Joe about his feelings vs the freshman's feelings. Hope I helped! <3
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Personally, I think you're doing the right thing. It's not fair to Ashley. Just tell him how much Ashley loves him. Basically tell him what you told us. Try explaining to him "What if you loved a girl SO much, and wanted to marry her, and she didn't love you. She only went out with you because she thought you were safe?". Maybe you could even try explaining to Ashley that Joe only goes out with her because she's safe, and the relationship probably won't go too far. Goodluck with everything, I hope I answered your question correctly.
Hope I helped!
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