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Q: this girl that says im her best friend always talks about my other friends behind their back, so i tell them because i dont think its right for her to do that. The other day she was talking about one of my friends named danielle, and so i told danielle this weekend and dnaielle said that my suppose to best friend called me a spoiled brat and a bitch and said that she doesnt hang out wtih me that much because i act stuck up .. but she is always calling me. I talked to the best friend and she siad she didnt say that, but how do i know because she always talks about everyone else to me. What should i do? i rate high!!

u should invite her over and seriously talk...
if she still denies it than maybe danielle was just mad at you for saying that she said crap about her, so she lied to u, just because she was mad. or youir "best bud" is sain stuff 'buot everyone, and you should ask her about that 2.
=)=) luv ya! t-28* old1

Q: This issue requires so background info: Long story short is that my best friend and ex bf (well call bob) broke up with my best friend (well call chica) to go out with me. She was hurt at first but now we are ok. One of my other close friends, well call Joe, goes out with a freshman. That is not the issue. The issue is that he is doing the same exact thing that Bob did with chica. He is dating freshman because she is safe. She is in 'love' with him and thinks they will marry. He knows it won't last and just lets her believe whatever she wants. he doesn't understand that the longer he waits to break up with her the more it is going to hurt her. On to of all that his best friend, well call ashley, likes him and he likes her. When I try to explain to him what he is doing he starts to ignore me and is like I really don't care. Joe and I are like brothers and I just want him to at least realize that he is going to hurt freshman more if he waits. And he is loosing Ashley as a best friend and even maybe a girlfriend the longer he waits to break up with freshman. I just want to know if what i am doing is right and how i should approach him.

yes, you r ok. your friend -Joe- just seems like he doesn't want to hurt her and he wants to have her + n e one else, i guess he just doesn't want to let go. hope you can get through to him!
=)=)luv ya! t-28 old1
yes you are doing the right thing. just remember that in the end you know that you tried to help.
good luk 2 ya!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young 1

Q: im 14 and my sister is 17. she has a boyfriend that shes really close with and a just got a car. shes supposed to come every other weekend but since she got her car she never comes. shes always at her boyfriends and if she does come she just leaves anyways. i really love spending time with her and i miss her a lot cause i never see her anymore. i know that shes older and doesnt want to spend time with her family, but i still do. what should i do? i dont know if i could really talk to her.

ok, so u should like......
ight, call her sumtimes and say hi and say sumthing (not 2 be mean) like that makes her feel bad fer not cumin over @ all. like say"so i've really missed you you like never cum over and there is a lot of stuff i want to talk to you about, you should cum over sum weekends...."stuff like that so she'll want to cum over.hope i help!
=)=)luv ya ! t-28 old1

i have an older sis and she doesnt come around alot, i lik spending time with her. we just call each other and set dates to go shopping and stuff. try and talk to her.
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young 1

Q: Hi, I'm 15 years old and I'm a female and there's this guy (Tom) in my class who I was dating for about 3 months but then I figured out that he was going out with OTHER girls, so I dumped him secretly. Now I'm falling for this other guy (Christopher) and I think he's falling for me, but then Tom said he appolagized and HE GAVE ME ROSES and it's SO hard to not love him but on the otherhand there's Christopher. I don't know who to chose! PLEASE HELP ME!~!~!~!~

OK. this ToM guy sounds like he's just using you, but then there are the roses. ok, i'de talk to ToM about it and then i'de see if ChRiStOpHeR is really a good guy or better than ToM.
=)=) luv ya! t-28 old1

hi! well, this is what i think you should do. see
how it wroks out with tom. if you still want to break up with him after about a week, then do it. go for chris if you do break up with tom. good luk!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young1

Q: Ok well here's my problem, my mom is like super christian and I think I wanna follow by the rules of buddah and I want to be boodist! but I still belive in god! I dunno what one to choose. And plus if I do decide to become budist I dont wanna tell my mom! I dont know what to Do! arg! help!

Alright, you can have Nirvana, but you can't unless you have god. Buddah won't change anything, the Lord will. Easter is coming up so i'de make up my mind to. Pray to the Lord and be w/ him and your life will be so much better!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 old1

talk to your pastor. god knows what your going through and he is always here to help. pray to him, ask him what to do. you can pray to buddha, but he wont be there to help, he wont here you.
and if you do decide to become a budhist, tell your mom. good luk!
=)=) luv ya! t-28, young 1

Q: today i was at my boyfriends house. ive known him for 2 years but weve only been going out for a month. we were at his house home alone today and he kept asking what did i want to do. then he started being like oh well your boring you dont want to do anything. (he ment like i didnt want to do IT) and i jsut said...weve only been together for a month! and then he was like...well thats not what you said to that guy that you had sex with!!! (im not a virgin and it was the biggest mistake of my life) and then i just got up and walked away. and he came after me and he was like babe im really sorry and he just kept hugging me and saying he didnt mean to say that and how sorry he is. it just really hurt my feelings. and i know hes not just using me for sex. hes an awesome bf. we hangout all the time and i tell him almost everything. our parents even like eachother. i duno he just really made me mad today. what do i do? do i just let it go? or next time he asks me to come over do i say something and bring up how rude it was of him to say that? i duno im confused..

ps..that wasnt the first time i been to his house..we hangout all the time..

HEY! ight. You should, well you should wait 'till u are ready. talk about i guess. if he is using you break up w/ him. i dont really think he is using you though, it doesn't really sound like it. he proly wants to sooner becuz of that mistake w/ the other guy, he might feel presured by it. hope I help.
=)=)luv ya! t-28 old1

hey, you need to wait till BOTH of you are ready.
talk about doing IT with him. when youre both ready you know it will be the right time. but, he might just be using you for sex, and if he is, break it off!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young1

Q: T'm 14 and I'm a girl. I've never had a boyfriend I don't enen talk to guys. I'm really shy. I really want to have a boyfriend, but I know that no guy likes me anyways. What should I do?

I'm goin through the same thing still, but im only 13.well, don't be shy and be cool. Get more guys as friends and improve ur immage! that'll help alot.(we need rateings!, pleeze help us to lol)
=-)=) luv ya!t-28 old1

i'm going through almost exactly the same thing. just try to say hi to them. even go over to one of them and start a conversation. if you like him keep making conversation till he becomes your friend. he might even start to like you! just try it!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young 1!

Q: I wrote a prob earlier, because I like this boy but I'm too shy to actually do anything. People said they think he likes me too. They also told me "be yourself". Thing is, I'm really shy + boring, I hardly ever go out (long story.. moved house, new friends bullied me, were really immature and bossed me around every time i went out with them so i stopped). Please can you give me some flirting tips for shy people? Because when he looks at me I look away in case I start blushing and I'm ignoring him even though I like him.. silly thing to do I guess, but I can't help it. Thanks =]

ok, when he looks over @ you, depends on his personality, like wink as in friendly-flirting or smile sweet as in I-LIKE-YOU, see whut happens, it won't hurt n e thing unless he's a real jurk.hope i helped ya!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 old1!

i know the feeling. just, when he looks at you just smile, wave, or say hi and chat. youll be talking soon and might even get close!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young1

Q: there's this guy i like but i don't know if he likes me and at first i hated him because he kept mentioning what his friend said about me( like saying i was ugly) but he said sorry and said he wouldn't say it anymore and now hes flirting with me. it seems like he does it to the 2 most popular girls in the school( me and Claire.) but i ddon't know if it means he likes me or not. because first he put his arm around me then touched my butt!! but he does that to my friend too sooo help please

allright. you should..... when he puts his arms around u then you go for it to! if you like him you should definitly get to him before your friend Claire, if she likes him because she probly likes him too, so flirt like him bac and got to the movies or somethin, but i think bringin Claire,no offense, might mess your date up.just cuz he flirts w/ her.
=)=) luv ya! t-28 old1!

hey, if you really like him you should put your arm around him to. if he goes for your butt dont go that far.just ask him if he likes you. if he says no, make him stop goin for the butt. if he says yes, ask him out. trust me, it'll work!
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young1

Q: I moved to a new school and made friends with a lot of people but the ones I usually hang out with are Michelle and Mimi...well....personally, I don't really like them. We're just in the same homeroom and stuff. The other friends of mine, they are like a group and really close to each other so whenever I talk to them I always get lost and just sit there and listen to their conversation. Well, Mimi, she lies a lot, she's a copy cater, and a wannabe. Michelle, she acts really nerdy and a copy cater too. I've noticed that they copied me a lot...I don't really want to be friends with them but I don't want to hurt their feelings or anything and some other reasons like Mimi would starts spreading rumors about me...so What should I do?

Ight. wen they are copiing then, if you hatem' real bad, rite sumthig on your paper like..
STOP cOpYiN'! r sumthin like that. or you could just tell them 2 nock it off. either way, the 1st way is funnier.if you dont want to be their friends make others in your homeroom and slowly don't be theirs.
=)=) luv ya t-28 old1

hey, im an expert at this stuff. just slowly stop talking to them and sitting by them. theyll get the picture. but it has to be slow, or they might think real bad about you and start rumors. just make friends you can have fun with and not get rejected by. dont let anybody use you.
=)=) luv ya! t-28 young1!

Q: I'm really bad at starting conversations with people. I've been rejected by SO many guys because I'm "to quiet". I know i should be myself but the thing is that I don't want to be the girl that keeps her mouth shut all the time. If you could give me some good ways to start good conversations with people (Boys mostly) that would be great. Thanks!

Say stuff that they are interested in like ...
singers or, if u like this , sports.Sum guys just like talking about anythig so, just figure out what thhey like and be a BIG chatter-box, it might even help you to c what they like and if you like them!
=)=) luv ya t-28 old1

hey! it is definately hard to talk to guys. just be outgiong, find out what they like. dont be so nervouse, dont think, and go for it, trust me!!!!!
=)=) luv ya!!! t-28 young1

Q: i want to re dedicate my self to the lord but i need helping makeing my way up becoming a better christian...i have tried to read the bible but i need an easier way to understand...can anyone help me

if you are a Babtist, we are, then go to your pastor or maybe even get babtized, again if you already have.
=)=) luv ya( & so does the LorD!) t-28 old1

hey, I know what your going through. just go to church and wednesday night stuff. they help you to understand it better than just reading the bible.
=)=) luv ya t-28 young1

Q: I have to make a toy for a school project. It can be anything, and made from anything. Now I'm not too good with making something that involves electronics, so please nothing with wires. Does anybody have ANY good ideas that I could use? This project is due on monday! I also have to advertise it (but i can do that myself). It also has to be something original. OK I rate 5's for people who help in the least bit!

A jAcK -in the- box! lol, =) luv ya t-28

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