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Hey, i have just recently started cutting myself, but not deep enough to leave bad scares. It makes me feel so much better, but i know if i keep on doing it that it will get worse. How do i stop without telling anyone?
-Confused
I'm glad you know it'll get worse - because thats how I started and eventually I cut so deeply (not purposely, even) that I slit open a vein. So, anyway... If you REALLY don't want to tell anyone, it's going to take some major self-discipline. First, you have to get all knives or sharp objects away from you. Start writing or take up kickboxing or something instead of cutting, to find something else to rely on to relieve stress/anger/anxiety/depression, whatever it is you have. If you haven't made any impact in 2 weeks, tell someone. Please. I hope I helped..
hi, sometimes im selfish..okay, im always selfish. for example if i get an awesome necklace/shirt/pants/earrings/cd/anything::when peoeple ask me where i got them from i never want to tell!! i dont want people coping off me a iguess but it happens so much! and even the stuff i make, okay well i made a necklace out of a guitar pick and then everyone did the same things...etc. it makes me mad! also when i do homework im the same way, i hate when poeple copy me! and my friend, she copies my essays and uses like the same things i do and i take a long time thinking of them, just like a simple sentence. im christian and i know i shouldnt be like this, but i dont know why i am! how can i cure my selfishness??! i wanna be a better person, help me please~~~~!!!!!!!
There is no problem with the way you are - you aren't really being selfish. It's normal to want to be different from everyone else.. I freak out too when people copy me. And as for homework, you shouldn't let your friends copy it anyway - they were supposed to be doing the work, not you doing it for them. For the style things, TRY your hardest to take it as a compliment - people like YOUR style so much, they want to use it. If it really bothers you, tell them.
OK. I'm allergic to fake earings and it really sucks. I can't get those earings with fake silver that only cost a dollar anymore. Is there any way I can were fake earrings(not clip-ons) with getting a rash on my ear?
thanx
I have the same problem. Except I'm allergic to real earrings too.. The only think you can do is probably get real gold earrings, because you're probably allergic to some metals. If you can't get gold earrings, try to get non-allergenic earrings or even plastic ones (if you can find them). Hope I helped!
is sex at a young age(like 13) a bad idea?
Yes. Most 13 year olds are not emotionally ready for it, and the consequences.
i am 13/f, and i know this sounds really gross. but can you have a pimple on your (down there). when i was putting on my jeans the other day it started to hurt. and when i got out of the shower there is this big bumb down there. its kind of white on the top. which to me looks like a pimple. what can i do? i'm scared. how can i get rid of it? I RATE 5's!!!
ps. i am not a virgin, but its just now showing up and the last time i had sex was 3 months ago.
Do you shave there? Cause if you do, its probably that.. That happens.. Just leave it alone, and if you have to, shave in the direction that the hair grows, and you shouldnt get them.. Hope I helped.
ive been trying hard to lose my stomach fat but it doesnt work! my stomach is getting bigger and bigger and im getting mad! does anyone know how to lose stmach fat other than crunchs and situps? ive tried those and they dont work.. like any workouts that you KNOW that will work?
Running.. Like when you wake up in the morning, run, before you eat breakfast. It burns off all the calories that you had for the dinner before, and you lose weight quicker than you would if you ran after breakfast and stuff. Hope I helped.
hey does anyone know any good websites were you can make your own quizzes? thanks!
Quizilla.com or quizyourfriends.com are where i go. :-)
I have this problem with my singing. Im told by a few people that i am pretty good and all.. but i somehow dont have enough confidence in myself compared to a lot of othre people in my chorus. My music teacher is always cracking jokes on me about thank god that he doesnt have to hear my solo anymore and what not... But when I talk to him personally he tells me that if he didnt think that I was good then he wouldnt have chosen me for all county and all this stuff... and that i just need to work on my musicianship and all.. But somehow i am extremly confused... can someone help me figure this whole thing out?
I rate!
-Confused-
All you need is confidence! Your teacher obviously has confidence in you - he wouldn't have picked you otherwise. Just sing in front of people as often as you can and it will come easier. Hope I helped!
i'm in a band, and i'm not bragging or anything but we are quite good. we've been together for like 2 years and have played loadsa gigs (and won a battle of the bands competition recently :p) we've got a demo cd and evrything so how the hell do we go about "getting signed" because i'm hearing of other local bands that get signed ie to sony for £400,000 to go record an album. so does anybody know how we'd go about doing this? i will rate high if your helpful :p PLEASE help me.
alex x
Keep playing lots of gigs, and send the demo cd or a demo tape to every single record company you can think of - don't give up. Just keep sending stuff out and eventually someone will respond. Hope I helped!
okay, i have a friend, and i'm really close to her, we've been friends for a really long time and i just love her to death! almost like a sister! but anyways, just recently she told me about her boyfriend...he doesn't want her to talk to any guys, and he says if he ever catches her, he will kill her and him...and he's not just bluffing, he is really serious about the killing. also, they recently had sex for the first time, and the day after he wouldn't talk to her, but then he said "i'm sorry, come over to my house after work" those were his exact words! he wanted her over there so they could have sex. he won't wear a condom unless she threatens him that they're not going to have sex unless he does. also, he gives her hickies and she asks him to put them in places that can't be easily seen so she can't get in trouble, but when she asks him to he gets mad and bites her on the next, hard, leaving big places, in visible spots. i'm sorry this was long, but please help.
-concerned friend
You need to go to the police - this sounds like an abusive, controlling guy. It would be best if you bring her with you, and she needs to get away from this guy as quick as possible. He will just get worse. I hope I helped and I hope you get rid of this guy!
Is this a good workout plan?
Stretches
30-to an hour on Exercise Bike
3 Sets of 15 Crunches
3 Sets of 15 Pushups
3 Sets of 15 Leg Lifts
Stretches
Thanks!
Sounds like a kickass plan! Just remember, slowly increase how much you're working out, so you get more workout as you get stronger!
ok, i am a 17 yr old female, and my best friend, Ashley, is,or should i say WAS, in this relationship with this guy to where everytime we had plans, he would mess them up. like make plans or say thigns like "well, i gotta work the rest of the week" so she will hang with him. we have tried hanging out as a group, the three of us, but he gets so...controlling...of ashley and i dont even get to spend tiem with her!!! well, they split up about 2-3 weeks ago, BUT, she still sumtimes ditches me like we have plans and she juss doesnt show, so i call her house and she is with her friends (used to be hte guy) and then hse claims she "forgot". what can i do to get this to stop
Tell her how you feel - like how you feel like she's ditching you, and that it's hurting your feelings. She probably doesn't realise she's doing it. I had a friend who did that, too. We talked about it and were cool afterward. Hope I helped!
hi i am fourteen years of age and i have never had a partner, which means ive never been to any of the bases!! is the first kiss always the worse? i dont know what i am supposed to do when i am going to kiss somebody, like what your supposed to do with the lips, teeth, and tounge, and i am scared! i dont want to feel akward when i really suck at kissing..and im not really talented!! someone please tell me what i should do!
Well.. The first kiss is always the most awkward;-). Kissing is always weird the first time you do it.. How do you know you aren't talented? I mean, if the guy you end up kissing likes you a lot, he'll probably think that you're a good kisser.. Just remember - don't drool or slobber or anything.. and I think you'll be okay. Good luck with it! (BtW - If any guy actually comments on your kissing abilities.. screw him;-)) Hope I helped!
i need to find out if this boy likes me or not.when my friend told me his friend was like no no.and she told me that the other guy likes me.and i do.should i be saspisous
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Well.. you could talk to the guy - pay attention to how he acts, what he talks about, if he listens to you, if he looks at you, if he flirts with you - all of those things are things that can tell you if he likes you.. If you do decide that he likes you, then most likely the other guy does too, since he was denying that his friend liked you.. I hope that made sense.. and I hope I at least helped a little:-).
I think I have depression, I've got almost all the symptoms on this website, and I've felt like this for about 5 months. I don't know how to tell my mum; she's so old fashioned and she thinks that young people can't get depression, and I'm 14 so she won't believe me. I started crying this morning for a stupid reason but I was feeling depressed, and she just said, "oh, here we go." She won't believe me if I tell her. I don't know who to tell, my friends are immature and won't understand - or they'll laugh about it, 'cos I'm good at hiding how I feel and I smile when I'm feeling bad so no-one notices. I can't make a doctors appointment myself, and I don't know how to get a counsellor, and anyway I also think I've got social anxiety so I wouldn't be able to say anything for them to help. How can I get rid of this depression because lately I've been considering suicide and looking on the net for ways to go about it. Thanks xo
Would you be able to tell your dad? If you can't.. MAKE your mom believe you. And then make her get you medicine. You could also see the school guidance counselor - I know it sounds stupid, but if your mom won't believe you, thats pretty much your only choice. I have social anxiety and I am bi-polar so I know what you're talking about with the sucide and the not being able to talk.. but you have to. You're crossing a line where your choices may end up being talking or dying. It CAN get better.. and it will. Trust me. Just don't go the suicide way, because they WILL commit you to a mental hospital. Trust me.
I am a thirteen year old female and I don't want to live my life anymore. My ex boyfriend and ex best friend are almost going out even though they know I still have feelings for him. My sister has ADHD so my parents have to give her alot of special attention and there are about three family arguments a day. I gave up self harm about a month and a half ago but now I have started again because I am so depressed. I make constant threats of suicide and I suffer from very low self confidence. I am rarely happy and when I am it is short lived. I desperately want my ex boyfriend back and keep thinking that if only I still had him then I would be happy. I have a male friend who I talk to about almost everything and he is very supportive but he can't help me. What should I do?
Get help.. And don't self-mutilate! It only leads to bad things - trust me, I've been there. Mental hospital and all. The first thing you need to do is go to a doctor and ask for anti-depressants. (Which would mean you're also going to have to tell your parents.) You might also want to see a shrink.. The hardest part of all this is telling your parents.. And it might seem like they wouldn't care b/c of your sister, but they will.. I hope I helped and please - find someone to talk to.
Alright..well I consider myself a pretty outgoing person!! But recently people have been telling me how quiet I am! I never realized I was quiet...lol I mean I am EXTREMELY outgoing and crazy with people I know...but if I just meet someone I am shy but sooner or later I warm up to them! I am afraid people will think I am snobby if I first meet them and I'm shy..you know? I want to be able to be outgoing around everyone...not just people I know! Also this is around the same problem...when I am with my boyfriend (if I have one at the time) I am shy too and I don't know why! I could know him for a while but I get shy and quiet! Don't get me wrong I am not COMPLETELY quiet around them...like I do get majorly hyper and stuff but I mean it seems my relationships go slow because I never make any moves...I want to be able to go faster...and it be ME making th first move...Anyone have anything to help me?
OMG, you are JUST like me.. I have the exact same problem. With new people, I just try to talk more.. I'm really really shy around people that like aren't at least friends with my friends though.. You could just strike up conversations with people in your classes, like ask what your homework is or other stuff and then go from there.. at least, thats what I do.. And with boyfriends.. I have no idea.. I'm still working on it! lol! I hope I helped a little bit!
so i`ve heard that in order to loose weight, you have to burn off more carbs than you take in. Is this true? And if it is, then how do you know how many carbs your burning off? Like if you do 50 sit ups..then how many carbs do you burn doing that?
It's not carbs, its calories.. But other than that, I have no idea.. Sorry:-)
Well recently I made a new guy friend lets call him Joe. Well whenever Joe talks to me he almost never looks in my eyes but rather above my head. Whats up with this?
Well, I'm not exactly sure so I can't give you the best answer on this, but it might be because he's kind of shy? Or maybe he's just uncomfortable with looking people in the eyes when he talks to them?? Sometimes I get like that, too:-). Lol, I honestly don't really know, I'm sorry.. But those would be my guesses.. hope I at least helped a little. :-)
I think I have depression. I've read about symptoms, and I have almost all of them. I've been feeling like this for about 4-5 months now. My dad has depression and I think it runs in his family. But I don't know how to tell anyone. I'm really shy, and I don't think anyone will believe me because I act happy around people even when I feel like dying, if I need to cry then I won't do it when there are people around. If I tell my mum she'll probably say I'm just feeling down or something. I don't know where I can find a counsellor and I'd probably have to tell my mum where I was going if I did. I'd find talking to someone horrible because I feel sick when I talk to people I don't know. I also think I have social anxiety but I don't know what to do about that either. What should I do about this depression problem because I don't know how to tell someone. Sorry this is so long, thanks :)
Wow, hun, I'm so sorry.. I have the same problem. I was suicidal and cutting and everything.. Please make sure it doesn't ever get bad enough that you cut - it doesn't help. If your dad has it, its very possible that you do.. You need to tell someone. I think the person who would understand most would be your dad, and even though it might not seem like it at times.. Your parents just want you to be happy. Tell them and they can get anti-depressants, and probably a counselor.. If you don't feel comfortable doing this (although its the most sure-fire solution), you could go to your school couselor. Your parents don't need to know that you've visited the school counselor or anything.. I hope I helped.