about

hi everyone im katelyn. I love giving advice and taking some too! im a very open person and a very nice person. Well i think im a very nice person but thats up to u to decide wat i am. I think i am a very loving, caring, and honest person. I have my bad days but who doesnt?!?!? I am very trusting and u can tell me anything. I will try to help anyone i can and anyway i can.
xoxo
~katelyn~

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Once you told someone your feelings you feel releaved that you let it off your chest. right?

well i did...

we had a good talk about it, and she didnt understood but i simply explain that i dont know why i do have these feelings but i do for some reson.

later...

i realized she was still my friend and didnt feel awarkered about it. i then ask "why did you seem alright about me telling you how i feel?" i was hoping she will say something but she didnt. and when i ask in a note she didnt even reply.

why is that? why cant it be a simple reply why she seem okay with the fact. yes she still hangs out and talk to me, but i want it in words. all i can think is that she seem okay with it cause she might have the same feelings. but that cant be right. can it?

so if someone ask you that qeastion "why do you seem alright about me telling how i feel?" what would your answer be?

hi, well wat did you tell her? im kinda confused but if you told her that you liked her or something maybe seh only likes you as a friend that why she wasnt answering you maybe. I kno wen i tell someone how i feel they usually say something back but im not really sure why she didnt say anythin back to you. If someone asked me thaty question i would prolly answer with i feel the same way thats why im ok with you telling me how you feel if i really did like that person. i hope thats wat u meant. i hope i helped a little bit im sorry if i didnt i try. ok well if you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox!
~katelyn~

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I feel that me and her are made for each other, but she doesn't feel the same. What can i do to change that? I really, really love her, mind you and i don't want to lose her.

im sorry to say it but you cant make her love you. Its hard wen you love someone alot and they dont love you bak i kno because i had a bf that didnt feel like that either. It hurts alot wen someone tells you that they dotn love you but life goes on adn jsut try to find someone else. Im sorry but you just cant make someone change their mind bout how the feel bout you thats just how things go. It took me a long time to get over my ex bf but you will be fine and just find someone new. Im really sorry that she doesnt love you or she doesnt think that you guys are made for eachother. I mean you guys can still be friends that way you dont lose her completely but i know it will be hard for you to jsut be her friend. Sometimes you hav to let the best things in life go you will be fine without her if you do lose her. Ok well i hope everyhtin works out for you if you have anymore questions write me in my inbox and heres my sn if you ever want to talk
xoxokatiebabii

I wish the best for you!
Katelyn~

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If a girl hits u all the time does that mean she likes u. and if it does should i ask her out

if she hits you in like a girlie way then yeah i think she does i kno wen i hit a guy and laugh im usually flirting and i like them. But if she hits you because of somethin you sed then no she doesnt like you she just is mad at you or watever. But most likely she does like you and if you like her then ask her out. If she says no then who cares i say just go for it if you like her. If you like her thats all the matters you dont need a girl to like you bak for you to ask her out. She might not like you now but maybe if you guys go out then maybe she wil. So ASK HER OUT! hope i helped
if you have anymore questions you can write me in my inbox or IM my sn is xoxokatiebabiixo
~katelyn!

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Hello theres this girl I like and she no that I like her I liked her for 2 an half yrz now lol I no her older sista I told her I liked her but her sista said you need to get to no her thatz tru but theres this party soon I no she will be there and I want to talk to her so she can get to no me but I don’t know wat to say im not good at talking to girlz..all I no wat to say is hello wat you up 2..how do I make a long conversation that she will like..an how do I get her to like me bak………i am 17 by the way

Hey well just to let you kno you cant make someone like you if they like you they do. But i kno i like when guys say good things bout me that makes me feel really good. It boosts their self esteem up. Just be yourself dont think soo much about it just talk to her if you think it so much through then you mihgt end up lookin like a big idiot. But sometimes thats ok and if she laughs at wat you say just laugh with her and make a joke out of it. DOnt worry ull b fine im sure. If you need anymore help you can write me in my inbox or im me on my sn xoxokatiebabiixo
ok i hope i helped out! :]
~katelyn!~

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Yesterday, I went to the mall with my Mom. I found a really cute skirt, and a top. When I tried it on, my mom insisted that "they were too tight." This happens ALL the time when we go shopping. Every time I try something on, my mom says, "No, its too tight" or "I think you need a bigger size," when I really don't. Something could fit just fine, and she would still insist that it is too small.

So the other day, I started crying, because she never likes ANYTHING that I try on. Then she asked me what was wrong, and I said, "Apparently I'm fat!" And she goes, "Oh no, you're not fat. The clothes just run small."

Mind you, I am a pants size 0, and I weigh 88 pounds. When I was younger, I used to be kind of chubby. I don't know why my mom does this- I'm trying to decide if it's because I really do look fat, or if its because she thinks I look good and doesn't want me to wear tight/revealing clothes. I am very upset, and lately I've been feeling like I don't want to eat. I decided to give up candy, and I fear becoming anorexic. Yet my mom, (who is not thin) continues to encourage me to eat candy.

Should I say something the next time she does this? I am getting really pissed off, and I feel like shouting, "You're just jealous because I'm not fat like you!" at her.

Hey your not FAT dont say that bout urself. I used to say iw as fat all the time and it didnt get me anywhere i was anorexic for awhile but its not worth it believe me all you do is get sick and you could die from it. Even if you were fat who cares it shouldnt matter what you look like. Im sure your mom doesnt think your fat i think she doesnt want you to wear those kinds of clothes right now. Maybe shes not ready for you to grow up my mom was the same way with me and after awhile i realized i dont carwe what she thinks. So try no to care what she says and if she does it again talkto her bout it and tell her how it makes you feel. Maybe she doesnt kno wat shes sayin adn how it effects you. So let her kno its better than hurting yourself because your not fat at all and i think you need to gain weigh. How old r you?! well i hope i helped if you need anymore help please write me in my inbox or heres my sn xoxokatiebabiixo im me sometime if youhav a sn and ill help youthe best i can ok well hang in there and please let me kno if you neeed anymore help!
~katelyn~

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so my delema is that whenever i really fall hard for a guy he's a total jerk (like my current crush who cheated on his ex who he said he was in love with, is constantly ignoring me, then showering me with attention, and treats girls like they're nothing and can get away with it) and when i'm going out with a really nice guy... or just a guy that doesn't treat me like a total piece of shit i loose intrest and want to break up with them... and do. i already have a couple ideas to why i do this... but i'm not sure... and i just want to know so i can get over this fasination with really really shitty guys... anywho i think that i either
1.) still blame myself for alot of the really fucked up things that happend in my childhood and am subconcesly punishing myself
2.)have always had to look after imature guys that don't really respect women and now that's what i go for
3.)like a guy that will push me around cuz it reminds me of when i was little
4.)i'm just stupid...

please tell me what you think so i can try to get over this facination with horrible guys soon thank you...

Hi,
well i think that you should try to get help. You should never let a guy treat you like shit! even if you claim you love him hes not worth it. My mom always tells me to never let anyone hurt you because like you you keep going bak to the bad guys. I think the reason why you cant keep a nice guy is because your soo used to havin totally different guys and your not used to bein treated nicely. You need someone that will comfort you and say good things bout you so your past doesnt come up again. TRy to forget bout the past becuz its the PAST and you should thnk about the future. Thats what is important right now the future and the present ok if you need anymoere help write me in my inbox k
xoxo
~Katelyn~

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Phewf. Okay. 15/f. (This is coming from a girl who has NEVER had sex...and won't for a long time)

Okay. I like guys. I like girls too, though. I would love to have a relationship with a guy. ANYTHING EXCEPT having ANYTHING to do with male genitalia....It just GROSSES me out COMPLETELY. Yet, I don't find myself a lesbian. I just CANNOT imagine being penetrated by a guy/oral sex, etc. I find it utterly disgusting (forgive me If this is offending). But....on the other hand, I would also LOVE to have a relationship with a girl..and the thing is - I DON'T MIND being sexual with a girl at all! It's like - BRING IT ON. (lol)...I find this very strange. But I get extremely aroused when I see a picture of a naked woman....or something. But, when I (if ever) get to see a naked man...I'm just grossed out. It's as if, with a guy....it's only everything ABOVE his pants, that I am "optimistic" about. AND HERE'S ANOTHER PROBLEM - I don't want sex with a guy, But I want a baby in the future! With a girl...it's flat out, straight - "BRING IT ON". Am I normal?

Help, please?

Hi,
i think ur lesbian and theres nuthin wrong with that. I mean people that are bi usually like to see both naked guys and girls and not get grossed out so i think that you really like girls. YOu can still have kids and stuff but your young yet so your mind might change. YOu might grow out of it eventually. =]
ok well if you have any questions you can write me in my inbox k
~katelyn~

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if you only make yourself throw up like 3-4 times a week, and you dont over eat before you make yourself throw up, are you still considered to have bullemia?

YES thats considered still having bullemia because your making urself throw up and i hope you stop that becaus your perfect the way you are and if ppl are sayin stuff to you then dont listen because your fine. It doesnt matter wat ppl think of you i learned that and they are supposed to like you for you nd not by the way you look. SO STOP IT PLEASE BEFORE YOU REAALYY HURT YOURSELF! YOUR COULD END UP IN THE HOSPITAL OK? well i hope i helped you! if oyu need anymore help write me in my inbox!
~katelyn!

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Okay my name is Dave 15/m,

I have this well friend persay her name is holly,well i dated her for about a week liek 3 months ago and i dotn know i guess she felt pressured and broke up with my but my friend paige(

hey,
Well i cant really tell you wat to do because its up to you really. I mean who do you like more?!?? I mean you have been talkin to tiffany for awhile now and you really like her and she likes you so i think you should go out with her lol. you sed you like tiffany alot and you sed you like the otehr girl but i think you like this tiffany girl more i mean holly layed on you today but i mean you have been talkin to tiffany. i think you like her more sooooo go out with her and if things dont work out you still like someone else. So then you can go out with holly. But i mean holly had her chance and she blew it so i would try someone new. i mean holly must of really didnt like you if she broke up with you and you found someone i think you really like sooo she lost her chance. if i was you i would stick with tiffany because you see her alot and you tlak to her alot it seems. ok well i hope i helped you dave. hehe
i really cant tell you who to go out with but thats wat i think. Just follow your heart and whoever your heart chooses i think thts the right girl for ya.
Good luck with that
~katelyn~

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what does it mean when a guy bleeds from his penis ?

WOwo i dont know but that doesnt sound really good to me. If your bf is bleeding from his penis maybe he should go see a doctor or something. Sorry i couldnt really help but i hav no clue. ok if you hav anymore questions please ask me!
~katelyn~

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I'd like to get to know this girl better. she sits a few seats behind me in one of my class's. It would seem awkward to just approach her. we chat occasionally but I would like to get to know her better. she has a great personallity, or so it seems. and she seems to be someone i could get to become close friends with. how do i initiate a conversation at least, and maybe ask her if she wanted to get otgether or somthing. just looking for a means to create a close friendship, possibly a close relationship later on. im older then her, but very unexperianced. i can be a bit eccentric and quirky at times, but i don't want to creep her out or anything. thanks in advance

hey,
well i think you should just go up to her and ask her out on a date and see what see says. Dont be scared or afraid of what she might say. DOnt think soo much bout it and jsut go and say something to her alot of ppl think too hard bout goin up to someone that they want to get to kno more but who cares if you say somethin retarded. Just laugh bout it and im sure she will smile at you. I say go for it! and i dont thin you woudld creep her out. i kno wen guys come up to me i dont get creeped out. ok well good luck and i hope everythin works out for ya! if you hav anymore questions you can write me in my inbox or you can talk to me on aim my sn is xoxokatiebabiixo
~katelyn~

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well i really wanna have my first kiss with my bf but like im scared and confused....like i dont wanna regret it or anything...but i really wanna kiss him....what should i do??

any advise on how to actually kiss? i have no idea how to!! help!

just let it happen and im sure if you wnat to your not goin to regret it. theres no right way to kiss everyone kisses differently so just kiss him and have fun!
Dont worry bout it ull be fine!
~katelyn~
if yo u have anymore questions you can ask me in my inbox!

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15/f. in may 2006, i started talking to this alot. we even started saying we loved each other, like REALLY, not just as friends. so now, we are going out and we still say we love each other, but it doesn't really seem like it means anything. he's not the mushy-gushy-lovey kind of person, so how can i let him know that i really DO love him?

Hi,
i think that theres really nothing to do to tell him that you really DO love him. i mean he should already kno just by sayin it. But sayin you love him while your kissing and hugging is a good way to show that you really love him. I always give hugs and say i love my bf and kiss him and he knows that i love him. So just do things like that to show that you care and love him alot. :]
Ok i hope i helped?!?>
~katelyn~

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Okay I have an ex boyfriend that won't get the hint that I am in a loving relationship., well today he decided to call me and was mad because I might be pregnant. Well anyways he told me that he still wants to be friends and everything he just didn't want me to tell him about me and my boyfriend. Which it's hard to do, because I love him so much. But what really upsets me is that we were supposed to be friends, when he just told me tonight he doesn't care what I do, but that he still loves and misses me and wished he could have me back, what am I supposed to do? Keep being friends with him, or tell him where to get off at????

Hi,
I think that he needs to move on but its hard for him and you need to understand that. Im sure he knows thats what he needs to do but you need to sit and talk about everything because im sure he still wants to be your friend. I mean its better to have a friend than him be mad at you all the time and end up not being your friend. I mean you should have alot of respect for him and i dont think you should talk about your boyfriend to him because thats hard to hear when hes still in ove with you. I mean im sure if that was you you wouldnt want to hear about your ex boyfriends girlfriends thats really hard to take in. Just sit and talk to him about it and see what he has to say and if you dont want him in your life anymore than stop talking to him. But if you want him in your life as a friend or w/e than keep talking to him and be his friend. But you need to tell him that you guys are just friends and only friends because your with someone else. Ok well good luck with this and if you need anymore help you can ask me in my inbox ok?
Hope i helped out!?
~katelyn~

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14/f


theres a guy who i've been inlove with for about 2 years since we've went out then broken up. he totally ignored me for half a year and i was depressed pretty much. then we became friends with benifits. it was suppost to be secret but i told and some word got out, he basically hated me for 2 months. then he would tell me he wanted to be friends with benifits. this went on and off threw out april threw october in 2006. we had sex the first time over summer then he said he never should have because he loved someone else. he never had feelings for me just lust, but i had feelings for him (stupid i know).. i just cant say no to him. then when had amazing sex in october and he said we had to stop bc he was inlove with someone else. it hurt. for around 5 monthes i tried to forget about him. we never talked. then a week ago we started talking again and it seemed like we were normal friends. now we plan on having sex another time soon because we can't stop lusting over each other. i know he likes someone else and this little secrect hookup has to end sometime like before, i just don't know what i should do.. have sex with him or just keep putting it off and avioding him. i really don't know if i love him but i just feel a strong feeling towards him and its so intense. and when we'd hook up he seemed not even to care but then when we would finally talk about what we did he would admit a bunch of stuff. he can't show feelings at all. im so sorry this is confusing, but i just need comfort. i don't want to tell anyone else about this whole issue because its my responsiblity to make sure no one finds out. i mean if everone knows ive done it 3 times before i was even 14 they'd never stop talking about me. just please help

hi,
i think that you should try to stop having sex with this guy. First off he doesnt even like you he likes someone else so hes just using you. I think you should end thi svery soon beofre the person hes involved with finds out and that wont be pretty. If hes with someone else then he cheating on that person and do you want to be the girl he did it with? I dont think so because people will be talkin more bout that then bout you even having sex at this age. Its hard to forget bout him but sometimes you have to do things for the better and if you end it now you wont get hurt anymore. Ok well if you need anymore help you can im me my sn is
xoxokatiebabiixo
or ask me a question in my inbox
~katelyn~

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Well I am 23 and got engaged when I was 17. My mom has been very supportive of this and happy for the two of us. Then my Dad isnt very happy he hasn't talked to me since I told him I was engaged. I know I have never been close to him but it has been really bugging me since I am to be getting married in May. I know that he is not going to be the one to walk me down the isle I told him that along time ago that it would be my brother that is going to. But what I am trying to see is should I get married without my dads approval?

Hi,
i think that you should get married and if your dad really loves you he will be there for your big day!
Im sure he will be there and now your 23 so i dont think thats a bad age to be getting married. he should be happy for you because your happy. he might not walk you down the isle but im sure he will come around and be there. You never know he might come around and end up getting there and he might walk you down the isle. I dont think he would miss his little girl's wedding. Im sur he wont be happy but i know he will get over it so dont worry bout it and talk to him. Try to see if he will walk you down and tell him that your happy and he should be happy for you like everyone else is. he should be happy your with teh same guy i mean i think i would be happy for my daughter to be with one guy all her life so i wouldnt worry about some other guy. Does your dad like him?? Has your dad known him for awhile? if he has then i dont see the problem. soooo if you want to get married GET MARRIED!! BE HAPPY !!!!!
xoxo BEST WISHES!!
~katelyn

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Since i have been dating my boyfriend i kind of have distanced myself from my friends. I want to stop doing that and get my friends back. But in addition to that i want to be popular. I want to have alot of friends. How can i do that?

Hi,
I used to always want to be popular and have everyone like me. But i realized that my friends i have now may not be the popular kids in shool but they are to me and you should just stick with your friends. being popular isnt everything. Having friends is more important and do you really think that popular kids are really your friends they may act like it but alot of popular people are hated. Maybe you need to see that for your self but if you decide to go back to your friends they might not be their and you need to think about that. If you like your friends then stick with them dont care about anything else and if your bf is coming between you guys then he isnt worth it because your friends and your family are always there for you all your life. NOT SOME GUY! believe me i learned that the hard way and maybe you do too but please dont make a mistake and forget about your friends. Like i said they are the closet thing you got! So i think you should just forget about being popular and hangout with teh people that care about you the most. if your bf doesnt like your friends or doesnt want you to hangout with them then he needs to get oout of your life because their the only ones that will be there for you when your down! Ok well i hope i helped ya out! :] and if you need anymore help im here!
xoxo
~katelyn~

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im 18 and i started talking to a 24 year old female who's number i got from a chat line. she said she was curious and i was too. we would text each other mostly all day . we talked on the phone a few times and she sounded nervous. she started telling me she wanted me to be her first and wanted me to come out to Buffalo to see her. one day i just decided to ask her if she had a boyfriend. she said her babyfather. i knew she had a 2 year old but i didn't know she was with the father still. i thought she was free and single like myself. i confronted her and she was like he knows that she talks to me. i got a little angry and ignored her for a few days. then i decided that i really liked her so i could over look that. so we were talking again and everything was okay until she asked me if i would have a threesome. i said maybe and asked why. she then texted me saying it has always been a fantasy for her and her babyfather. i got smart and said so now you guys just want to live out some fantasy? she said it wasn't a fantasy now and they want a little companion. I was taken off gaurd by that since that was never my intention at all. I then said to her that i saw what what they were trying to do and i wasn't even looking for that. i told her to find another first because i'm not the one and i'm all good. this was about after one something in the morning. around nine something i feel my phone vibrate in class. she actually had the audacity to send me a text saying "that was wrong how you dissed me" i replied back telling her that her and her man want a companion and i don't do those. i told her that i liked her not her man and asked how could you do that to me.? i even used her word back on her and told her that she was wrong as hell. finally to let her get the message i sent one last text saying "like i said. i'm not the one. have a nice life" it just makes me feel sick the thought of her and her man trying to bring someone into the relationship when they have each other. they might as wel get a dog because i'm not one.

Hi,
i think wat happened to you is wild lol. I woulda been shocked when she told me that. That just sucks for you because im sure your a great person and thats all she was basically talking to you for. i feel bad because you really liked her. I mean if i had a man already i wouldnt try to get another one thats just wrong to have 3 people in a relationship. Im surprised you didnt care she had a kid alot of people dont date girls with kids but thats good that you liked her for her and not because of her family or anyone else. i wouldnt talk to her anymore because thats a little weird and i dont think you want a man and a woman. I would watch out whos numbers your getting in a chat room. Ok?? well if you want to talk to me ever my sn is xoxokatiebabiixo
im me some time to talk and stuff. well if you wnat too and r u a female or a male because i dont think you have that in there lol.
:]
~katelyn~

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I care about my boyfriend ALOT im love him soooo much. We have been together for 6 months. The problem is that he does stupid shit to piss me off ALL the time. We fight what it seems like everyday. When i get pissed at him i think that i could find someone who treats me so much better but then i think i love him so much. What should i do? Because i dont want to loose him but he doesnt listen. And its like hes using it to his advantage that i wont break up with him.

Hi,
i think that you should just talk to him and see why he does stupid shit like that. Maybe he doesnt kno it pisses you off so you should tell him and tell him if he doesnt wanna change his ways then its over. Hes not worth your time if he treats you badly. you guys need to sit down a discuss you issues with eachother and tell eachother wat makes the other mad instead of fighting all the time just talk. Dont yell at him and tell him not to yell at you because thats just going to creat more problems between you guys. If you still treats you badly or doesnt start to try to change his ways then i would dump his ass quickly because your spending this time on him while you could be trying something new with someone else. I mean you hav been with him for 6 months if your not happy all the time then you could of been with someone that your happy with all the time. Just think about it some more and talk to him and try to make him listen to you. you have to stand your ground in this relationship and stick up for yourself. MAKE HIM LISTEN TO YOU!! If he wont then tell him its over. It might be hard at first not having him around but just think about how much good its doing you if you do break up with him. If he is willing to change and work out his problems with you then give him another chance because everyone deserves another chance. Maybe you guys see eachother too much sometimes that causes fights everyday sometimes you need a break for a little but you guys can still be together just not hangout everyday or every weekend. Try that and see how everything works out! I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU GIRLIE! stay srtong and if you need anything else im here to help ya! Ok i hope i helped you out?!?
xoxox
~katelyn~

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I have heard a number of things.. and there all different.. My Q is... is it called child molesting.. or rape or whatever for someone over 18 to date a miner, Date... with no sex.
Please anwser only if you know the correct anwser... no assuming.. just facts.

Hi,
i think you shouldnt go out with a girl thats like 15 or like 14.
thats jsut wrong and you shoudl go out with someone thats your age because some girls are crazy adn they might say things that arent really true to getr you in trouble. So i dont think tahts a really good idea for you. My advice to you is find someone your own age!!!! if you hav to look at little girls and dae them thats really sad!
Ok well good luck with that and make the right choice if you wanna go out with someone that younger than you! Ok?!?
~katelyn~

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