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sex, feelings
14/f
theres a guy who i've been inlove with for about 2 years since we've went out then broken up. he totally ignored me for half a year and i was depressed pretty much. then we became friends with benifits. it was suppost to be secret but i told and some word got out, he basically hated me for 2 months. then he would tell me he wanted to be friends with benifits. this went on and off threw out april threw october in 2006. we had sex the first time over summer then he said he never should have because he loved someone else. he never had feelings for me just lust, but i had feelings for him (stupid i know).. i just cant say no to him. then when had amazing sex in october and he said we had to stop bc he was inlove with someone else. it hurt. for around 5 monthes i tried to forget about him. we never talked. then a week ago we started talking again and it seemed like we were normal friends. now we plan on having sex another time soon because we can't stop lusting over each other. i know he likes someone else and this little secrect hookup has to end sometime like before, i just don't know what i should do.. have sex with him or just keep putting it off and avioding him. i really don't know if i love him but i just feel a strong feeling towards him and its so intense. and when we'd hook up he seemed not even to care but then when we would finally talk about what we did he would admit a bunch of stuff. he can't show feelings at all. im so sorry this is confusing, but i just need comfort. i don't want to tell anyone else about this whole issue because its my responsiblity to make sure no one finds out. i mean if everone knows ive done it 3 times before i was even 14 they'd never stop talking about me. just please help
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I may not be able to help you, but i have the exact same problem.
Literally the exact same problem and i dont know what to do either.
My advice is just get through each day by day ,and what happens,happens.
If you still like him, you can like him ,you cant stop feelings for someone.
You have to let it come naturally.
When people hear that ive had this problem ,they just start assuming things without even knowing the story.
Im the same age , and i always feel so awkward but things will all change within a year or two.Even though it feels like it will never end lol
Sorry I couldnt help, i was just surprised someone had the exact same problem as me haha
yeah same here
its not as easy as everyone thinks
they say "get over him"
but its really really hard
and every person i talk to says to get over him too, everythings so hard
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hello .
im very sorry to hear about this . and i am also sorry but i must tell you the truth .
well since he is your ex , try not to get involved with him . i dont believe you are or were in love with him . it might have just been lust like you said . but i dont know your emotions . but if he is involved in another girl , then dont get involved with that drama . i think he is just using you for sex . dont fall in that trap . you must be too pretty and too nice to get your heart broken like that ... all i am going to tell you is , you should move on and find someone you truly love . you will feel much better about yourself .
and also try not to tell anyone that you have had sex , because they might go around calling you like a dirty [whore , slut , etc .] .
you are a very smart girl .
good luck
and if you need anything
dont be afraid to ask
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hi,
i think that you should try to stop having sex with this guy. First off he doesnt even like you he likes someone else so hes just using you. I think you should end thi svery soon beofre the person hes involved with finds out and that wont be pretty. If hes with someone else then he cheating on that person and do you want to be the girl he did it with? I dont think so because people will be talkin more bout that then bout you even having sex at this age. Its hard to forget bout him but sometimes you have to do things for the better and if you end it now you wont get hurt anymore. Ok well if you need anymore help you can im me my sn is
xoxokatiebabiixo
or ask me a question in my inbox
~katelyn~
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Look, he does not sound like he has any real feelings for you. You cannot keep hooking up with him, you are only making things more difficult for yourself. Please for your own sake, do not have sex with him again. Please find someone else, who cares about you and loves you. He is only seeing you as a hook up and not as anything else. I'm sorry I had to be so blunt, but you needed to hear it this way.
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