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Always be Fat?
Yesterday, I went to the mall with my Mom. I found a really cute skirt, and a top. When I tried it on, my mom insisted that "they were too tight." This happens ALL the time when we go shopping. Every time I try something on, my mom says, "No, its too tight" or "I think you need a bigger size," when I really don't. Something could fit just fine, and she would still insist that it is too small.
So the other day, I started crying, because she never likes ANYTHING that I try on. Then she asked me what was wrong, and I said, "Apparently I'm fat!" And she goes, "Oh no, you're not fat. The clothes just run small."
Mind you, I am a pants size 0, and I weigh 88 pounds. When I was younger, I used to be kind of chubby. I don't know why my mom does this- I'm trying to decide if it's because I really do look fat, or if its because she thinks I look good and doesn't want me to wear tight/revealing clothes. I am very upset, and lately I've been feeling like I don't want to eat. I decided to give up candy, and I fear becoming anorexic. Yet my mom, (who is not thin) continues to encourage me to eat candy.
Should I say something the next time she does this? I am getting really pissed off, and I feel like shouting, "You're just jealous because I'm not fat like you!" at her.
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0 = not fat
up to like 4 is not fat first off
a lot of ppl are saying that the moms just dont want to see their daughter growing up like that, but its more because she has like a jealousy. my mom and me aer both super thin, and twhile if i wear a slutty outfit, she'll get mad, but shes fine with tight as long as not too much skin or celavage is shown... (no shes not like a "regina" mom haha)
i have also experienceed that some fat people are meaner to me, and nicer to other overwieghts
alsooo, you didnt say your age, but honestly i stopped shopping for clothes with my mom at like 11. ask her for some money be like mom could i have 100 dollars or however much and go with a friend
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every mom is the same it drives me crazy when my mom does it.moms just dont want their daughters going out with clothes that arent baggy.i think their afraid if we wear clothes that boys can see the shape of our bodys then their afraid they will take advantage of us girls.
try not going with your mom getting all of your clothes.maybe if you and your friends go together.it would be some fun aswell.
your not fat your thin and nobody thinks your fat.its just mothers are very protective.
hope i helped,xxaoifexxx
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What?! Isn't size 0 supposed to be thin? I dunno bout the way size is measured in your country cos over here they go by S,M,L. But from what I know, shouldnt a size 0 be very small?
You're thin and you know it. I doubt your mum thinks you're fat. And NO, you shouldn't be telling your mum that you're not fat like her. That's just plain mean cos I really see no evil intention coming from her.
Parents are always wanting their kids to wear looser clothes, I dunno why, but prolly it's cos they dun wan you to feel uncomfortable in tight clothes or they're just being protective bout you showing your body. I think you're thinking too much. She offers you candies just because she wants to share them with you, it has nothing to do with her wanting to make you fat. That's really out of the point.
You are of such a small size , how can you ever be fat? I seriously dun think your mum is jealous of you. I dun feel any evil vibes enamating from your mum.
She's your mum, my dear girl, she's not some messed up psycho. She wants the best for you : eg. she wants you to feel comfortable in your clothes, and she wants you to enjoy nice little things like sweets and chocolates. Hell I'd give anything for a nice mum like that.
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Do you go shopping with your mom because she pays for the clothes? if she's paying then she probably doesn't want to buy you something that she deems inappropriate. How old are you? If you don't like shopping with your mom, go with a girlfriend and get your own clothes. If you do then your mom can't stop you buying what you want. Don't call your mom fat, disrespecting her will just cause you more problems.
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Don't worry, I'm sure you're beautiful just the way you are. Don't worry about being fat, your mom might be worried about clothes being too revealing or she might not like the styles that are popular today because of how they are meant to fit. Try calmly and rationally telling your mom that you think you can pick out your own clothes and see how she responds. Good luck!
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Hey your not FAT dont say that bout urself. I used to say iw as fat all the time and it didnt get me anywhere i was anorexic for awhile but its not worth it believe me all you do is get sick and you could die from it. Even if you were fat who cares it shouldnt matter what you look like. Im sure your mom doesnt think your fat i think she doesnt want you to wear those kinds of clothes right now. Maybe shes not ready for you to grow up my mom was the same way with me and after awhile i realized i dont carwe what she thinks. So try no to care what she says and if she does it again talkto her bout it and tell her how it makes you feel. Maybe she doesnt kno wat shes sayin adn how it effects you. So let her kno its better than hurting yourself because your not fat at all and i think you need to gain weigh. How old r you?! well i hope i helped if you need anymore help please write me in my inbox or heres my sn xoxokatiebabiixo im me sometime if youhav a sn and ill help youthe best i can ok well hang in there and please let me kno if you neeed anymore help!
~katelyn~
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ok, well you shouldnt call your mom fat, and your definetely not fat, i would die to be a 0 in pantsize, next time she says somethin just tell her "mom, i know you may not want me to get these clothes because they may be revealing but GET OVER IT, im getting older and i think that i should be able to get what clothes i want. im not fat so quit implying it." but dont be too mean
hope i helped
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Eesh. How frustrating! I would not yell those words at your mom. That may cause a hurt you will regret years later.
If I had an 88-lb, size 0 daughter, I would likely be *wishing* she were a "healthy" size, like a 4 (depending on height and age). I don't know how old you are or how tall you are.
I think your mother's thought process might have more to do with the fact that those clothes are a very small size and she's hoping that you "fill out" soon into a bigger size. She may be thinking that they are tight enough that if she were the one wearing them, they would feel restrictive (we old folks like our clothes lose and comfy sometimes). Have you tried putting on the next size up and showing her how the waistband would gape open and show your underwear? That might be the best defense. You might also ask the opinion of a salesperson, whether the size 0 or the size 1 or 2 fits better in front of your mom. If all of that doesn't work, I would suggest that you go shopping with an aunt or another shopping buddy, unless your mom is also along to pay.
Mostly, your mom is right that sizes are not standard. Don't get caught up in thinking that you are a size 0 and only a size 0. Different manufacturers cut the fabric differently for the same size clothing and it will fit differently. So if you take a 0 in Mudd and a 2 in L.E.I., don't sweat it. They are just numbers and the reality is that your body is a certain size which can't be properly expressed in a 1 or 2 digit number.
Sabine
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To start off, YOU'RE NOT FAT!! Don't think that at all.
This is something advicenators isn't going to know how to fix. It's between you and your mom. The best thing would be is to talk to her, in a calm manner. Tell her that you know the size you should wear, and the things you pick are based on comfort, not all style. Tell her when you buy stuff, that you want to be able to pick it out, because you're definitely a teenager [I hope you're over 13, or you shouldn't be on this site]
One thing you don't want to do, is call your mom fat. That wont get you anywhere but grounded for a month. Believe me, I've said some pretty nasty darn things to my mom, and she took it too far.
Don't become anorexic, because thats not the way out. That will just get you so skinny, until you die. If you want to lose a few pounds, which in my viewing, you don't need to, then just do some excersizing, and cut back on the candy. Tell your mom you don't want to eat any candy!
I hope I helped. If you need anything further -- feel free to leave on in my inbox. :]
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