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16/f. I hate this.
soo...a couple of years back, i got myself a boyfriend online..(VERY stupid idea) got REALLY attatched to him..and started crying over him and stuff (things you shouldn't do with people online) and I didnt realize it was bad..I was in "love" o.O..so, as you can imagine, when he broke up with me..i was in tears. he was 18 after all. so cool. oh yes, older guys. okay now..when i was 15, i met another guy. through connections with my 'ex' ...mutual friends. and he fell in 'love' with me. by that time, i was more aware of the dangers of the internet and didnt bother to tell him that i even liked him. because i didnt. i dont even know what the guy looks like..i dont wanna look at his pictures. lmao. but anyway, his burning love for me grew. and he's 18 as well. Then, his 22 year old girl-friend from the internet.. (pathetic, i know) who is at home all day playing video games and chatting with people..started talking bad about me...when she doesnt even know me. she claims that the 18 year old guy REALLY LIKED her...and that I'm taking him away from her. during this time, the guy insisted that he likes me so much more. and he kept on being mean to that 22 year old. so I'm like wtf? I don't know WHAT to do. cause I sure as hell don't want to stick around in this retarded love fest. I understand she may not have any friends..but falling for an 18 year old she's never met and then being all jealous about it...because he likes me? ..that's messed up. i'm so lost and confused. I would like to get out of this situation.I don't know how though. I'm sick of it. Sick of it all..
i really appreciate if you read this. any point of views would be appreciated. =)
the internet love triangle. haha
Block him. Easy as that.
No, really.
Block all of your screen names (if you have multiple) on MSN, so he can't contact you. If he knows your e-mail, block that. Block any contacts you have.
If you block him out of your internet life entirely and there's no way for him to make connections with you, then how can he be in your real life?
Don't feel guilty-- this guy is a real retard for liking someone he doesn't even know. I know that you used to be like that, but you were much, much younger, and you grew up and got wise. Him, on the other hand... I don't know. Just don't feel guilty.
Im 16, just had my period getting over it today. but two nights ago, i was really tired and i went to change my tampon not realizing that i already had one in. Later i completly remembered.. took the second one out and the 1st one i got, but when i took it out it had no string.. is that something i should worry about or not a big deal? please helppp!
Your vagina is a one-way street, meaning the only way out is where you put the tampon in. Most likely it just fell off in your underwear or jammies, and you didn't notice it. Don't worry about it.
My brother.
He hits me. Alot. And i know what your going to say, just a brother/sister thing. No, it really hurts. Not just a little, alot.
My mum, she just stands there not doing anything. Then when i start screaming at my brother, she then shouts at ME telling me not to shout at him!
Then i storm off upstairs and I get in trouble for it!
I can't talk to my mum because i know EXACTLY what she will say.
''Stop annoying him then''
I don't DO anything to him. I would just come downstairs one day and he would just start hitting me for no reason.
And sometimes we get along really well. And i don't know why he does it..
Any advice?
If it helps, I'm 14 and he's 16.
Talk to your mom about it, and see what you can to do get your brother some help. He obviously has some anger issues that need to be resolved by a psychologist, psychiatrist, whatever. :]
Make sure you get your point across to your mom without whining or blaming anyone. Simply, "When (brother's name) hits me, it really, really hurts. I don't want you to just write this off and just give him a little warning, because he'll just do it again."
This is abuse. If your mother doesn't recognize that and your brother keeps it up, it could get worse, and that would not be good. Talk to your guidance counselor about it if your mom doesn't listen, and they'll definitely put him in some anger management classes or something. Don't worry about your brother being mad at you, he'll thank you for it later.
Good luck, I hope it all turns out well.
Im so obsessed with harry potter. now that the books are all out and there are no new movies i have gotten desprate, so much that i was on youtube watching fake 6th movie trailers. any suggestions?
There's nothing wrong with being a fanatic, as long as there are other things you like to do.
Limit your HP time to 15 minutes a day. After that, read a book (but not Harry Potter!), watch TV, go online, study, hang out with friends... whatever.
15/f..almost 16.
I'm a sophomore and (used to be) the top student of my classes. But now that I've developed more friends...who are worse than me in things that they do...who procrastinate, smoke, drink, go out with one another...I feel like they are dragging me down. Because if one procrastinates, i feel comfortable about procrastinating on something as well. So, when I'm on MSN and this particular friend signs in, I'll just talk to her/him until like 2 A.M and then realize that I have homework. Some of the friends that I have...don't even like me! And I don't like them either. I don't wish to spend my time on them anymore. I don't have a boyfriend..I'm fine with that. What can I do to get "rid" of them?
You have to make new friends and integrate with a new crowd. As you develop new relationships, you can say to your old crowd, "Sorry, I can't hang out on Sunday night. __ and I are meeting for a study group." ...or something to that effect.
Its great for you that you recognized that this group was bringing you down. You've heard this 1000 times before, but smoking and drinking is bad for you, and is almost just as bad as procrastinating in school! As a sophmore, you need to crack down, because you're going to start to send in college apps in just over a year, maybe even sooner. As a rule, allow yourself an hour of doing whatever you want-- talking to your friends, listening to music, watching TV, etc.-- when you come home, but after that, start the homework. After all the written is done, chill for another half hour, then hit the books to study if you have a test or quiz that week.
You'll feel so much better if you get your work done on time, and less stressed. Then, you can spend just as much time with your new friends. But, its also okay to spend some quality time once in a while with the old friends that you like, as long as you realize that their ways definitely don't have to become your ways.
You're taking a step in the right direction by asking for help. Best wishes, I hope you break away from this crowd and create your new habits A.S.A.P.
14/f
ok well my friend asked me out once and i said no to him because i only saw him as a friend. then he called me like a few days ago and i asked him how his christmas was. he said that his grandpa died on christmas eve and his bestfriends mom died as well cauing his bestfriend to move out of the country. he then asked me why i said no and i told him he then asked me out again and i had to say yes. i don't know if that was right but i did it i mean i wanted him to be happy. he's a sweet guy but not at all close to my type or what i've been with. i'm use to going out with drug dealers and thugs. but with him he's just the exact opposite. he's not relaxed really up tight and actually someone my parents would really like. honestly i don't think he knows what he's getting himself into like i'm scared that in the end i might end up hurting him. i'm not attracted to him and that's dangerous when it comes to me. i've cheated on boyfriends for that reason and i know that it's wron but that's what has happened. i don't want to do that to him and i could resist to but my personality would truely risk it. i'm not sure what to do.
so please help. what would you have said in my position and what would you do?
Thank you and sorry it's so long! =]
First of all, cheating on guys you don't like is wrong. Either break up with them or don't cheat. Its not too hard.
Second-- if you figure you'll hurt him more in the long run than right now, you have to break up with him. Make it clear to him that he needs you more as a friend right now, not as a girlfriend, because a friend will always be there, and you don't want the awkwardness that comes with a breakup. Also let it be known that its not fair to him to keep up this relationship when deep down, you both know its not right. (Maybe deep, deep down for him right now, but that's not the point.) He deserves someone who won't cheat on him, and someone that really loves him, and if that's not you, you should not let the relationship continue. But, don't be guility for not liking him-- its not under your control.
Okay this is for my little cousin because like no one in my family knows. But she wants to start gymnastics but shes 12 and I started when i was 6 and im currently a cheerleader and she wants to be a cheerleader when shes older so i told her to get into gymnastics it helps a ton but first: How old do you have to be to start?
and if she cant do that then what sports can she start at that age?
It all depends on your area and what types of programs are offered to what variety of ages. Where I am, my best friend did gymnastics from age four to seven, maybe at the YMCA? Just investigate the different programs offered and I'm sure you'll find a gymnastics program suitable for your cousin.
my friend keeps on telling me about how her "down there" smells.. and i dont know what to say.. how do you even cure that!?
... or, to add on to NightLight, if she's talking about that while she has her period, its completely normal. Just tell her to shower a bit more often-- really.
14/f
okay, so far... i hate advanced English, lol. i have the most hardest teacher, it's really hard for me to keep up with the work. right now, we're on winter break, but ill be ending next Monday. and I'm supposed to be done reading "A Tale of Two Cities" By Charles Dickens. there's about 390 pages in that book, and right now, i'm on page.. 97. Everybody that's in my class is ahead of me.. right now they're on "Book Three" and I'm on "Book Two" it's really hard for me to concentrate on the book... i mean i have no idea what's going on in it.. i hear about this one character.. and then the next chapter is about a different character. so i get confused, so I'm like "wait, what? who's the main character? who's this & that?" and not just that... i also tend to almost fall asleep on the book. have you ever had that feeling when you're reading something and all the sudden you can't concentrate, and music is playing in your head..? that happens to me alot.. and i try soooo hard to focus on the book. I also have a project due next Wednesday on the book. and i have to choreograph a dance with my friend for my exam also.
i'm not very good on schedules it's hard for me to keep up with them.. is there a way where i can be able to focus on the book, and finish it on time? also to help me stay awake while reading it?
Here's a quick fix to your problems:
http://www.sparknotes.com/lit/twocities/
SparkNotes = the bombb. :]
Unless your teacher asks you/tests you on specific quotations from the book, SparkNotes is just as good. As long as you attempt to read portions of the book, I honestly don't consider SparkNotes cheating. Its just a learning guide.
If you're having as much trouble concentrating as you say you are, either don't take advanced English next year, or, if you know that you are very smart and deserve to be in that class, gt tested for ADD. Seriously. One of my close friends was told by her doc that she had ADD the other day, and I would have never suspected it.
Good luck, I hope SparkNotes helps.
does anyone know a site with friendship poems poems like im sorry for hurting you friend or somthing like that and i need some secret admirer poems please anything is apreciated thanks
Try this:
http://www.preciouscreationz.cjb.net/
It has all types of quotes.
im the uncontested fashion leader of the bunch. people look up 2 me. n i want a new acessory trend 2 start. which do u think will work out best? the brooches, fur boots, anything else? thanks darling.
the alpha
If you really were the "fashion leader of the bunch" then you wouldn't have to come to Advicenators to ask for the trends, would you?
Stuck-up bitch.
Hi, I'm an 18 year old female. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a month now and all has been fine except for the fact that my boyfriend hasn't come even once! I've thoroughly enjoyed sex and he says he does too but...obviously not. So tonight I asked him about it and he says that he seldom ever comes during intercourse unless a condom is not worn. This makes sense to me, it would obviously feel better without it. He said that in NO WAY was he asking me if it would be alright for us to not use a condom during sex...but I would obviously like for both of us to enjoy sex. What are some equally safe alternatives in contraception to condoms? Has anyone else ever seen this problem in a guy? Any advice on what we can do?
Thanks, everyone!
I've heard that there really is a condom-type thing for women... I've never really looked for them, lol, but you should try a looking at a medical store online, they might have it. You never know! :]
17/f
im around the varsity hockey boys ALOT cuz i am one of their managers. and we had to go to an away game that was like an hour away so me and the other manager rode the coach bus with them. on the way up there we sat in the front with the coaches and one of the boys texted me and goes, you should come back here and entertain us, we can have fun. and then they were texting me "show me your boobs" and then one called me and was like your looking pretty sexy today. so i was like okay..there being goofs. and keep in mind alot of them have girlfriends.well then we were watching a little of the JV game and some of the boys came and sat by us and one of the boys was like ahhh im tired can i lay my head on you, and he was like always close to me but he has a girlfriend. and then on the way home the whole bus stopped at a fast food place and i got out and someone touched my butt and then we sat down and they all sat by us and were talking to us and one of the boys was like oh yeah some of the guys were talking about the gift that god gave you and i was like what? i dont get it..and the other one goes ohh her boobs. and i was like oh my godd but mine arent even that big there like a B! but anyways this is the most ive talked to all these boys, and i wanna keep talking to them in school and stuff, but i dont know what to do. do you think some of them are being serious about what they are saying? and then the boy that kept sitting by me came up by me and my friend towards the end and everyone was like OHHH YOU HAVE A GIRLFRIEND! they are all soo cute but it sucks that some of them have girlfriends. it was just such a good day. but i dont know what to think or do about all this.
They probably view you as [at least] kind of hot, and at least 50% of them are perverts. The other 50% are just going along with the joke to not be left out. No offense (actually if I were you I would be relieved, with how these guys were acting) but I don't think that they actually like you that, especially the ones with girlfriends, they were just looking to make you mad. The one or two that started it, though, may have a crush on you, if they aren't known for being perverts. Then, they were just trying to give you a hard time, lol.
Just ignore them. Unless one or two REALLY pissed you off or hurt your feelings, talk to them just as much as you normally would in school and stuff. During team practices and such, only talk to them about the game, and nothing else. Eventually the "joke" will get old.
Hope everything works out.
Okay my period is a bit..odd. I have had it for a year and a half now, so it should be regular right? well I do get it regularly but its just not every 28 days. It's about every 40 days really. I dont have any other symptoms or anything. Is this normal? I mean i never really skip a period, There is just a long time in between them.
Completely normal. Some people don't even out for 3 years after their period. I've had my period for almost 3 years, and its still screwy a lot of the time. When I talked to my doctor about it, she said that it was totally normal and just to keep a schedule of when I got my period and when it ended, and to show it to her next physical. Some people never even out, and that could be me. But, since its only been a year and a half for you, you definitely have nothing to worry about.
okay i am like so sick of where i live. the people, the things, the places, EVERYTHING. i just hate it. i want to move farrr away from here. i hate winter. i want to move to like florida or cali or something. what can i do? im only fifteen.
Go get a job. save your money, and go to college, "farr away." Tell me where you end up going, I'll come with. I'd leave this place in a second.
Okay I was just thinking about my height and felt like asking this..
My mom is 5'2, my dad is 5'11.
My sister is about half an inch taller than my mom and my brother is about 6ft.
I'm 16 at the minute, and 5'3 and a half. What are the chances of me being any taller?
Considering I don't take after my mum in ANY way (physically or character wise -- I'm like a little female clone of my dad), I thought I might get a little taller (although obviously not as tall as my dad haha)but either I was wrong or I'm about to grow some more.
I'm not really bothered, just curious.
It depends. I'm guessing you have your period already? Doctors say that 2-3 years after your period you pretty much reach your full height, within 2 inches. Although, they aren't always right, and some people have their growth spurt between 16 and 18.
Nobody here can give you an answer. Height, along with many other things associated with genetics. You could acquire height genes from the female side of your dad's family, or two generations back from your mom's. Its totally random.
For example, take me-- my mom's 5'10", dad 5'11", brother 6'3", and I'm... barely 5'3". :]
Whatever height you are, be proud of it. Besides, us shorties get to wear the cutest heels. :]
iam 25 years old female from italy engaged, i have little sister 20years old, we fight alot,what teases me most is that she copies me in everything i do,she is jealous .she is engaged and she always talk about her fiance as if comparing between my fiance and her's. ,she always try to show me that he is better and that what blow things up, i also feel that she talks about me to her fiance how bad i treat her, in fact i treat her normal, but in every fight she tells him about, and make things bigger , and that makes him hate me and when i meet him he looks at me in a strange way, but deep inside me i want to tell him that she is my sister before you come and you won't love her more than me whatever happens between me and her,
also when she and her fiance are together and iam sitting with them they do things to let me get jealous but iam not, but they think that they are making me jealous, they do things (lovers) and look at my reaction,
i really dont know how to solve this, i get angry alot,need ur advice
You need to really talk to your sister, not scream at her or criticize her. Be sure to tell her that you love her, you always have, but the way she's acting around and concerning her fiance and you is definitely not cool. Let her know that you're not jealous of her, her fiance, and/or both of them together, and there shouldn't be a competition between the two of you.
Just act civil around the both of them, and ignore their antics. Definitely do nott try to get back at the pair by sinking to their level and doing suck things with your fiance. Whenever they start doing the things that tick you off, change the subject (or, start a subject) that has nothing to do with the personal lives of any of the four involved (like sports, celebrities, music, weather, other family, etc.).
I really hope everything works out.
Before you tell me to Google this rest assured I did. I couldn't find any answers that were easy to understand. I have a new Ipod Classic 80 GB. Everything is fine on it except that album art will not show up when I use Cover Flow.
First, could you please tell me why? Secondly in layman's terms could you please tell me how to resolve the issue? I would like it if you knew the "automatic" way of fixing this as I don't want to "manually load" them as that would take me forever. When there's 988 songs on my IPOD that just ain't practical.
I'm using Itunes 7.5 and that's where all my songs are stored in my music library on my MAC.
I have the same iPod, same iTunes version, and I'm pretty sure I have the answer.
When I upload songs from a CD to iTunes using another program, such as QuickTime, it shows up as a gray'ed out square with a music note inside of it. However, when I opened the songs from the album in iTunes and added them into my playlist from there, the cover showed up with coverflow.
However, if you bought your songs off the iTunes store, I have no idea, so sorry. It says the title and artist under the CD cover, though, so you should def. be able to flip through everything.
Hope everything works out.
hello...well this kid i really like nd one of my best friends are always flirting...how can i tell if there doing things behind my back or they just do that in person..any sneaky suggestions?
please help!
jess
If your best friend is really your best friend, you should be able to confront her about. Try not to sound accusing, though, because it will definitely hurt her feelings, especially if she hasn't done anything. Something like, "I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but it seems like there's something going on between you and ___." ...and let her explain herself from there. Granted, if there really is something going on, she'll lie, but just pay attention to her body language and reaction and you'll most likely be able to tell whether she's telling the truth or not. And if she lies, she's not much of a best friend, anyway.
Hope it works out.
Hi,
Long story short. I've known this guys for awhile a year or so. Never really talked, he dated my friend but they broke up and now my friends with another guy but their friends and everything. Well he was at her party and we talked a little. And then recentlly I've been talking to him on facebok [messages]. And i think i might be getting a little crush on him cause i've always though he was cute. But the problem is i'm 99% sure he smokes pot or something at least. but i've always wanted a guy who doesn't smoke pot, and i'm scared that i'll really being to like him but the whole smokin pot i really dislike. so maybe i'm crazy but any thoughts on the situation. like if i should just see where it goes, talk to him about it or try and get out now so i don't end up hurting myself.
I would definitely start a relationship with him if it comes about, and forget about the pot. If he hasn't brought it up already, its probably not a big thing in his life and won't when you're dating. However, if it does, and he decides to fess up to it, or someone talks about dealing it to him, you should definitely talk to him about it. Ask him not to smoke around you or offer you pot. If your relationship goes on longer than a month, you should talk to him about quitting, because its not good for him and you're looking out for his, and your, best interests.
Hope everything works out well.