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fight with my little sister
iam 25 years old female from italy engaged, i have little sister 20years old, we fight alot,what teases me most is that she copies me in everything i do,she is jealous .she is engaged and she always talk about her fiance as if comparing between my fiance and her's. ,she always try to show me that he is better and that what blow things up, i also feel that she talks about me to her fiance how bad i treat her, in fact i treat her normal, but in every fight she tells him about, and make things bigger , and that makes him hate me and when i meet him he looks at me in a strange way, but deep inside me i want to tell him that she is my sister before you come and you won't love her more than me whatever happens between me and her,
also when she and her fiance are together and iam sitting with them they do things to let me get jealous but iam not, but they think that they are making me jealous, they do things (lovers) and look at my reaction,
i really dont know how to solve this, i get angry alot,need ur advice
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Your younger sister is just immature. Did this jealousy happen when you two were kids? You can't change her jealousy. The only advice I think I can give is just ignore her jealousy. She can say whatever to her fiance. You aren't jealous of it and sooner or later, this childish act should stop. She will see that her actions aren't bothering you and she should give up. When you are around them, ignore her actions and try not to get mad around them because if you do, your falling into her trap basically and she will make it worse. GOOD LUCK!
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Ciao,
Your little sister is trying to copy you because she wants to be like you. That's not a lot of comfort to you now.
Maybe you need to spend time apart. I was the "baby of the family", I always needed to make myself more than what I was to try to compete with my older sister.
You need to take a deep breath, and know that what you have with your fiancee is just between you two, not her.
Enjoy your romance, and leave her to enjoy hers.
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You need to really talk to your sister, not scream at her or criticize her. Be sure to tell her that you love her, you always have, but the way she's acting around and concerning her fiance and you is definitely not cool. Let her know that you're not jealous of her, her fiance, and/or both of them together, and there shouldn't be a competition between the two of you.
Just act civil around the both of them, and ignore their antics. Definitely do nott try to get back at the pair by sinking to their level and doing suck things with your fiance. Whenever they start doing the things that tick you off, change the subject (or, start a subject) that has nothing to do with the personal lives of any of the four involved (like sports, celebrities, music, weather, other family, etc.).
I really hope everything works out. <3
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