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The Reason Why I Hate Coming Out Of My Room.
My brother.
He hits me. Alot. And i know what your going to say, just a brother/sister thing. No, it really hurts. Not just a little, alot.
My mum, she just stands there not doing anything. Then when i start screaming at my brother, she then shouts at ME telling me not to shout at him!
Then i storm off upstairs and I get in trouble for it!
I can't talk to my mum because i know EXACTLY what she will say.
''Stop annoying him then''
I don't DO anything to him. I would just come downstairs one day and he would just start hitting me for no reason.
And sometimes we get along really well. And i don't know why he does it..
Any advice?
If it helps, I'm 14 and he's 16.
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Well, I'm an older sister, 16, and have a little brother, 12. I kind of treat my brother like your brother treats you, except I don't hit him. I will talk rudely to him, make fun of him, put him down, annoy him, etc, and other times I'll be super nice to him, spend time with him, etc.
Why am I like this? Because he is always ready to forgive me, we make up every single time in the next five minutes or so, unlike friends, parents, etc that will hold grudges against you, they won't really forget it. So unfortunately, when I am sad, angry, or frustrated, I take it out on my poor brother.
I bet the same thing happens to your brother. If he had a bad day at school, or woke up on the wrong side of the bed, he will probably take it out on you, because you're the only one that won't take away his allowance, and he won't lose your friendship. I found that if the older sibling is a guy, he tends to be physical and hit his little sibling, probably because of testosterone. If the older sibling is a girl, she will use words.
I think that should give you an understanding of why he does it.
To make him stop, avoid him, or if you are together, don't look at him, don't talk to him unless he talks to you first. Answer politely, friendly-ly, and don't ask questions. If he hits you, don't throw a fit (however much you want to), just say "Ow, that hurt!!!" or "What was that for!!??", but don't start name callings or stuff like that. Than continue on with your activities.
However, if you feel like this is really out of hand, show your mom any bruises that he caused, tell her you do not provoke your brother in any way (if you really don't), or, if you're up to it, talk to your brother. Tell him that he really does hurt you mentally and physically.
~Maria, 16
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go too karate and hit him back...lol
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Talk to your mom about it, and see what you can to do get your brother some help. He obviously has some anger issues that need to be resolved by a psychologist, psychiatrist, whatever. :]
Make sure you get your point across to your mom without whining or blaming anyone. Simply, "When (brother's name) hits me, it really, really hurts. I don't want you to just write this off and just give him a little warning, because he'll just do it again."
This is abuse. If your mother doesn't recognize that and your brother keeps it up, it could get worse, and that would not be good. Talk to your guidance counselor about it if your mom doesn't listen, and they'll definitely put him in some anger management classes or something. Don't worry about your brother being mad at you, he'll thank you for it later.
Good luck, I hope it all turns out well.
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You can talk to your mom, just don't do it
right after he has hit you. :)
Just tell her her your brother keeps hitting
you for no reason and you would like her advice
on how to get him to stop it. Moms do like to
give their opinions! Be sure and tell her up
front that you are not annoying him when he
does this. :)
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