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i don't think that he know what he's getting into
14/f
ok well my friend asked me out once and i said no to him because i only saw him as a friend. then he called me like a few days ago and i asked him how his christmas was. he said that his grandpa died on christmas eve and his bestfriends mom died as well cauing his bestfriend to move out of the country. he then asked me why i said no and i told him he then asked me out again and i had to say yes. i don't know if that was right but i did it i mean i wanted him to be happy. he's a sweet guy but not at all close to my type or what i've been with. i'm use to going out with drug dealers and thugs. but with him he's just the exact opposite. he's not relaxed really up tight and actually someone my parents would really like. honestly i don't think he knows what he's getting himself into like i'm scared that in the end i might end up hurting him. i'm not attracted to him and that's dangerous when it comes to me. i've cheated on boyfriends for that reason and i know that it's wron but that's what has happened. i don't want to do that to him and i could resist to but my personality would truely risk it. i'm not sure what to do.
so please help. what would you have said in my position and what would you do?
Thank you and sorry it's so long! =]
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It's true, you can't help who you like. However, with your previous comment about the type of person you do like, he may be just what you need. This may be one of your wake up calls telling you to choose a better way of life. I am not trying to lecture, but you need to make sure you take care of yourself and stay true to yourself. You don't want to end up being the one with regrets.
Cheating is wrong. If you truly don't like this boy, then yes break it off with him. It was unfair of him to put you in that position where you accepted to go out with him out of pity. I would suggest telling him that it just doesn't feel right being in a relationship with him, explain to him how you feel, telling him that you said no once, and that it was a low blow to try and get you to start dating him under those particular circumstances. Honesty, is still the best policy. Good Luck!!
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First of all, cheating on guys you don't like is wrong. Either break up with them or don't cheat. Its not too hard.
Second-- if you figure you'll hurt him more in the long run than right now, you have to break up with him. Make it clear to him that he needs you more as a friend right now, not as a girlfriend, because a friend will always be there, and you don't want the awkwardness that comes with a breakup. Also let it be known that its not fair to him to keep up this relationship when deep down, you both know its not right. (Maybe deep, deep down for him right now, but that's not the point.) He deserves someone who won't cheat on him, and someone that really loves him, and if that's not you, you should not let the relationship continue. But, don't be guility for not liking him-- its not under your control.
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