Alright. My boyfriend and I have thought a LOT about having sex with each other. I really want to and I'm ready but I'm only 15, and if I explained to my folks that I need birth control, they'd kill me. I know I'm ready because we've been dating for quite sometime, and I'm very in love with him and I want him to be my first. We've planned to stay together for a while and I'm not one of those girls who just blabber on and on about how I love this person so so so much. I take things seriously and I don't say I love you every 5 minutes because it's something very special to say. Not only do you have a healthy, good physical relationship with each other, we've got an amazing emotional one too. We're so open with each other, it throws me off guard sometimes. He's my best friend in the whole wide world and we even broke up with each other a few months ago but we never stopped talking like we do now and we didn't stop seeing other. He's amazing, I love him, and we can't ever get enough of each other. At school, we're together, and then after school we're on the phone until bedtime. Then on weekends we're together. Theres always things to talk about when we're together and theres always things to do. We get along amazingly and we have a really strong connection. Hes so practical and logical too. He's very smart with his decisions and he's helped me along so well. I've had a lot happen to me the past few years and I went off track but now my life is great and things are going smoothly. See now I want to have sex with him, and I already think my parents suspect that we fool around. Would fooling around be considered sexually active? Do I sound ready for sex? Someone please help me, I've talked to him about this as well and he doesn't know what to do. We need some clearing up!!
I am also 15 and understand what you're saying. But deep down if you aren't able to tell your parents because of their reactions, are you mature enough to do this?
What if you get pregnant, would you be able to tell them?
Even if you are mature enough, you still aren't an adult and you aren't out in the world on your own.
If you still feel like you're ready, which you most likely will, (I'm not trying to discourage you or make a decision).
About fooling around, everyone will give you a different opinion. Even if your parents are wrong, they will probably still consider fooling around as being sexually active. They don't want to hear that their young daughter is turning into a young woman.
Whatever you do, be careful
- Emilyy :)
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I got an ink stain on my new jeans and I was wondering if you knew any techniques to take it off or any products.I really love these jeans 7 i need help. :]]
thank you.
Wow, I'm not sure.
Try Shout, Oxyclean and other products like that.
Let it soak in for a long time then throw it in the wash like normal. It may take a few tries to get out. Just avoid rubbing it the stain.
It depends a lot on the type of ink though.
Good luck :)
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i need to know who the best saint is to pray to. see i lost my cell phone and its my first one and i did something with it and cant find it. i didnt take it to school and last place i had it was in my room on my dresser. i dont remeber what happened next. i have looked everywhere and cant find it and my mom thinks im overlooking. she also told me tonite if i cant find it by tonite then she will cancell it and she wont get me another one so i really want to find it. please help. thankyou!!
Lol. You should spend less time praying and more time looking. Did you check:
Pockets? Purses? Behind tables? Behind anywhere you put it down? Is it in the charger? It is on the kitchen table or counter? Is it beside the computer? Is it at a friends house? Is it behind your dresser? Is in inside your dresser? Is it under something on your dresser?
If it is on, call it from your home phone and listen for the ring.
If worst comes to worst, explain to your mom why it is important for you to have a cell phone. I'm sure it will turn up soon but good luck. :)
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15/M Do girls like guys that wear cologne? Would they like a 15 year old with cologne? I've heard that girls don't like it because cologne reminds them of their dad or grandpa. I was just wondering.
As long as you don't wear too much you will probably get a a good reaction from girls. Just keep in mind everyone is different, but my opinion is that it is good. :)
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if a girl would come to you, cryin, and saying she has to come clean about something..she's been manipulating you to get you to like her. she convinced herself it was ok to hack you and read your emails because she cares about you and she was jealous..but now she's sorry. she says she regrets it, and is coming clean because she loves you and knows you deserve it.
what would you do? forgive her for respecting you enough to come clean? tell her you want nothing to do with her because she's been decieving you and you don't need that kind of drama in your life? or just completely ignore her because it's kind of creepy how you barely know eachother and she likes you THAT much and is obsessed to that degree..
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keep in mind, we are not in a relationship, she just has a "deep crush" for me.
thank you
Well, you're right about that "deep crush" part. As a girl, I know I have wished that I had known what a guy was saying about me. She probably cares a lot about you, she may or may not be taking it too far. She is willing to do anything to find out if you feel the same about her. Since she told you, and didn't keep it a secret, she is probably a very trustworthy person if you ever were to date her.
It all depends on how you felt about her before this happen. Before you found out. Stick with those feelings, thats how you really feel about her. If you liked her (as a friend) tell her that, but make sure she knows nothing more. If you disliked her, be nice, but let her know how you feel. And finally, if you had strong feelings for her, you are guaranteed that she cares a lot about you, will do anything for you and will be loyal.
I know you barely knew her, but before this, would you have ever considered liking her as more than a friend? That should help you decided how to react.
Whatever you do, do it nicely. Her heart is just waiting to be broken. But do make sure you get the point across and you don't ignore it. If you don't like her, she needs to move on with her life.
Good luck :)
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how did you get your layout thinggy like that
idk how to resize my fonts and stuff
please hellppp (:
Copy and paste this text into a Microsoft Word document, if it helps, so you can do this step by step.
Okay, when you are signed in look at the writing on the LEFT side of the page. Under where it says "Welcome, ___(Your Advicenators Name will be written here)!", click COLUMN SETTINGS.
Now scroll down to "Your Column Colors." On the RIGHT it will list a few colour schemes. Click one, then press "Submit Colors."
Now go back to the LEFT side of any advicenators page and click "Your Advice Column" to see how it looks.
Those are some preset colour combinations.
Now to change how the boxes are layed out go back to "Column Settings" and look at where it says "Approved Public Styles"
Those are are different layouts. Click the word "use" beside one of the four to change how your column is layed out.
You may change this as many times as you like, along with colours, to get a unique page that you like.
Good luck, if this did not help just send another question to me and I will help until you figure it out.
- Emilyy :)
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My bf is kind of startng to annoy me. he wont even look at me when i talk to him, im pretty sure he listens but it seems weird that he wont even look at me. and he wont just like stop and talk to me in the hallways, i always hav to start conversation. And today he like ignored me when i ran up to him. hes really not a shy person its just around me. And at first i thought he didnt like me anymore but he said he does. should i just dump him? i still like him but he acts weird sometimes and i HATE how he wont look at me!
Something is most likely bothering him.
Ask him if something is wrong.
Also, has he always been like this? Have their been any major events since you started dating? Look for clues.
You will probably lose interest in him if he continues doing this so try your best to find out what has gone wrong.
Good luck :)
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Hey. I'm 14/f and I was just wondering in Abercrombie & Fitch, abercrombie, Hollister, and American Eagles have Thankgsgiving sales. And if you could tell me if others stores like Delias, Forever 21, etc. have Thanksgiving sales I would gladly appreciate it :) Thanks and
I'm not sure about thanksgiving, but they all definately will before and after Christmas.
They are always looking for an excuse to sell more clothing.
Your best bet is to go to their websites or to the mall and check out if a sale is on. Also, try asking your friends or people who are working in those stores.
Happy shopping ;D
- Emilyy
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okay,i have a problem with this freind of mine who is always wlways correcting my spelling, punctuation, use of grammar. Its helpful but SO annoying, and she uses it to embarrass me ALL THE TIME. But shes my best friend.
I need Help.
-Jan
You have a few options.
Tell her you feel that she is putting you down and embarassing when she does it.
Do it back to her, she will learn quickly how annoying it is.
Ignore it. She will probably stop once she sees that you are not listening.
Good luck :)
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My two friends are mad at me because i hang out with someone they dont like? and they are treating me badly and i want to go to another school because of them! what should i do?
Ask them why they don't like the person. Tell them you do not want it to change anything with your friendship and that you care about them a lot.
Chances are they are jealous and do not want to lose your attention.
If things do not get sorted out, try keeping the friendship hidden. Unfortunately, sometimes you will lose friends in situations like this, so brace yourself.
Good luck
- Emilyy
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well for school i had to do a report on Adolf Hitler and i had to find pictures of him on the internet and i found this picture: http://www.die3fingers.de/hitler.jpg is that a real picture? because when i saw it i was like woww.. haha. thanks
Chances are no, it does not appear real. The reason behind this answer is that there is a dark shadow beneath his chin. The face and neck probably were not compatible, so the designer made a shadow to cover the area.
Using your judgement, do you think he really had a six pack? Probably not.
Back in those times, being homosexual was highly frowned upon, and if he WAS gay he would not want a picture like that taken. He would surely be killed.
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I've got a bit of a problem with sexual compatibility with my husband. He's into things I really am not into and I'm afraid if I don't try some of these things, he'll find someone else who will. I already found a receipt for condoms, which we don't use, which he purchased on his way to Florida, when was away on a job for 3 weeks. That was proof of what was on his mind and what he was capable of. He's into really kinky things like wanting to dress up in womans clothes with makeup, has fantasies of doing it with a man, and wants me to try a threesome. I never thought of myself as square, but I guess I'm more traditional than I thought. I feel pressure to go along with some of his ideas, which I haven't yet, because I know he'll stray elsewhere. He let it go for a while & our sex life is a once in a blue moon deal, because I know he's bored. Any advice? Do I do what he wants even though I hate it, just to keep him? I do love him and hate to divorce him over this, but trust is a big issue with me too. He knows I'm not into this stuff, but just recently brought all this up again. I don't mind watching a little porno or using toys, but this is just out of my league. What should I do? I don't think compromising will work with him.
hyacinth1121
You need to be honest and serious with him. Remember, your husband is a man who should listen to you and who you should have trust in. Sit down and talk with him, tell him why you are unsure of trying. Tell him you want him to be happy and would do anything for him if needed, but that you are feeling uneasy. Make sure he knows that you are saying this because you love him, not because you feel obligated to.
However, you may want to try making the relationship more exciting. Surprise him with sweet notes or phone calls during the day. Be kind to him and treat him well.
You need to think if this is worth it, however. Can you trust him? Do you trust yourself, your own judgement? Sometimes it takes people years to see they are not completely happy together. On the other hand, every relationship has it's flaws.
If you are going to try the things to make him happy be sure that you still feel okay in yourself. Hurting yourself emotionally in order to make him happy will not work well in the long run. You can't pretend to be happy for you whole life, nor should you need to.
Overall, try talking to him about it. Try working it out. But in the end, remember that neither of you will be happy unless you are treating yourself well.
Good luck.
- Emilyy
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i recently like an hour ago spray painted the ends of my hair black. i really wanted the ends black and i couldnt go to a salon or do it myself cuz my mom wouldn't let me die it black it had to be a light color. so trying to be a rebel i took my sisters spray paint and used it as a hair product. not a good idea. i washed my hair like twice to make it not as stiff but then i brushed it a million times and it made my hair a puff ball! so now i am stuck with puff ball hair and is super stiff at the ends. the only thing i can think about doing is cutting off where i sprayed but thats like 2 or 3 inches and i really dont wanna cut my hair. what can i do to get it out or if i leave it in how can i make it not as stiff? HELP!
The paint will most likely come out.
I suggest using a deep conditioning treatment. Basically all of them will work and can be found at a drug store. It will help your hair from being stiff.
Basically, the paint has coated your hair and made a semi-hard shell around it. It should come out soon because the hair is flexible but the covering of paint is not, therefore it will not be able to stick well.
If it does not come out within two or three more washes, and conditioners do not help feel free to leave a message in my inbox.
Good luck
Emilyy
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Theres this guy that I think likes me, but I don't like him that way. What should I do if he asks me out or something? I don't want to hurt him (emotionally) because he is a nice guy, but I also don't want to be caught off guard and end up saying yes because I can't think of a nice way to say no.
It depends on why you don't like him but you have many options. You could say you aren't ready for a relationship, you are having family/school/work problems, you are scared of losing your friendship. Make sure it's honest.
I suggest not telling him, if this is the case, that you are interested in someone else.
Perhaps say you don't know him well enough.
If this hasn't helped, you can leave a message in my inbox and I will reply right away as long as you provide more information as to why you don't like him.
Good luck, stay true to how to feel
- Emilyy :)
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I'm 13 I way 125, I'm 5'0. I hate my weight, It makes self conscious like you couldn't believe [along with my acne] I want to loose weight a healthy way, this hopes of along with clearing my acne up.
I'm goaling to loose atleast 5 pounds this month.
I'm going to join the YMCA and I'm going to run track ,go to the pool on the weekends, cardio, and probably join a class or more.
I'm cutting out soda [which will be easy, I hardly ever have soda]
the hardest thing will be junk food, because thats all my family ever buys.
Any suggestions? Any opinions? Good or bad, I want to/need to hear it.
A healthy diet, active lifestyle and enough sleep is all it will take for you to see major improvements.
By the sounds of it, you are on the right track.
Surround yourself with friends and family who will support you through it.
Make up a grocery list for your parents and ask them to buy healthy foods. In most cases, they cost less than junkfood.
Try not to go overboard at first, as it will make you more likely to quit. Start slowly with eating healthy and exercise and mentally reward yourself with every improvement you make to your life. Also, make sure you are getting 8-10 hours of sleep per night. Since you are growing and a teenager, try getting 11 hours. Your body will be changing a lot.
Make the rewards something rather than junkfood. Try taking a bubblebath, doing your nails or sleeping in. That is, if you're a girl. If not, think of relaxing activities that you enjoy.
After a few weeks you will notice you have more energy and are not craving junkfood as much. However, since you are a teenager, you may start to gain weight in the next few years. As long as you keep a healthy lifestyle, you will lose the weight in no time. Or if you're lucky, you will keep the weight off all together.
With less sugars and fats in your diet, your skin will start to look better. Try using an ance product, such as proactive. If not, just make sure you wash your face twice a day.
When you do exercise, such as in PE class at school, be sure to try your hardest. When you are walking down the street, walk quickly and get your heartrate up.
If you're watching TV, do pushups during commercials. Little things like that help a lot. If you really want to get exercise but find it boring, play sports. Sports which include a lot of running, for example, take your mind off the pain because you are focussed on other things.
No matter what you have to be kind to yourself. Love yourself, even. In the end, you will succeed when you are ready. If you find yourself going back to old ways, such as being lazy or not eating a healthy diet, remind yourself of why you are doing it.
You want to look good, but most of all, feel good.
Dont lose hope, good luck.
- Emilyy
If you ever need someone to support you, leave a message in my inbox. I would be happy to help you. :)
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I don't know why, but small noises (such as people smacking their lips when they eat, or someone breathing heavily) make me really annoyed. I can't talk to anyone if they are doing something like that, because I can't concentrate. Can someone tell me what's going on??
14/f
Like others have said, you may have OCD, but I think that is a little extreme. Are you stressed or upset? When I get overtired or stressed I find that these things bother me as well. For a week you should try getting 8-10 hours of sleep a night, going for a fast walk/slow jog for 30 minutes a day and eating nutritious food. This should relieve you of everyday stress and you may find that those little things are not a problem for you.
If this does not help, you may have OCD which you can search on google to find out what it is all about. Just type in OCD and you should get the results you are looking for.
Finally, you may want to politely ask the person who is smacking their lips (or any other annoying behaviours) to stop. If there is a person (or people) in particular who are doing this, you may not be annoying by the actions or sounds, but by the person themself. Perhaps you are spending too much time with them and their actions are getting on your nerves. This can happen even if you love the person, barely know them or anything in between.
Also, when you feel yourself getting annoying ask for a moment, and just breathe deeply. Take in a breath, count to four then exhale. This should relieve stress and you will be able to concentrate on the conversation better. Repeat this as many times as necessary.
Something of this should work for you, if not feel free to ask me for alternatives and I will do my best to help you with this.
Good luck :)
- Emilyy
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ok i need to know if this is considered cheating...I am "cake" and one of my guy friends is "d". I talked to him and I know he likes me.
[21:02] Cake: hey
[21:02] d: hi
[21:03] Cake: how's it goin?
[21:03] davis9088: pretty good
[21:03] Cake: thats good
[21:04] d: yea i guess
[21:05] Cake: :P
[21:05] d: i need a hug
[21:06] Cake: aww sry
[21:06] Cake: *hug*
[21:07] Cake: wish i could hug you but i can't really have people over right now
[21:07] Cake: so thats gonna have to work
[21:07] Cake: haha
[21:07] d: what
[21:07] Cake: *hug*
[21:10] Cake: so how's it going with that one chick that turns 18 soon
[21:10] d: good
[21:10] Cake: cool
[21:11] Cake: so you guys are gonna hook up soon maybe?
[21:11] d: umm what do you mean
[21:12] Cake: you said there was some chick that you were talking to at your lunch break
[21:12] Cake: did you guys hookup?
[21:12] d: she won't fuck me
[21:12] Cake: oh
[21:13] d: shes a good girl
[21:13] Cake: so is that all you are lookin for haha
[21:13] d: n
[21:13] d: i don't care that i'm not gunna get laid
[21:13] d: thats kinda why i like her
[21:13] Cake: thats cool
[21:14] d: and if i ever do get to have sex with her awesome
[21:14] Cake: i feel neglected
[21:15] d: why
[21:15] Cake: my boyfriends playing WoW
[21:15] Cake: :P
[21:15] Cake: and he' like hardly talking to me
[21:15] d: whats wow
[21:15] d: never mind
[21:15] Cake: World of Warcraft
[21:15] Cake: oh ok
[21:16] d: well i'm talking kinda
[21:16] d: i still wanna see ya
[21:16] Cake: yeah i have to like pounce on him to get him to talk to me
[21:16] d: punc eon me
[21:17] Cake: yeah but pouncing leads to much more
[21:17] d: hmmm
[21:17] d: i'd like that
[21:17] Cake: silly boy
[21:18] d: so do it
[21:19] Cake: what's your favorite part of sex?
[21:19] d: i'm not sure
[21:19] d: i love it when the girl fels great
[21:20] d: how she asks for more
[21:20] Cake: usually guys are very sure haha
[21:20] d: i just love it
[21:21] d: i dunno why
[21:21] d: i just wihs i could nut up in her
[21:21] d: instead of worry about pullin out
[21:22] d: gosh
[21:22] Cake: yea
[21:22] d: i so wanna do it now
[21:22] d: your so mean
[21:22] d: why doyou have to get me hard
[21:22] Cake: i was just curious
[21:22] d: do yo like to be eaten out
[21:22] Cake: nuh uh
[21:23] d: so yo jus tlike se
[21:23] d: sex
[21:23] Cake: many kinds
[21:23] d: tell me what you like best
[21:23] Cake: humm
[21:23] Cake: thats acually pretty hard
[21:23] d: hmm
[21:24] Cake: i like it when he's first putting it in
[21:24] d: do you like having sex with or without a condom
[21:24] Cake:it's way better without a condom
[21:24] d: so a girl can tell
[21:24] Cake: yeah
[21:25] d: so when could i see what its like
[21:25] d: i wanna have sex with you
[21:25] Cake: you couldn't handle me
[21:25] Cake: haha
[21:25] d: are you sure
[21:26] Cake: no
[21:26] d: y ou couldn't handle me
[21:26] Cake: but i know i can't have sex with you
[21:26] d: why can't you
[21:26] Cake: boyfriend
[21:26] d: how big is he
[21:26] Cake: big enough for me
[21:26] d: soo
[21:26] Cake: i've never measured him before
[21:27] Cake: i dunno
[21:27] Cake: pretty big
[21:27] d: what happens if we had sex
[21:28] Cake: hum
[21:28] Cake: i dunno
[21:28] Cake: i would end up telling him
[21:28] d: well thats cool
I would not consider that cheating since you didn't do anything with him. But don't you feel regret for having such a suggestive conversation with a guy other than your boyfriend?
Just think, how would you feel if he had a similar conversation with a girl who liked him?
But no, not cheating. :)
(unless of course you actually had sex with the other guy)
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I asked my mom the other night if I could dye my hair black she had replied no and told me she didn't have to give me a reason as to why she said no.
Finally, she still said no but said she would change her mind if I could come up with 20 valid and good reasons as to why she should allow me.
I believe I have 8-10 at this moment.
My main reason is to express individuality because I'm outgoing and charismatic but she just doesn't seem to believe it.
What do I do?
I've been wanting to dye my hair black for at-least 3 years.
I've tried negotiating and I'll be 15 October 5th and it doesn't even seem like a possible present unless I have 20 reasons.
Okay I'm going to give you some options :)
Good luck persuading her!
Give her your best reasons first and last, so it makes the best impact.
1. It's your hair.
2. It grows back.
3. It's only dye.
4. Black is not any better/worse than any other colour.
5. Black can be a natural hair colour.
6. Black would suit your skintone.
7. Black matches any clothing outfit.
8. If you don't like it, it will grow out.
9. It isn't forever.
10. Only you have to deal with the consequences.
11. You are not a child.
12. If you don't like it, you will never do it again.
13. It is better than dying your hair every colour in the rainbow. (maybe? lol)
14. You have wanted to for 3+ years.
15. You are an individual.
16. You are outgoing.
17. You are unique.
18. You are charismatic.
19. It is not life threatening.
20. You will not be harmed in the process.
21. Hair grows quickly.
22. Black hair can look more shiny.
23. Black hair can look more healthy.
24. Dying your hair is a personal decision.
25. She is not the one who will have black hair.
26. It would look really good.
I know some of those are repeats but I hope this helped!
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Hi. Whats a website thats like MySpace?
I've tryed friendster, myyearbook, livejournal, and xanga.
Please Help!!
www.nexopia.com
this is VERY popular in Canada
Good luck finding a site :)
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15/f
i have a friend but she's not close and we both like the same guy but she nor do my/her friends know that i do.
but me and this guy let's call him G well we know eachother and he's always messing with me he's put his arm around me and is a total gentelmen with me.
But he doesn't even know her that well and her/my friends are trying to hook them up.
what should i do?
ALSO i have a feeling he might ask me out and if he does should i say yes even though my "friend" likes him?
Help please!
You should tell your friend that you like him. When it comes to him asking you out, you may need to choose the relationship you value the most and that you think that most potential. Is it worth messing up your friendship with the girl over a guy? Or do you value the relationship with the guy enough to possibly no longer be friends with her.
I say as long as you are happy that is what matters and other people shouldn't influence you.
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