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when you go to get your eyebrows waxed, are there like pictures of different eyebrow styles to choose from or do you have to just like describe to the person how you want your eyebrows done?

also, do the people who wax your eyebrows have good enough taste to know exactly what eyebrow shape would make you look best? because i can not decide which i style i should get done.

also, when you get your eyebrows done, does it cause a rash or a burn or bumps or anything??

and does it hurt really bad?? sorry this is kind of long. thanks!

At first, it kinda caught me off guard so it hurt a little more then I expected. Trust me, you'll get used to it very soon.

As for the shape, when I go in all the ladies that work there are Asian and hardly speak English (its the closest salon that does it for under 20$) so they don't ask my opinion, they just kinda do what they do. Lucky for me, its my natural brow shape and they just clean it up and keep them looking nice. Its perfect.

You can always talk to the person waxing your eyebrows and let them know you're not sure about what to do. Your best bet would be to go with your natural brow shape and ask the lady/man to 'clean them up' unless you're going for a drastic eyebrow change.

Good luck!

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Down there!
As far as sexual exploration goes, what should I do with it?

I'm 17/F and anything been done as is has all been upper, but things are advancing.


Don't tell me to talk to him, just tell me the general norm, please.

For the most part, guys enjoy when the vagina is shaved; atleast thats what I've been told. The problem is that when the hair starts to grow out a little bit it can feel really rough against a guy's skin so you have to keep shaving it daily. This can also lead to irritation and unattractive shave bumps.

You can always go natural, but I've heard that can freak a guy out sometimes if it gets too ... um, natural.

I think the most common thing is just to keep it trimmed. Keep the hair about a centimeter or so long, just shave off the sides of the bikini line to keep that part clean. You can trim the other hairs that you're going to keep with a sharp, clean pair of scissors or by lighting running a razor over the top of it.

Good luck!

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I am 18 an a guy. Ok so about a month ago i went out with two friends of mine, with one being a girl i really like.We sat in the her car waiting for our other friend to come out.As we waited, we had small talk an jokes going, but she kept putting chapstick on her lips like 4 times the entire time.I didn't say anything about it.I just thought, man is she trying to tell me something or does she really likes putting chapstick on her lips? Do you think she is interested in me?

Alright lol this is pretty tricky.
There have been cases when I've put on chapstick around guys just because my lips were chapped. They tried to kiss me because of it- I'm not going to lie, I didn't think anything of my chapstick usage, so the kiss caught me completely off gaurd and annoyed me because it made things awkward.

However, four times does seem a little much.
So I'm thinking it was a hint :)
If she does it again, lean in semi-close to her face and just make a small joke like "It my cue to kiss you?" That way it'll lighten to mood, you won't have to go all the way for the kiss, if she wants it she'll lean in too.

Good luck!

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I love the movie the notebook and i want to know of other movies like it! thanks so much

A Walk to Remember
Titanic
10 Things I Hate About You

They're all lovey romantic movies.
Mainly about a guy who can't seem to get the girl he wants, similar to the Notebook.

:)

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The Ex starring Zach Braff and Amanda Peet is a good movie. I watched it a year ago with my friend and then tonight with my sister and I remember it differently. I remember that the paralyzed character Chip admitting that he could walk and also that at the end it showed him in Barcelona, Spain wearing two casts. If anyone could find me a clip of either of these two scenes that would be great!

That is how it ends, he does admit that he can walk and he does go to Spain. I tried looking up some clips for you, but nothing online came up. I'm sorry :/

Just wanted to let you know that I remember it the same what you did.

:)

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I met my husband ten years ago. I knew he was"the one" within a few weeks. We've been married now eight years and have two young boys. We had our ups and downs but we always pulled through. I am 26 he is 31. I found out last june that he had an affair - I decided Icould work through it with him, however his behaviour became unreasonable so in October I asked him to leave. I almost had a nervous breakdown at this time and in December I decided to try again with him. However at the same time I found out that previous to his affair he had slept with my best friend of over ten years on five different occassions in the space of two years. We went to relate and continued to try. Things seemed better however we kept slipping up and arguing over the past, this seems to be myself who keeps bringing it all up. Now Idon't know what to do, he has tried as hard as he can and at times I believe he means it when he says he won't cheat again. But lately I feel like i've changed, I don't let him do the things he usedto be able to do. I feel like i'm just waiting til he does it again and I feel severely damaged as a person by what has happened. Recently we really talked and both decided we are meant to be together and i felt closer to him than i have in years. But today i started an argument with him over nothing and when he left the house I went through his emails etc. Now I don't know what to do I feel like I'm a crazy woman - someone I don't want to be. And even though I know i'll be miserable without him I can't help thinking it's best to walk away now. I suppose my question is - is there anyway I can find the real me again and how do i know if it's best to part?

I'm going to start off by saying I'm 15.
So I'm hoping my advice doesn't come across as the absolute right choice- its just what comes to my mind when I read your problem and the reasonings behind it.

I had a boyfriend once who I suspected was cheating on me. We were dating for 6 months and were about as serious as a 16yr old and a 15yr old could be in a relationship. He went away to Europe with an educational group and while he was gone I read his e-mails and his plans to sleep with a girl on the trip. Yup, the plans happened. We tried to work things out, yes I do realize we are young and that immaturity plays a huge part, but I simply lost trust. Someone once said "Without trust, you cannot love." We tried and tried to go back to our normal selves, but every time he wanted to go somewhere I felt the need to check up on him. I started going crazy and had to call it off. We too had little fights over the lamest things. I lost who I was because I couldn't stand the thought of him being with another girl. Finally, I had to get out before I became insane with jealousy and uncertainty.

For you, I recommend stepping out of yourself. Visit family for a week if possible. Your husband has cheated many times, theres no saying he will or will not do it again. The trust, its gone. You two are working on hope and faith that your love will be restored. Its not crazy at all to believe that you cannot go on without him because for however long you have been married and dating, he's been your life. He's become a habit. Habits are hard to break.

I recommend taking a break strongly. Take some time out and think about all the things you have in your life (Job, kids, family, clubs, groups, church groups, hobbies etc.) Take time to get back to all of them, get back to your roots to give you some sense of independence and a sense of who you were before he influenced your life.

Once you have a sense of who you are again, once you have decided who you have been and who you will/want to be THEN and only then you can decide what is best. Is who you are a woman that can be flexible in practicing loving a man who has cheated? Or is the woman you are too respectable to have that kind of question hanging over your head all the time.

This is YOUR life, this is who YOU are. You shouldn't have to live your life and change your actions because you're worried about someone else cheating on you. If he cheats, its probably because he's not getting all of what he wants. This may be a one way relationship headed down a bad path.

Like I said, go back to your roots and find a sense of who you were before him. Once you've discovered that sense, THEN decide if what kind of woman you are. Decide what you will stand up for and what you will change for. Decide if you feel love or if you feel the comfort and safety of a habit you've had for 10 years.

Once again, I'm merely a 15 year old girl.
Please don't think my advice is the serious word of some professional. I'm just giving your my two sense on this.

Best of luck.

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ok, on the last episode of of tila tequila, what was the song that played when they all went to dinner and george came back? it was a slow song with a guy singing. i'd google it but i couldnt make out enough words. thanks!

http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/tila_tequila/episode_music.jhtml?episodeId=135124

I believe its the second one down:
"Keep driving" -Woodale

:)

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I was wondering if any one knew of some songs that really make you feel like you are at the beach or in the caribbean.

A lot of Kenny Chesney's music is beach-like. I think Colbie Caliet would work as well. I also agree that Jack Johnson's is great too.
:)

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I don't know about you guys but I love watching the comedy network but i keep forgettign this guy's name.

He's asian, Phillipino, not fat but BIG, had an eposode all for himself once, and he was in Video On Trial a couple of times on much music.

Some of his jokes are:
"the food network..people are sitting in front of the tv drooling, it's like porn for fat people"

Yeah love a lot of them but i remmeber faces, nto names.

thanks

JIM GAFFIGAN!
He's white, pale as heck. But he doest he Food Network/porn bit, and he does a bit where he pretends he's Asian. I'm pretty sure its the same guy. He's hilarious, his movie is called Beyond the Pale. He's by far my favorite comedian ever.

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hi well this is about me & my boyfriend.. we both have trust issues..but weve been dating 7 months so we trust each other with everything..but im very paranoid bout him going thru my phone..bc, well my parents split up & now my mom & i are dirt poor, & i cant afford my phone. so, im REALLLY not proud of this, but i send this guy..pictures..& he pays my bills. so he text me last night saying "hey sunshine" & my bf saw it..& he kept asking who that text was from & i was drunk so i said idk then i deleted it. & then he saw i deleted it..& now he says he doesnt trust me anymore bc of me not telling him (he doesnt know about the pics..) & i feel so hurt bc he doesnt trust me anymore (but i would feel the same if the roles were reversed) but i dont have any money and i dont consider it cheating bc idk this person, theyre on another coast, & i have NO feelings for him. but it kills me inside whenever i do it & i want to regain my bfs trust but i just dont know what to do..about any of it..please help??

Hi there :)
I haven't been on this website in ages, but I saw your question when browsing through and thought my opinions might help out a little bit.

Step 1: Tell your boyfriend what is going on. It doesn't have to be asap, just when you figure out how you're going to tell him; do it. He should know of you expect his trust back. You can always say something along the lines of "I really like you, I'm not doing anything to hurt you or so I hope. Its just a tough time and tough times call for desperate measures." In that case, keeping it a secret won't get you his trust, but atleast it'll help.

Step 2: Stop with the pictures. I can see how this is helping and how its the easy way out- I totally understand. But this is never going to turn out well. These pictures could even be put on the internet or given out to other random strangers which is only going to lead to more troubles. I recommend you stop with the pictures, thank the man for his generosity, and asked the cell phone company to have his number blocked for privacy reasons.

Step 3: Try getting a job. I don't know what age you are, but if its at all possible go out and search for a job. Babysitting, the local pet store, book store, clothing store, restaurant. Once again, desperate times call for desperate measures. Any bit of money would help; especially with the cell phone bill or if you put it into a savings account.

Good luck sweetheart, let me know if you want any more help.

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my flat iron keeps randomly turning on and off.
i have a babyliss pro 1 inch flat iron, not the best thing in the world [it was about $60]. it does have a swivel cord, and i'm wondering if maybe that's the problem?
is it fixable or should i just buy a better flat iron?
and if i should buy another flat iron, can you recommend any? i've heard chi actually isn't the greatest. it usually takes me about 10-15 minutes to straighten my hair with my flat iron at 450 degrees. so i guess i have thick hair.
thank you :]

I went all out and got a Turbo Chi, yup .. big waste of money. It was 180$ when I bought it.
My friends have the original Chi, about 100$ (you can get them cheaper now) and those ones are amazing. Plus, they make flawless curls once you perfect the technique. You can't do that with the Turbo Chi. So if you do decide to go with the Chi, I recommend the original.

Other then that, I used to have a Helen of Troy Ceramic Series that was about 40$ and I loved it. However, after a year of constant use, it just wore out.

Good Luck

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what is the song that is playing as lauren is being driven around paris on the back of that guy's motorcycle.

I believe its
"Show me what I'm looking for" -Carolina Liar

http://www.mtv.com/ontv/dyn/the_hills/episode_music.jhtml?episodeId=132758
That website has got a list of them all and which scene they were in.

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i just chose you to ask. idkk whyy. :)
kayy but like ive never made out with a guy before and im a freshman in highschool. i know its lame but whatever its not like im ugly & cant get guys. kayy, so a couple people want to hook up with me. and i want to hook up with them too so that i can at least say that ive hooked up before. && one likes me and i like him, like i deffinatley want to hook up with him ya know? and im positive that i will like soon. soo like pretty much whats expected when you hook up?.. and how.? like i need help. majorly. so tell me everything there is too know.
gracias. :D

Well, I went through my hooking up phase a few months ago. Its nothing I'm proud of cause a few of the guys were scrappy but whatever.

Usually its a little awkward at first. However, I'm good with awkward moments & I can cover it up with a joke or something. Usually the kissing starts during a play-fight or laughing. He'll just sort of lean in.

From there, you make up. Feel each other up, finger, and what not. Afterwards you say something nice to each other like "That was fun" kiss and say your goodbyes.

Most of the time you text about it later too.

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why would a guy want to finger a girl? does he actually get pleasure out of it? thanks.

No, usually the guy doesn't get much pleasure. I can really only think of a few reasons of why he might want to finger a girl:

1. The hope that she'll do something in return. (Ie, handjob, blow job etc.)

2. Maybe he gets pleasure out of her moaning and such?

3. Just to be able to say "Yeah, I've fingered a girl," to his buddies. Macho stuff.

4. Or maybe, he actually likes the girl and he enjoys making her happy.

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My best friend and I are working on the whole friends with benefits thing. Except he's never kissed someone before. I've only made out once so I don't really know much? And he's really nervous and intimidated I guess you could say. So basically, what I wanna know is what would be the least intimidating way to go in for the kiss and how could I make him less nervous?

Casual conversation, start it! Just make things as normal as possible, talk about life and joke around about inside jokes and such. In the midst of laughing or when its dying down, look him in the eyes and lean in to kiss him. It just takes guts. You can make the first move, I do it all the time and guys have told me they love it.

From there on out he should be comfortable with making the moves.

Good luck

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Hey! Well I'm about to turn that SWEET 16!
I was looking into presents that I might want, and I stumbled upon this bag...

http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/productdetail.jsp?itemdescription=true&itemCount=60&id=14583058&parentid=W_ACC_BAGS&sortProperties=+product.marketingPriority,-product.startDate&navCount=1708&navAction=poppushpush&color=01

do you like it?
I want to make sure my presents are very special and will be chique for a very long time. Thanks!

Oh wow that bag is gorgeous. I think its great because it looks like a perfect size and its classy. It will go with a more dressy outfit or if you are just going casual for the day. I definitely love it; great find.

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how do you scrunch hair? i have this Garnier Fructis curl construct mousse, the only problem is i dont know how to scrunch my hair lol.. help?!

My hair is naturally curly but it looks awful if I don't scrunch it, so I can help.

While in the shower, I wash my hair with regular shampoo and conditioner then use a VERY large tooth comb. (I use a Conair shower comb. I comb my hair into a part WHILE I'm still in the shower to make sure I got all of the conditioner out and to make my hair look neater when it gets curly. DO NOT comb it once you're out of the shower. That will make your hair too frizzy, even if its wet.)

I take a towel and squeeze the excess water out of my hair, this also helps create some waves. While my hair is still pretty wet I use Garnier Fructis Curl Construct mousse and begin scrunching my hair in three sections: Left, right, back. Some people like to flip their heads over and scrunch for extra volume.

I let my hair air dry and try not to touch it. If I'm in a hurry I use a blow dyer with a curl diffuser but not that many people have one of those. When my hairs dry I use John Frieda Dream Curls spray just to help set my curls in, but you don't have to use it.

Always finish with hair spray.

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what should be the jean size for 14-15 yr old girls
that are about 5'3-5'5

ranging from 107-130 pounds

I'm 15, 5'4", and I weigh around 120.
I wear a size 3 in most cases. I do have wide hips
though which results in me needing a size 5 to fit comfortably.

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how do i make a good first impression on my boyfriends family. hes met my parents. and my parents like him. so i want to make a good first impression on his. ideas?

Aw :) I love meeting the parents, lol.

First off, dress conservatively. You don't want to show up in a low-cut tank top or short shorts. Thats pretty obvious. But also watch out for things like ripped jeans. I've had some friends who had awkward run ins with their boyfriend's parents when they mention how tacky or trashy the pants looked.

Be polite and use your manners. Yes please, thank you, no thanks etc. If you live down south 'yes sir' and 'yes ma'am' are great too.

Be yourself. Don't act all fancy and perfect. In most cases, his parents are normal. Laugh when you feel like laughing, ask the parents questions about their lives etc. Just relax and enjoy a good casual conversation.

Don't be too touchy-feely with your boyfriend. Most of the time, people aren't like that around their boyfriend's parents ... but just in case you are, I'd advise you to keep it down for the evening.

Good luck :)

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okay so theres this guy i met at a party a while back. well we started talking, and hes REALLY cute. on sunday, i was kinda drunk, and i invited him to a kickback and he came. and he was really sweet to me. he carried me around and stuff like that. and we hooked up. but he was like ohh i cant mess with you when youre drunk. so yeah. then yesterday, on valentines day, we went to see a movie together. after the movie, we went to the beach and just chilled. and he said really cute things to me and we just talked. like he said how that moment was so great and he said that if he died there, hed be happy. and it was really cute. and then it was kinda late, but he asked me to be his valentine and i said yes. haha. um. but yeah so we talked a little and made out a little. andd he wanted something more but i stopped it. he seems like the flirty player type, but then again i don't know him THAT well. but i think i'm really starting to REALLY like him, and i was just wondering likee how should i go about this? thankss in advance, sorry if its long.

My opinion would be to try not to get too caught up with him so soon if you don't know what kind of person he is. Of course you could ask around and see if anyone knows anything about him; but then you have to take the risk of listening to other people's opinions on him. Keep getting to know him by asking about his life and meeting some of his friends. Find out for yourself what kind of person he is before you get screwed over. Remember, you don't have to go all or nothing; you can be friends for a while until you find out if he's the stable kind of guy that you can have a relationship with.
Good Luck :)

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