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First off that's my special man friend with me way back from high school, and been dating now for almost four years now. Yeah he's pretty spectacular, and I love him to pieces, and that's all I have to say about that. I'm a full time college student and working on my gen ed, but I would like to get my bachelor's in gerontology and eventually get my nursing license. In fact I work at a nursing home now as a CNA and I love it so much. Anyways ask questions if you want. I'll try to help you out anyway I can. I love helping people after all. :)

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I've been dating my boyfriend for a while now. We get along good and have mutual interests, and a pretty good chemistry. I spend every weekend, as well as Tuesdays and Thursdays with him. He lives about thirty minutes away, and we go to different schools, so we don't see each other as often.

In person, we are always laughing, always talkative, always sharing thoughts and memories. But when I call him, there is always something else more important going on. He's either watching television or playing video games, and I'm not a naggy person so I let him have his fun. But lately it's been so annoying. I'm always talking and there's just silence and the background noise from the tv from his line. He takes a few minutes for him to respond to things. I told him I wasn't going to call him if he's always distracted. He apologized and turned off the tv but the next time I called he kept the tv on when I threatened to hang up.

So how do I tell him firmly that I want to talk to him without so many distractions?

Thanks. I'm fifteen, and he's sixteen.

That's typical. A lot of dudes don't like talking on the phone, so that might be all it. is. I think you've done all you could but leave him alone if all he's doing is playing video games.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Hello forum Im nervous because my girlfriend just told me shes late on her period by 8 days.

Specifications are :

We were fooling around like a week and a half ago and she gave a hand job but I did not climax but there may have been very small amount of precum. then I fingered her, and we dry humped with just underwear on(no climax) so the question is what are the odds shes pregnant.

any input is welcomed to help ease my mind
thank you
James

A minuscule amount that she is prego. Hope that relieved ya hun. Next time try to be more careful tho so you don't freak yourself out or your girlfriend.

xoxo,
dottie4

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okay, this is long but i really need help.


about 5 months ago, i started getting over friendly with a boy i was friends with. when we were together all we did was flirt and joke and i loved it. we started texting and i told him i liked him. things were good and he said he liked me back. we got together one night and it was amazing. i forgot about everyone around us and we spent the whole night together just kissing and cuddling. he told me he loved me after that but i thought he was just being silly. things after got bad as we could never meet and he always seemed so needy. i ended it a few times but we always got back. then i ended it for good 2 months ago. i thought i wasnt ready for anything he wanted. he took it hard and begged me to come back but i thought i was over him. then valentines we were at a disco. i was talking to him and just wanted to kiss him. I told him and he ignored me. at the end of the night i seen him kiss another girl, and it felt like a kick in the stomach. i was completely gutted. i told him i still liked him and he told me he didnt like me anymore. i was shocked it had come to that. i then started to constantly think about him, i realised i was madly in love with him and i started to fall out with him over nothing all the time. i felt bad and i knew he tried to be friends. he told me one night he always loved me and then told me he had a new girlfriend. i burst into tears and was very upset. things went down hill from there, he is a flirt and flirts with all my friends + me even though he has a girlfriend. he seems to not care anymore and doesnt really make an effort with me, but its breaking my heart and i dunno what to do. i just want to be with him and no one else :|

Hun, just let it go and leave the boy be. He's moved on and you need to do the same. Sorry to be frank, but it's the truth.

xoxo,
Dottie4

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do you have a bone in ur vigina like that u can feel?

Yes.
But only when a guy is on top of you. ;)

xoxo,
dottie4

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What does bondage mean? Thanks.

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=bondage

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Could you wear a tampon in a tanning bed?

Yes.

xoxo,
dottie4

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can you have sex when you are on your period?

Yes.

xoxo,
dottie4

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okay so i was just wondering, but can you get pregnant if sperm or seman or what ever is on the loo seat or any were like that ? thanks

Well I guess if the guy masturbates right on the toilet and you go in IMMEDIATELY after and start straddling and physically trying to work the cum into your vagina, yes I would say there's a small chance you could get pregnant.

xoxo,
dottie4

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If a couple has been together for ~1 year, how often should they see / talk to each other? Yes, every relationship is different. But not talking for months at a time is clearly .. not good, and neither is calling each other up every two minutes of the day.

So what's the happy medium?

He's banging someone else.

xoxo,
dottie4

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my roommate and i caught a family of mice, and we want to keep them as a pet. they are field mice.

is it ok to keep them?

and if we do decide to let them go will they come back inside? or will they fnd a new home outside?

No there wild animals, and they could carry something. Ick!

xoxo,
dottie4

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15/f

so i really like this guy and i am trying to hint to him that i like him. well i wanted to put a cute quote on facebook for my status, cause i kknow he goes on my faceobook profile and i want him to think about who the quote is talking about. so i was wondering if anyone knew a cute song that i could put on. not a love song really, but a song sayign "hey i like you or something"
like you belong with me by taylor swift, i would use that but i put that as my status for the last guy i liked. thanks.

You Better Run or My Idea of Fun by Iggy Pop & the Stooges.

Check out the lyrics, you'll find something perfect.

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What is the biggest relationship issue that you are currently experiencing?

My manfriend is getting ready to leave for boot camp so it's kind of hard thinking about it now the issues that will arise. Perhaps jealousy, conversational issues, etc, and the fact he could be gone for a year at a time when he gets out of boot camp.

xoxo,
dottie4

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What are some cute nicknames for your boyfriend?

I call mine my man friend, or just boy.

xoxo,
dottie4

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What are some meaningful gifts i can give to my boyfriend? I have already given him a scrap book of us for our 6 month anniversary, and our one year is coming up in 3 weeks, ive given him many things dealing with his interests and ive given him clothes. he doesnt like jewelry...any ideas?

Take him to Hooter's for dinner or lunch. He'll love you forever.

xoxo,
dottie4

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My boyfriend & I want to have sex for the first time soon.

We're both virgins, so I'd like to know what I should be expecting. (Of course we're goign to use protection.) I've heard that the girl's gonna be in pain & the guy's not going to last very long. If this is true, elaborate please? Like how much pain, what will it feel like, abotu how long will he 'last'?

If you seriously have you ask these questions, you obviously aren't ready so the best advice I can give you is to not go through with it.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i want a tattoo on the inside of my lip but not a tacky one
anyone have any idea of a fashion logo or anythinv high fashion like a symbol or something that would be cute there?

or soemthing goth like a skull...

i want james dean but they dont do pictures!


I suggest not getting one at all. Tattoos are permanent and will never come off except with costly, painful surgery. Even then I don't think they will really ever come off completely. And really if you have to ask people what you should get on your body, it's probably not a good idea if you do it at all. Before you go through something like this it should be completely your idea and nobody else's. It's going to be on your body, not there's.

xoxo,
dottie4

p.s. Sorry if that's not the answer you were looking for, just doesn't sound like your ready for that.

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I'm with my boyfriend :) and we both know I'm not romantic or cliche. I dont agree with the whole posting it on your facebook, putting his name in your msn kind of thing. I'm just not romantic. It's our anniversary thing soon, and he loves it when I do something sweet.
I had a plan to do something that's cliche -when a guy does something for a girl - it's quite cliche - but if a girl does it go a guy - it's really suprising.
I want to do something really random, like turn up at his door step with a single red rose.
Does anyone have any ideas like that? He'll love it :) x

I went on a picnic with my boyfriend. Maybe try that. Pack up some sandwiches, chips, and put it in a little basket with a blanket to sit on. We went to a park and walked around a lake there. Try to do that if you can.

xoxo,
dottie4

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i didnt want to click on your link.. just because my parents can see what i do on my laptop, lame i know haha, im 17 and still no privacy :/
but anyways, well, yeah i know that he is a virgin, ive never given him a handjob or anything, his ex girlfriend did alot, but i havent .. yet. i never have. haha. i just dont understand how me making out with him got him SO turned on that he ejaculatd. we wrrent even like, dry humping. i was just laying on top of him. ahaa. and i dont want to say anything, im just scared that tomorrow, when we hang out, it'll happen again and he'll still be embarassed, you know?
any advice on this would be great. thank you so much :]!!!

Well even if it does happen again, you know why it's happening. He likes you a whole lot and is obviously very, very attracted to you. I'm sure he realized what happened, and will take some sort of precautions so it won't happen again, or at least lets hope he will. If it gets that heated again, maybe you two could please each other, in some way or another.

xoxo,
dottie4

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me: 17f
him: 16m

so, ive been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months. and all we have done is make out, he feels me up.. and thats it. like nothing sexual. but today, i went over his house and we were making out.. first, it was just me like on his lap, then somehow he ended up laying down and i was straddling him. [he had jeans on, i had jeans on] and we kept making out. then he was like, here, lay down. [we were on a couch] and i was like.. uhm, where. and he was like, ontop of me haha. so im like laying ontop of him and we're still making out.. and then like idk, hes feeling me up all over. and i kissed his neck and i think he kinda like, shuttered. then after a little we kinda just stopped, and like we sit apart.. and i see that he has like a wet sopt on his jeans.. and i didnt say anything.. and hes like goin to the bathroooom.. blah blah. and we didnt talk about it afterwards.
uhm.
what happened hahhaaa. did he like.. ejaculate just from making out with me and feeling me up? and could i be pregnant. because i think i might die if i could be. like FROM MAKING OUT. aaah. and did i handle this the right way? and how did he get THAT turned on.. haha.. uhm. help?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pXfHLUlZf4 Was it like that?

As long as your pants were on your fine. He's definitely a virgin, and very attracted to you. He's embarrassed for sure. Just never bring it up.. Ever to him. You just got him really worked up, after he does a little more sexually it won't happen again.

xoxo,
dottie4

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so...this may be an awkward question, but, how come, whenever you have sex, it kinda, hurts a little bit inside, and makes it feel like you have to go to the bathroom??

If you lost your virginity recently, that could be why. It takes a couple times till you get used to it completely.

And if it just feels like you have to pee, it's not. Just let it happen. Relax!

If it's in some positions but not others, avoid them.

If its painful in all positons, see a doctor.

xoxo,
dottie4

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