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What do i do? I dumped him several times, now he doesn't want me back? I am in love with him!
okay, this is long but i really need help.
about 5 months ago, i started getting over friendly with a boy i was friends with. when we were together all we did was flirt and joke and i loved it. we started texting and i told him i liked him. things were good and he said he liked me back. we got together one night and it was amazing. i forgot about everyone around us and we spent the whole night together just kissing and cuddling. he told me he loved me after that but i thought he was just being silly. things after got bad as we could never meet and he always seemed so needy. i ended it a few times but we always got back. then i ended it for good 2 months ago. i thought i wasnt ready for anything he wanted. he took it hard and begged me to come back but i thought i was over him. then valentines we were at a disco. i was talking to him and just wanted to kiss him. I told him and he ignored me. at the end of the night i seen him kiss another girl, and it felt like a kick in the stomach. i was completely gutted. i told him i still liked him and he told me he didnt like me anymore. i was shocked it had come to that. i then started to constantly think about him, i realised i was madly in love with him and i started to fall out with him over nothing all the time. i felt bad and i knew he tried to be friends. he told me one night he always loved me and then told me he had a new girlfriend. i burst into tears and was very upset. things went down hill from there, he is a flirt and flirts with all my friends + me even though he has a girlfriend. he seems to not care anymore and doesnt really make an effort with me, but its breaking my heart and i dunno what to do. i just want to be with him and no one else :|
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I felt like I had to answer this, first of all breathe its not the end of the world ... realise that everything happens for a reason .. maybe in the future you would be together. But at the moment I think its better you move on, honestly why love someone who doesn't love you back? It's a matter of fact, it may be lust but you never know. NEVERRR beg !! it makes the guy think your dying over him, personally i think you should be strong and i imagine your a beautiful girl, hide your pain never show what you feel its not worth it I think you smile.
If you loved him as much as you say you do you would be happy for him that he found someone else even if it's not you , think about it you can't be selfish with feelings... He may be with this girl to get you jelous but don't pau attention because at the end of the day your going to find someone so much better and that would love you the same way you do to them. It takes time to get over someone but you should keep your mind busy and never lose hope because life its short and you should enjoy it the way its supposed to be enjoyed. I understand you wanna be with him but the more you feel depressed the longer it's gonna take for you to get over him, you may think that what I'm saying is wrong but i'm no one to make your choices i'm here to help you and i've been through the same but when you think about the things that the person has done to hurt you it makes you get over them quicker. It was his loss if he didn't see what he had infront of his eyes.
Always say to yourself that your beautiful and that someone out there one day would love as much as you would love , but they would you for who you are not what you look like :) take care !
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I have just recently been in the situation you are in. Just let things work there way out. If you guys are meant to be then God will make that happen. This boy I think just rushed into things a little to fast. If he said he loved you then he wouldnt be hurting you the way he is. He is a boy and doest know what he wants right now, but eventually it will hit him and he will notice that allhe needs is you and that you meant so much to him. Just be strong when you are around him and he will start to think you are over him, then he will be running back like a little puppyy. Just stay strong and make plans to keep yourself busy so you dont have to think about him as much as you do now. I hope this helped you alot.
-<3 Always
Jacqueline Connollyy(:
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Hun, just let it go and leave the boy be. He's moved on and you need to do the same. Sorry to be frank, but it's the truth.
xoxo,
Dottie4
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You blew it, now leave him alone.
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I'm going to be completely honest with you...this sounds like a situation of wanting what you can't have. I used to go through cycles like this. Be with someone, then push them away, and when I felt them pulling away try to pull them back in.
I don't think you are as in love with him as you think, but more in love with the idea of loving someone that much.
Just take a break from thinking about him, and focus on yourself. If after a few weeks you still feel absolutely obsessed with him..then maybe talk to him about it. But I truly feel like this is a passing feeling and you should just move on. :)
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I know this may seem a bit mean, but you may not get another chance with him. I'm really truly sorry to say, but you blew your chance with him. Please forgive my rudeness, but this is how it is. Perhaps, after you leaving him so often, he just completely gave up on caring about being with you. I understand the feeling of wanting to be with that one person, but you also need to realize he was hurt several times due to you breaking up with him.
There is a possibility that in the future he may want to be with you again, but I wouldn't hold onto that as it could lead to unwanted results. Just be happy he's still your friend, and hope for his happiness. Move on, and try dating other people. Who knows. Maybe you'll find someone you enjoy having around more than you did with him. It hurts losing your first love, but remember, it's not the end.
I hope that I was of some assistance.
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