ok...so I'm going to answer this one question at a time. The first thing is, I can't tell you if it was the right thing to do. 1-It isn't wrong, the only way it coulb be wrong is if you knew that he would hurt you again, or if you liked another guy or something. Then it could be a bad idea. But I don't know if it was the right idea becuase I don't know you or him...I don't know what the chemistry is like and I don't know how he treats you. 2-It sounds like he really cares about how you feel and think. Some guys would just kiss you even if you weren't ready. But I agree with what you told him, it will happen when it happens. When you are ready, the moment will just be right. 3- (the main reason you are asking me) So you could die any moment, who cares!? I'm not saying that meaning who cares if you die. What I mean is, everyone could die any moment. Yes you have more of a chance to die right now, or tomorrow, but that's just more of a reason to live for the "now", not for the "then". He loves you, you love him. Sounds like a match made in heaven if I've ever heard it. Yes there may be problems, but if you two stick together, you can get through anything... ask me anything anytime... :) Hope I helped....!

Well, I'm glad you found me. You seem like a great guy, you really care about your girlfriend. So, you kissed her? wow, do you think you were ready for it? Was she? How did she react? Give me details man!!!!!!

Ok, don't take offence of this, you asked me for my oppinion. If she is only going out with you becuase the other guy can't date, then she isn't worth it. She kind of sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. If she isn't willing to give herself to you enough to matter, then she isn't worth staying with. If I were you, I would dump her. You shouldn't let yourself be stepped all over by her just becuase you think you love her...Never let yourself be the second choice. She obviously means the world to you, and you should mean the world to her. If that isn't the case then I say, move on...or tell her how you feel about this "other guy". I also wonder if the other guy knows about her liking him. Does he? Keep talkin to me, this is starting to change...hope I can help...

Some guys won't take responsiblity becuase it is harder for them. They have a choice, unlike the girl who has to have the baby, they are afraid because a baby is a lot of commitment. When there is a baby involved, there are things that happen; marrige, child care, school dreams can be ruined...There are a lot of factors. It also can be harder for guys because they aren't as mature sometimes as girls are, and they aren't expecting it to happen, even when there isn't protection involved. They just think from the southern hemisphere, more than their nothern. The best thing I can tell you is just to forget about him. If he comes along later and wants to have something to do with the baby, then you can decide if you want him to. Let him run away and be a baby about it. My friend is pregnant and her boyfriend of 2 years is doing the same thing. She is just going to ignore him and move on. If he wants to miss out, let him, it's his loss, and there are people who will help you through this, you don't need him. Tell him how you feel about it, that you think he should be apart of it, and that maybe you should get a check, just to prove it's his. I don't know how you want to get to him, but maybe he needs to hear it from you that it is important that he is a part of the baby's life, becuase it will be important in the long run. You decide if you want him to be, if he can't take responsibility now, will he be able to later? I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open...

ok, here's one thing...the girl, I think, will always like another guy. They can't really help it. But you can't get too freakish about this one becuase if she is with you, you obviously have something that they don't, right? Why would she be with you if she liked them enough to threaten you? You really should confront her about her liking other guys, because you can't just "think" that she likes other guys, you have to know if you are going to even worry. Now, they love thing... If she is the kind of girl that wants to go slow, you might want to hold that back a little. I know that I'm always saying tell them how you feel. But that might be a little too fast for a girl like her. I'm not saying not to tell her at all, but just slow down a little... I hope that I helped a little...tell me a little about her, maybe I can help more...?

yeah, I have a B.F...he rocks...that's how I answered your question...I just thought about what I would want a guy to do...hey, how did you find me, like why did you ask me a question?

I know that it's kind of blunt...but try asking her. You could kiss her on the cheek and see how she reacts. Here's a good one, kiss her on the hand. When you grab her hand kiss it. Or kiss her on the neck. Just don't kiss her on the lips quite yet, unless she says quite bluntly "I don't care if we kiss on the lips" or something along that lines... There's some ideas, what do you think, Killa-dog? Hope those help...

Ok, so here's the thing with taking it slow for a girl. When she says that she doesn't mean never do anything! That just means not to try to kiss her on the first day (date) This girl sounds like she actually means it, and it is great that you want to listen to her. Some guys would just ignore her and go for the gold (if you know what I mean) The best thing I could tell you is to try something. Do something and see how she reacts, maybe not kissing yet, but something a little more out there than you already are. If you aren't holding hands, then try to hold her hand. Another thing I want you to think about is if you think she is going to break up with you she will be able to sense that. I know it sounds weird, but it's true. She can probably tell that you feel that way, maybe by the way you touch her differently or talk to her, or maybe even look at her. Some girls see these things. I hope that I helped. If you need more help, just drop another one into my box and I'll be sure to answer it the best I can and as soon as possible! Let me know how it goes, Killa-dog!

Well, personally, I would call you a vergin, but I'm not sure if you are...I really can't tell you that. But I would still call you a vergin. I hope I helped a little. Thanks for asking a question.

First, you need to tell her how you feel, just in case she doesn't realize that she's doing it. I know that you say that she does, but you don't want to lose a friend just becuase of guys. One thing that I do want to say is, she doesn't sound like a very good friend...I believe that she should stop, expecially becuase she has a boyfriend... She sounds like she has some problems and she needs to shape up or no one will want to be with her ever. Another thing, you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel...if you don't tell him, he will never know. If you really like him, you need to fight for him, you can't just hope that he will end up coming after you... You have to fight for what you want, or you might never get it...everything requires effort, even if it's not much. You like him? Go for him! I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

Well, here's the thing...not letting people get too close means something that you have to pay attention to. I am the same way, if I get too close to someone I freak. But not being able to have someone that you like is really hard, but you can't dwell on that. You have to trust in yourself and others before a relationship is a good idea. I know that this seems weird, but you have to figure out why you don't like getting close to people, becuase until then, you can't have a good relationship becuase you will always be pulling away or closing up around him. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

type in "symptoms of cervicle cancer" on google, you should get something.

First, you and he need to talk about this, I know that it might be hard, but you two could make up the best ideas. Second, sometimes it's harder to get over guys if you still like them and/or you feel guilty. There really isn't a good way to get over a guy becuase your heart is it's own little thing...you can't force yourself to stop liking a guy, it takes time. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

one of the things I think that you need to do is watch your hand when you write...I think that you don't pick up your pencil/pen and that's why you connect all of your letters. I do the same thing and half of the things I write are really confusing becuase I don't know if its an a or and o...right? well...I think that if you practice with not doing that when you get home and write a bunch of things it should work...the better you get the faster you should go... I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

for me it just felt like they were were pulling my teeth a little and then it stopped, plus they felt a bit loose...I got a retainer after...but yeah...I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice. Thanks!

ok..well...I'm not sure about your hips, but your but kind of contributes to the size of your hips so, you can ride your bike or jog/run/walk but you have to do it almost everynight...otherwise it will do nothing for you. that will also help with your waste...but you can also try doing sit ups/crunches...your arms, push ups and pull ups..I hope that I helped. Remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be great if you did. Thanks!

I'm made fun of a lot too, and there are two things that you can do to shut them up. 1-look at them, smile and say "yeah, you're right..." then say something to make fun of yourself. But that's not my favorate. 2-you can ignore them...who cares what they think? For all they know, you are going to be a model when you grow up...change happens...no one knows. 3-smile at them and say "yep I am" and then look away and continue with something else like reading or whatever.yeah...these may not seem like the best. But when you react like this it surprises the crap out of the people making fun of you... Have you ever heard of a girl that walks into a bathroom and girls look at her weird becuase she has a bunch of zits, and befor anyone can make fun of her she smiles and says, "geese, if I had anymore zits I could play connect the dots on my face!" everyone laughed and no one got to make fun of her, she did it for them, but she didn't get hurt like it would have hurt her if they would have said something... that's a good one... Just believe in yourself, and no one else matters. no matter what you think. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!

First- using tampons doesn't pop your cherry...not deep enough...so don't fret! Second- no it shouldn't hurt unless you put it in wrong, or it's too big. Also, it's a good idea to not leave it in more than an hour and a half or so for the first couple times that you use one, until you find the right time that you need to take it out. Third- yes, this is a good idea for the sports thing, less sticky/stinky/messy. Fourth- There really isn't anything to be scared of. It isn't that bad, I actaully like it better. If you don't trust yourself, though, I would wear a small pad with it, just in case you forget to change it or you don't take out early enough. Better to be safe than sorry. But there really isn't a certain date or age that you should use them. I swim a lot and so I did the same thing you are. it's not that bad...

You have to make sure that you don't just walk up and start stuttering or mumbling/drooling all over him. So think about what you are going to say. Think of something intersting that you think would be a good topic to start with. Then watch for a good oppertunity to talk to him. Now preps are a lot harder to do this with becuase they have their little/big groups of people that think, talk, act, and move exactly the way that he does. So think of things that could be a good ice breaker...but nothing cheesy like "sure is a nice day out, huh?" or something...weather...boring/lame icebreaker... just be carefull, I'm sure you'll do great! Another thing, be nice to his friends, the only way a relationship (friendship or more) can work is if you are nice with their friends. Never insult or ignore his friends. Now, good luck! I hope you do well. I hope that I helped, and remember that my imbox is always open. You don't have to rate, but it would be nice if you did. Thanks!
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Ok, so he is a prep...and he's shy? Hmmm...well, I don't know. If you see him reading something, or...see him doing something that looks interesting. It is near impossible for you to talk to him and it not seem like you haven't before...just talk to him...it will get easier. But don't show that you're nervous, and it will make it easier for him to talk back...but maybe don't approach him when he might be really surprised. Talk about something that was over the school anouncments or something tf you might have heard that was interesting. Something on the news...but that might be boring...I don't know...I'm not quite sure what to do with a shy prep...grrr...well...that's about the best I can do...hope it helped!

Sister arguements are quite normal, but brutal a lot of the time. I'm guessing that you and your sis have a close relationship, and really love eachother, but seem or seemed to fight a lot. Well, you really need to get together with your sis and tell how you feel about the fights that you two have been having. If you two don't know how eachother feel about this, it might cause more fights. You also need to work with her to find out what is making you two fight so much, and find the best/better way of solving it. I have a little sis and we fight a lot to, so I might not be an expert, but I do know that talking it out calmly and actually listening to eachother is a great way to help these kinds of things. One of the most important things you can do when talking to eachother is there is a little..."game" that you can play while talking to her. Each of you pick who goes first with talking, then that person tell you how they feel, and how it upset them, without putting you down, you listen without interupting, or pulling a face or anything. Then when she is done, it's your turn, you tell her everything you feel and think and you tell her what you think you can do to fix it. But don't put her down, and don't argue with what she said, just compair, and then you two should compromise. I hope that I helped, and remember that my inbox is always open. I hope that it goes well, and I would really like it if you told me how it went. Good luck! A thanks for dropping me a question!

Ok, so I haven't been on in a while and I'm just starting to get back to where I can give advice again. I had a rough spot there and I just couldn't give advice without seeming rude, so I decided to take a break. My real name is Shannon and I live in Utah. I am 15 and I love animals and friends. I love to act and know a bit about those kinds of things. I would love to help you out and hope that I can. But there is one thing, you have to ask a question for me to answer! Just kidding. Hope you have a great day!

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