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my boyfriend whos really nice and i have been dating for three years were both seniors and we have sec occasionaly and i got pregnant and hes like well its not mine and he wont talk to me what should i do?
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Some guys won't take responsiblity becuase it is harder for them. They have a choice, unlike the girl who has to have the baby, they are afraid because a baby is a lot of commitment. When there is a baby involved, there are things that happen; marrige, child care, school dreams can be ruined...There are a lot of factors. It also can be harder for guys because they aren't as mature sometimes as girls are, and they aren't expecting it to happen, even when there isn't protection involved. They just think from the southern hemisphere, more than their nothern. The best thing I can tell you is just to forget about him. If he comes along later and wants to have something to do with the baby, then you can decide if you want him to. Let him run away and be a baby about it. My friend is pregnant and her boyfriend of 2 years is doing the same thing. She is just going to ignore him and move on. If he wants to miss out, let him, it's his loss, and there are people who will help you through this, you don't need him. Tell him how you feel about it, that you think he should be apart of it, and that maybe you should get a check, just to prove it's his. I don't know how you want to get to him, but maybe he needs to hear it from you that it is important that he is a part of the baby's life, becuase it will be important in the long run. You decide if you want him to be, if he can't take responsibility now, will he be able to later? I hope I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open...
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The first thing to do is to decide whether you're going to have the baby or have an abortion. If you're going to have an abortion, you need to do it before the fetus is 12 weeks gestation. It can be done in a few hours at a planned parenthood clinic for about $400. If you plan to carry the baby to term, decide whether you want to put it up for adoption or to parent the child. Either way, go to a doctor right away for prenatal care and follow up without fail. If you put it up for adoption, you can make a deal with the adopting parents that they will pay for your medical care and sometimes living costs. People who can't have a baby are desperate for an infant to adopt and they will help you in any way they can. If you decide you're having the baby and raising it yourself, you should inform both sets of grandparents, your parents and his, and be prepared to sacrifice your college and career goals for the child. You should take the father to court for child support and prove that he is the father so there's no getting out of it.
It's a pretty lousy person, in my opinion, who will date someone for three years, have sex with her, and then claim he didn't cause the pregnancy. If this is a good example of how he handles himself under stress, you don't want to be with him.
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My best friend is pregnant and went through the exact thing. Proving he is the father is a start. Once that happens then everything will fall into place. He is scared and that was his first reaction. Once he realizes it is a real baby and it is his, he will come back around. It might be better not to talk him directly but maybe his parents if they don't know already. He is in denial and the only way to get through to him is to go above him. Just remeber you have friends and family to support you. He doesn't have to be there in order to raise a great kid.
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tell your parents. theres no other way. get the baby tested when its born, for proof that its his. hes legally finacially responsible for the baby until its 18. if he doesnt want any part in the baby, take him to court.
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