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Q: 15/f

There were many times when I felt like killing myself because I'd hate my life and I'd get into deep depression, like I'd cry myself to sleep...I wanna stop feeling that way, but I don't know how! Well, somedays I'll feel all great, but than other days I'll feel really depressed...I'm just hoping that one day it doesn't go too far so that I'll actually kill myself! What can I do to prevent myself from suicide???

first of all i'm really sorry you feel this way sometimes. many people go through the same thing and there IS hope and happiness can be found i promise you. never ever give up..keep your head up and focus on the positive things about your life..surround yourself with things that make you happy and put you at peace..such as music or art or writing..even just being around friends and family more often helps ALOT. there are alot of people who care about you and love you..always remember that..and your life is a gift full of oppurtunities in your future. the first step is just to be completely willing to reach for happiness. try new things, meet new people, think about the things you love about yourself and dont worry about the bad. nobodys perfect. theres somebody out there youre gonna spend the rest of your life with and fall in love with..always remember that. life may be hard at times, but it always gets better if you really truly reach for happiness and focus on the wonderful things in life. try talking to a family member or one of your friends..or you could go on a website and talk to someone who helps with depression.suicide is NEVER EVER the answer..life is precious and God gave it to you to cherish and in hard times he's always watching over you..and im sure youre an amazing person with alot of dreams and you can make all of them come true and look back on your life and think of how amazing it was. i promise things will look up for you just keep your head high and dont ever give up on hope! if you want anyone to talk to my screenames xolivnitupxo.

Q: I'm a shy person and only have two close friends. I always thought that it didn't matter if other people accepted me because they did. Today my best friend sent me this email:

hey, i have something i need to talk to you about. it actually involves dixie too but she is too afraid to talk to you about it because she doesn't want to make you mad or upset. okay first off dixie and i both agree that you have been acting rude to us. every time we say something that isn't said "perfectly" or is not something you would say you treat us like we are 5. like for example at dixies party at my house i said something about sequences (i proabably spelled it wrong but i really don't give a crap) and you were like amanda you are special..blah blah blah. also you make a big deal out of the fact that dixie hasn't seen bambi.....BIG FRIGGIN DEAL!!! you haven't seen marry poppins...OOHH ASHLEY YOU HAVEN'T SEEN MARY POPPINS OH MY GOSH!!! sorry but that's the way you treat us. you have also been acting spoiled and it seems like you are trying to make us jealous....okay personally dixie and i don't give a dookie that you did whatever...good for you..we are happy for you! oh and the college situation. it seems like everytime we are talking about college you always say that dixie can't be an interior designer. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS IF SHE PUTS HER MIND TO IT. she has an interest in it! SHE CAN DO IT! you are sapost to be her friend and support her instead of put her down!!! why don't you think she can be an interior designer??? cuz she doesn't dress like you do or decorate like you do???????? give me reasons..because if that is your reason then we don't think you could be a teacher because you have no patients. oh and that time you called me just to tell me I was wrong when really i only had a different opinion than yourself. it was about global warming. you said we are all going to die and blah blah. i don't believe in global warming and i don't believe we are all going to die. i don't care what scientists say or what al gore says...they're not God..i only believe what God says. i don't care if you are thinking i am stupid because i am my own person and i have my own opoinion....you heard the old saying "opoinions are like butt-wholes, everybody's got one!" that's all i have to say now but we just wanted to let you know how rude and childish you have acting. we love you to death and don't want to ruin our friendship but we had to say something so you would realize what you are doing is hurtful...and if you are thinking that this letter is hurtful i realize that. i wrote it so you would feel the hurt and humiliation you have caused us. please write back

I just don't get it. I mean I'm the one with self esteem issues. If anything I envy both of them. Just the thought of them being mad at me is killing me. Its like my world is falling apart. Its not just them. My whole family has been treating me worse lately. I'm digressing backwards. I'd went from almost commiting suicide to being a relatively happy teenager. I mean I'm 17 and I want my life to end. I'll never kill myself and I know it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life alone and unhappy. I just need some advice and help.

By the way, sorry about how long this is.

first of all, i'm sorry all that is happening. obviously you werent intentionelly doing anything to make them feel bad so just talk to them about it and apologize and everything will be okay. its pretty immature the way it was written. they shouldnt get THAT mad over little things..a new school year is coming up so take this oppurtunity to make new friends itll be alot easier than it seems cause you seem really nice! just get out there and talk to more people and itll be easy. i'm so sorry about your family and everything you're going through but trust me..its gonna get better and better over time..everybody has times that are a complete mess but you deserve good to happen to you adn it will and the rest of your life holds amazing things for you so dont be sad! im sure youre an amazing person and youre obviously cared about and loved so just find things that make you happy & enjoy life i promise everything will get easier with time. try going to church and getting closer with God that always helps too. i hope i helped!

Q: what are your favorite songs by:
third eye blind
3 doors down
saosin
rise against

thanks

third eye blind-semi charmed life,ten days late,blinded,never let you go,jumper
3 doors down-away from the sun
saosin-voices,you're not alone,follow and feel,seven years (acoustic version)
rise against-swing life away

Q: okay so I admit I put a suggestive video of myself on youtube a long time ago, like in september. (it contained NO personal info whatsoever)

I took it off about 3 months after that though.

I got a disturbing phone call on my cell phone last night from this REALLY sketchy sounding guy with a new york accent and he says "Hi, is this Liza?" and i said "Why do you ask? Who is this?" And he said "My name is John. And I saw your video on youtube." Then I said "I have to go, bye." and I hung up.

I then called the non-emergency police number and they started a report number in case this does develop into a stalking case.

I'm so scared still, and I'm worried that he's going to call me again/rape me or something. (the call was anonymous)

What should I do?

I'm really really really worried about this.

any advice appreciated.

dont worry it had to have been a prank call from one of your friends if you didnt give out ANY personal info then he couldnt get your number UNLESS you gave out your last name but im assuming you didnt so i msure it was just a joke since it was a blocked number!

Q: i am a 16 year old girl and i gave my boyfriend a blow job and we were both naked he cummed near my vagina he tried wiping it up with a sheet we were under is it possible for me to be pregnant?

dont worry its very unlikely that you could get pregnant from that since it didnt go all the way in you..youre fine dont worry!

Q: So lately my ex and I have been talking a lot, and I like him again. Some of the things he does, seem like he is flirting. He mocks me in a playful way, and if i don't call or talk to him for awhile, he's always the one to call me first. The thing that makes me believe that he doesn't like me is, he doesn't care about anything, his attitude is so like whatever. And he's very boring at times. But there's this one thing he says, and i told him it was cute, and now he always does it, so I feel like he does it because he knows I think it's cute. Is he flirting or not?

seems to me like hes definetely flirting. im sure he cares about things but hes probably the type of guy who just bottles his feelings and some of his thoughts inside and pretends not to care about much so he'll seem tough but trust me, after time he'll come out of his shell and start expressing things as long as he trusts you. i hope everything works out!

Q: ok the people involved here are me and my bf (we've been going out a long time), and tom and cindy (who've been going out like 4 weeks).

well tom and my bf just went on a vacation together. my bf called me like 5 times a day and said how much he loved me and missed me, etc. (he's sooo sweet!).

well halfway though the vacation, i talked to cindy. she was all sad because she hadn't heard from tom at all. so i told my bf, and he told tom that he should call cindy. so tom started calling her, and i think he was trying to act like my bf, saying all this nice stuff to her.

well as soon as they got back, cindy dumped tom. he was really heartbroken and asked me find out why. she told me it was because he was being too clingy and saying that he loved her when they'd only been going out a few weeks.

now i feel terrible!! like its my fault. and i dont know what to tell tom. hes sooo upset hes like crying and everything. he was just trying to do what he thought she wanted, and taking the example of me and my bf. im dreading talking to him cuz i dont know what to say that wont make him feel worse. plus, i just found out that cindy started going out with another guy like 3 hours after she dumped tom. i dont want to have to tell him that either!!

what can i tell him that wont make him feel terrible?

first of all, its not your fault! you were just being a good friend and you didnt know he was gonna say all that to her. well youre gonna have to tell him the truth about the reason..but there are ways you can word it where he wont feel as bad. you could say "well, i think it was a little much for her when you told her you loved her since yall had only been going out a few weeks..but its not your fault..you didnt know and you were trying to be nice and i think it was really nice of you that you were trying to make her feel good..you'll find somebody better..cheer up!" something like that would be the easiest way to put it..just let him know that he should feel good about himself for being a really nice guy and that it probably wasnt meant to be and he should just enjoy life..and as far as telling him about her going out with another guy 3 hours after dumping him( which is pretty wrong of her,no offense)..its not necessary to tell him that but then again hes gonna find out but by then he may be feeling better so i'd hold off on talking about that until he brings it up and then just try to make him feel good about himself. hope i helped!

Q: 14/f

i hate being alive.

i hate everything i've ever done in this earth.

i don't enjoy anything, nothing holds my attention, nothing interests me. i'm always tired and pissed and upset.

i don't have any friends, and i don't have a bf.

i hate how life is only about obsession with your own body and judging people.

i wish i could die.

but i don't know how.

i'll be your friend! listen..at times life is hard but you shouldnt wish you could die because life is a gift and youre here for a reason..there are people that love and care for you and even though you may feel alone you arent..theres a whole world out there full of people who wanna help you and see you shine and go far in life which you can DEFINETELY do..try getting a physiatrist or someone who can help you i promise itll make you feel better. keep looking..you may find something that you really enjoy and youre passionate about..everbody has talents and everybody has something to offer and you have a purpose in life..just try to stay strong and get out there and meet people and let people help you because nobody deserves to feel the way you do..try finding some music you really love or keeping a diary or painting or something you can use to express yourself..and focus on the positive things in life..and the beautiful things were given such as sunsets and sunrises theres so much ahead of you someone otu there is your soulmate and i promise youll make friends its easy if you be friendly and meet people..just trust me it WILL get better..youre loved and cared about and deserve to go far..youre in control of your life and you have the power to turn everything around and find happiness it comes from within just try to build confidence in yourself and know that youre capable of anyting and youre beautiful inside and out..if you wanna talk to me my screenames swtsusie22. keep your head up its gonna be okay!!

Q: Oh my gosh - I have my whole destiny in my hands. I'm in total control, people. I just found out EVERYTHING is up to me. I get to choose if I see my crush this summer, I get to choose if THIS is the summer I'll have my first love. How do I know if I'm ready? Should I let myself fall? HOW DO I KNOW?

I don't want it to be a mistake, when I fall - I want it to last forever. And I know I will if I'm ready for love.

But how do I know if I'm ready yet?
Does it have to do with age? 15.
Gender? Female.
Is it all about experience? None. Just stupid innocent crushed.
Or religious maturity? So insecure in my faith.

What choice do I make? What's the right one? I don't want to get hurt. I don't want to interfere with destiny and what's meant to be, I wish it wasn't up to me.

if its meant to be, when you see him, you'll feel it, and you'll now if its true love..and if you feel that feeling then you shouldnt turn back..dont ever be afraid to fall because you may miss out on something amazing..this could be destiny but you wont know until you see him..if you dont feel like its true love then just have fun and enjoy being young and having a crush and then in the future fate will come in and youll find the person youre truly meant to be with.

Q: I am so vain, shallow, and pathetic. But I realized this a long time ago and cannot change it. My whole mood depends on how good I look. I skip school when I look bad (when I havn't waxed my disgusting excesive facial hair..im a girl, it unfair, i hate that i have it!) and when im forced to school, i get in fights and lots of trouble.. I fail tests.. etc etc etc.
When Im in a good mood, i get good grades, make friends, help people - all is good.

Problem is.. im getting more and more vain every day. I hate my huge nose, my excessive hair ALL OVER MY BODY, my tiny eyes, my small lips, my uneven skin. I get more and more depressed everyday. I've looked in to surgery but they refuse to do it on someone my age..too young.

Help me please.

all you need is confidence and the ability to be comfortable in your own skin..and believe it or not, confidence is easy to obtain. stop focusing on the things you dislike about yourself..nobody is perfect and you should tell yourself that youre beautiful because being truly comfortable in your own skin will change your life. try focusing on the things you LIKE about yourself and realizing that people arent looking at your flaws..your friends and others around you like you for YOU and theres so much more out there thats a billion times more important than how you look..beauty comes from within..if you find yourself feeling bad because you dont think you look as good as you should..tell yourself that it doesnt matter..you are who you are and being self-conscious will get you nowhere. stop insulting yourself because loving yourself is essential..confidence shines and you will feel WAY better..lots of girls get facial hair its not a big deal and if youre waxing it then dont worry about it..im sure youre very pretty and just concentrate on the good things and get out there and enjoy life and stop yourself when you start to think about how you look at that moment..it will take time but i promise itll get easier. cheer up! youve got your whole life ahead of you this is just a problem that you definetely have the ability to overcome.

Q: i need to do something. my life is going down the drain i need to self harm. i cant cut myself, it hurts too mcuh and i cant puke;. i dont want to hear that self-harm isnt the way. i dont care. does anyone out there self harm anyother way? any ideas?? it will make me feel better.

i know you said you don't wanna hear it..but self harm REALLY REALLY will only make things a billion times worse. you need to talk to somebody. i know there are people in your life that love you so tell them how youre feeling or try writing in a diary..anything to express yourself and then try to find ways to solve your problems. think positive..for every bad time in your life there are a billion good times to make up for it and theres so much out there and hurting yourself is the worst thing you could possibly do. love yourself..you're an orignal unlike any other person and have the capablities to do whatever you want with your life. try new things and find something you LOVE to do and do it more often..itll make you feel better. just keep your head up everything will get better but please please do not hurt yourself im telling you itll make it so much harder. if you can find a physiatrist you should try to talking to them because they actually do help. if you wanna talk about anything you can i*m me..swtsusie22

Q: wuts "oven chips"?

most likely french fries..australians & some british people call fries chips

Q: okay this is urgent because i am getting more and
more depressed as time goes on.
heres my problem:
it started out as me becoming obsessed with the way i look and always wanting to look in mirrors.
then i thought i was so pretty and had a nice body.
i questioned myself "is this really me?" "do i look this good?"
now its at the point where i believe i am super obesse but when i look in the mirror i see a nice body.
i think that g-d gave me a gift of having the perspective of a nice bodied girl
like feeling / experiencing what she does.
i don't know what to do.
i feel like crap.
i am too embarassed to tell anyone.
please help.
i know this is really weird.
:(

thinking you're pretty and have a nice body is obviously much better than seeing a nice body but thinking you are obese. obviously you're not obese..many girls often think ridiculous things becuase of low self esteem but it seems to me that if you haev the perspective of a nice bodied girl, then you most likely have a nice body and should be proud of that! be comfortable in your own skin..looks and appearances are never important. when you start to think you are obese, tell yourself thats ridiculous and focus on the things you like about yourself..and see yourself for the real you..not some distorted image in your head..im sure youre beautiful so try to be confident and im sure you will feel alot better! dont let it get you down..many girls have similar problems just remember that you can control your mind and youre most certainly NOT obese since you see a nice body in the mirror..so eliminate that thought from your head. keep your head up itll be okay!

Q: This guy I like is completely opposite from me. We flirt and make fun of each other but that's about it. I want to get to know him and get him to like me. I tried to open up to him.. but I don't think he gets it. We're hanging out this weekend [its not a date] and I was wondering if there's any ideas that I can do for him to open up and let me know him better and he can know me as well?? and anything me and him can talk about?
he said he doesn't like me but we made out and stuff. its confusing I know. it confuses me too. I'm not sure what to do with him Whether I should just give up or give it more time?
HELP ME. I really really like him. thnxx in advance.

well first off if he made out with you but says he doesnt like you you need to talk to him about that cause he could be using you which is wrong! its probably hard for him to express how he feels..alot of guys are like that..start with small talk then ask him questions about his views on things..maybe what he wants to be when he grows up and just try to get into conversations where you both can find out more about each other than just basics..relax and have fun and show him that youre not going to judge him..he'll ease up over time as he get to knows you..dont give up! if he wants to hang out with you then he obviously is interested..so just let things flow and maybe feelings will develop between both of yall..just dont push it too hard sometimes its easier to relax and not try too hard..and dont come on too strong..its much easier to be friends at first so he can be comfortable..i'm sure itll all work out good luck! (and if for any reason he makes out with you again but STILL says he doesnt like you i would rethink trying to be with this guy..he could be a manwhore and you need to let him know you have selfrespect) whoo my answer was long ahhaha sorry!

Q: should i break up with my bf? he is always looking at other girls and commenting on how hot they are. what would you do if you were me??

well if he says it in front of you thats very rude and inconsiderate to your feelings so talk to him about it! explain that it bothers you because you care about him and its a natural tendency of girls to feel a little bit jealous..talk it out and if he doesnt apologize or isnt willing to change..thats when breaking up could come into consideration but since you two have been together for so long if you truly like him alot or love him then just talk it out!

Q: alright by boyfriend always grabbs me and puts his hand up my skirt and everything. like during school when were watching a movie and the lights our off, he starts grabbing me and tries to finger me. three of his friends laugh when they see and call me a whore and that hes their hero. and i told him to stop and all he does is laugh and says shutup whore. i dont wanna break up with him and im not going too but i need help like what do i say to get him to stop? thanks.

NEVER PUT UP WITH THAT! you need to stand up for yourself. a true boyfriend should ALWAYS respect you and never call you names like that. its obviously something youre extremely uncomfortable with and bothered by so let him know that you dont want him to do that anymore..dont be afraid to stand up for yourself..if i were you i'd think about maybe taking a break from him if this happens again or if he doesnt apologize for treating you that way. he needs to respect your body and the fact that he called you that is jsut downright WRONG. please talk to him about this and let him know you want respect and if hes not willing to give it then maybe its best you be friends.

Q: i want to have sex with my boyfriend. but he is a couple years older then me and definitely way more experienced then i am. i am afraid that if i have sex with him then thats all our relationship will be about. and i dont want that. so should i just wait to have sex with him?

i think that you should wait for somebody you truly love and possibly wanna spend the rest of your life with and feel completely comfortable with because its a HUGE decision and you should wait until youre completely ready and know that the relationship wouldnt be based off of that if it happened.

Q: Okay so, I'm not extremley overweight but I am "chunky". I feel like the only reasons I've yet to find anyone is because I'm fat and ugly. I cant really change what I look like, I'm getting plastic surgery for my dark circles but my mom wont let me get anything else done. And as for my weight problem, I've been on diets and I lose 30 lbs just to gain it all back again. I'm 17/female and have never been kissed...it makes me laugh when I think of a guy ever wanting to be that close to me. I'm surrounded by 100 lb beautiful girls everywhere I go, do I have to just lose the weight if I ever want to be happy?

absolutely not! being comfortable in your own skin and loving yourself will make you feel SO SO much better. a truly good guy will love you for who you are..and im sure youre an amazing person..if you stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself and realize youre beautiful i promise you you will be alot happier. inner beauty accounts for so much more and when the right guy comes along youll know it and trust me..he'll always be wanting to be close to you.guys would much rather prefer a girl who has confidence in her body then some grossly skinny girl whos constantly fishing for compliments. just focus on what you like about yourself and try to steer away from critical thoughts..confidence is one of the most important things to have in life and i believe that everyone is beautiful. well i hope i helped

Q: i just can't take my life anymore. i have issues with my family, alot of my close friends treat me like crap and are hypocrites/manipultive jealous attention-seekers, i dont have a boyfriend or anything, nothings really going right.

im just so sick of everything.
no im not suicidal at all.
i just feel like crap.
i can't wait to go to collage and move out of this place.
any suggestions - how do i make myself feel better?

to the girl below me..there is always a way to find happiness. well, to start with..friends who treat you like crap are not worth your time!! i think you should try to meet new people or talk to your close friends about how you feel. there will always be problems in life, but if you learn to accept them and let the good things going on in life override the bad..that will help you alot.feeling good about yourself and discovering things you love about yourself may also help. try to get out there and try new things..and even going outside more can help because ive noticed when i just relax outside i tend to feel alot happier. sometimes the most simple things in life are the joys in life..and we're young..weve got so much ahead of us..this is just one portion of your life so if you just try to see the positivity in everything and embrace new oppurtunites you will feel alot better. also try talking to someone you can REALLY TRULY trust, maybe a family member or something..or getting all your feelings out by writing. just keep your head up and know that tons of people love you and care about you and life has so much to offer you.

Q: You know how people say if you have a positive attitude, good things will come your way or whatever? Well yeah it seems like whenever I'm in a good mood and I'm confident, I'm really happy and good things happen to me. But half the time, I'm in a really bad mood and bad things seem to happen to me. It's so annoying. I wish I could be in a good mood all the time instead being in a bad mood half the time. The littlest things put me in a bad mood, too. Like if I get a lot of homework in English class I'm pissed off for the whole day. Argggg. Is there anything I could do to, like, help me get out of a bad mood when I'm in one? I also get really mad at everyone when I'm in a bad mood too lol. Help?

i used to get in bad moods alot too but this year ive been extremely positive and thats made me ALOT ALOT happier. when little things start to bother you, just realize to yourself that LIFE GOES ON and everything happens for a reason. also it helps if you think about things you really love and are looking forward to..and generally just keep your mind off of it and surround yourself with positive things.

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hey all you pretty people out there.my names susan but i love to spell it Soozin..im passionate about helping people and making people laugh and just being weird..i believe that anybody has the power to change the world and love really is all we need. ask me anything you want i love this site its kickass!