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what do i tell him?
ok the people involved here are me and my bf (we've been going out a long time), and tom and cindy (who've been going out like 4 weeks).
well tom and my bf just went on a vacation together. my bf called me like 5 times a day and said how much he loved me and missed me, etc. (he's sooo sweet!).
well halfway though the vacation, i talked to cindy. she was all sad because she hadn't heard from tom at all. so i told my bf, and he told tom that he should call cindy. so tom started calling her, and i think he was trying to act like my bf, saying all this nice stuff to her.
well as soon as they got back, cindy dumped tom. he was really heartbroken and asked me find out why. she told me it was because he was being too clingy and saying that he loved her when they'd only been going out a few weeks.
now i feel terrible!! like its my fault. and i dont know what to tell tom. hes sooo upset hes like crying and everything. he was just trying to do what he thought she wanted, and taking the example of me and my bf. im dreading talking to him cuz i dont know what to say that wont make him feel worse. plus, i just found out that cindy started going out with another guy like 3 hours after she dumped tom. i dont want to have to tell him that either!!
what can i tell him that wont make him feel terrible?
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Are you sure she wasn't lying cause no-one dumps there boyfriend because he tells her how much he loves her and then goes out with another guy in 3 hours,you sound like an awsome friend,but he needs to know because his thinking he has done something terribly wrong which he hasn't he needs to know what type of girl she really is so he can get over her.
If he gets over her and then you tell him the truth because lies always come out and we all know that and if he finds out you knew without telling him wheres that gonna leave you ?
Tell him he just needs to move on she obviously wasn't girlfriend material from what you have told us because she said she wanted her boyfriend to call and he did and he told her how much he loved her and missed her even though it was similar to what your boyfriend said but maybe he really did lover her.
xoxo mwa Much love
try talking to him
And get your boyfriend to talk to him aswell
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You should tell her first that tom was not trying to be clingy and that she should give him another chance.
AND then you should tell tom that he needs to be hisself and not try to be someone else. And tell him that is the reason she left him. Because In the end thats what is was. Its nowhere near your fault. You didnt tell him what to say you just told him to call.
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Your friend is probably saying he was to full on as a reason for dumping him. If she really liked him then why would she have dumped him and why would she date someone so soon afterwards? This guy deserves better anyways no offence to your friend. Its not your fault, she was upset he wasnt calling her so he calls her and she dumps him. You have to be honest with him and say that she said he was being to clingy and is now dating another guy. Its not your fault ok its hers. He will get better sooner or later and move on.
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first of all, its not your fault! you were just being a good friend and you didnt know he was gonna say all that to her. well youre gonna have to tell him the truth about the reason..but there are ways you can word it where he wont feel as bad. you could say "well, i think it was a little much for her when you told her you loved her since yall had only been going out a few weeks..but its not your fault..you didnt know and you were trying to be nice and i think it was really nice of you that you were trying to make her feel good..you'll find somebody better..cheer up!" something like that would be the easiest way to put it..just let him know that he should feel good about himself for being a really nice guy and that it probably wasnt meant to be and he should just enjoy life..and as far as telling him about her going out with another guy 3 hours after dumping him( which is pretty wrong of her,no offense)..its not necessary to tell him that but then again hes gonna find out but by then he may be feeling better so i'd hold off on talking about that until he brings it up and then just try to make him feel good about himself. hope i helped!
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