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17/f
I'm happy with him. I am. But there are times where I just cry. He confuses me. Before he was so sure about his feelings for me, now I'm confused on what he's thinking. He says, he "hopes" he can stay with me. And he's "trying" to keep his feelings for me. Before he was trying to break up with me because apparently I was "getting in the way of his dreams". He did not exactly say those words, but he did also say he wanted more "freedom". At the end he was having a hard time letting me go, so he decided to stay with me and try to cope with everything. His dream was to be a surgeon. So, I tried supporting him. We studied together, we increased our study time, we didn't see each other as much. Now, he decided he's not sure what he wants to do. He wants to take time and "discover" himself. He dropped his classes, since I'm doing college and high school classes, I'm taking 27 credit hours including high school. School is the only place I mainly get to see him. He wants to work 2 different jobs. One at T-Mobile, another one is at the orthodontist office. He says that he hates it when he makes me cry, he feels like dying. Whenever I cry, he feels as if I deserve better. I wanted him to clarify to me how he felt, if he still believes in us, and what is he thinking now. He says he still loves me, he still believes in us, he just hates making me cry. He called himself selfish and unbalanced, and that's what makes him worry about hurting me
I just wonder why doesn't he just think about his actions or whatsover? Or maybe I'm just being selfish. I don't know exactly, first he wanted me to cope with him studying and everything, I did it. My friends don't understand what he means by "getting his dream", because I was there to support him. I don't know what to do. I'm tired of feeling sad, I'm tired of hearing him say, "I hope we will" or this and that. He still confuses me, he makes it seem like he's losing feelings for me and that he doesn't believe in us anymore, it makes me lose hope. But he says he isn't... I don't know what to do. Help? Advice? (link)
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It's a hard time of life - it's really too early in life for the two you to make a life long commitment to each other... you have college immediately ahead of you, and he is clearly planning on much more education ahead of him...
So when you say that he is saying "I hope we can still be together." I'm not sure what you want to hear him saying. What do you want? To hear him making plans for a life together? That seems a bit unrealistic.
Ask him about his feelings for you. Tell him what you'd like out of the relationship, and ask him what he'd like. It could be that you want something similar... But it's possible you may have different goals. Talking it out will be probably be good for both of you.
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I haven't had a boyfriend since the 6th grade and i want one now, i feel like its my turn especially since im a freshman in high school.it sucks to see other girls with guys and i feel like im the only one without a boyfriend i feel lonely my self esteem is low because i dont have a boyfriend im not as confident about myself what do i do (link)
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Self esteem is about how you view yourself,not about how you view yourself with a boyfriend.
You are of value and worth all by yourself, and until you can appreciate that, you are not in position for a boyfriend.
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can you get pregnant from precum even if he just rubs it against the outside of your vagina and doesn't penetrate you? (link)
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Yes.
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My second toe isn't longer than my big toe, and neither is my middle (or third) toe. They are both shorter than the big toe. My cousin and all of her family members have long second toes. She said my toes aren't formed right since the second once is shorter. Am I going to have problems because my second toe is shorter, is there any way to fix this, and how abnormal is this trait? thanks (link)
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There's nothing to be fixed. Foot size, shape and toe length are determined by heredity.
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So, I've been on birth control for almost two years now and never had a problem with it. My boyfriend and I don't use protection because of my BC. I know its not 100%, but we use the pull out method. Recently we've stopped doing that every once in awhile. What are the chances of me getting pregnant with/without the pull out method? (link)
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The withdrawal method is not a very strong method of birth control. Mostly because sperm are present
in the pre-ejaculation fluid that is released soon as a penis is erect.
If you take the bc pill at the same time every day, that's a very effective method, but does nothing to prevent herpes, warts or many other STDs. A condem would help with that.
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15/f
i was talking to my boyfriend and we started talking about sex (we were sending dirty messages etc. no pix). a little while later we started talking about our future and he said that he wanted to have sex for real and asked how i felt about it. i told him i wanted to stay a virgin and he told me that hurt his feelings and he got mad. then i got mad at him for thinking i would actually just hop in bed with him and we got into a fight. he said he was sorry but im still mad. what do i do? (link)
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It's very clear that you and this guy do not share some core values. Time to end the relationship. You can not have an ongoing relationship when you both do not agree about important issue. This is an important issue. Stand your ground.
You might enjoy reading this essay -
http://www.pureintimacy.org/piArticles/A000000628.cfm
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Why does it hurt more to take out a tampon when it hasn't soaked up enough blood?? (link)
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Friction.
When a tampon is that dry, it doesn't really need to come out.
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My chem professor wants us to find a scene from a movie, tv show, novel, etc. that could be used to teach chemistry. He says it cannot be published or presented and must be unknown to him. Is there any abstract references anyone can think of that he might not have heard of? If not just give me any references, he says that if he's heard of it he'll just give us an extension. (link)
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The Man in the White Suit
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22/F
Okay, so the guy I like is 27/M. He is a teacher at the school I work at. I've known him for a year +. I know more about him than he probably knows about me (because he and the teacher I work with are like best friends, so I get a inside scoop here and there). Anyhow, I don't know if the man likes me. He knows I like him because a co-worker told him. She said that you could tell by his expression that he was "thinking". He did this because she asked him if he liked the two other teachers that liked him and he flat out said no, but when she asked him about me, he said "I have to holler at her..." (I don't know what that means).
So anyhow, at work we'd to make eachothers presence known. Like one day he came into my class and shut off the lights when I wasn't paying attention, and once he wrote me note calling me a stranger and asking me where I am when he comes by to visit my classroom. He's even poked me on facebook if that makes any difference.
I've wrote him a note tellin him how much the students love him because the sups are on his case and he's too the point of quitting so I figured it would be a nice gesture. He later thanked me for the note and whatnot.
But anyhow, I can honestly say that we probably to shy people. He hasn't been in a relationship for years (maybe 5-6 years) and I've basically been single for 4 years. So this dating this is probably new to the both of us... I just want to know if he is even worth pursuing... what if he isn't interested in me at all?
I mean I accept him for who he is flaws and all. (Cause the students are QUICK to point out his flaws, but those flaws attact me to him more.)
Something about him different. I'm not chasing after him or anything. Lol I'm not tryin to look desparate or anything.
So the question is... are the signs there? What could possibly be going on in his head? (link)
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The only way to know is to talk to the man...
Stop by someday after school and see if he would like to join you at a museum or seasonal fair = have something specific in mind. (because those kinds of events allow lots if time for talking)
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Ok, so i have been with this boy for a year and a half now. We have known each other for going on five years, we met when we were 17. He had a girl at the time and he cheated on her with me, but he ended up staying with her... We stopped talking and met back up.. We got together april 10th of last year, everytging was good until two weeks ago i went to visit my family. came back and did laundry and found purple panties in his clothes what do i do? (link)
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Well, you knew what he was when you got involved with him - a cheater.
Return the purple panties to him and see him no more.
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Hi, my boyfriend & I have been together for about 6 months now. I'm 21 & he is 28. He is currently living in an apartment by himself, I am living in a townhouse with two of my girlfriends. He told me the other day that he wants to move forward in our relationship by us moving in together. I feel that we are ready, but I've seen a lot of my friends relationships fail when they moved in together too soon. Do you think that us moving in together this far into our relationship is too soon? My mom feels that we should be married before we move in together. I kind of agree with her, but I also feel like living in the same house/apartment with my boyfriend would be amazing! I just need some opinions... THANK YOU :) (link)
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Your mother is a wise woman.
If he thinks the relationship should move further, he should make the move to one knee.
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My boyfriends ex girl friend will sometimes text my boyfriend and tell him that she wishes things would have worked out differently in their relationship & that she misses him. She'll also tell him that he isn't truly happy with me & that he's just using me as a rebound. He won't change his number due to work reasons, and he keeps telling her that she needs to stop texting. This is really upsetting me because I dont want him to listen to her & start thinking that he really isnt happy with me & he'll take her back. He says that he would never do that to me & I believe him. Its just the fact... Should I confront her myself or leave it to him to handle? (link)
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Isn't he able to block her calls and texts?
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Hi, Ive broken up with my boyfriend recently (about 2 months ago) and im having a really hard time dealing with it. He has a drinking problem and is not very "trustworthy" when it comes to faithfulness. Of course he's begged for second (and third) chances, all which ive given to him, and now he wants another one. Im being firm by saying no, and now he is turning it around on me saying he's "tried" and thats it. All he ever wants to do is "SAY" he's sorry. He never wants to "DO" anything to show me. He said nothing he ever says is good enough for me. Please help :( (link)
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You've made a good decision.
The hard part is going to be sticking with it.
You know what a future with him is going to look like - you've already seen it. You owe it to yourself to stay far away from him.
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TMI ALERT | TMI Alert | TMI Alert
When I was a kid I guess I was kind of scared of the toilet. It sounds stupid now but my dad had joked about the potty monster and I guess I was just scared. I used to hold my poo in for a very long time to avoid having to stay in the bathroom for awhile.
I'm almost 16 now and I'm not afraid of the toilet but I still hold it in a lot. I go maybe once every week and a half but I have gone as long as 1 whole month without pooping. It's like when I try to go now it just won't come out.
I'm not sure if I should like talk to a doctor about this or what. I guess this isn't normal but I dont know if it's dangerous or harmful to hold poop in. It makes my bowels like hard or something so it's painful. I'm afraid I screwed something up when I was a kid by holding it all the time. I've never seen blood in my stool but it definitely does NOT feel right (link)
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This is not a good thing.
I suggest you see a doctor and discuss what's the best way to change your bowel habits.
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If I feel uncomfortable and irritated down in my genital area, sorta like a a rash feeling.. what should I put on it?
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It could be a yeast infection. Get yourself diagnosed and a doctor can give you a script, or you can get meds over the counter.
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I've noticed that quite frequently when drinking, I get a throbbing headache. It's not too painful, but just irritating.
Bear in mind, that I'll be having one beer, and the headache will kick in towards the end of the beer, and not disappear until a few hours later.
This is something new, and I really don't mean hardcore drinking. Like, one beer or two. That is all. It never used to happen before, and this irritates me, because I enjoy a beer on a Friday night, when out in town and so on.
What could be wrong?
And before anyone lectures me and says "You shouldn't be drinking" 16 is the legal beer-drinking age in Belgium. Google it :) (link)
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Dehydration is frequently the cause of headaches when drinking. I'm not sure that meshes with headaches starting before the of the first drink. Drinking soft drinks or ice water before and in between drinks and see if that helps.
Could be a reaction to yeast.
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Ok well during sex my bf kept calling me his whore and he slapped me accross the face pretty hard so hard it left me a bruce and I had to lie to my dad when he asked me what happened... but I mean he's never acted violent towards me before until now I mean... any advice would be appreciated. (link)
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Get away from him!!!!
He is being use it's done during violent with you!!! Why is that somehow acceptable or a matter of choice just because it's done during sex???
This is not something you ask him not to do! This is something you demand never be done to you again. He will probably become more violent in the future. IMHO, calling you a whore and hitting you crossed a line.
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The topic says it all really! husband has a lady friend that works with him and she is married and in her 50's. Not bad looking for 50 but the fact is she IS MARRIED! We ran into her last night when we took our kids to superkicks she was there with her kid. This woman was all over a guy that was NOT her husband alot of flirting he was playing with her hair giggleing with eachother. If that were my man i wouldnt apprecitate this behavor from her. I told my husband I have lost alot of respect for her she is a disgrace to the married name. I took my vowels seriously and how do I know she is not like that with my man, well his responce you have to trust "ME". okay I do but I dont trust HER. How can she do that knowing she has a man at home. unmoral to me!! I told him as much as he was touching her leg and she was whispering in his ear she has no morals he disagreed with me on all points. What does that mean for him? Does it mean its okay to flirt and touch eachother just cause spouse aint there. How dare her and I cant stop thinking he is defending her cause thats how she acts with him.. I kindly let him know if I EVER see her touch you in a way I should only be able to touch you I will walk my happy ass to her office and give her a piece of my mind. So we agreed to disagree on it all and went to bed!! (link)
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If you would like your husband to consider flirting around, keep doubting and suspecting him and treating him like he's already done it,and in just a little while, you'll be right!
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horoscopes! what are they about. are they even real? because sometimes they seem like they are right and sometimes they dont! and who makes them? thanks (link)
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It's all nonsense, IMHO.
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I have seen my fiance's pic in an adult website. He has a separate desktop & I figured out the password, he looks at porn most every time that I leave the house or will be away for a little bit. I find DVDs & naked pics in my home too. I asked him to stop looking at the movies, he said he likes to hear the noises people make. Said he would stop. I left things be for well over 1yr, we used to have sex daily,I thought I was being paranoid so I started to keep track, some months only 2 times. Then I find accounts opened in June & July at Fling.com, adultfriendfinder, sexinyourcity.com, getiton.com. I accessed his account in fling and utilized my credit card to open his previously sent messages. He has been giving out his number to women and telling them he wants a discreet 1 on 1 or threesome. I did tell him about 4months ago that I seen his birthdate & last name in an adult site...he said it wasnt him & must be an accident. The accounts that he does set up, he states very private info & even posted a pic of him,,,,taken in my fathers backyard on July 4th!! I am very worried about how to approach this with him.....your time & advice are much appreciated. I am reading a book about porn addicts...he seems to fit the bill. But he may just be an arrogant ass constantly needing acknowledgment from women.
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Pack up, get out, get tested for STDs and have nothing more to do with him.
Not only he is addicted to porn, he is trying to (or has already) connected with women in real life. He has lied to you and is behaving in very risky behavior. He is using you.
All men are not like this, and there is no good reason for you to put up with this anymore.
Once he has cleaned up his act for at least a year you can re-evaluate things, but spare yourself heartache and misery in the mean time.
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