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Is it too early?
Hi, my boyfriend & I have been together for about 6 months now. I'm 21 & he is 28. He is currently living in an apartment by himself, I am living in a townhouse with two of my girlfriends. He told me the other day that he wants to move forward in our relationship by us moving in together. I feel that we are ready, but I've seen a lot of my friends relationships fail when they moved in together too soon. Do you think that us moving in together this far into our relationship is too soon? My mom feels that we should be married before we move in together. I kind of agree with her, but I also feel like living in the same house/apartment with my boyfriend would be amazing! I just need some opinions... THANK YOU :)
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if it feels like the right time for you then i think you should go for it you dont now until you try it and learn every one is diffrent and it is up to you and your boyfriend to make that move.
i think it is best to find out if you both can live together befor you get married.
in the long run i think it would be better for you both.
good luck :)
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Your mother is a wise woman.
If he thinks the relationship should move further, he should make the move to one knee.
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You're 21. You're an adult and can do what you want... I will say this and leave it at that...
You know all those nights you spend with your girlfriends staying up, maybe going out, and doing whatever you want? They will be fewer and far between.
Don't get me wrong, I'm sure the two of you have had a fantastic 6 months together... but think about the last BIG fight you had.. remember the one where you went home really mad, and didn't talk to him or see him for a few days until he apologized? Now picture being in the same house with nowhere to go... awkward.
Moving in with your main squeeze can sound awesome, and sometimes it is... but the truth is, anything after a while gets complacent. My advice is to live apart for at least a year and ask yourself this question again. The truth is you sound like you have the perfect setup now, you live with two of your girlfriends, and your boyfriend has his own apartment you can spend private time with when you want.
Hold onto that as long as you can girl... before you know it you're gonna be sharing bank accounts, free time and everything else, this can wait awhile.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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i say dont move in wait because rushing things cant mess it all up just start by sleeping over and staying there and do that for and move your stuff in little by litte and just see if he has a problem with your things being there and if all goes well then i would move in after a little bit
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Personally i think 6 months is to early. I think you should be dating AT LEAST a year, because you need to get past the honeymoon phase before you start moving in with each other. If you can last past that point, then you 2 might have a chance.
Moving in with someone is a huge step though. Your going to see every little thing that person DOESNT want you to see. There nasty habits, and there going to see your nasty habits. Your going to know whenever there not home and when they are. Its really hard believe me.
I would wait a bit. You said it yourself you dont really think its appropriate before you get married anyway.
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