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a relationship that i cant seem to let go of.
Hi, Ive broken up with my boyfriend recently (about 2 months ago) and im having a really hard time dealing with it. He has a drinking problem and is not very "trustworthy" when it comes to faithfulness. Of course he's begged for second (and third) chances, all which ive given to him, and now he wants another one. Im being firm by saying no, and now he is turning it around on me saying he's "tried" and thats it. All he ever wants to do is "SAY" he's sorry. He never wants to "DO" anything to show me. He said nothing he ever says is good enough for me. Please help :(
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Okay now sweety this is really hard to say because my sister's ex-boyfriend broke up with her on valentines day and she cried for 5 weeks straight she got de-hydrated and if your ex wants another chance dont give him one sorry to say but dont give him one.
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Well love, lets put it this way... he's a dirtbag and you deserve way better. I understand that it's hard to let go, even if they have treated you badly. It is going to take time to get over him completely, but don't give him another chance, and maybe not talking to him would be helpful.
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You've already given him chances. Yes, forgive him. But don't take this guy back. You've already made your decision and if he is not trustworthy, he's not trustworthy. You already answered your question. Don't deal with him anymore, you deserve way better. You know when it's time to let go. :)
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Hun it is not your fault and dont let him abuse you by telling you it is your fault. You have gave him chances and he didnt want to grow up enough to respect you. I dont know you but any girl whos man treats them like that deserves better than that. Hang in there. Stay firm. Hell get the picture and leave you alone and honestly if he doesnt id fill a harsment report with the police. because its not going to be easy for you to move on with him harassing you.
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You've made a good decision.
The hard part is going to be sticking with it.
You know what a future with him is going to look like - you've already seen it. You owe it to yourself to stay far away from him.
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Awh, I TOTALLY understand whats going on. You feel attached to him, and you dont want to let him go, but in your heart, you know its the right thing to do. Go with your gut and everything will work out fine. And obviously, he doesnt deserve you, so let him go and shoot for the stars! But I understand that its easier said than done. Good luck!! :)
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Look it's not that nothing he says is good enough. It's he isn't good enough.
It sucks breaking up. I dig it. Being alone after you've been with someone takes getting used to, especially when they keep bugging you or trying to turn the tables on you.
There comes a time though, when you start thinking about yourself. You have a right to decide what job you want to work in, what college you want to go to, who your friends are... and especially who you wake up to.
If your dude is a non functioning drunk (some of us are charming when we drink) and had a problem being faithful to you, it sounds like this is not much to think on.
Be happy you are through with him. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Make a list of everything he has ever done wrong, every big fight you had. Take it out and read it whenever you have to get in the right mindframe to deal with it.
Your strong. You can do it.
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Seems to me like you've answered your own question. You've given him MORE than enough chances, and he keeps messing up. Hes a user. The more someone says they are sorry, the less they mean it.
I would just move on from this boy. Find someone else to spend time with. You'll find that there are much better guys out there, who will want to treat you well.
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