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does sex hurt (link)
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There are so many things that vary in the question? Is it yur first time? Size? Emotion? All these things do different things. It may depending how you do it or it may not we are all different as humans so your answer is it can sometimes depending on your variables. For some they say their 1st time having sex hurts.
Hope I helped :)
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I know most people just say that everyone is pretty but seriously, am I ugly? If you say that I am it's ok because I don't really care but I just want to know.
My hair is a little below my shoulder and it's light brown with blond highlights. My eyes are blue like the sea. I have really long eye lashes with settle blong highlights in them. I was born with it. I am really pale and have a lot of freckles but not so many where it looks creepy. I have a small amount of acne in one spot on my forehead and I never wear makeup. My check are a little chubby but not a lot to where I look fat or something...I would have out a picture of myself on here but didn't want to....And I know it's hard for you to judge when you can't see a picture of me but please try your hardest! Thanks! :D (link)
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Yes you seem more than pretty but beautiful by your description. Stay Beautiful and confident :)
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SO I had a normal breakfast this morning then when I was done I wanted to eat more but didn't have time. I had to go to a violin lesson. Then afterwords I wanted to go home and eat, about 9:30. But my dad wanted to go somewhere. When we got home at 11:30 I ate a doughnut,a LOT of mashed potatoes, a cup of water, a cup of chocolate milk, 2 beets, spagetti, and a ton of carmel. I think thats it. I'm usually very hungry but not this hungry. I want to eat more but I dont want to get sick from so much food...Is it just a growth spurt? Im 13/f (link)
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You may be having a growth spurt as at 13 year body is growing and needs good nutrition. You are gojng through puberty where this may hapen more and more so dont worry about it, it's ur hormones changing as try to eat healthy foods :)
Hope I helped
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Hey 13/F. There is this boy in my class we became best friends and now he ignores me on bbm but chat with me in class. He is not mad at me. And he is not busy do j think he likes me? I asked him whay he ignores me then he just said I don't know. I really catch his eyes a lot looking at me. And then he smiles. Does he like me? (link)
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It's possible he does but you can never be sure till someone tells you. As most the time when a guy likes you he will do all these things:
Tease you
Stare at you
Try and tap you on the arm or other places
Smile at you
pretend he doesnt like you
try to end up next to you in everything
Talk about you to his friends
Talk to you a lot
Tell you that you're really pretty (only if he's not the shy type)
So he may you never know ;)
Good luck and I hope Ihelped
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i dont want to break up with him i love him so much but he has been flirting with another girl well actually like 2 girls and he wouldnt let me read through his texts so its like he is hiding something from me i cant take it anymore what should i say? (link)
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Always talk to the person you have a problem with. If you feel he's cheating on you, dump him. He's obviously hiding something so find out what it is. Spy.
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So here's the deal, I started going out with my girlfriend of 1 1/2 years my freshman year of college, before I had really experienced much of the classic college life. I care about my girlfriend and I want her to be happy but she pretty much dominates my entire social life. Pretty much whenever I'm not in class or studying I'm with her. We get into really stressful fights fairly frequently and sometimes I feel like I may die at the early age of 45 because of this stress. Another thing is that I had a lot of plans for myself post-college. Like, I was going to go teach English abroad in Japan for a year or two before I settled down to getting a real job. It looks like I wont be able to do any of that stuff because I've got my girlfriend holding me back.
Basically what I'm asking here is, would I be wrong for breaking up with her, even though I know it will completely devastate her? I'm only 19 and she already is expecting me to commit to her for life. Am I an asshole for wanting to move on? (link)
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If I were in this place I would down right brake up with her. If you don't want her doing this and not to be with her every second and having to then her invading and not letting you do what you want to dump her! You still have a few years to wait to get married enjoy them. She's holding you back and most guys in this situation would dump her. So dump her and if she asks why tell her cause every girl deserves to know why. Do what's right.
Good luck
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I want to learn how to jump horses but I don't know which is the best jumping horse?
I have seen horses jumping on T.V. and at the local rodeo, and I don't want to sound ignorant, but except for the color and how tall they are, they all look the same to me! :-(
I know NOTHING about horse breeds or what the best breed of horse for jumping might be, so can any of you point me in the right direction and tell me what I need to know?
Do any of you own any of these, or know of a special place that has jumping horses for sale?
Thank you! (link)
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Each horse is different like it's age, color, kind, name, strengh, weakness, smartness or any of those charicteristics as maybe get into this farther and go to a place where they race horses and teach you to ride them then after you can ride a horse adopt one if you like it enough. Do some research on horses like what kinds are most active, what they eat, how they react.Hope you get the horse :)
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My husband has started changing ever since he found out of my difficulty in having children. He tells me how he detested me company, how it would be good for me to pay him just to be with him. Everyday is a hurtful humiliation from him to me. I like to save money when ever I can and he wants it all. When I refuse to give what he wants he starts belittling me by telling me to compare myself to his good looks. And how he deserves better. I love my husband and would like us to work, I'm tired of these hurtful comments and not bring able to have my husband as a dependable partner. I prefer trying to make it work before divorce. Please advice. (link)
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This is rude for him to this. He may be doing it because he feels scared or is mad. You just need to walk away from this and IGNORE it. Tell him how you feel and talk to him as no one diserves this obnoxious bhavior. Apparently all we can d is ignore it and talk about it and if he doesn't stop get a friend to talk to him.
Sorry and I hope he stops and you find peace and joy to be with your kids :)
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I need to know the least painful way ic ould kill myself. I've thought about this for 16 years now. I dont want help. Just..please tell me how to kill myself in a painless way. (link)
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If you don't want to get help the least painful way is to go see a therapist and get help. Please do not kill your self because you only live once and your parents, friends and surroundings will all be left in worry and pain. Have you thought about how this could harm you and your family? If your going to die at least do it a better way i mean dying of old age is better than suicide. It kills me to know you want to kill you self please talk to your parents, a school counselor or someone you trust you need help. If you kill your self even I will miss you i've had these thoughs but think, where do we really go? If you need someone to talk to you can talk to me anytime and write me on advicanators. Just dont kill your self.
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i am a bit stressed out because for the last week or so i started bleeding(clear, bright, red blood, not period color blood)
I dont know what the problem may be, every time i poop it happens. no abdominal cramps
is there something wrong with me?
im not on any birth control (link)
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You may as what they called it "popped yur cherry" as you or we are not doctors we are not sure what is really going on so my advice is to go see a doctor.
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How to know if my cherry is popped/hymen is torn?
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You will see blood that is not from your period. As the amount is different for all women you may exxperience a little blood or a lot. You could pop you cherry by maturbating, having sex, fingering or any sexual stuff as that. As it is not a big deal though
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i want to be good at sexting!give me hints! (link)
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Be flirtasious as if you are describing everything in juicy details.
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So some nights like tonight I get really tired. I am really tired now because I am getting over the flu and went back to school today, and it wore me out. I fell asleep on the bus home and that NEVER happens! Anyway, I have a problem where at night, even if I am tired, I don't want to go to bed. I usually sleep on my floor because I hate beds and blankets. My mom hates me for it and sometimes I get in trouble. Even if I don't have anything to do, I keep myself up all night or until I can't stay up any longer just because I don't want to fall asleep! How can I fix this? Thanks! :) (link)
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I have the Same, EXACT problem where your tired and you can't sleep and don't want to. What helps me is to read or play 20 questions and it wares you out I usally fall asleep in cars though where it's bumpy and it rocks you to be. Another thing is I play this game where I can't open my eyes and ask my self qustions like "what am i going to do tomoor or what if" tje only time where i can fall asleep easily though if I have been up 48 hours before that other wise try reading or the other things I said. Hope this helps :)
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how do u say good bye to the guy who likes u
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To say goodbye you show goodbye by showing them you're moving on
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Are there any products or anything else to make my feet smaller? Except for surgery (link)
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No there's not, sorry. Making your feet smaller though could lead to problems with your waking or posture though which could affect your daily life. We all come in different shapes, sizes for everything as people with tiny feet may want big feet so be happy with the kind of feet you have and that you have disability with walking. We use our feet for walking so we can get places and so it doesn't matter even what size your feet are. As you said "except for surgery" since there is no other way I don't suggest surgery but you can talk to a doctor if you would like as they will tell you that feet are for walking.
Hope I helped and answered your question :)
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Ok so today I made I huge discovery! I found out why I am so shy! But I need your help to overcome it. I think the reason is that I want to be who others want me to be, in other words, I want everyone to like me and be my friend. So until I know them well enough, I am shy! This doesn't only effect my friendships but it effects my relationships. I have had three relationships and they all went badly because of me...mostly. I close up and only text them, I get scared to talk to them in real life! Then they get tired of that and they break up with me. I am SUPER DUPER UBER determined to stop that! But how??????? I am sick of sitting around being the shy girl who nobody knows! I mean you can kinda see my personalitly through this right? Am I awesome? Or just annoying?!? IDK! But if I suddenly become out there and outgoing then they will all be like, whoa your weird...you are supposed to be quiet! UGH! Being held down to just the people I know now and my family is boring! How do I become "out there"? ...lol... I don't have good parents so I have NO CLUE what a real good relationship looks like so I need to know that too. Because that is why I hide in a nut whilst in relationships...I think thats it. Thanks for helping me! :D Do you think I have a personality that most people would like? Yea that's it ok now BYE!!! btw I am 13 years old... (link)
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Hey so I am your age as well and currently in a realationship with this guy who says he likes me because I am cute, have a sense of humor, funny, athletic and smart and out going. I try to be funny around people they think what they want to tink but who cares what other people think, they're not you. You just have to take the good withe the bad, smile with sad love what you got and remember what you had, B the person you want to be and are. Get out there and show people your otherside like humor your creativity and remember no matter how hard you try to prevent this people will judge you on looks, and personality for the rest of your life so screw them because you are beautiful in every single way!
Hope I helped oh and btw I think you seem the fun type like whrre people would want to be with you. You just got pop out of your shell :) But we're all different
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I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month and he wants to finger me. I'm going to let him, but i don't know what to do before he starts fingering me or whilst he's fingering me. And what feels best? I'm nearly 14 (link)
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First off you don't have to do a certain thing first and all women have their opinions of what feels best like I may like something you dont or flipped. As in let him do the job though you are young you really don't have to let him do thisyet if you're not sure on what to do.
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im 14 standing at 5/8 and is my 7 inch by 2 1/2 penis big for my size (link)
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Some people may consider this large but size doesn't matter.
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Scary dream?!?! About Devil!?!!?!..?
. I'm a christian and believe in god. I have had dreams about the devil. I had a dream that I was marrying the devil once and it scared the crap out of me and I also had a dream that I was in hell and I and another were my house was burning and I could not move and a voice told me I was going to hell and a devil and all these people talking about hell. Then I was with my mom dad and sister in a town and they all died. I was on the ground and people ran around and fire was everywhere. I woke up scared. I've had these dreams a couple of nights in a row and I've even prayed before I slept. Why am I having these dreams? Help? (link)
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As of today we are not sure why we have nightmares it could be a lot of reasons but we are known to dream of stuff we dont think about during the day. If it makes you feel better this has happened to me and if you want and feel comforatble you can talk with a family member or a close family friend or friend.
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Hey, I'm female, almost 22 years old, and I'm 5 feet. I have a pretty fast metabolism and I've always been pretty petite. I've been complimented on my stomach a lot because it's usually really flat and just looks like it's in good shape.. well lately it hasn't been that way. For the past few weeks I've been extremely bloated. I thought maybe it was a backed up menstrual cycle or I was just gaining weight because I've been eating a lot of junk food, but it just persists even though i've been trying to eat healthier.
I've also had a lot of gas. It'll just be really random and whenever I'm around people I constantly feel like I have to hold it in.
I was on birth control for 2 years and it never gave me a problem. I have an irregular period without it, but recently I stopped taking it.
I shouldn't be having my period anytime soon, one just recently ended and the bloating has been for awhile anyway so I don't believe it has anything to do with it.
Anyways my stomach has been kinda distended and it actually looks like I'm slightly pregnant (SLIGHTLY) not a lot at all. (and I'm definitely not pregnant)... but I'm just trying to explain how it looks. When I press on my stomach it feels tight and sorta firm like it's not exactly fat but there's something inside of me. I don't know if I'm just "backed up" or if it's something serious or what.
Has this happened to anyone else before? I just want my flat belly back :( and I feel sluggish and no matter what I do it's not going away.
It's not permanent right? please help! (link)
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There could be many reasons from this as I suggest you geet a lot of exercise and eat well. Exercise from 30-2 hours a day is good at your age as in eating vegtibles, fruit, carbs and lots of protein. You may be geting sick and if you feel tired then rest. But since none of us are doctors I sugest you go and see a doctor so they can tell you what's going on and help you het rid of it because there's a slight chance it could be serious.
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