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I think I finally figured out why I am so shy... can you help me?
Ok so today I made I huge discovery! I found out why I am so shy! But I need your help to overcome it. I think the reason is that I want to be who others want me to be, in other words, I want everyone to like me and be my friend. So until I know them well enough, I am shy! This doesn't only effect my friendships but it effects my relationships. I have had three relationships and they all went badly because of me...mostly. I close up and only text them, I get scared to talk to them in real life! Then they get tired of that and they break up with me. I am SUPER DUPER UBER determined to stop that! But how??????? I am sick of sitting around being the shy girl who nobody knows! I mean you can kinda see my personalitly through this right? Am I awesome? Or just annoying?!? IDK! But if I suddenly become out there and outgoing then they will all be like, whoa your weird...you are supposed to be quiet! UGH! Being held down to just the people I know now and my family is boring! How do I become "out there"? ...lol... I don't have good parents so I have NO CLUE what a real good relationship looks like so I need to know that too. Because that is why I hide in a nut whilst in relationships...I think thats it. Thanks for helping me! :D Do you think I have a personality that most people would like? Yea that's it ok now BYE!!! btw I am 13 years old...
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I agree with babymoby and mannequin24 ITs not going to be easy to overcome your shyness becaus it take time i think this will help
-Raise your hand in class more often
-most importantly find these special friends that you can hang out with everyday. Don't try to make every like you that's not going to happan. Trust me someone will still hate you i had the same expiriance.
-Join activities dance and sports
-ignore when someone is talking bad about you
-wear something unique. Colorful
-don't hesitate to ask questions to kids or start mini-conversations.
Follow this steps and i grantee you will fit in and BTW don't be mean or too nice people can take advantage of it. Be clever and laugh at silliest jokes. Be funny. P.S> i am thirteen 2
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I completely understand how you feel. I am just starting to get over my shyness. I just realized that I'm not going to be friends with everybody and not everybody is going to like me. Also, I'm in marching band which has opened me up to a lot of new people. So maybe you could try joining a school club or some other activity where you could meet other people. You sound like a really nice person, I think you should just try to open up more to other people to have better relationships. It's not as easy as it sounds, but I promise it will get better once you are able to be more comfortable around others. If you ever need somebody to talk to, just send me a message. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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Hey so I am your age as well and currently in a realationship with this guy who says he likes me because I am cute, have a sense of humor, funny, athletic and smart and out going. I try to be funny around people they think what they want to tink but who cares what other people think, they're not you. You just have to take the good withe the bad, smile with sad love what you got and remember what you had, B the person you want to be and are. Get out there and show people your otherside like humor your creativity and remember no matter how hard you try to prevent this people will judge you on looks, and personality for the rest of your life so screw them because you are beautiful in every single way!
Hope I helped oh and btw I think you seem the fun type like whrre people would want to be with you. You just got pop out of your shell :) But we're all different
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