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okay this is going to be long but plz i need the help! okay throughout my whole life i have never known my dad because he has been in jail for like ever! he was in jail because he abused my mom and almost killed her. but i really wanna know him...he is out of jail right now and is not allowed to come around me...but recently my dad seen my aunt and told my aunt to tell me he loved me but im not suppose to know this......i only know because i overheard my aunt on the phone with my mom and my mom doesnt want her to tell me and my mom doesnt want me around my dad. 4 years ago...he was out of jail i think and as i was walking home from school my aunt from my dad's side was in a car parked on the street waiting for me to walk by and as i did she started asking me questions like if i remember my dad and stuff. so like my dad or that aunt on my dads side would have had to been like watching me and to know if i still lived there and to know what time i got out from school. then like a year after that happened we had a court date which i went to and my dad never showed up for the court date so my mom has custody of me. now like a couple of months ago i was with my mom in the store and my mom saw my dad in there and told me that was my dad....my dad saw me and my mom but he like turned around and walked the other way as if he didnt want to see me or he was just shocked or scared that i would hate him.....my mom almost went crazy in that store when she saw him she started cussing and everyhting lol. but my question is now does it seem like he wants to see me....and is it wrong for me to want to know him even though he almost killed my mom.....whenever he was in jail he would always send me stuff but my mom never gave me them things...she would throw them away...except she did let me keep this little purse with my name on it....please help me i am so confeused about all of this....it's really hard not having a dad. but is it wrong for me to want to know him and does it seem like he wants to see me? thank you so much (link)
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no. theres nothing wrong at all with that. you're just missing your father figure and even though that sucks..theres nothing you can really do about it...except if your mom got a boyfriend or something. shes probably scared he'll beat you or something which she obviously has good reason to. if i were you i'd just keep on writing letters or whatever you were doing before because it sounds like he's not totally trustworthy and you wouldn't want to go there and have something bad happen to you. it's really for your own safety. im sorry thougt, and i hope you can try to have the best *safest* relationship with your dad as possible.
:)
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I like this girl and we were friends and started talkin alot. Then I found out that she liked me too and i told her i liked her and we remained friends. Well then i had to work and jus some girl i met that day changed my voicemail on my phone. Later that day the girl i like called and heard the voicemail and got really pissed. She thought like i was lieing about things and we werent even going out. Now she wont talk to me! what should i do? (link)
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well you could do the obvious and TELL HER.
if you dont want to do that then print this page with questions/answers on it, give it to her, if shes still pissed then just forget it. if she wont listen than its a sign that shes the jealous type anyway
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ok im 13/f and i really want to have sex and like its like i really need it. its weird cause i like get these erges to do it. is this normal for a 13 year old? (link)
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yea thats definitely normal. obviously, like all the people underneath me said, dont do it. you'll regret it later and your body isnt even done growing so if you have sex you'll totally screw up your body, and also, duh, std's and pregnancy wouldnt exactly be fun either. if you feel like you really need it then.....just masturbate. i'm not saying my opinion on that subject...but if you want sex that bad then just do that so you get the effects without having the risks.
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I was wondering what the chances of pregnancy are in the following scenario:
the male uses a condom and the female has been on birth control for at least 3 years. About halfway through intercourse (well before ejaculation), the first condom breaks. After a few seconds, the male pulls out and uses a new condom. The other condom stays intact. The male also pulled out when ejaculation occured later while using the second condom. The only real worry involves the condom that broke for a few seconds in the middle of intercourse (well before ejaculation). It seems like a very small chance (especially due to the female being on birth control), but was wondering about it to help ease worrying a little, since this has never happened before.
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I'd say the chances are pretty damn slim...but if I were you, I'd still get an at home pregnancy test to make sure.
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I wasnt really sure what catogory this was but this was closest. Im 15/m and have always gotten my hair cut real short. My sister and her friend say long hair on guys is better. What do most girls like best? (link)
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shaggy or short. long hair is disgusting...and it's just weird. it's not the 80s anymore, and unless youre gay you dont have an excuse. it just looks gross because usually guys cant maintain their hair...which makes sense because theyre guys. just stick to something easy.
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I am very scared about having sex and i feel very scared becasue my boyfriend always wants me to "give him head" all the time. and i always tell him i want to wait but all guys wanna have sex with me because i have HUGE tits.
Signed,
Sex?? (link)
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If i were you, i wouldn't do it. you're asking people on an advice website, and it sounds like you're too young and should wait it out. if he's getting anxious about it, you should ask why. it shouldn't be something to rush, it's supposed to be for both of you, and if you aren't comfortable with it then i would just hold off for a while. talk to him about it too, and if he seems to avoid it or get uncomfortable then you definitely shouldn't. if he isn't mature enough to even TALK about sex than he shouldn't be doing it. it also sounds like you're worried that he just want's to have sex based on your looks. that's a horrible reason babe, and you need to wait for a guy who doesn't wan't to have sex just to see you naked.
drop me a question in my inbox if you need anything else.
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ok so im wearing skinny jeans the first day of school and im trying to figure out what shoes go good with them? any suggestions?
p.s-no heals, please. (link)
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ballet style shoes, flats, or flipflops would be cute :)
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Does anybody know of any good (and relatively cheap) hippy/indie/foreign/african/indian clothing stores or even street fairs in the Boston area? thanks. (link)
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The only place I can think of is urban outfitters in fanieul (sp) hall, and although their stuff isn't cheap, it's not too expensive, and if you can find stuff on sale it's a real bargain.
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Some background information.
I am 16, going to be a Junior in High School.
She is 17, maybe 18, and going to be a senior at another High School.
I asked her to a movie, she agreed to go. We went, grabbed some food after, and I dropped her off at home. Now, I saw her today and she just didn't really seem interested in being around me. This got me thinking about what she thought about me, which made me wonder if she thought we were just going as friends. I'm wondering if she thinks we are dating or not. If not, should I just ask her, or is there another way?
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It seems like she just thought you guys went on a date, but nothing serious. If I were you I'd ask her how she felt about you just to make sure. It's better than wondering and potentially doing something that will make you look stupid ;]
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I really need to know about high school. i am soooooo scared about it. in the movies, they make high school seem like hell. i know it won't be like the movies but i think it will be bad. i go to high school in one year for the first time. is it bad? or am i making it seem this bad? thanks! (link)
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its fine. dont worry. i was worried too but its really not a big deal. people will say rude things once in a while if you mess up (older students) but its fine. and movies usually arent like real life anyway so try not to look up to those for advice.
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wellll so. im a girl for starters.
so what should i wear for my drivers liscense becuase like i dont want to wear something that makes the picture look bad. (link)
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well, its just me, but i'd wear clothes
hey, i just answered it how i saw it. how can you work your way onto an online advice website if you cant even get yourself dressed?
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ok, so i am completely in love with this boy for the past 2.5 years. we are on a swim team together and that is the only time we see each other, so everyday. plus meets. these are some of the things he did. what is your opinion, does he like me? (hes really shy)
he stares into my eyes a lot
he layed his head on my lap, of all the girls that were there... but i was the closest cuz i sat next to him
in a game of sharks and minnows he went for me and grabbed me hard by the wrists and kept me underwater instead of forcing me up. then when i pushed off the bottom to get air he asked if i liked his tactics.
he blew on my face when we were lying next to each other at a swim meet
he sometimes "steals" my sunglasses, but not from my face, but he def. know there mine
we went to a dance once, but it was one of those "girls ask the guys". he said well go as friends, but we didnt know each other as well then, and it was a long time ago, but we danced with each other for practicly the whole dance, but he did go dance with this one girl that he went to homecoming with, and who he supposedly used to like... i dont know if he still does but he might
when we were lying next to each other, he moved hand was lying against my forhead on a pillow, then he said sorry i'm punching you in the face, and moved it down towards my nose so it was touching. than he probly felt me breathing on his hand, cuz he asked if his hand smelt good, and i smelled it, and almost kissed it (lol!) and he didnt move it away.
but otherwise we dont talk much, like we never had a conversation, but as i said he is really shy around me. but with other girls he is fine, but with the girl he supposedly might like he talks alot to her, but not as much as he used to. now there just friends. but she doesnt like him.
so ya based everything that i told you, does he like me? and how should i give him hints that i REALLY like him without scaring him?
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AH!!!!!! lol he totally likes you. its so hard to see for yourself because nobody can ever see themselves clearly but daaaaaamn. it sounds like he likes you and is just waiting for you to do something or make a move. hes probably just shy or whatever. i liked this guy for 2 years and never did anything and i wish i did because now that i look back on it, it's so obvious he did like me. you have to just go for it, because you wouldnt want to do what i did and look back and think "what if". do it for yourself and your happiness...and just flirt back or do something thats pretty obvious you like him but without saying it. you could laugh and look into his eyes and smile, and then look down and look back up again. or if youre eating food together smear some on his nose or something and be all playful...im sure you can think of stuff.
good luck!!
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Okay so I've been homeschooled all my years of school and this fall I'm starting college, meaning for the first time in my life I'm going to be taught by someone other than myself/my mother. I'm really nervous...any advice on how to interact with the professors? Like I have no problem with getting to know other people and stuff...just like teachers and stuff make me nervous. Help? (link)
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hey
well for starters, even though its going to be hard, just try to not be nervous. when you meet people act friendly, and smile a lot. i'm sure that there will be other people in your situation too, so you wont be totally alone there. when you go to class and you feel nervous just try to explain to your teachers that you were homeschooled and you arent exactly sure about the curriculum, expectations, etc. im sure depending on the teacher, they'll understand to a certain degree. you might get that one bitchy teacher, but usually there are nice ones too! i can understand being nervous in a new school, because even though i;ve been to public school i have been the new kid twice and it's not fun. you can be shy to a certain extent but try not to be too shy because then people might think it'll be too hard to try and connect with you, and just wont bother. good luck though and i hope you have fun at college and meet new people!
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Since getting married, my husband and I make love around twice a week but i have a secret. I can't enjoy it cos it hurts, like, a LOT. Weve tried lubes and i always get turned on so its not cos of that but i dont know what to do. Its ruining our sex life and thats tough cos were trying for a baby.
Please can someone help us? Im so worried about this. I just want it to feel good but it hurts so much that it makes me sore for days afterwards. Please, any advice for us! (link)
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i would go to the doctor. also talk to your husband about it, since you guys are married i hope you feel close enough to eachother to speak to eachother about things like that. maybe he is just well endowed and youre vagina just needs getting used to it. after you do it wait until it stops hurting than maybe try again, you shouldnt keep having sex if it still hurts because you could be damaging yourself and that would be bad.
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well the school year is about to start up and so that also means that sports are too! i'm gonna be a sophmore and i play volleyball and i'm really excited and nervous about tryouts. is there any kind of things i can do before try outs to kind of calm myself down and give myself reassurance talks that i know i can do it and stuff. because i'm so scared that i'm almost set on that i'll be on a lower team than my friends. i think i really need a selfconfidence boost but i'm scared of having one and then not making the team. HELP! haha thanks! (link)
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well what helps me is to absolutely not think about it until youre actually up there doing it.
if you worry about it and keep dwelling on it then it'll just scare the shit out you! maybe listen to your cd player or whatever really loud so you cant even think and just try not to concentrate on it
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i'm a female, 15. and i have some girl friends around my same age that have already lost their virginity. me and my boyfriend almost had sex too but i said no.. but i think the only reason was because i know he's had sex before w/ this other girl and that kind of made me uncomfortable for different reasons. how do i know when i'm completely ready for sex? and how long is a good time to wait to have sex with my boyfriend? and is 15 way to young to lose your virginity? and wow that was a lot of questions :) haha thanks. (link)
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you are obviously not ready to have sex if youre asking strangers on an advice website! :)
he's had sex with other girls so he's obviously going to have high expectations for you, and if youre not ready for that than you need to make that clear to him so he doesnt tryto push you further than you are comfortable.
personally i think 15 is too young to have sex but its really not up to me. i think when youre ready, you'll just know it. you wont have any questions and it'll just feel natural, and with all this worring you have it seems that you should wait some more time.
good luck babe
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15/f
me and my friend fight all the time. and it is usally over very stupid things. and i am the one who always trys to make things up between us. and i have known him since i was in second grade. and now we are in a fight yet again. he got mad because i told him that i didnt think he cared about me and he was like blah blah blah dont talk to me and he blocked me. and i havent talked to him since then. And he deleted me as a friend on myspace. which isnt shocking. So my question is that should i try and fix things? or should i just not try and see if he trys and if he doesnt just give up on this friendship.
thanks in advance :)
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well he sounds really immature to me. he blocked you, deleted you off myspace, and told you not to talk to him because you "told him that i didnt think he cared about me". babe, he doesnt seem worth it if hes going to spaz out about the teeniest things. especially if hes 15. you need to talk to him in person, so he cant somehow block you, and tell him that he really needs to start shaping up because its ruining your friendship, and he doesnt seem to care but you do. tell him that you need a break or something, because he doesnt seem like a great friend and you deserve better.
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ok so i have a passion for dancing. i loveee it. i love to be on stage. i love to perform. i've done sports all of my life and i'm about to be a senior and i've never taken a jazz/ballet class. i regret it a lot. i know if i had started dance earlier i could have gone so much further than where i went with sports. i feel so sad ..... like i wasted talent and spent time on things that took me no where.
i started taking hiphop classes....bc that requires no previous dance knowledge....just a little rythym........and a week later they made me a teacher at the studio.
i want to go far and try out for companies and go somewhere.i know i have the stage presence to do it. but every audition, application, or place wants jazz and ballet knowledge. i want to learn jazz and ballet fast and cheap but all of the classes are for 5 year olds and it takes years to learn all i need to know.
does anyone have any advice?!?!?! am i too late!
and if i did learn jazz and ballet where do i go from there?
how do i get noticed?!?! where do i start!?! (link)
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i'd just take the classes anyway...if theyre 5 year olds nobody will make fun of you, and then you can go on doing your passion and furthering your goal. if you think its worth it than do it, than go for it. if its too much and you dont feel like it i guess theres nothing you can do except look for something else, which doesnt seem like you want to. maybe ask for private classes with a tutor?
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I think my small boxer/pit has been stung by a hornet. He went after one on the porch yesterday and this morning there was a big raised bump on his face. I don't know what to do, should I try to find the stinger or call the vet, or just leave it alone. I didn't know if because it swelled it meant he was allergic or what? (link)
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definitely call the vet! it sounds like its swollen so i'd just bring him to the vets because they could probably find the stinger more easily and if he is allergic they have all the medicines right there with them.
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Over the last couple of years my breasts have increased from a C cup to a D cup. I would be okay with this if they weren't fat boobs. I feel like there's a difference. Does anyone know of any excersizes for your chest, pectorals or whatever, so that maybe my breasts will lift some and look better? Thanks! (link)
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you might be able to do some stretches that help, but all boobs are is extra fat so you really cant do much about it. and you have d boobs which mean theyre even bigger! im sure they look fine and youre just self conscious. people with small boobs are self conscious and big boobs too. just be confident and if you got it, flaunt it.
but not in a whoreish way
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