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Anyone know how to get skinner/thinner thighs ?
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Bike riding is really easy and makes your thighs thinner. Just like 30 minutes a day with or without friends really helps, even though it doesn't feel like exercise.
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When my boyfriend fingers me, I like love it and believe me, he enjoys doing it. But sometimes he goes really like... "far up"... and it hurts. So I like want him to stop, but then I don't.
Is there a way to prevent that, or do I have to just tell him to slow down?
Plus, if he's fingering me and that hurts I can't imagine what sex must feel like, which we are planning on doing.
I'm of age, I'm in love, and we've been together for a long time, so there's no advice needed about those issues.
Thanks. (link)
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He's probably fingering you so far up to prepare you for sex..So when you two do have sex its not going to hurt as much. Fingering hurts most girls but it does make sex better when it finally happens. But if you realllly want it to stop hurting just tell him it hurts when he goes so far..he probably doesn't even realize that it hurts, and thinks it feels good for you.
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I'm a 32-year-old female who has been having an affair during the last year with my 59-year-old married boss. I am madly in love with him and divorced my husband eight months ago to marry him.
He promised to divorce his wife, but so far there is no sign of divorce. I'm beginning to think I'm a big fool. What do you think? (link)
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He might be waiting for the right time to divorce her, but the right time may never come. I'm only 16 years old..exactly half your age, and I've never been married, or even in longterm relationship, so I don't know how much I can help you..but I can tell you that even if he's worth waiting around for, the waiting is going to be long and rough. Tell him "its now or never" and don't take "later" for an answer. Be assertive. If he doesn't give in..well I don't know how to tell someone to stop being "madly in love" with someone, but maybe you should get a new job. Seeing him and being around him isn't going to help your situation.
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15/f
both of my best friends feel as though they've been replaced with my new boyfriend. it sucks so much... especially because one of them is being a total hypocrite about it. she also had a new boyfriend before i did and she's head over heels for him. they spend all their time together. everything sucks and the only thing i can do is cut. i wish it wasn't like this. please help. (link)
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If you're important enough to your friends for them to be concerned that you're spending too much time with your boyfriend, then they won't let your boyfriend separate you from them. Maybe you should hang out with all three of them (your boyfriend and your two friends) at the same time so that your friends can get closer to someone who is important to you, and so your boyfriend can see that your friends are a big part of your life, too. And NEVER ditch your friends for your boyfriend. If you made plans with your friends or are hanging out with your friends and your boyfriend calls, you can invite him along, but do notttt ditch your friends. You probably know how it feels, since your other friend spent a lot of time with her boyfriend. Just make sure everyone feels included. Its hard, but not the most difficult thing in the world. Cutting may take your mind off of it, but its not going to solve anything.
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Ok so here it goes. my ex broke up w/ me lets say 3 months ago and we've stayed friends and wat not, but we've chilled like a lot kinda and we've had sex a lot even tho we're not togetha, its more than sex to me cuz im still inlove w/ him but im thinkin its just sex for him and like i wanna be with him so bad and i figure if thats the only way then i dont care, but im just making things worse for myself and i cant let go. i love this kid more than anything but i just dont know wat i should do. any advice? (link)
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This is the usually the case when it comes to friends with benefits..the guy either doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship but still wants sex, or wants to be in a relationship but doesn't know where you stand. You should tell him that having sex with him when you're not together is only going to make your feelings for him stronger, and ask him what you mean to him. If he tells you that you mean a lot to him, and that he misses you, then you should let him know that you want to be in a relationship again (if you really do) If he says that he just wants to be friends with benefits, then just be firm and tell him that you can't do that. I know that you want all that you can get with him because you are in love with him, but if you really want a relationship with him, you have to let him know that he needs to compromise his sexual freedom if he wants to be with you. And if he's not willing to do that, don't let him think he can walk all over you. Find someone new, and respect yourself
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okay my friend is a good friend and nice shes sometimes mean but shes cool but when my friend and me drank alcohol she was laughing a lot and she was funny but then few minutes later she got quite and i asked her why shes quite and she looked at me in a sad face and said nothing but then the tears came up from her and she burst up crying and she keep saying "im sorry for being a bad friend im sorry if i couldnt be there for you i wanna be there for you guys but im sorry if i couldnt" and kept crying and i told her its okay and we comforted her and she slept and when she woke up she was just acting normal and asked us what happened and stuff so what do you think about my friend? what kind of drunk is she? (link)
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Chances are, she won't act the same way every time she drinks. Obviously she had some built up feelings about the way she's been treating you and your friends, even if you and her other friends didn't notice anything wrong. Now that she's got it off her chest, though, she probably has a cleared conscience. A lot of people get emotional sometimes when they drink and cry for no reason, its nothing to worry about. Alcohol just makes you say some things that you want to say but hold yourself back from saying for certain reasons. I've done the same thing when drinking..I was sitting there laughing with my friends and then I just felt like crying so I curled up into a ball and cried and it felt really good. But I wasn't sad or anything, so don't worry about her.
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ok well i always have these sweat marks on my shirts in my underarm area! n i dont stink but it always happens i use deoderant (dove) but it doesnt help with it..??!!!!! i dont know what to do about it school starts on monday and its imbarrassing to have!! any time i raise my arm you can see it.!!!! how can you get rid of it or does anyone no what i can use?!!!! please help!!!!! (link)
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I had the same problem and I tried all different types of deodorants and even certain-dri but none of them worked until I ordered these things called Maxim Sensitive wipes off of the internet. They work really well if you use one on both armpits right before you go to bed and then just use deodorant normally in the morning. I swear, they're amazing.
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What are some places to shop at besides
- department stores
- forever 21
- hollister, ae, aero, abercrombie, etc
- deb
I know thats not really specific, but I'm trying to find some unique places to shop (16/f by the way) for a different wardrobe
PS please don't say check out your local mall, I already have...Thank You! (link)
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All those stores are great, but if you want to find some really original clothing that will make you stand out, check out a local vintage or thrift store. Some of them are gross but some actually have some really cute, original stuff. You can probably look them up in your phone book
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ok, i have clear skin. but you know when you have those problem zits that pop up every now and then? what can i use to make them go away..like something that doesnt take forever. i dont want to have to go out and buy something, but is there anything around the house that i could use besides lemon juice and toothpaste? i have clerasil, but it doesnt seem to work. thanks. (link)
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Well if you have Clearasil, a little trick to making it work better is putting your face up to hot steam. Turn the shower up to really hot and just let the steam seep onto your face, or boil a bowl of water and put your face above it. The steam opens up your pores so when you clean your face with Clearasil or whatever facewash you use, its more effective.
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okay so i'm going to the dentist today to extract [pull out] 2 of my teeth. im really really really scared! what should i expect? does it hurt?
your help is gladly appreciatedd =] (link)
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No, they'll probably give you something that will numb your gums so it won't hurt, but it will taste pretty bad. The stuff that makes your mouth numb is actually really cool because you can poke it for like an hour afterwards and not feel a thing. Its a little scary becaus they use this saw/drill thing to get the teeth out but you really can't feel a thing. Don't worry about it.
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im really curious about sex i want to do it and know what it feels like i dont know what to doi think about it a lot any ideas?? (link)
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First of all, condoms are great for protecting against STDs but they CAN break so before you have sex, even if you're planning on using a condom, I would advise going into a clinic and getting started on birth control pill. If you are under 18, you can get them for free and your parents don't need to know about it. You have to be on them for about 2 weeks before its safe to have sex.
Second of all, you are ready to have sex physically at an early age, but you are only ready to have sex emotionally when you have decided that you want it to become a part of your life, and that you are sure you don't want to be abstinent till marriage.
Sex is different for different girls. For some girls, the first time produces a lot of blood, and for some, none. For some girls, the first time hurts a lot, and for some, it barely hurts at all. The first time doesn't feel as good for girls as it does for boys, so its not something that you want to rush into if you're not sure you're ready.
If you have a steady boyfriend, sex can be a good way to make your relationship closer. However, if you are single, going out and finding a random boy to take your virginity is a huge mistake.
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my hair just naturally flips out at the ends, and its really annoying me. are there any ways i can get rid of it?
i have a straightener and i know i can use that, but it takes so long because my hair is so stubborn and i can never really tell if i did it right.
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It might be something to do with the way your hair was cut. Next time you get a haircut, tell your hairdresser exactly what you want and don't want. Some hairdressers are really into that little flip. If you have wavy hair, the flip might be natural and the best advice I can give is blow drying your hair with a round brush and twirling the brush inwards while you dry it.
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I love using black eyeliner. I dont do it very dark or anything though. However after like not even like 15 minutes its already wearing/comming off and smudging. Any suggestions or any brands that work all day long? No links please! thanks :] (link)
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revlon colorstay or lancome
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14/f
k well me and this guy (16) broke up like 2 weeks ago (cuz of the distance because i had to go back home to another city than which he was in) and three days after the break up i was totally over him i was ok with not being his girlfriend any more. but then a week and a half after it he started talkin to me again we flirted and messed around (nothing sexual...yet) then he tells me he wants to have sex with me again. and i'm all like no we broke up and i don't do that friends with benifites kind of relationships. i mean yea he's a cool and a hott guy but it's like i could easily go out with another guy. i made an effort to let him live his life and then he calls me over the next day when he's kicking it with his friends.
@ this point i know that he knows he not getting any but he still wants to kick it. i know that because we've broken up before and i stuck to that whole non f/b thing. but we flirt more and he kept on holding me like we were still going out. & that night was gonna be my last night seeing him though so i decided maybe i should do it with him one last time and so we did.he was totally shocked.
later that night he visits again and we just talk and hang out and to me it's really confusing!!
i just wanna know where me and this guy stand what kind of relationship we are in and just ur opinions =]
thank you =] (link)
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Maybe you should ask HIM where you stand? Do you mind having a long distance relationship with him? If you want to you should let him know and see if he feels the same way. If you just wanted to mess around with him one more time for some closure, you should tell him that you want to be strictly friends with him. He should respect your decision, and even if you two continue flirting, messing around with him after you decided to just be friends would be confusing for him AND you. When two people have a history..its very tempting to remember the good old times and just give in to temptation..but trust me, it makes things messy. But you should definitely let him know how you feel, and ask what he wants from you.
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Okay, I have various questions about these teas.
Does peppermint tea aid weight loss in any way?
I've been hearing green tea aids weight loss as it increases your metabolism but is this true or is it another money making fact for diet companies?
How much tea is too much?
And which tea am I best drinking 1-3 hours after a meal? Green or peppermint?
Green would be good because of the metabolism thing but peppermint apparantly helps digestion. So which? (link)
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Green tea actually is good for weight loss but it is usually caffeinated so its not great to drink too much after a meal because then you might not be able to sleep and sleeping burns calories, so that would kinda defeat the purpose. I haven't heard anything about peppermint tea actually making you lose weight, but if its good for digestion there's no harm in drinking it. I would stick with a decaf green tea, though. You don't need to buy special green tea that is geared toward weight loss, just any green tea will work. Harney and Sons' is good. Just don't drink it with sugar or milk..if its really too bitter for you a little honey is fine.
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14/f
okay well my cats around 6/7 years old.
i think around a year ago we started get stray cats, so my family would catch them, fix them so they wouldn't have babies, then release them. anyways, my cat, would always sit by the window, watching them. when we feed her in the morning she runs straight back to the window, she doesn't even bother to eat much anymore. shes gotten very bad skin now, and constantly over licks herself. her skin would start breaking out from stress of other cats. [shes an indoor cat] we went to the vet to see about it, awhile ago and they gave us medicine but we couldn't give it to her correctly because we had to basically squirt it in her mouth and she refused it. we dont have the money to see the vet anymore, my dad lost his job and were having a hard time. i dont know what to do, my cats like killing herself =/ & i cant get her away from the window, she usually scratches me. (link)
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Why don't you mix her medicine with her water, or in her food bowl? You could also lock her in a room with no windows..it would be sad but if its seriously killing her she should stay away from the sun. Or you could get or make curtains that you can draw whenever she goes to the window. If she doesn't eat as much, maybe you should switch her foods. If she's on dry food maybe switch her to a diet of dry and canned food. And if you play with her with a feather or yarn or something maybe she will focus her attention from the other cats to you and stay away from the window.
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okay, here i go;
My dad. wow. a very protective guy. The other day one of my verry close guy friend called and we talked for hours. and ever since we've been talking on a daily basis. Were just friends, no more and never will be. I can only see him as a brother. But my dad doesnt 'approve' talking to guys. I mean, well that kind of sounds qweer. its hard to explain. i dont have a strict family at all, but when it comes down to this. WOW. My dad doesnt 'like' me talking to guys. he says ' at this age guys are very dangerous' . blah blah. Yes i know. And im an actually good girl. I rarely do 'bad' stuff . I know whats wrong from right. IM SMART. its just, my dad , ugh. How can i get him to stop and let me talk to my friends?!? its bugging me , and most of all, EMBARASSING ME.
please help! michp appreciated.
depressed Deana (link)
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Just prove to him how responsible you are..and that you can take care of yourself. Maybe if you introduce your guy friends to him, he can feel as if he's keeping a closer eye on you, because he'll know who you're talking to and hanging out with. Just make sure they make a good impression.
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So I really really like this girl, but she has me eating out of her hand. I can't stop, she's a master of manipulation. Or maybe I'm just nuts about her. Any thoughts that could help me out? (link)
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If you realize that you're eating out of the palm of her hand, she probably realizes this too. Use it to your advantage..stop being so "available" to her and she will definitely notice that someone who was always there for her isn't going to stick around and wait any longer..and maybe she'll realize that she wants you around.
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so theres this guy and we've been getting close but my friend said that he wants to hook up with me. or like he wanted to the last time he saw me or whatever. and like its not like i dont want to, its just i havent ever done it before. (just like make out) and so i dont know if i should because i might be bad at it and im scared... help please? (link)
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Practice with your mirror..and when it really happens, tilt your head, close your eyes, don't use too much tongue!!!, and put your hand somewhere like lightly on his ear or on his back or waist. Oh, and don't chew gum beforehand..once you spit gum out it makes your mouth really spitty and taste a little sour. Eat mints if you want your breath to be fresh.
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Well i have a problem im to nice i guess like when someone calls me a slut i get upset easily if someones says im ugly or calls me a bitch or anything i get upset and i cant have a fight with someone cause im too scared im 15/f by the way and when i see someone upset i get upset when i see someone ina fight i cry when someone tells me off i cant stand up to myself and i just start crying i need help :( please any advice that i can become a little bit tougher =[
Anything will do ?
xoxo
Thanks (link)
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Sounds like you have some confidence issues. Learn to love yourself: Dance around in your underwear in front of the mirror..just admire the things you like about yourself. That way when someone calls you ugly, even if you don't stand up to them, y ou know that they're wrong, and you can disagree with them. You know you're not a bitch because you're too nice to fight with anyone. And if you want to become tougher..listen to angry music, take a kickboxing class, and don't be afraid to get angry when someone tries to walk all over you. Hormones might also be what is making you so upset..If you get really moody around your period you might want to try a birth control pill that controls your hormones..even if you are abstinent, certain bc pills are geared toward making girls less moody.
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