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I just dont know?
Ok so here it goes. my ex broke up w/ me lets say 3 months ago and we've stayed friends and wat not, but we've chilled like a lot kinda and we've had sex a lot even tho we're not togetha, its more than sex to me cuz im still inlove w/ him but im thinkin its just sex for him and like i wanna be with him so bad and i figure if thats the only way then i dont care, but im just making things worse for myself and i cant let go. i love this kid more than anything but i just dont know wat i should do. any advice?
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I've been in a similar situation.
He's keeping you around because he still likes you, but is still searching for something else.whatever that is.
The best way to find out if it is just sex to him, is to bring it up and confront him about it and find out what is really going on asap.
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Oh, come on! You know exactly what you 'should' do, you just don't wanna.
You should walk away from a guy who is only using you for sex. You should be angry, hurt and upset, by yourself. You should eat ice cream, watch chick flicks, bitch about him to your friends and sing "I will survive!" at the top of your lungs, like normal, healthy dumped girls do.
You know you are hurting yourself. You know you are suffering. You know this isn't, and never will, improve.
You don't need to gradually let him go. You need to cut him out of your life like a cancerous growth.
You already knew all that. Sorry, no one here can make you do it. You will just get to keep on suffering until you do.
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Your boyfriend is in what is probably to him the best possible situation.
He still gets laid. Regularly.He doesnt have to deal with anything involving relationships so its basically free and clear getting laid.
You are hurting more every day that this goes on.
Stop yourself. Seriously. There are more and better men out there.
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Let's think this over:
- He broke up with you.
- Stayed friends.
- Still sleeps with you.
- Doesn't care for you like that.
- Yet, still sleeps with you.
Uhm, chances are he's just using you for some ass, and you should probably punch him in the face for being a dick & playing around with your head/heart. He's making you think he's interested when he's really not. Kick him in the balls, and then stop while you're ahead. The quicker you drop his ass & stop playing along with his game, the happier you'll be.
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This is the usually the case when it comes to friends with benefits..the guy either doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship but still wants sex, or wants to be in a relationship but doesn't know where you stand. You should tell him that having sex with him when you're not together is only going to make your feelings for him stronger, and ask him what you mean to him. If he tells you that you mean a lot to him, and that he misses you, then you should let him know that you want to be in a relationship again (if you really do) If he says that he just wants to be friends with benefits, then just be firm and tell him that you can't do that. I know that you want all that you can get with him because you are in love with him, but if you really want a relationship with him, you have to let him know that he needs to compromise his sexual freedom if he wants to be with you. And if he's not willing to do that, don't let him think he can walk all over you. Find someone new, and respect yourself
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