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fingering
When my boyfriend fingers me, I like love it and believe me, he enjoys doing it. But sometimes he goes really like... "far up"... and it hurts. So I like want him to stop, but then I don't.
Is there a way to prevent that, or do I have to just tell him to slow down?
Plus, if he's fingering me and that hurts I can't imagine what sex must feel like, which we are planning on doing.
I'm of age, I'm in love, and we've been together for a long time, so there's no advice needed about those issues.
Thanks.
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The penis is made to go into the vagina. The fingers, are not.
It hurts because hes not gentle enough and because fingers interact with a vagina in a different way than the penis does. The fingers can bend and press into areas not usually subject to much pressure during sex. His fingernails might scratch you inside. His fingers arent exactly the shape meant to be inside you (more than one finger is not going to be the same shape/dimensions as a penis)
Tell him to be more gentle and maybe consider checking/filing his finger nails.
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Just tell him to slow down. It will be worth it in the end. I am sure he won't mind if you guys are in love. And yeah sex does hurt for the first time but then you get used to it, so if you keep getting fingered "far up" you will get used to it too.
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Tell him to slow down so he won't get offended or think wrong to think that you don't want him to,that you like things to not go too fast,you can discuss the things you prefer ,that you think are better to avoid the pain that you said.
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He's probably fingering you so far up to prepare you for sex..So when you two do have sex its not going to hurt as much. Fingering hurts most girls but it does make sex better when it finally happens. But if you realllly want it to stop hurting just tell him it hurts when he goes so far..he probably doesn't even realize that it hurts, and thinks it feels good for you.
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just ask him to not go as "far up" into you and be more gentle.
i'm guessing the reason is because you ARE a virgin and haven't had your "cherry" popped [hymen broken] and that's why it hurts.
hope i helped :]
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