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After break that lasted like a year, I'm back.


Um yeah, anyways.
My name is Amanda.
I am 16.
I will try to answer your questions to the best of my ability, but be warned, I am brutally honest.
So I might come off as being mean, but sometimes the truth hurts.
I'm not saying that to be mean, because I'm really a nice person.

And if you plan on sending me a question in my inbox, please use proper English.
I probably will not respond if you type LyKe DiS or IN ALL CAPS or if y00 cnt spl if yur lyfe dpended on it.

Have a nice day! :D

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um....ok im 14 and im pregnant! my mom keeps on asking who the dad is but i dont even know....ive had sex 3 times and with 2 different guys...the first one was some guy i met on the internet about 24 AND the other guy i had sex with twice and he is 49 yrs old....i know there is tests to figure it out....but i dont know where to get that...at a hospital i guess....how do i tell my mom who the guy is anyway is what im asking...its either a 24 yr old or a 49 yr old....what should i do!!!!!???? please help... i will rate with anything

Dude why the hell are you sleeping with a 24 and 49 year old at the age of fourteen!? I have absolutely no sympathy for you. It's your own fault so you should figure this out yourself. If I were you, which I never would be, just get a test or something.

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okay... so my brother always swears at me and calls me fat and ugly and stuff... and he hits, punches, kicks, etc. me all the time. not enough to leave a bruise or anything (occasionally) but i'm not sure if this is considered abuse? also, my mom (my mom doesn't do it a LOT) and my sister both always tell me i'm stupid, ugly, fat, (same as my brother) but they don't hit me unless they're really mad... do you consider this abuse?

Of course this is abuse...Physical and verbal.

Well here's my advice. If one of them happen to hit you again and it DOES leave a mark, go to the police IMMEDIATELY.

Best of luck!

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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At what age is it appropiate for a person to have sex? Ss we get older the standerds seem to be dropping. I just read a question by a thirteen-year-old asking if she should get on "the pill" if she has had sex. Since when is that what is on a 13-year-olds mind?

Just because statistics show what age most people are having sex, it doesn't mean that if you don't have it by that age that you aren't normal. The only reason why you should have sex is because you love the person and you feel ready. So there really is no appropriate age.

I hope I helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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(I just turned 13)
I have a problem...
I slept wit 3 in 2 days time period guyz right?
They r best friends (uh oh) & I really lyk one of em. (They is all about 16)
I dun want him 2 kno I been sleepin wit his two best budz...
I think he lyk me 2--but how do I hide it? Shud I tell him?
I think I be pregnunt wit hiz child. I'm really scurred, my rent would KILL me if dey found out I was sleepin around.
I missed muh period for a month. And da test camed out positive! wut is I gonna do?

Oh yeah you are REAL mature for your age. I mean look at how you talk?...mature my ass!

It's your own fault that you're pregnant. You can keep it or you can get an abortion. Maybe next time you will know NOT to sleep around like a slutty whore.

X_Amanda_X

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hey im a 13/m
what are some jobs i can get to make a little money?
ALL FIVES

Let's see...you can mow the lawn, babysit, do chores around the house, etc..

X_Amanda_X

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hello well i was txing this guy (we are going out but only for like 2 weeks so far) and at the end i put lots of love and he replied love ya too.
now what does the YA mean?? does he not like me enough to say u?? or what i need to know..
xxxthanksxxx

What the heck are you worrying about?! Some people are just too lazy to type "you" so they type "ya" You are panicking over nothing.

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OK well im a 13/f and when I was little and still now if like i do somthing "bad"..or i get my dad mad...he'll like hit me...and like i dont know if thats really considered abuse..well see this all came up because my friend jessica was tellin us how she stayed out late and her dad got really mad and she called her mom and was like i think dads gunna hit me cuz hes really mad but if he lays a hand on me ill call the cops...so that just got me thinkin to myself...is what my dad does considered abuse or just a way of him "punishing" me. And he doesnt just like "spank" me he usually uses a hard stick and hits me a few times and ive gotten a couple of bruises
plz answer
thanks

Oh my God! This is abuse! Do you have any marks or bruises? If you do, go report it! If you don't have any proof of your dad's abusivness then nothing will be done about it and you will keep getting hurt.

Good Luck! =]

X_Amanda_X

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OK, so I've started "seeing" this guy that I ADORE and this weekend he was away. Anyway i went out with friends to this bar everyone goes to, and this drunk guy basically grabbed me and starts making out with me! I told him no, but he wouldnt listen, and i kinda reciprocated for a few seconds before realising it was a mistake.

I feel really guilty, and its poss he could find out as its a bar where lots of people know each other.

I dont wanna tell him what happened, what should i do? thanks

Well, if the guy you are "seeing" really cared about you, he would believe what you said happened. Just say to him, "When you were gone, I was at this bar...And some dude just started making out with me! I kept telling him no but he wouldn't stop." Or something in that matter.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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ok well i don't know if any guys really like me and i really want a bf. what should i do?

First off, just becase you don't know if any guys like you, it doesn't mean that they don't. For all you know, some guy could be madly in love with you and you have absolutely no clue.

Secondly, Just be yourself! If you act like someone else to try to get a boyfriend, they may like the person you are trying to be instead of the real you! So if some guy doesn't like you, screw 'em!

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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well, suddenly, all my friends are getting boyfriends. i'm 12 // f. gonna be thirteen in january. like. all she ever talks about is him! i was crying last night. i'm really upset. please, advice.

Don't let it get to you, okay? Just because your friends are getting boyfriends doesn't mean you have to have one too. If you really want a boyfriend and are willing to just go out with any guy that comes around, it probably won't work out. So:
1.)Don't rush into any relationships, they won't work out--trust me.
2.) Just be yourself around guys. If they don't like you, screw em!
3.)The guy you are looking for will come around! Don't be upset!

And if it bothers you that much that your friends always talk about their boyfriends, just explain to them that you don't want them talking so much about them because it makes you feel bad! If they were really your friends they would understand how you feel.

I hope I helped, and Good Luck! =]

X_Amanda_X

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okay, so im currently in a long distance relationship and i think the guy is getting bored with the whole e-mailing/calling thing. do you think it would make things better if i take 2 months to answer his latest e-mail..so he can start missing me more, and then write him a really cute e-mail? Or should i just keep writing every week? and if i do, how can i spice things up, is there any rules for what you should/shouldn't do when writing an e.mail?

Well, having being in one once, I've found that long distance relationships do not work out! So if you don't think you two are spending enough time together then just talk to him about it and get his point of veiw on everything.

I hope this helped =]

X_Amanda_X

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I'm so depressed my girl left me and I didn't really make many friends when I moved here from NC what can I do to cheer up or meet new friends?

Don't get too upset. Just make new friends. All will be well then.

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Why do preps call people that aren't preps preps. Sorry kinda confusing but I'm just wondering that. Cause a few of the real preps call me a prep and I deff. don't consider myself or my friends preps.

This usually happens because they are stupid. They have to insult other people just to make themselves feel good. Don't let it get to ya. Once they realize that you don't care what they think, they will stop.

I hope this helped =]

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every friend i have, i talk about, except one who is a grade younger than me. i talk good things about her but sometimes she can really make me mad and sometimes i get teased cause shes only in 6th grade and i need to "get some friends my own age". there this girl i really like in my grade but im like the only person in my skewl that likes her, and im trying to fit in so i pretend i dont really like her. i talk about everyone. its really bad! im a real bitch. i want a best friend. its pathetic!

please tell me what i can do. thank you

Are you reading what you just typed?! The reason why you can't get any friends is because people obviously see that you have a repuatation to talk about people behind their backs!

SO if I were you I'd stop talking about people behind their backs and start being nice!

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Whats the code for the upside down ? for AIM? and if there are any others please help :) THANKS

I learned its Alt+0191 ¿

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Amanda i have a problem w/ mi soft ball team im the best hitter but no one on mi team likes me because im the best hitter i dont no y though can u pls help me to get them to like me

Hmm..Well have you ever taken the time to actually talk to them? If you haven't, all they see is a good soft ball player and think that you are too good to be their friends. Just take time to talk to them every once in a while and perhaps swap phone numbers or email adresses and then you will become friends.

I hope this helped =]

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I'm shy but I want to make friends. I'm in clubs (band, chorus, jazz band) but whenever it comes to conversation-making, if I'm around another friend it's easy to talk, but if I'm by myself I'm really shy! How can I become less shy, or at least overcome this. This would be greatful because I think I only have like 9 friends. Heh, thats NOT NORMAL!!! Lol but its kind of hard because I'm easily intimidated by people. Thank you for ANY help, I mean ANY!!

It's good that you are in clubs that can help you make some friends! Don't go into a full-fledged conversation the first time you talk to someone. Just start with small talk. For example, instead of totally babbleing about how you get solos in every music you play, Just say something simple,perhaps a compliment, like, "Hey nice solo."

Eventually after some small talk, they will start having more lengthy conversations with you =]

I hope this helped =]

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Ok i have a friend and weve been best friends since i moved here in the 7th grade.. until we came to highschool. (9th grade) We just slowly started not talking and hanging out. I miss talking to her and hanging out with her & i do try to talk to her and stuff but it seems like she doesnt want to talk to me. I dunno if i should talk to her about it or just leave it alone and cool down for awhile.. what should i do?

As much as I hate to say this, you will probably just have to move on and make new friends. You are lucky that it's starting in high school. I'm in middle school and I've already had that happen to me.

But..Yeah this is what happens as life goes on. I found a quote that's really cute about friendships. "Friends are like stars. Some stay, some go. But the ones that stay are the ones that glow"


I hope this helped =]

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ok.. my friend had a really hott boyfriend and i liked him and he liked me also....(he told me) i didnt want him to break up with her because of me because im not like that.... we just had a dance.. and he started grinding on my while she wasnt looking.... about 15 min hey dissappeard and a little bit l8ter and friend appeard cring like no other and when i talked to her she said he broke it off with her... and then about an hour later he asked me out... i didnt kno wat to say but i said yes and we slow dance and grinded all while my friend was crin.... my other friends found out about all this and told her... she HATES me now.... wat do i do and how do i make it better???

i always rate 5

Well, no offence, but if you were truly her friend you would be comforting her in her time of need instead of stealing her ex. Just think..how would you feel if your boyfriend just broke up with you and now your friend is already his new girlfriend and your friend wasn't there to help you.

One possible way of perhaps working things out with her is just to talk to her or write her a note apologizing for what you've done. Although I can't guarantee that she will forgive you. Afterall, would you forgive someone who stole your boyfriend, got all up on him, and totally blew you off in just one night?

I live by a quote, "Before judging someone, walk a mile in their shoes. Then you will be a mile away and they will have their shoes!" Sorry, I'm just trying to get someone to smile. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, put yourself in her position. What would you do if she were you, and you were her?

I hope this helped, and good luck! =]

X_Amanda_X

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My hair is really curly!! But i luv straightening it but it takes forever! Is there any products to help me! I rate good!!

I also have very curly hair. There is a shampoo and conditioner called "Simply Straight" by Marc Anthony. The products smoothe out curls so it makes it easier to straighten.

I hope this helped =]

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