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so what do you guys think is a good personality? and how do you know if someone is boring or really just shy? I can be talkitive and fun but when i go to my youth i am not really outgoing or really show my personality. ive been with my youth for a few months and i live like 35 minutes away from them so i dont really hang with them. I feel like I have a good personality at times but then at other times im just really quiet and people that i want to show my personality dont see the talkitive side just the shy and quiet side. It seems like the people at my youth think i dont have good conversation but yet when i with people in my town and school im really talkitive. and i have other friends that fit right in but i dont seem to. well what do you think?
Hi :)
I know how you feel. I'm extremely friendly and talkative once someone shows interest in getting to know me as a friend. But I'm really shy, so it's hard for me to start conversations with just anyone, unless I'm forced to in school lol. Usually what happens with us shy people is we either get seen as an outcast and loner, or people come up to us and ask us why we don't talk haha.
Just because you are quiet for the most part doesn't mean you have a bad personality. It's hard to get people to come and talk to you though, because some people feel just as awkward as we do starting a random conversation. How about taking someone from town with you to youth? You guys can laugh and be your usual selves and once everyone in your youth group sees that, maybe they'll say 'WOW, she's so funny and talkative!'
So I would suggest taking a friend you're really cool with to youth group. Hope I helped! And don't worry, things will get better.
Uniq :)
if you saw your husband sending messages to other girls lets say thru facebook or myspace etch and he wrote "hey bby let me get your aim or msn,your a cutie" while being with you would you get mad?? but without him knowin you check his thing .
Hi :)
I would definitely get mad. Why is he calling other girls baby and calling them a cutie. That's very disrespectful towards you... He is married now, and if he thinks you won't be seeing these messages it makes it worse. Then again, if you're not mad you're probably not the jealous type. Jealous or not, it's still not right. Good luck!
Uniq :)
I'm considering majoring in Cognitive Psychology.
Is this a good idea? It's something that interests me but I don't know if one can make a good career out of it.
What jobs are available to people with a masters/PhD in cognitive psychology and what do those jobs entail? Would I have trouble finding a job in this area?
Also, what salary would i be looking at?
Hi :)
First off, I would suggest talking to any Psychology Professors in your university, or calling offices to see if you can ask a quick question to the Psychologist. Other than that, network!!! Talk to your friends and family, and ask if they know someone within this field.
Now, majoring in Cognitive Psychology is a great idea! Why? Because it's what YOU want. If you find great interest in the field of Psychology, then follow your interest :D Of course you can make a good career out of it
http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos056.htm perhaps that can help?
Sorry I couldn't answer much, I want to major in Psychology as well, but I'm still discovering considering I'm in my second year of college. Good luck!!
-Uniq :)
18/f
I'm not asking whether to have sex with this guy it's just concerns with my body parts that i'm worried about.
this guy has only had sex with one other girl, someone he was with for over 2 years and he hasn't done anything sexual with anyone else. the thing that worries me is when we start becoming sexual and my vagina is different, my boobs are different, my whole body is different obviously! i'm just worried that he will be kind of weirded out at first because of what he was so use to with his girlfriend. everyone is different, i understand that but it just makes me a bit self-conscious because what if he's like woah her vagina "lips" are so big, or just things like that?
has anyone else had this worry and a bit self-conscious? i'm comfortable with my body .. and i do have confidence it's just that one concern thats bothering me.
Hi :)
You're absolutely right, everyone is different! Guys are very visual, so trust me, even if you have flaws, they'll be too concerned with the fact that they are seeing your boobs, or close to 'getting some'. I thought the same thing about myself. I'm VERY self conscious about my body. I'm on the chubbier side, so I'm not as 'perfect' as the celebrities on tv and whatnot. But if the person you'll have sex with is mature, and cares for you emotionally as well, he won't care. He'll love you for you and for the woman you are (at the moment of getting intimate). Just relax and enjoy, because when you're self conscious they'll know and it will kinda ruin the mood. Good luck!!
I'm 17, getting somewhat close to 18, and i know ill be sexually active by the end of this year. For those who are my age or close - do your parents expect you to not do anything? I know if you're like 15, and your parents find out you're sexually active..and they have the right to ground you or tell you not to see him, etc. Do you think once we turn 18, it's more of our decision/freedom that are parents just ACCEPT? Or are there parents out there who try to control that and dont approve their 18 year old doing that (even though they are considered an adult)? Any opinions on this topic would be appreciated. Im just getting an idea of how parents react to this once you turn 18.
Hi :)
I'm 18, turning 19 in September. And yes, my parents expected me to remain a virgin until I got married. Things didn't turn out that way, because I was young and made naive decisions. I think that just because you're 18, it doesn't mean you have the right to do whatever you want. If your parents are taking care of you and helping you out with many bills (like college, cell phone, etc) then they should have a say in what you should do. Obviously, they can't stop you from having sex, but I think it's important for them to talk to you and whatnot. I was 17 when my parents found out that I wasn't a virgin anymore, and they were very disappointed. My whole life they controlled who I was with, where I went, what I could do. And I turned out to be a great person (still developing lol) despite my rebellious phase during HS.
Some parents are more free with their children. Some parents are very strict. And then you have those parents in the middle. It all depends on the type of mindset your parents have. Hope I helped :)
Uniq
15/f
Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 5 months. It was completely fine. But I did end up liking another guy. I didn't let that get to me because I know that happens sometimes and I'd rather be with my bf. He is the best to me and actually cares.
But one of my friends, who is one of his friends is really close with me. We talk all the time. He tells me what a horrible boyfriend I have because he doesn't talk to me as much as he did before and that he treats me better than my own boyfriend. Honestly, he is a good friend and all, but its killing me because in a way the things he says is true but I don't want to leave him.
Recently I found out my boyfriend likes another girl too. My friend that I talk to all the time told me. I listened in on the conversation, so it's not like he's lying about it. But I know he doesn't want to get with that girl and he wants to stay with me. I didn't let it get to me since I like another guy. But I started thinking about it and now I kinda feel really hurt. I've been doubting us for a long time and I guess I just tell myself he doesn't care for me anymore because there is someone else.
My friend told me I should break up with him. I'm moving in the summer so it's gonna happen eventually but I don't want to. I really care about him and he swears he loves me. He really proved himself but now I'm so confused.
Maybe I should talk to him?
I would but I'm not even supposed to know he likes another girl.
Please help, thanks!
Hi :)
It is true, sometimes you can be attracted to other people while being in a relationship. Sometimes it's just an infatuation that happens once in a while, but doesn't really mean anything. And on other occasions, you probably are better off getting with that other person. You say that you're moving away for the summer, so you and him will eventually break up. If that's the case, why would you get with the other guy? Won't he be living in the same area as your bf?
I say, if both you and your boyfriend would rather part ways and meet new people, go ahead! Communication is the key. He's probably asking himself the same things you're asking yourself, but is afraid you'll over react or get upset. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about the situation with the other girl he likes, and see where that leads you. If he asks why you are asking, tell him the truth about liking another guy, but not enough to throw away your relationship. You never know what can come out of this. Even though you don't want to let him know you found out, just be honest.
If you guys work it out, and ddecide to stay together. It's okay if you two are mature enough to handle a long distance relationship. I'm no one to judge how mature you are, but I feel that since you're only 15 and you're moving somewhere new, you will find new friends and possibly new lovers. You have a looooong life ahead of you, and you will know when you find the right person. Sometimes it's after the obstacles of confusion, but I think you two should work it out, and see what happens. If you want to be single and do whatever you want, then don't be afraid to make that decision. Good luck!!
Uniq :)
Im 17 and i know ill be losing my virginity this summer. But apart of me still thinks HE is too good for me. And that im not that beautiful and skinny enough to have sex. Has anyone ever felt this way? How should i get over these feelings?
Hi :)
Yes, I have felt that way. Boy, does it suck. Just know that everyone in this world is different. Different colors, sizes, shapes, so on and so forth. Also, each person has their own opinion on what is considered beautiful and what isn't. Just know that whoever HE is, doesn't deserve you if he doesn't love you for who YOU are, not what you look like. You don't have to be skinny to have sex. You just have to be confident. When it comes to sex, trust me, your size won't matter because the pleasure that comes along with it will overwhelm him.
With that being said, there are many ways to get over these feelings. You can change everything you don't like about yourself. Lose weight, buy new clothes, give yourself a makeover :D
Just know that if you decide to lose weight, do it for YOURSELF. And do it because you want to feel confident. The more you accept your appearance, the more you will love yourself. That's why some people, regardless of how big or small they are, are so happy. Because they accept themselves. :) Good luck, and don't be in such a rush to lose your virginity unless it's with someone worth it!!
Uniq
so,, im 16 and i have had sex with 8 guys.. does that mean im a hoe?? or that i love sex too much? also. what is the best way to have sex that will feel the greatest?? make me orgasm faster??
Hi :)
Okay, don't label yourself with all these words, don't degrade yourself. Honestly, being promiscuous isn't good, so if you've had sex with 8 guys and the numbers are still rising, you should take your health and reputation into consideration. Sex is fine, and you do what you want, but you'll learn that it's best to present yourself as a decent girl who won't have sex for whatever reason. Sex is normal, but being promiscuous isn't. Hopefully you're using protection. As far as the second and third question, I can't answer that for you. That's something you have to experiment with and find out with a partner. Good luck, and I hope you decide to take my advice into consideration :)
Uniq
I need to do a small report on a discrimination case. It can be any racial, disability, age, any.
But I can't seem to find any ones the really interest me. So if you could please leave the name of a discrimination case it would be appreciated.
Hey :)
Well I remember watching the news a while back, and this woman got discriminated against because of her appearance. She had hormonal problems which caused her to grow facial hair, and her employer fired her for it. I'm sure you can try to find cases like that. Good luck and hope I inspired you a bit lol
Uniq :)
My boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago..we were dating for about 3 months.He was my first REAL boyfriend (im 17) and it was like a real relationship where we talk and hangout and bond ALOT .So you could say for my first relationship it was pretty serious.He broke up with me because "he started to see me as a friend and i was clingy" .I had no idea this was coming so i was devastated.He went on vacation and will be back on Thursday and hasn't spoken to me since the breakup ..except one text .I've been an absolute wreck ,crying the minute i wake up,being upset most of the day and probably crying during the day and ofcourse at night too for the last 4 days. Each day is harder for me because all the songs on my ipod,we used to listen to and he used to sing to me and he would point out his favorite songs and i have to avoid listening to my ipod.I also have to avoid driving by a park we used to go to,certain words I say/he used to say,foods we used to eat all the time,games we played,movies,a whole bunch of stuff and it's so hard to avoid these things.Ive been taking advice from everyone and not speaking to him or communicating with him at all costs,(which I wrote him a letter and hope to give it to him the day after he comes back) .Ive been occupying myself very much,but even while I'm occupying myself ..i still think of him and all the good times (because we havent had many bad ones and our break up wasn't even a fight or a nasty breakup ..it was just sad).It seems like no matter how occupied or busy I am..i still think of him and get sad.I just want him back or I want to get over him.What techniques have worked to get over guys FAST? because I can't take the crying anymore!
Hi :)
I'm sorry that you guys broke up, he was probably your first love, even though you guys aren't together anymore and the relationship was a coupe of months. Well, whatever you do, DO NOT go crying to him or even let him KNOW that you are crying constantly and going crazy over him. This would fit in to the 'clingy' part, and it just wouldn't help. Let me tell you, there are much more men out there dying to meet you, and you probably don't even know it! So don't stress it, he may have been your first love but he won't be the last. I understand that even though you occupy yourself, he's still in your mind, but have you tried going out with FRIENDS? FAMILY? People who love and care for you, and can make you laugh and smile. Go to the movies, watch movies at friends' house. Have sleepovers! Meet new people as friends, get to know them. Trust me, another guy will come along and sweep you off your feet. It always happens. Also keep in mind, the next guy you meet can be the one, or maybe 10 guys from now. So don't have high expectations, but don't lower them severely either lol. I suggest getting new songs on your ipod and burning that letter you wrote, they'll just make you reminisce about the past, and we don't want that. Good luck!!!
Uniq :)
There is a boy. Like 90% of these questions start. He is in my gym class. He's adorably cute but unadorably shy haha. Anyway, like I said, I have gym with him but we are in different squads so basically, I never see him. So, my friend has been talking to him about me and she's been telling me the things he says. Some of the things that come to my mind right now are "I will most definitely be on facebook to talk to her" "I think she's funny, she's to shy to talk to me" or my friend told him today to talk to me when I come down the steps before gym (everyone chills outside the locker rooms before we change) I walked down the stairs, she called his name and he didn't come over but he said he would. So, she was in the gym with him while I was down for my music lesson and she said "why didn't you say anything to her? you said you would." and he said "I don't know" and she said "well, are you nervous?" and he said "..yea kinda" but he knows I like him so it would be so easy for him to talk to me because he knows I won't be a snob to him. So, why is he acting like this? Is he not diggin me? I thought from the things he was saying that he was kinda into me, am I wrong? Thanks.
Hey :)
He probably does like you. Or maybe he doesn't. But hypothetically, if he does like you, cut him some slack, he's a human being just like you. Yes, guys can be shy, nervous, and even embarrassed to talk to girls, simply because they might not know what to say, or are worried about how you will react. Put yourself in his shoes for a bit. I'm pretty sure you'd be a bit hesitant as well to go up to yourself and randomly start a conversation lol. Maybe YOU should try and start a convo as a matter of fact. Guys kinda like when girls make the first move, there's nothing wrong with it. So maybe you should stop getting your friend to talk to him for you, and start talking to him yourself :) Good luck!!
Uniq
I love my english class, not gonna lie. However, there's a boy that sits with me at my group and he is cute.. however I went on his formspring and it said like "why are you so mean to your girlfriend" and he put "because she's my bitch" like.. that's not okay to say whether you're joking or not. Now, his girlfriend and him are apart, they have been on and off but today she gave him her promise ring back and everything. Now, a couple people have been saying he's starting to flirt with me, I just choose not to believe it because 1. I'm not his "type" 2. I don't want to fall for him especially because he isn't a virgin and he calls his girlfriend his bitch 3. We run in two totally different social circles, I'm in the band, he's the higher class, popular, I guess. These are a few things I can think of that he does that make people believe he is flirting with me:
-> He'll steal my favorite purple pen, in plain sight when I'm looking right at him when he is doing it
-> He'll put hand sanitizer on and blow the smell at me because he knows I'm not to fond of the smell
-> He'll take my folder up for me after class
-> He'll ask me to help him quick look over things quickly before a quiz
-> He'll ask me for help when he doesn't understand something even though I'm not the smartest at our table
-> He'll look me right in the eyes for what seems like forever when we talk
-> He;ll say something funny about our teacher and when I laugh about it, he'll look at me when I'm laughing like he likes my smile
-> He'll be walking with a girl in the hallway talking to her and when he passes me, he'll stop midsentence, look at me, then continue.
SO! Do you think he is flirting? Do you think he likes me? If so, what do I do? He cheated on his ex, calls her his bitch and had sex with her. That's all I can think of right now, if anything comes to mind I'll put it in the extra info. Thanks!
Hey :)
If some of these things do mean he's flirting with you, he's quite an immature guy. You didn't mention any ages, but it sounds like he's not past 10th grade. Anywho, you're totally right about not going for him. If he had no respect for his former girlfriend, how can you expect him to respect you? It's possible, but he's made himself look bad already, and that's not classy. Personally, I think you can do way better than this guy, and I wouldn't suggest going out with him until he's went out of his way to better himself. Find a guy worth a lot (respectful, understanding, honest, etc) and you'll be better off. Good luck :)
Uniq
ok so we very recently started a gsa at our school
the issue is we have no clue what to do
weve only had three meeting
and all weve done is talk and stuff....we really want the club to be about somethin and have some point we can talk about and we cant think of anything to do
the other issue is parents are wondering what it is because they want to know what in the world there kids are doin and we dont know what to tell them..
we have a teacher and everything we can go on independent field trips and everything we live in ohio and any suggestions would be very helpful even if its just "go to the movies"
thankzz
Hi :)
I think what your school is doing is a great idea! Instead of talking, why don't you guys also go out there and spread the word around school. Take surveys about what students think of this alliance. Form fundraisers to donate to charities or go on educational trips. Be well informed about what the alliance is devoted to, and inform everyone in your school, and outside.
As far as parents, I can definitely relate as to why you don't really wanna just say it. Sometimes they disapprove of certain lifestyles, and think that their opinion is the one that matters most, instead of their child's. In this case, I'd still tell them what it is. It's to accept people for who they are, support them, and stop discrimination. In my opinion, if your lifestyle is not harming you or anyone else, then do as you please! Parents/Guardians must understand that YOU have your own opinion too. And it DOES count. You have a right to disagree with what they feel is right, without disrespecting them of course.
About going to trips, definitely go see documentaries or indie films about the LGBT community. Know the history, the rights they have. Go to museums, I mean, even the internet is fine lol. Knowledge is power :) good luck!
Uniq :)
Hello,
I was just wondering what kind of positions are there avaibale for young woman that want to participate in the army or airforce?
Thankyou ,
Betty
Hello :)
http://www.goarmy.com/JobSearch.do This is for the army, perhaps you can find it useful. And make sure to check the box that says Restricted for women only.
I'm not sure about this one, but you can look around http://www.airforce.com/opportunities/enlisted/careers/
Good luck!
Uniq :)
I want to break up with my long distance relationship. There's no real reason..I honestly just don't feel like being in a relationship anymore. I live in the US, he in the Uk. I'm 19, he's 21. We've never met yet, been dating 8 months. He wants me to visit this summer.
I like him, but I don't love him. He LOVES me, he's actually obsessed. It freaks me out in a way. I tried breaking up with him earlier this week by using excuses about school, and he started crying for about 2 hours. So, I gave in. He told me he couldn't breathe, and that he'd come down here immediately and such. I don't WANT that, I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door.
He's a very fragile guy, it took him 2 years to get over his ex, and he still talks about how he never thought he'd love again, blah blah, but then he found me. :/ I do like him, but I want to be free. I hate staying inside all day on the computer to talk to him, I want my life back. I know if I tell him this that he'll have some solution, like: you can go with your friends, or spend less time with me!
Basically, I don't want to be sucked in again. I want to break up with him, not lead him on with false hopes. Can you PLEASE tell me how to go about this? I've been struggling with it for about a month. I want to end it, cut all contact. But, what do I do when he starts crying? I'm not a heartless person, I don't know if I can just hang up on him. Ahh, please help!!!
Hi, thanks for the inbox question :)
Well first of all, you even said it yourself, "he's actually obsessed", "it freaks me out", and "I'm scared if I break up with him that he'll show up at my door". Obviously, it's clear to both you and I that your significant other in this relationship handles things in an unhealthy manner. You say it's long distant, so ok, that's great! And before I give you my advice, I'd like to say don't let this man manipulate you. Yes, it's possible to fall in love with someone without ever meeting them in person, but it seems to me that he's using his emotions to manipulate you. When I was younger, I was dating a man who literally kneeled on the floor, begging me to not leave him. Little did I know, he was cheating on me, playing me everyday.. Which is why I'm saying don't let him manipulate you with his emotions.
Now, have you ever given him your address? Home phone number? Any personal info of that sort? If you have, then that is a very big problem. He may live in the UK, but you never know what he's capable of doing. I don't mean to freak you out, but what if he has friends around your area checking up on you? These are the things we must think about before we do anything, like give away info and whatnot. ***Hypothetically, if you cut contact with him, and he ends up stalking you, it's time to inform whoever lives with you and the authorities.***
About the breaking up with him, just do it. I know it's hard, I know you feel bad when he tells you he's hurt, he can't live without you and that you're his everything. But you need to do this for YOURSELF. He cannot make you be in a relationship with him. No one can make you do anything you don't want to do. With that said...
Simply go with the same excuse you did before. Tell him you're not ready for a serious relationship, especially a long distance one. Tell him you need time to yourself, and for school. Let him know that you simply cannot keep in contact with him, and to please respect your wishes. If at this point he starts to get aggravated and threatening, that's your cue to decipher how dangerous he can be. Most guys will cry (but keep it to themselves), or let you go because their pride controls them... But a guy who gets angry or intimidates you (even with his emotions) clearly needs help.
Perhaps you'd like to hear my story? I was young, 14, naive, dating an older guy, who was 18. This guy definitely lacked in the looks department, but he insisted that I go out with him, so I did. But something just wasn't right. Little by little, I wanted to break away... And every time I tried, he cried. He begged. He would come to my house and get on his knees to take him back. And I did. Until one day, he came clean (with only HALF the things he'd done), and we broke up. He went to rehab, and I moved on (happily!). He kept calling, messaging, and looking for different types of ways to talk to me. And I always ignored him. Eventually my bf came into the picture, and me and him have been together for 2 and a half years already. Occasionally, my ex tries to add me on a social networking site, or emails me, but I make sure I NEVER reply. Once you cut them out, you can't give in. And PUT YOUR FOOT DOWN. putting your foot down DOES NOT mean you're heartless hun. Good luck! And if you need anything, feel free to message me.
Uniq :)
My boyfriend is turning 21 on sunday. I can not think of a single thing to get for him. ive even asked him and he says he doesnt want anything...im really desperate for some ideas. ive already looked for concert tickets & sports game tickets & theres no thing really that he would be interested in...he has a nice watch..im really just drawing a blank...please help!
Hi :)
Perhaps you shouldn't give him something materialistic...
Maybe give him a nice night out. I'm not sure if you guys live together, but maybe you should spend the night out, or in! Share a couple of drinks, laugh the night away. And surprise him with things you haven't done before, if you know what I mean. Doesn't necessarily have to be sexual lol, seeing that a lot of people don't do things after only 4 months. Just bring in the element of surprise, mystery, and sexy. Good luck, and Happy early birthday to him!
Uniq :)
I asked you the inbox question about scared to break up with my bf. I liked your advice, so I have one more question.
I talked to him today, told him I WOULDN'T break up with him..because he started crying. I know, i know, I fell for the trap. I used the 'dad doesnt approve excuse' and the boy just went nuts. Said he'd talk to my dad, blah blah. It just got worse.
So I told him i wouldn't break u with him, and now I hate myself for it. I hate myself for ever lying in the 1st place, i WANT to break up with him. Should I just say: I don't love you anymore, I want to end it?!
I mean, who can really reject that? He'll HAVe to let me go right? I'm so sick of this, any help would be appreciated please, thank you!!!
Hey there,
Thanks :) ... Alright well I guess he really does care about you. Guys cry, but whether or not they are doing something behind your back, it's because they care :/
You already read my advice on talking to him... I'm guessing you don't want to take that route. (although I HIGHLY suggest it!)
In that case, I guess you're going to have to get rough with him. I don't know what age you are, nor your long distance boyfriend. So perhaps this excuse won't work. Tell him you're not ready for a long distance relationship. Tell him it's best you both part ways and forget about each other. DO NOT REMAIN FRIENDS. Don't pick up his calls, don't respond to his IM's and Texts. Just pretend he NEVER existed and that you disappeared off the face of the earth. Hopefully he gets the hint doesn't stalk you. Also, be careful. Hopefully he doesn't know your address either. No one can force you to stay in a relationship. I'm 18 right now turning 19, and I remember being 14 years old in a sort of long distance relationship with an 18 year old, who would manipulate me by crying and making me feel bad, saying he loved me and needed me. Sometimes, YOU have to be the strong one, although it may be hard. Good luck!
Uniq :)
so lately i've been getting a lot of bumps on my legs- razor burn i suppose? because i just started shaving again (cause it was winter)
anything i can do to fix this?
Hi :)
So I've been researching and here are a few remedies some websites suggest:
-Dip the area in warm water
-Don't shave so often, give your skin a good 3-5 days to rest.
-Use shaving cream and allow it to sit there for a minute or so
-Try not to shave against the grain
Google is your best friend! Remember that next time ;)
-Uniq
I have just recently discovered I have sexonmia, or sleep sex if you'd rather... It is so embarrassing to wake up on top of my boyfriend and the expression on his face is of pure curiosity, amazement and passion.
I feel weird that he doesn't wake me up. Also, I really hate waking up in the middle of sex.
Is there anything I can do/take to stop this??
17/F
Hi :)
I'm not a doctor or anything, but according to Wikipedia, there is a drug called Clonezepam that is used to treat this disorder. Speaking of which, have you gone to seek diagnosis and treatment from a doctor?
Clonezepam: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Clonazepam
Other than advice from your doctor, I would advise you to tell your boyfriend to help. :/ It's pretty selfish of him to not wake you up (if he knew you had this disorder). Good luck, and I hope everything works out!
-Uniq
I need to break up with my long-dist relationship boyfriend. We've been dating 7 months. There's no real reason to break up except..I sent him a pic that wasn't me. I know, I know. I'm too ashamed to tell him the truth, and I'm supposed to be 'visiting' him in a month. I need to end it, what do I say? I don't want to hurt his feelings, so nothing like 'I don't love you anymore' or whatever.
I was thinking of saying something along the lines of my dad disapproves, and I have to end it with you, or he'll kick me out or something. I know, just lying more. But seriously, I just want to get out of this now, it's my own fault and I know now to never do it again. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.
Hi :) (thanks for the inbox question)
First off, it's okay. Sometimes, we try really hard to impress people. Whether it's lying about age, appearance, or personality. It's good that you're ashamed of lying to him, and you recognize that you were wrong.
Now, I know you want to break up with him. But before I give you advice on how to, are you sure you don't want to communicate with him? 7 months is a long time to get to know someone emotionally, that is, if you weren't pretending to be someone else as well. Perhaps if he is one of the good guys, he's already fallen a bit in love with the person you are on the inside, not out, which would cause him to feel attached. I can't say he could feel this way though, because you guys have never met in person. I'm sure you aren't as ugly as you make yourself seem by sending him a fake pic. If I were you, I'd apologize to him, let him know the situation, and tell !!!!HIM!!!! he has the option of getting to know the real way I look, or walk away without ever turning back. See? This way, you have a 50/50 chance of breaking up or starting all over. And if the break up does happen, you didn't stress about hurting his feelings with wrong words.
That would be the right way to initiate a break up (if he didn't want to stay), in my opinion. BUT, if you do want to stray away from those possibilities, you can definitely use that excuse you have. Technically, you don't have to explain anything to him. He isn't blood related to you, he isn't family, so if you disappear I doubt anything would trouble him. The way you want to break up instead of facing the situation seems as if you're the one who's not attached to him though...
Anywho, whichever path you choose to take, I wish you the best. I would advise you to talk to him though. Be honest! Once again, good luck!
-Uniq :)