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what if i'm completely different then her?
18/f
I'm not asking whether to have sex with this guy it's just concerns with my body parts that i'm worried about.
this guy has only had sex with one other girl, someone he was with for over 2 years and he hasn't done anything sexual with anyone else. the thing that worries me is when we start becoming sexual and my vagina is different, my boobs are different, my whole body is different obviously! i'm just worried that he will be kind of weirded out at first because of what he was so use to with his girlfriend. everyone is different, i understand that but it just makes me a bit self-conscious because what if he's like woah her vagina "lips" are so big, or just things like that?
has anyone else had this worry and a bit self-conscious? i'm comfortable with my body .. and i do have confidence it's just that one concern thats bothering me.
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You're absolutely right, everyone is different! Guys are very visual, so trust me, even if you have flaws, they'll be too concerned with the fact that they are seeing your boobs, or close to 'getting some'. I thought the same thing about myself. I'm VERY self conscious about my body. I'm on the chubbier side, so I'm not as 'perfect' as the celebrities on tv and whatnot. But if the person you'll have sex with is mature, and cares for you emotionally as well, he won't care. He'll love you for you and for the woman you are (at the moment of getting intimate). Just relax and enjoy, because when you're self conscious they'll know and it will kinda ruin the mood. Good luck!!
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I doubt he'll care. If he really likes you, he won't even notice that you look different, he'll find you beautiful regardless.
If you do happen to want to sleep with him, and he makes a comment, then he isn't the one you should be with. A person who loves you won't compare you to others. That is not love. If it happens, leave.
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a male perspective: the vast majority of guys will be happy just to be close to your body parts and will not give a darn about whether you are different from his ex-girlfriend or not. i cannot imagine he will be "weirded out" by the size of your vagina lips. He is more likely to think "woohoo! vagina lips!". The only thing I can imagine that would weird him out would be if he wre to find you have a penis, lol. The male brain is hard-wired to appreciate the beauty and softness of the female form, so I can pretty much guarantee he will be totally enamored of you.
Keep in mind that his total experience is only with one person so he might well be feeling just as nervous about knowing enough to please you.
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