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Occupation: Microbiologist
Age: 24
Member Since: May 3, 2006
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Last Update: September 8, 2006
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is masturbating a sin? just a question---cuz i think its completely gross!! (link)
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No of course not. If you don't want to do it that is totally up to you.
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I don't know what group to place it in, but it is mental I can tell you that. My boy friend was the best person you could have ever imagined. Even though he is only 14 [so am I, female] He was great. He has the potential to do anything he sets his mind to, music, school, great with kids & adults, wonderful. One of the ,main thing I was attracted to, was his childness-ish. He was funny, not in a dirty way either, didn't swear, proclaimed to be saved and was ever-so respectful.
After about a few months af dating I allowed french kissing and holding, sorta a low quality makeout.Then it grew and grew, now, we didn't get into sex or anything and stayed on top of clothes, but I noticed a difference in him, about two months ago.He has always told me how he feel about everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, I asked him what was wrong, hios reply was always something but he never got to the point. I started telling him that there was somthing he wasn't telling me, he would always say no, there wasn't.
After a long while of thinking, praying and asking God for guidance, I realised that we should never have started the whole "kissing process" so we could regenerate our relationship, the way it was before. At first he was scared, he'd say "What?I thought everything was fine, why shouldn't we?" and My answer would alaways be "It is wrong and I believe God would rather otherwise" Then there'd be a conflict, and those always hurt the heart.
Now he gave me his msn password and I thought "I don't have anything to hide or lose" so I gave him mine. He forgot that He gave me his password and the other days I checked it.Was I ever shocked, hurt, crushed, heart broken...It just hurt so much, I was crying outloud saying "no....no, he couldn't have done this to me..." He had "porn4free!", "sexsearch", "you have received a wink from...blahdiblahblah"
PAIN CRWLS IN, I...I COULDN'T BREATH, I FELT AS IF IT WAS ALL MY FAULT AND THAT I WAS BLIND TO NOT HAVE SEEN IT COMMING.
Later to find out, He called me [after I ave him my two cents on msn, really, it wasn't much] He denied it, telling me they were spams...right.I didn't believe him, he blamed it on his computer breaking, and It was right in front of my face...all of it, his name, his way of talking, even his special password was there... the girls... the pain was Unbearable :"( ... Everytime I gave him proof, he said sorry and agreed...and He kept telling me half truths, I got him to tell his parents and they have taken the computer away form him for a month.
What could I do to help him[he said it started about after we stopped the kissing process [which was two months ago]And I want to know What can I do, how should I react? What can HE do, It is 2:30 in the morning, I couldn't sleep, I was bawling my eyes out and dind't want to bother everyone else.So I came down, wanting to ask questions to people, including you people.
I'm afraid to go near him showing my arms now, and look at my body in disproval, why did God create man to be pigs and women to be their food?
Thank you, I hope this question doesn't comfuse you, I just nee help, please. (link)
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Forgive me for saying so, but I think you are the one with issues here. It would actually be ABNORMAL for adolescent males (and females, but that tends to come a little later on) to be curious about sex, and porn is the easiest way to discreetly gain access to that information. It is completely normal and does not mean that your boyfriend, or men in general, are pigs or show you any less respect as a woman. It's a developmental and educational process. Based on your desciptions of your feelings, I actually think you hold a little bit of a warped view of sexuality in general. Now there is nothing wrong with abstaining from all sexual activity for religious or personal reasons, I think that it fabulous, but sexuality is normal and healthy...not dirty, sinful, or something to be never discussed to educated about. Please consider this.
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My boyfriend left my friend a picture comment on myspace that said "your so sexy shortii." I'm really jealous. Should I be jealous? I don't want to seem so clingy but I'm kinda jealous. (link)
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I would have beat the ever loving crap out of him already.
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ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes (link)
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Of course it's not safe! At the very least you need to use a condom, you really should use a condom plus the PIll.
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WHY is it ok for black guys to date caucasian chicks but it's not ok for black ladies to date caucasian guys. (link)
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Either is perfectly fine.
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So I'm kind of .. "in love," i guess, with this boy, but he's ALOT older than I am.. well, not alot, but he's in his 20's and i'm in my middle teens, so. yea. But he seems so perfect, he's so sweet, we both love eachothers company & i am fully comfortable with him. We've gone all the way & he still wants me around as much as possible. But I don't know if his motives are what I've come to believe seeing as he's older. my parents don't want me seeing him, because of the age difference, but I always want to be with him & he seems to love my company even when we're just lying next to one another. Is this right, or is he bad news? (link)
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No normal mid 20's male is attracted to a female in her mid teens to the point of persuing ANY type of relationship with her. Yes, it's bad news in that he may use you, but also any sexual contact is illegal (a felony, not just like a traffic ticket, we're talking jain time and he has to register as a sex offender). You might want to talk to an adult (that is not trying to get with you) about this.
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killing animals, then skinning them for furs/coats/jackets etc. is wrong. is it still considered wrong if you keep the animal until it grows old and dies and then you skin the animal to make a new jacket/coat/etc. ? i'm really curious. (link)
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It's all based on your personal opinion and values on the subject. I personally have zero problem with skinning for any reason as long as the animal wasn't killed in a brutal way (that is also subject to opinion). You feel how you feel about things and show stand up for what you believe.
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my boyfriend has recently gone to jail. and i know that sounds really bad but he really didnt do anything except for be in the wrong place at the wrong time. he had a current probation and he was caught hangin out with people with alcohol and he was underage. so hes going to possible have to stay in jail till september if he cant make bail (his bail hearin is tomorrow). so im not sayin im having a problem decided to stay with him. i know ill wait for him, and i told him i would. but my mom's not lettin me accept his collect calls anymore. they're expensive and i get that. but i just wanted to answer his call tomorrow after his bail hearing but my mom wont let me. because he could stay there at haverhill, or he could get moved to concord, or he could be out if he can pay the bail. and my mom wont let me answer the phone. shes like just write to him. but if he gets moved to concord how will i know .. aww. i was hysterical. like i hate not knowing things and she was being such a bitch about it, sayin he asked for goin to jail, which he didnt even do anything. and i hyperventilated and all that stuff. and i cant calm down, i need to talk to him. i need to know where hes goina be. but all i can do is send a letter to a jail he may not even be in .. i dont know waht to do. (link)
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I totally 100% agree with your mother and the person who answered before me. Yes, you can still write to him, and your letters should be forwarded.
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this guy asked me out about two days ago and he hasnt hung out with me since and he spent the night with his ex and a couple of his freinds the night he asked me out.
hes really nice
but do you think he accually likes me?
or is just trying to make his ex mad..
PLEASE HELP ME (link)
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No, he does not like you genuinely- based on his behavior. This is exactly the behavior of someone who is using you to make someone else jealous.
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i am friends with benifets with this guy i realllllly like,but he treats me like all he wants is a booty call...alot of girls like him and i wanna be with him soooo bad but he acts like he dont like me that way. He went out with 2 of my friends and he was the sweetest thing to them and they treated him like crap! i know i can treat him better...why cant he treat me like he treated them? how do i get him to treat me like them?!! :"( (link)
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He doesn't treat you that way because he doesn't like you in that way, yes- you are just a booty call. If you want to change that then stop being his booty call, it's very simple.
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I'm a 19 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I know it may sound crazy, but I havent told my parents yet. His parents know and they approve of me. But my parents seem to disapprove of him because they think having a boyfriend in college would distract me. I've already proved them wrong because I've gotten straight A's this past semester. My parents met him during thanksgiving, but still disagreed with me having a boyfriend. Theyre also very hard to talk to and are shallow saying that he's too short when he's taller than me by 2 inches. I respect my parents, but after a year of lieing to them about our relationship makes me feel guilty.
What do you think is the most proper way for me to tell them? Write a letter? Have my boyfriend's parents talk to them? Or... straight up tell them in person and hope for no lecture?? (link)
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You're 19 years old. You need to just tell them in an unapologetic way. You are too old to be pushed around by them for something as trivial as this. They only control you in such a way because you let them. Just tell them and if they protest then tell them that you can make your own decisions at the age of 19. Then, ignore their cooments and negativity.
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every boyfriend iv ever had has beet me up.they have choked me,kicked me,punched me.chased me and jumped me,some of my guy friends have hit me with bats and the list gos on and on.i have NEVER had a boyfriend who hasent.there has to be somthing wrone with me because even some of my guy friends have beet me up. whats my problem that i always get beet up.13/f im currently single (link)
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You're 13, stop dating until you develop the maturity to choose partners who won't treat you in this way and learn self respect. This kind of wisdom really does come from age and learning, and the only way you are going to get it is if you wait.
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I've seen a lot of questions about emo's on this site, but what exactly is this? I don't think it's an expression we use in the UK. Thanks. (link)
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Teen-kids who dress in a punk type of way and are stylishly depressed (if you know what I mean). They are the ones with the black/brightly colored/all over the place hair and mismatched and rather strange clothing. We called them freaks when I was in school.
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My period was July 26th to July 31st. I was ovulating from August 4th to the 9th. I had sex the 4th, 5th, 6th, and twice on the 8th. I also expierenced this:Many mothers-to-be get a few days of bleeding right around the time that the early embryo is burrowing into the wall of the uterus. -But, this happened around the 4th & 5th. I have never bled after my period, I have very regular cycles. I dont know if this is all in my head because I want a baby so much or what. How soon can I take a pregnancy test? I'd like to today but not if it's to early and will just come back a negative. (link)
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It is still too early, you should wait at least until 2 days after you miss your next period, and even that needs to be confirmed by a blood test. It's possible that you are of course, it's just too early for a test just yet.
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I know that if you don't eat, it actually makes your body gain weight, or so everyone says. But honestly, if you ate nothing, or say 1 apple every day for 2 weeks..would you lose or gain weight? I've always been curious about this. Thank you. (link)
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You would loose because you would start to starve (I actually know this for a fact, being a scientist). It's true that your metabolism would slow and your body would do everything it can to conserve the fat stores of your body, but that can only do so much. If you are starving and not eating any food (to speak of) then it is physically impossible to gain weight or even stay the same size unless you have a hormonal problem. This is, obviously, a terrible way to try to loose weight and you would most certainly need medical attention after trying it for two weeks. But yes, you would began to waste away.
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I want to get started in animal activism and PETA isn't the right way to start, correct? Can someone point me in the right direction?
If someone would give me names of books for other activism things that would be cool as well. (link)
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I'm not a fan of PETA myself, and I am by no means a vegan, but I think the best way to start in slow and steady. Contact your local SPCA and animal rescue and volunteer. This could lead to other issues you learn about and you can meet people who care about the issues you do.
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so if people agree and think that smoking is bad and alcoholism is bad why do people think that suicidal-minded rock bands and stuff like that push the limiting line of "individualism" is not bad and is just being individually unique? surely you cant say that child pornography is just uniqueness that someone has that you shouldn't try to take away someone from doing because you dont wanna interfere with their individualism? or alcohol addictions or smoking? so what makes the difference?
i just dont understand beccause ive had a number of friends whos fallen into the wrong paths (serious depression cutting themselves and suicidal attempts and one actually killed herself :() after being "emo" and the "misunderstood kid" who's always considered herself depressed. i dont mean to label but a general trend was they listened to songs about deaths 24/7 and stuff. theres no hard proof that emo bands and their intense promoting of "individualism" and "being yourself" beyond the line cause these things but then again, there's no scientific proof that child porn is bad, it just is... so why wouldnt anyone agree with me? (link)
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Child porn is terrible because it exploits children who are unable to consent or make decisions to be abused in that way. It damages young people- who have no say in the matter- for the rest of there lives. It is a gigantic abuse issue and is in no way shape or form related to free speech and expression. An adult is free to exploit themselves, but not someone who is doing it against they're will or can not make the decision for themselves. People can choose the music they want to listen to (and make) and what they want to do with it, just like people can choose to buy a knife and decide whether they want to use it to cut themselves or their food. Everyone is free to do what they want with their own bodies and minds, although much help is available for those to want to hurt themselves and need help to stop. But if you don't want to stop...you have the right to go right ahead.
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Would marijuana or other drugs show up on a regular medical blood test for various infectioses diseases? (link)
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Depends on whether or not they test for it, and you don't know that unless you ask. Even if they do find it, doctors are legally required to keep that kind of information confidential (unless you sign a paper saying they can disclose it so someone, like you would for a drug test). The doctors probably wouldn't be too concerned if they did find some marijuana (as long as it isn't a hard drug), you might get a lecture from them but they certainly won't haul you off to jail. And they won't inform your parents if you instruct them not to.
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Okay. I'm 16/f and I want to get a vibrator. The problem is, I'm afraid to get one because I'm scared my mom will find it and I would be SO EMBARRASSED if that happened!! Am I too young to get one? If not, where should I put it (maybe in another room in the house?) where there's no chance of her finding it? FYI- she sometimes comes in my room and starts cleaning out my drawers/closet because she thinks they're so cluttered, so I'm not sure that's a good place to put it. (link)
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Most shops won't let you in if you are not 18. There is absolutely nothing wrong with buying/owning a vibrator, but of course you'd be embarrassed if your mother found a sex toy of yours (this is true of anyone who owns one, at any age). When you do get one, be sure to keep it in a safe and discret spot. If you are really that worried, then maybe you should hold off.
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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person? (link)
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When you are old enough to not have to do it in a car or sneak around so your parents don't hear. Also, when you are old enough to get yourself to the GYN and him to the doctor to check everything out and get on the Pill, plus go to the store and buy condoms without being embarrassed or shy. It's not about an age really, it's about maturity, but if you can't even get a drivers license, you are also way too young.
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