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How to properly tell my stubborn parents that I have a boyfr
I'm a 19 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I know it may sound crazy, but I havent told my parents yet. His parents know and they approve of me. But my parents seem to disapprove of him because they think having a boyfriend in college would distract me. I've already proved them wrong because I've gotten straight A's this past semester. My parents met him during thanksgiving, but still disagreed with me having a boyfriend. Theyre also very hard to talk to and are shallow saying that he's too short when he's taller than me by 2 inches. I respect my parents, but after a year of lieing to them about our relationship makes me feel guilty.
What do you think is the most proper way for me to tell them? Write a letter? Have my boyfriend's parents talk to them? Or... straight up tell them in person and hope for no lecture??
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Well tell them that you're 19 now and are plenty old enough to make your own decisions. if they don't like it too bad. it's your personal love life and no one can change that fact.
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the best way to tell your parents is through personal communication. if u tell your parents through e-mail, they WILL once again disagree because they'd think u'd be too scared to tell them in person, and knowing my parents, they will take advantage of that to prove their point. the best time to tell them is right after dinner, when they're in a good mood and look willing to listen to you. you start by telling them straight out that you feel very strongly about what you are going to tell them, and basically let them know that you made this decision because YOU KNEW YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO HANDLE IT. remind them about your grades and how they arent affected. also tell them that they should respect your decision as a college student and their daughter. IF they bring up the fact that you kept it from them for a year, tell them straight out that they are hard to tell them things like this, and you wish that they'd be a little more flexible with allowing your decisions. (make sure you don't yell at them. it doesn't work then)
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I think you really should have your boyfriends's parents talk to your parents so they could see that your in a relatioship where you are accepted,they will be reasonable,think that they should be fair,give your boyfriend a chance just like you were given one,they will be able to convince your parents to let you date him,and try not worrying about this whole situation.
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You're 19 years old, and your parents are worried about you slipping up on your grades? What the hell!? You're 19, if you can keep your grades up you can manage a boyfriend. Tell them straight up in person. I think it's rediculous that they disagree with it, when you're at an age where a boyfriend shouldn't be something a parent dislikes.
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You're 19 years old. You need to just tell them in an unapologetic way. You are too old to be pushed around by them for something as trivial as this. They only control you in such a way because you let them. Just tell them and if they protest then tell them that you can make your own decisions at the age of 19. Then, ignore their cooments and negativity.
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You are now an adult and as such should be able to lead your own life.
It will not be easy admitting to your parents that you have been together for almost a year, but you have proven that it is possible to go to college and have a boyfriend at the same time.
Be straightforward with them and tell them you are dating and ask them to accept your decision.
Most parents think their childrens' partners are not good enough for them and if all they have to quibble about is a couple of inches, don't worry too much about them being shallow.
Be honest, open and talk to them - good luck.
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Tell them in person. They may not like it but you are 19 and have a mind of your own and a right to have a boyfriend. They may get mad and may not like it but there really isn't a lot they can do about it.
Good luck! :)
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well,you cant expect to not have a lecture when youve been keeping this from them for a year.they only worried about your grades going down which is totally normal of parents.if your sure this wont distract you,then start off by telling your mom.moms are usually nicer in a way.tell her that you have a boyfreind for a year now,its honest and to the point.tell her and promise that it wont distract you from your studies and that you proved it last time cuz you got straight A's.dont try telling them that there are people younger than you that have relationships because thatll prove you immature infront of your parents.tell her that your going to have fallen in love sooner or later.tell her that youre old enough and that you can take care of yourself and hopefully itll work.just dont keep it a secret from them any longer because if they find out by themselves,they wont be pretty happy.
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