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There is a girl at school i like but she only thinks of me as a friend. what should i do?

give her signs that your interested. if she's not interested like that then she'll let you know. don't worry, if she's your friend, and u ask her, that won't stop her from being your friend still. good luck

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Boys always go out with me and end up dumping me after i get attatched. They tell my friends the only reason they go out with me is because they think i am hott and easy.What can i do to change that?

i may not be the flower in the wheat field, but i do know this. the only reason they'd be telling your friends that they think you're hot and easy, is because (in one way or another), you're allowing them to think like that. i'm not blaming you, but if what you told us is true, then i think that you're a softy at heart. you're very sensitive when it comes to crushes and romance. i won't tell you to stop going out with ppl, but i will tell you this vital piece of information. if you don't want a guy that treats you bad and dumps you because you become attached, then become hard to get. don't change your looks or anything, but put out a signal that will let ppl know that guys shouldn't mess with you that way. don't go out with tons of guys that have already played the field twice (if you kno what i mean.) i hope this helps!

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I'm a 19 year old female and I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year. I know it may sound crazy, but I havent told my parents yet. His parents know and they approve of me. But my parents seem to disapprove of him because they think having a boyfriend in college would distract me. I've already proved them wrong because I've gotten straight A's this past semester. My parents met him during thanksgiving, but still disagreed with me having a boyfriend. Theyre also very hard to talk to and are shallow saying that he's too short when he's taller than me by 2 inches. I respect my parents, but after a year of lieing to them about our relationship makes me feel guilty.

What do you think is the most proper way for me to tell them? Write a letter? Have my boyfriend's parents talk to them? Or... straight up tell them in person and hope for no lecture??

the best way to tell your parents is through personal communication. if u tell your parents through e-mail, they WILL once again disagree because they'd think u'd be too scared to tell them in person, and knowing my parents, they will take advantage of that to prove their point. the best time to tell them is right after dinner, when they're in a good mood and look willing to listen to you. you start by telling them straight out that you feel very strongly about what you are going to tell them, and basically let them know that you made this decision because YOU KNEW YOU WERE RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO HANDLE IT. remind them about your grades and how they arent affected. also tell them that they should respect your decision as a college student and their daughter. IF they bring up the fact that you kept it from them for a year, tell them straight out that they are hard to tell them things like this, and you wish that they'd be a little more flexible with allowing your decisions. (make sure you don't yell at them. it doesn't work then)

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