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Q: Okay so this may sound gross or weird, but whatever. i need some advice. first of all, i need to know ways to smoothly shave the pubic area. every time i shave down there, even with a new razor, it isnt very smoothe and it will get bumps. what can i do to get a clean shave? and also i am thinking about waxing my upper lip. i used to bleach it, but it got bright blonde and fuzzy, so if i use those waxing strips that you're supposed to use at home, do you know how fast the hair will grow back, and will it grow back thicker?!?!

Well as long as the shave is close enough, it doesn't really matter for a close shave because noone is going to feel it and I don't think you where spandex with no underwear for everyone to see.

Waxing works for the upper lip hair but don't do what the person down there said about Nair. Nair is NOT aloud to use for public hair. Legs and probably arms and back, chest only.

Q: I don't have any acne, but i do have a lot of acne scars and big pores and I would like cheap products to get rid of those and make my skin look good.

For the sars I think you need to see a dermintoligist. For the huge pores, I suggest using a pore shrinking product, it can be found in shoppers drug mart.

You can shrink your pores yourself but I'm not sure how good that works. Make sure to to use cold water when you wash your face. Another way is to put mints in a bowl and put really hot water in it, the steam from it will shrink your pores.

These shrink your pores for a short term period, I never recorded how long it works for me so I can't really tell you. I hope you're not looking for something that shrinks your pores like really tight or gets rid of them because your pores can never shrink and stay like that forever or that will be unhealthy and impossible. Hoped I helped =)

Q: Will frequent exercise and drinking lots of green tea and water speed up my metabolism?

Excercise will but not green tea and water. The tea and water is just for your health and skin.

Q: Is it problem to have period twice a month?

No many girls irregular periods. It's perfectly normal. I got it twice a month once.

Q: kay so i read that girls can get circumsized. how is that done.. or like ... HOW? or how is that possable. like how do the girls get that done.. JUST WONDERING.

It's really painful and the people that do that to other's don't care how it's done, evening sewing it is an option! I think in some places they did it so some girls will stay a virgin or to punish girls who have sex too much.

Q: well a few days ago... i started my period and I decided to try tampons for the very first time.

My mom is gone on a business trip, so before she left she bought be the Tampax Sport tampons...
well my period started after she left, so I read the directions and I found the hole, and I stuck it in... I could feel it moving up.. IT FELT SOO GROSS!! am i supposed to feel it moving up?????

after a while, I tried to take it out, but it wouldn't come out.. IT HURT SUPER BADLY!
so i started crying, and luckily my grandma was here... i was embarressed to tell her, but i finally did and she helped me take it out. It hurt really badly and i was crying and screaming.

Is it supposed to hurt that badly?? and i also felt it coming out.. am i supposed to feel it coming out?

when it was inside me... i could feel it as I walked.. and so i knew that it wasn't in right, so thats when i tried to take it out.

my grandma said "why did you push it in so deep?"

so my question is... did i push it too deep? or not deep enough? and how do i do it? I think the next time i wear a tampon, it's going to be when my mom is here.

thnx

I never wore tampons before (and probably never will after reading your story) but maybe you jammed it too far when the tampon size was too big.

Q: i have been sick for a few days now. then this morning i wake up go to the bathroom. i take a poop but it felt like water. so i take a look and see bright red blood. so i wipe and alot of blood was on the tiolet paper. then 20 mins later i go to the bathroom again and nothing. what should i do?

ew..Well I guess diareah is normal when you're sick since you're not getting your vitamins. To have blood when you poop is rare but it's probably just a tear in your anus (once in a while thing).

Just eat a lot of fruits that are rich in vitamins, bananas and drink Gatorade only until the diareah is gone. For the diareah, do NOT drink a lot of juice or try not to drink any juice at all..too much sugar..and don't drink water either until yuor diareah is gone.

=) Hope ya feel better! Oh have chicken soup, it really works to make you feel better =D

Q: What's the difference between
affect and effect?

The dictionary isn't helping me.

It's making me more confused.

affect is present tense and effect is past tense

Q: i want to lose a little weight off my thighs because i'm wearing daisey dukes to the next show i'm going to.

i dont want muscle
i just don't want the fat.

how do i do this without gaining muscle?

thank youu :]]

I think sit ups and running, skipping is the best answer =]

Q: i got a bad hair cut
its short
and i have bangs
since my hair is short
my hair is all f***ckedd up
because its wavy and now
its wavy and poofy
i hate it.
please please please help.
im so vain and now i feel soooo ugly.

Ha don't worry about it I cry after every hair cut I get too. It'll grow soon...
Try to get it trimmed every 3 weeks because if you don't have split ends, your hair will grow faster. =) You can try wearing a hoody?

Q: How can I become more motivated to exercise? Please can you give me as many opptions as posible. Because I have tried and i just cant become motivated enough. :[

Veing motivated to excercise depends on how strongly you want to loose what ever you're excercising to loose because if it's not that strong then I guess you don't really want to then.

What I think to help me through the pain in excercising is that I'll look good at the end and that it'll rub it on the people's face that ever made fun of me. plus for the people who did, they'll die an UNHEALTHY death mwuahaha!

Think of how great you'll look in a dress and when you swim =)

And someday when you get the body that you want and some little kid goes up to you and say you're pretty, you'll feel confident to continue excercising. And then when some little kid is desperate for something similar to you, you can give them tips from your experience! =D

Hope this helped a lot!

Q: My fiance and I have been trying to have a baby for awhile now. I got my period twice last month and have been feeling some symptoms of pregnancy. I've heard that you can be pregnant if you have your period, but is that really true? If so, how will you know for sure if you are pregnant? If you have your period and you take a test, would it cancel out the hormones that the test detects because I have my period?Any help at all would be extremely helpful.

I don't think so, but it's rare to because having your period means that your system is draining(why people have periods..).
I think checking the doctor is the safest choice.

Q: i read about this girl who was so skinny and she took these nutrition pills and now she has like the biggest butt and i want to know if u know the name of pills that do that and i also want an answer to this question. can someone get fatter if he or she is hiv positive for about 3 years or something please give in details. thank you

LOL if there was so many people would buy them now. Maybe the 'nutrition' is greasy and junk foods cuz when you eat a lot of junk the junk goes into your trunk LOL.

I don't they people get fatter because they are sick so they'd get skinnier from loosing their appetite.

Q: i always have this white discharge on my underwear. its realy weird. what is it? is it normal?

Don't worry it's just your body cleaning out the system and it's normal for girls. If it bugs you than you can wear panty liners( like a pad but really thin and small).

Q: ok my friend kevin is having trouble talking to a girl lydia and he really likes her.i keep telling him and giving im advice and he goes to talk to her and then he freezes up and cant say anything.can u help me help him.

...I am terrible at romance questions but I'll try anyway. I think since he keeps freezing up he should like practice or gain confidence first, than we'll see what happens.

Q: My hair is sooooooo poofy!! I absoulutly HATE it. I take a shower every morning and it's great when I first get out, soft, shiney, wavy, and relitivly flat. 30 minutes later it's still soft, still shiney, still wavy, but (and I know this 4 a fact) it's 2 inches thicker. How can I stop this? I'll try anything, please!! Any good help will get a five, and I'll answer 1 of your questions!!

Same here! Well try Sunsilk Anti-poof shampoo, conditioner, and cream =)
I don't suggest layering it cuz then maybe your head will look like a triangle when you leave your hair down.

Q: i saw an answer you posted on a bubble tea question. what is bubble tea? thanks=]

=] Bubble tea is a frothy Chinese drink of iced tea, milk, and flavorings served with yummy tapioca balls! It's like the same as a slushie with balls in it :)

Q: i love bubble tea , but my local bubble tea restaurant is closing. where can i buy / order it from, i know it's a rare drink.. that's why i need help

To tell you the truth, places selling bubble tea are rare, but people makign them ren't.

It's really easily actually. You just make milkshakes but make sure not to blend your stuff super smoothly or else it'll be a smoothie or water! Then you just buy tapioca balls in your nearest China Town or asian place and put thme in, stir, and you're ready!

=] I'm asian but I'm too lazy to go all the way to China Town for my fav drink so I make them myself all the time!^-^

Q: So i've been acting a lot lately with a southern accent- just joking around with my best friend.

the truth is i DON'T have a southern accent but i've found myself subconsciously pronouncing some vowels liek i'm kind of southern. i need to stop because i dont want people to think i'm southern.

its like i forgot how to talk normally.

help me lol.

omg lmao same here! Just keep practicing and you'll get used to it. It's just like a foreign exchange student getting used to speaing English and loosing their accent. Though, we really should stop being mean lmao

Q: my stomach always growls during school. even if i eat breakfast, it actually growls more later in the day. if i don't, it just does it kind of during my first class then stops. it's so embarassing because i feel like everybody can hear it and if we're working on something idividually i like panic. i drink water so that kind of helps. we're not really allowed to eat during class. is there a way to avoid your stomach growling?

LOL hey that happens to me too! It's just that your stomache is digesting it and your burning fat =)
I highly suggest you don't drink water or else you're going to need to go to the washroom and the time bewtween classes are like 3 mins? When it growls you could like drop your book or pencil case lmao. When I feel like it's going to growl, I use my arm that I don't use much and wrap it around my stomache really tight and you can't even hear it! =)

bio

After a two year hiatus I am back! I've been on this site since 2006 and things have changed far more greatly since my bright days in my younger years. I've battled with anxiety and depression and I've gotten through it. My life is merely a survival story itself and now I simply want to help others, being grateful for everything I have and simply because I CAN.

Hello you can call me Hitomi^-^
Being a nurse is my passion so feel free to ask me anything and I will try my best

I'll answer every question personally given to me, if you're serious about it.

I am of faith but will not preach in my answers unless the person who is asking for advice is very obvious of being of faith.

Sometimes it is not about getting through the obstacle, but to stay positive within it. Sometimes you are placed somewhere dark so that you can shine to others even brighter!