When it comes to relationships I've been through a lot. I used to be so desperate to be in one I'd get myself in the worst situations, but no matter how bad things were I got through them and now I'm in a loving, caring relationship and have been for almost two years.
I like to give honest, blunt advice and I won't write a book for an answer that can be summed up in two lines! I don't care about my rating, so I'll tell you the truth rather than what you want to hear. So if you don't like the harsh reality of what I'm going to tell you don't ask me private questions.
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Age: 20
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i sometimes ( like when i lay down for a while ) have a sharp pain right above my navel. what is this?? is it part of the sytoms of starting a period. I doubt it. but i really hope not!! THanks! (link)
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It could be anything, it's probably nothing serious, but you should go to the doctor just to be sure. Period cramp is usually below the navel, so it might not be that.
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if a guy older than you who you like is pressuring you to have sex or oral sex and you are not going out and are only friends is he only in it for sex? btw im 13 hes 16 (link)
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Yes. And if you do what he wants you will only get used and hurt over it. So please don't. If he really cared about you he'd become your boyfriend and wait as long as it took until you were ready. Often older boys do only want younger girls for sex because younger girls enjoy the attention of older guys and are vulnerable and easily confused about what they really want. Find yourself a proper, loving boyfriend before you do anything.
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If a guy is acting like he likes you then starts avoiding you...Then makes rude remarks on how he dislikes you wearing revealing dresses...Yet you always caught him peeping over your cleavage most of the time?...He makes sure you're there in the party he's attending yet will only be obnoxious to you making snide remarks on how you look...even goes overboard by calling you a slut... He studies every nook and cranny of your dress (even saw a very tiny hole once on my armpit!That's how crude he can be sometimes!)
Bottomline: he can be a total JERK sometimes yet I can't seem to put my finger on it. He made a pass at me on a drinking spree with friends yet he became cold and distant afterwards. He was an angel before...But lately he's changed into somebody I dont know? I'm just clueless... Talked to him about it yet he denies it meant anything? He's just hard to fathom. I think I need an expert on behavior on this? (link)
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I think he likes you, but he sounds like a complete asshole!
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I went to the doctors in like february and the doctor said I was going to get my period really soon and to be ready.
I still haven't gotten it.
Why is this? I mean i know they can't really tell when you're exactly going to get it or anything. But i think she just said that because i had hair down there. But i've had it for a while. and I've had discharge for about a year or 2 now. I just don't know when i'm going to get it. does anyone know why i havent gotten it yet and is that like weird? 14/f (link)
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There's no reason you haven't got it yet. Don't worry, it will come and probably quite soon since you've already started going through puberty. It's not weird.
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...even if we give good advice people rate low if it's something they don't want to hear? Too bad we can't add a comment to their rating. (link)
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I haven't noticed, but that used to be something that would hold me back from what I really wanted to say when I actually cared about my rating. It's a shame because it can hold people back from giving decent, honest advice.
Maybe they could add like a "challenge" button, where if you think someone has rated you badly for the wrong reasons you could click it and a moderator could decide whether it should be deleted or not.
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i love my bf. alot. but you see the other day we got in a fight because this other guy was at my house. alden * my bf * thought he was over there to see me but he was over here cause my brother invited him over. later he apolizged and said he was sorry. i did too. i dont think he is really okay with it though. if he thought i was doing something with him, does he trust me or not?? i told him that he needs to trust me but he didn't say anything. HELP! (link)
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I don't know, only he knows if he trusts you. He probably wants to, but he's insecure about it. A lot of guys are like that, my boyfriend is. As long as he's not really posessive and it doesn't happen often I don't think it's worth breaking up over.
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everyone says that if you've been dating over 5 months you should have sex. i've been dating my bf for 7. no i dont want to have sex right now at this age. but my mom says she hopes/wants me to have sex AFTER or WHEN im married. i dont know if i can wait that long. but i dont want my mom not to trust me and get mad at me. help!! please! (link)
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That's stupid, some people wait years before they have sex with their partners. Don't listen to the others and don't give in to peer pressure. Have sex when you're ready and comfortable, when you want to not when anyone else says you have to.
Waiting until after marriage is unrealistic and can lead to people marrying young just so they can have sex. Your mom probably just doesn't want to see you get used or for religious reasons. As long as you're in a loving, committed relationship, you're ready and you use protection there's nothing wrong with having sex before marriage. Your mom doesn't have to know about it.
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i have a boy friend who is really sweet and writes me really nice notes ad stuff like that. but i dont think he is for me when ever i am around him i love to laugh but i cant get close and i deel so uncomfortable when it gets to a point where its quite like we are going to kiss i ack out really quick. everytime i am around him i am so uncomfortable.see people would say just give it time but the thing is we have been dateing for like 6 months and we have gotten nowhere. when we are on a date i just want to go home because i am that uncomefortable i dont know if it right soo i need help? and also im afraid to break up with him becasue he likes me so much like allot and he said how he would take a bullet for me adn all this stuff im scared he will get al depressed or like kill himself serioulsly so i need help. so i have two question should this relashoship go on? and i dont know hwo t break up with him if i do?
thanxs hope you can help i will rate fives if you give good advice
thanxs (link)
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You should break up with him if that's what you want. It's obviously not working and you shouldn't have to stay with him if you're unhappy. Believe me, he'll get over it eventually... don't feel like you should stay with him just to make him happy. Tell him it's not working and you'd rather just be friends.
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my bf wants me to lap dance with him. well. not really but he asked me if I'd do. and he asks me alot of nasty questions about sex and strip with him. i dont want to do anything with him except makeout. what do i do?? help!! (link)
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Tell him that you're uncomfortable with what he's asking and you aren't ready for it. If he's worth keeping he'll understand and stop. If he doesn't stop he's sleezy and probably only wants one thing - dump him.
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my doctor said im about to start my period soon. really how long is soon? because i went to the doctor for my phyiscal like in feb. or mar. i think it was march. but i wish i knew when it would happen. thanks. (link)
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Soon could probably be any time in the next year. Your doctor will have told you this because you'll have started going through puberty. There's no way to tell exactly when you'll start so all you can do is wait till it comes and keep a spare pad in your bag just incase it does.
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You know what?I lose wheight when i starve.But then i become again like before.I am not fat but i want to become skinny.Too slim...That is my aim but i end up eating like before again because i have problems with my periods or because i feel dizzy.But i start again stop eating for five days.I lose pounds(5 pounds) but then i eat again.I know that this is not healthy but i fed up!Those HEALTHY diets are really annoying because you lose those ... pounds after three months.Summer is hear and i CANNOT manage being perfect!!!Please tell me what should i do?I have visited a nutritionist but he told me just to eat healthy because i am ok.But i don't feel ok...Please tell me,should i start starving again???Emily... (link)
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You should have learned by now that obviously starving is not working, you can't starve youself forever so when you do eat again you're only going to gain it back. Where has it got you so far? Nowhere, because you're at the weight you were before.
You're exaggerating about healthy diets. You can lose 5lb on a healthy diet in 2 weeks if you stick to it. The only way you're going to get thin and stay thin is by eating healthily and properly and exercising. The weight loss might be slower than you want it to be, but it'll stay off, and you won't be back to where you started over and over again. Try eating 1250 calories a day (eating any less than this will slow down your metabolism).
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well i have this problem..i really hate myself i think i'm stupid fat and totally ugly! my mom always tells me i'm not and i'm soooo pretty but i think she's just saying that cause she's my mom! and well a lot of grown up's are also telling me i'm the most pretty girl the've ever seen but in my school people always tell me i'm ugly except my best friend but i think she's also just saying that cause she's my friend! and i really dont get it .. all the grown up people think i'm soo pretty and they tell me that when im not even asking! but in school everybody says im ugly and everytime i look in the mirrow i start crying! i dont know whats wrong with me! i wanna like me but i really hate me! can anybody tell me how i get myself to like me again? please!!!!! i'll rate high for good advice (link)
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Most people in school will say things like that to make you feel bad because they're so insecure themselves.
You need to start doing things to boost your own self esteem. If you feel fat start exercising and dieting. At least once a week do something that makes you feel good about yourself, get a manicure, buy yourself some new clothes, get a new hair cut, etc. Simple changes to your looks can make a whole lot of difference like plucking your eyebrows or making an effort with your hair. And if you're having a low day do something to take your mind off it like call up a friend and go out with them.
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I just broke up with my boyfriend. I'm afraid it'll be like really weird now like in class and stuff. Do I still walk with him back from class? I don't like many people in that class so what do I do? I wanna like flirt with him you know? We just broke up cause he was to quite and shy and I couldn't take how ackward it was, it was like pointless. I wanna go back to being really flirty again. Maybe in the future we can go back out with a stronger relationship; more open and fun. How should I go back to us being flirty ? (link)
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Tell him that even though you've broken up you'd still like to be friends. If you're not that blunt, maybe you could break the ice by asking him after class, "Mind if I walk with you?"
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My guy friend puts his hand on everyone's shoulder (guys and girls) when he's talking to them or whatever, standing or walking through the hallways. What's up with that? (link)
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I guess one reason could be that it gets your attention. It's easy to ignore someones voice, but harder to ignore someone touching you. If you have a problem with it ask him nicely not to.
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I have really bad undereyes.. they are really blue and just gross would would cover them up??
Thanks. i will rate (link)
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A lot of celebrities use hemorrhoid cream to get rid of their undereye bags. You could try that, and then putting concealor over the top to cover them until they're gone.
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Were Romans the first homosexuals sort of? This is research for an essay for gay rights. Also, it's okay to call women and men gay but only women can be lesbian, right? (link)
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Homosexuality has been around since time began. Yes, only women are called lesbians.
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I'm currently on a low calorie diet, and I've already lost a few pounds. I'm just wonder what are some low calorie snacks I can have to satisfy my hunger? I do a lot of running so I'd burn them off, but I just need to know a few (if you listed the actual calories that would be amazing, but you don't have to) (link)
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Fruit!
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Every time I try to curl my hair from the bottom up with my curling iron, there is always this weird bent part at the bottom that looks very strange. What is the proper way to curl my hair, and are there any sites demonstrating how with videos or pictures? Thanks so much in advance! (link)
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This is probably happening because when you start off you go back on yourself instead of continuing in the direction you're going.
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Anyone know any cool ways to decorate my dorm room. I'm going to be a freshman and I'm in a double. I'm not really into posters or anything becuase i think they take up too much room on the way. I don't care either what my roomate will say because one half the room is mine and she is already puttin up a poster(s)? So far I got leies to put sumwhere. Thank you so much!!
Ps. You can't paint or put haoles in the cement walls (link)
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Put up photographs in like a collage. Photographs of good times like when you've went somewhere interesting with friends. Overlap them and stuff and stick them up there just randomly.
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i have a 14g in my ear now, i want to go to a 6g does anyone have any advice for gauging my ears or cartilage?? (link)
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Stretch them a size at a time, and wait 4 weeks between going to the next size.
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