Here's the deal, I've been friends with this guy for about two years now...Since the day we met we clicked! Things were great we spoke as friends and as time went on I developed feelings for him. I had a major crush on him and a while later one of our guys friends asked me if I'd ever go out with him I said sure why not. He has such an amazing personality and hes cute and very smart and he makes me feel happy, with that said our friend told me that "he" liked me too. A great deal! I was shocked because it didn't seem like he had much interest other than being friends. So when word got back to him that I knew, he started being all shy around me, he was shy before, but not to the ex stream that he is now. We went out last year for a bout a month...didn't last much because he was waaaaay too shy! I was being patient and trying to compromise but, there's only so much one can put up with. It was like, he didn't even want to seem me. :( We'd make plans and he'd cancel. Later on I found out he was ditching me to hang with some other girl, not really cheating, but still he ditched me to hang with another girl. I felt bad, especially because I'm not that self confident and I'm not ugly but I'm not hot...and this girl was like a barbie girl. So I asked him if he wanted to break up he was like "Do YOU want to?" I didn't want to, but I did. Since we never spent time together anymore. It was hard for me to stay friends with him so, I stopped talking to him for a while and tried moving on. Very difficult, but then I met this other guy who was wooeing me a bit. But wasn't really into him I actually was hoping he'd help me get over the other guy but I didn't want to use him and then have him get hurt. So I just quit on that before it got complicated. Well summer is here and the old guy and I started talking again, hanging out with our old friends making plans just like old times but the thing is I still have feelings for him. Always have and probably always will...He recently asked me if I was happy. I said things could be better. He's made it quiet obvious he still has feelings for me, but he's so damn shy. I don't get it, when we had become friends he was shy but not so much, and now he's over the top...he's the type of shy that, when we go to McDonalds I have to order his food for him, because he's to shy to...I know there's no changing someone but should I give it another shot? The thing is I don't want to be the only one to try again...so should I just forget and try to move on...or what do I do? :/
Um...one detail I left out is, I'm 17 and he's 15...I don't age matters but then again who knows.
Any and all help, thank you! (:
At the end you gave it away. You are two years older than the boy. He might be thinking every thing he does is not up to what your use to. you have more two more od expierence than him. You might need to either keep it as friends or talk to him one on one about what you want the relationship to be.You made it obvious that he likes you, just tell him you both need to work on it.
Lillian
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I know that I want hair extensions, but just the clip-in kind that are like $80 at Sally Beauty Supply. I've heard wonderful things about them and I have decided to get them. But the problem is that my hair changes colors frequently. I have dark brown hair currently, but the shade always changes. If I decide to get a dark shade of brown hair extensions, and my hair lightens a bit, will the extensions look stupid ? It won't be a huge difference in color but I want to make sure. Will I have to keep dying it to make sure it stays the same dark brown color ?
I'm not sure if you willing to pay for both of you hair types, but you can do that. It won't look stupid if you said its not a real big change. Though if you want to dye your hair to just make sure you should do that. You don't want to spend all that money asnd not like it.
Lillian
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Can u tell me any good love songs for falling for your best guy friend. And it had to be pop r&b or hip-hop. Hope this helps thanks your very much.
f/14
My Boo is a really good one.
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i'm 17/f and whenever i drink with someone, i kiss them. i don't know where this comes from, but it always happens. i was at my boyfriend's house drinking, and we made out but i thought nothing of it since we've been together for a while. then i was at my close friend's house and kissed her, which was pretty odd, but i just figured it was because we were close and i felt lonely. but then the other night a friend that i had recently started hanging out with came over and we got drunk and i kissed her. not only does this weird me out because its with whomever i'm with at the moment, but also because i'm not bisexual or lesbian. does anyone know where this behavior might come from, or is it just regular drunk behavior? thanks
Haha. Like my mother always sais a drunk person never lies.The first thing why your kissing every one is because you are drunk. Though the other part is that you really want to kiss those other people. Maybe hang out with your friends WITHOUT drinking, and sees what happens.
Lillian
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So my boyfriend was at an event thing where they had a dance, and he ended up slow dancing and dirty dancing with girls. Do I have the right to not like that, or am I crazy?
Yes! You have the right to feel the way you feel, but if you know you have a good guy don't run him off. He knows and you know when its innocent. But when he enjoys it a little too much, thats when you should get the talking.
Lillian
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can anyone tell me the differences between a road bicycle and a beach/cruiser bicycle? could i use a cruiser on the road or is it only meant for the beach? does the cruiser not go as fast as a road bike? i'm confused but i'd love to buy a new bike. please help! thank you!
The difference from a cruiser bike and a road bike is that a road bike goes faster and has studier wheels and more speeds than a cruiser bike. But you can use a cruiser on the road but you wont get the same results you would with a road bike.
Lillian
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theres this guy in my la class and hes really nice and sweet and we started talking at the begininning of the year on facebook and then we stopped now that we have la together this term we started again, we have talked a little in class and on facebook we have exchanged numbers a couple days ago and talked for the past 3 days. im pretty sure i like him but i dunno what to do? i flirt a little bit but i dont wanna make it to obvious because if he doesnt like me i dont want hm to know... but maybe thats necisarry. how do i know if hes interested or not ? just like little things that he does?
thanks
kaaitlyn
You are right. Just the little things that he does or sais to you, can help you know he likes you. But don't get them confused with the things you like about him. If he goes out of his way to do something or sais something to you as a hint to you he likes you, those are the things to look for. He could be like you though, He might not want you to know he likes you just in case you don't end up liking him. But you will know if he likes you. TRust me
Lillian
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15 /f
im a freshman and this boy ... hes either a junior or senior . i noticed him about two weeks ago . i think hes really cute and he seems nice . should i just attempt to get to know him more ? i finally got passed the whole getting him to notice me part cause hes been looking at me in the halls and at lunch .
I'm a freshman too. You should go for it. If your past that stage of getting him to notice you it should be easy after that somewhat. But always keep in the back of your mind that he is more mature than you and he knows a lot more. So he might also expect a little more out of a relationship if you knowe what I mean. So be careful and good luck.
Lillian
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me and my boyfriend have been together for about a year and lately he seems extremely emotionless and uninterested around me, especially in public. but then we'll be alone and everything will be good. i think im just freaking myself out and every little thing he does that makes it seem like hes uninterested absolutely kills me. he says hes tired or hes sore from conditioning or something (which i understand) but sometimes have a hard time believing. am i just freaking myself out? what should i do to calm myself down, and whats he really thinking?
If your really worried about it you should talk to him. Because if he doesn't know he's some what hurtig you, he will keep doing it. I'm sure he is just a little tired from what ever sport he does also. He just might be a little tired going out and when he's alone with you he can just be relaxed. But if youy truly thinks theres more talk to him.
Lillian
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Well i broke up with my exboyfriend about 2 weeks ago because there were rumors that he was playing me which i kno y people thought he was playin me but he wasnt i figured that story out but it made me get more aware and my eyes became more open well i broke up with him because another girl messaged me and told me he was goin out with her too but he says he wasnt and that the girl was just obsessed with him i really dont know who or what to believe i miss him and he tells me he misses me but i dont know what i should do i really need help im soo confused what do you think i should do? what would you do in this situation?
Your first reaction is usually the right one. If you know in your gut and heart that he cheated on you then he probly did. Or if you feel like he didn't cheat on you, and you were only listening to the people who told you the lies then get back together. But maybe takiing some time off from each other is not a bad thing. But ultimately its your choice. Hoped I helped.
Lillian
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I am going to give a little background first then I will ask my questions.
I am 21 and a female.
As I was growing up I noticed that I had several dreams actually come true. Also as a child I would ask God to show me who my future husband would be. After a few months of asking God for some hint as to who he would be, I started to dream about this person with a blurry face except for the eyes. As I got older the guy's face became clearer and clearer.
I am now in a relationship with a guy that has everything I could ever want, but he is not the face I see in my dreams. My gut is telling me to keep searching for this other guy, but my mind knows I found the perfect guy for me. I don't want to hurt my boyfriend but at the same time how can I stay true to him when my dreams and heart belong to another? How do I explain this to him? Also should I listen to my gut or to my head? Please if you can help I would really appreciate it. If you have questions for me about more details let me know.
In the question you stated should you listen to your gut or your head what about your heart? You shouldn't always listen to your dreams though. It could be a dream of what you think could be your perfect man but not be what you need in your life. God can also put what you don't need in a dream. If this is man is as perfect as you say, go for it. But only you wil know for sure.
Lillian
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17/F. So i just recently started dating My current boyfriend, its been almost a month now. But the problem is my ex is still "in love" with me. I havent told my ex about my current boyfriend because I think it would hurt him too much. Would it be better if i just told the ex, and not spare breaking his heart.. again. Or would it be better if I just waited til my ex has moved on and got over me before telling him? As of right now, me and my current boyfriend are pretty low key, and only people who see us together or kiss know.. so its not likely that my ex will find out from someone else, and i want to be the one to tel lhim.. im just scared of he will react.. because i know itll hurt him deeply. Any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated! :)
You shouldn't wait telling him that you have a new man/boy in yuor life. Doesn't matter how much you think he won't find out from some one else, he might. Like you said you want to be the first one to tell him. Its no better time than the present. Even if it hurts atleast its coming from some one he cares about and not just anyone. It will hurt more if he finds out that you weren't the one to tell him.
Lillian
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I have messed up seriously because of my temper and mouth and my wife said she is not in love with me anymore and doesnt even want me to touch her. How can I save my marriage and get her to be in love with me again like she was before?
You need to show her that you are trying to change to save your marriage.If its your temper and mouth go to some anger management classes. Show her that your trying to make it work. Romance her, show her that she matters to you as much as she did when you first met.
Lillian
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Hi all, 22/f, he's 24. I posted this question:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=577027
I did finally end the relationship, but I'm concerned now that he didn't understand that it's over for good, even after I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore. I blocked him on facebook and on AIM, and am slowly trying to kind of disappear from his life. He just sent me an e-mail saying:
"Blocking me on Aim and Facebook. How nice of you. Valentines Day is coming up. Maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised?"
I had intended to cut communication completely and just be done, but I'm wondering if I shouldn't send him some kind of response saying "No, you won't be pleasantly surprised on Valentine's Day, because it's over for good. We're not getting back together, and you need to move on," or something.
I mean, I originally intended for this to be a break for a few months so I could get my head on straight about him, but having had time without him, I feel so much freer, and happier. I haven't cried in a week, when I was crying almost every day with him. I haven't told him that, though.
Should I respond? Should I block his friends, too, even though a couple of them are really my friends, too? Thoughts?
Thanks.
You could go to ways with this. You could cut him off completely and not send him any thig. Cut off all ties with this man. Make it clear and just ignore and move on. Or you could respond to his email making it deadly clear that its over. You can't be nice only brutally honest, and then cut all ties and communication. Either one should be effective.
LILLIAN
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so im still a virgin but i want to have sex. i know that im ready. there is this guy that i want to have sex with and i would be most comfertable doing it with. we have talked soooo many times and almost dated but things got in the way. he is the only one that i wanna do it with if its going to be my first time. buuutttt we barely talk now. how do i give hints that i want to have sex with him? i want to tell him because i want to so bad. next weekend. Please don't tell me "I'm too young to be having sex" because its my business, not yours. I'm asking for help, not for you input on my decisions.
just give me some hints that i could text him. thanks. i rate 5for all!! (:
I'm glad you have come to the decision that YOU want to have sex and no one is pressuring you.Butyou said that you guys haven't talked in a while. So if you talking to him just for sex it kinda makes you a slut. though thats not what your trying to be. If your ok with that then the most obvious thing to do is to start off with a basic hey. And then ask if he would like to go out some time. Hoped I helped in some sort of way.
Lillian
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So i am almost 17 and I have an ex that is 18 we recently broke up and now my period is REALLY! late. Well I was hanging out with my guy friend and we had sex. I have know him for 5 years and we have always liked each other. Well when I told my ex he got made then he took me home. He went to my friends house and tried to kill him. My friend got the knife from my ex and ended up getting his finger cut off. He ended up in the ER so I went down with him feeling bad like it was all my fault and my ex said he would go to the cops and say it was rape when I promise you it was not and now I am stuck because I don't want to be with my ex at fear of him getting mad at me me but my mom wont let me see or talk to either of them until this is all blown over. I feel bad and don't know what to do because I really want to be with this friend and he said he would get stabbed a hundred times just to have that one memory everyone says he was using me but if that is true would he still stick around? I don't know what to do about any of this
Listen to your mother.Stay low for a while. Think about the situation first. You will know when its the right time to comfront both of them. You need to know what your going to say. Let it come from the heart for both people. THis was not your fault, and dont make it out to be. Just stop and think. Hoped I helped.
Lillian
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what should i do.. there is this girl that i became a friend and then we fell for each other.. we open up our feelings and we have the same, she said that she loves me and i love her too but all of a sudden she has change and said that she is not yet ready for a relationship..
well you can't help that she doesn't want a relationship. but that doesn't mean you don't have to stop having feeling for her. She will tell you when its to much. just keep doing what yor doing until you know for sure thereal reason she is distant.
Lillian
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I hope that looks don't matter because i am still VERY traditional with my dating, and i'm not very pretty.
14/f
do i still have a chance?
well thinking your not pretty u probly won't have a chance. But you will always have a chance if your confident in yourself. don't be cocky, just know that your pretty and that one day you will find that special guy. your only 14 you have all the time in the world.
Lillian
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- f / 14
hey, so this is whats up.
this guys is into to me, & he likes me a lotttt but i just don't know at all how i feel about him, cause, i hung out with him tonight and he was hinting that he liked me and such and in my head i was like hm, i really don't know how i feel about this kid cause, i'm the type of girl who hooks-up with guys but. doesn't really want relationships.
& never likes to be tied down cause i feel it's too easy to get hurt that way, so we were in his car and he was on the phone with his friend who's house we were going to, and he was like yoo i'm with my girl and i was like ..... what. and i was like were best friends silly jokingly and he was like no i never said that, and i just ignored it and went on with the night and then we were at his friends house and he was like putting his arm around me and shit, and i was just like uhh. i don't know ! in my head. & he already asked me out in the past so i know he's into me a lot and he asked me out, and i said i don't know... and he wanted a yes or no answer and i couldn't give it to him. then later on that night after he dropped me off i texted him and i was like, are we hanging out tomorrow best friend? and he was like, listen. i'm not your friend i don't need a friend i need something more then that. & i didn't reply i don't know how to make up my mind i just don't what to do hes liked me for a while now, and i don't want to hurt him and leave him hanging i just don't know what to do, if were friends with benefits that would be weird for me i think because, i find if it doesn't work out as friend with benefits then it would just become award, so please help me i don't know how to make up my mind or what to do or say to him, i just don't wanna hurt him cause, i'm just not the type of girl to be tied down and he seems like he would tie me down. please help!
Well even if you don't think your leading him on you are. You know the answer. I'm surprised he didn't pick it up. You don't want him if you did you would have said yes the first time. You said it youself that your not into that relationship thing. And if you just want to say yes to be nice don't it won't help anyone in the long run.
Lillian
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Hi 14f
ok well I had this dream about my bf.< Ok i had only one other dream about him that was alonggg time ago though. He just kissed me than.... later on when we started dating he kissed me. I'm just wondering could what happend in this dream happen soon??? hahha Like is it a sign? I don't know...just i want to know what this dream could mean be specific thanks! ;)
Wow nice dream haha. But that dream can really just come from a mixure of what you were watching and if you were thinkiing about him b4 you went to sleep. Or mayb it's something you want to do in real life. Dreams can mean nothing or everything. Good luck trying to figure that 1 out haha.
Lillian
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