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what are signs that you are pregnant? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I think the most common one is "morning sickness". If you feel dizzy or like throwing up in the morning then that is "morning sickness". Missing your period is one... but this requires time since sometimes your period is juts a little late or something. The most reliable sign is when the test pregnany says "you're pregnant" (E.P.T. I think is the home pregnany test that actually says that...)
Take care. ~Blessed Be...
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ok, at my dads house my brother and sister constantly make fun of me. last night they kept calling me a pig, and a special ed. and they will pysically abuse me sometimes. and they call me "g" casue i listen to rap music. and they like sing a song about me eating all the time. they are really mean. and i don't do anthing to them, and i tell my dad and he sazys either, i start it or get over it, or say something back, but when i say something back he says i start it!! what do i do?? please help!
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Hi Sweetie,
That sucks. Bastards that brother and sister of yours (no offense). You need to do something drastic. Talking to them may not help very much since they'll probably be too immature to actually listen and understand you. I have two sugggestions. What you should try first is being nice to them. And I don't mean like not being mean to them. I mean being nice to them. Buy them an ice cream sundae or... give them a lollypop.... make them a sandwhich.... I don't know, just be nice and make them feel sorry they are bastads to you. If this doesn't work then talk to your counsler at school and tell him/her (its usually a her... i never thought about that but its pretty weird how its usually a her... hmm.... creepy. Anyways) tell the counsler you're depressed and about your family issues. Maybe you guys need family counsling. The reasoon I suggest this drastic messure is because your father (the authorithy) figure refuses to listen. Oh! But BEFORE going to the school counsler talk to your dad one last time. Tell him seriously what the issue is and what he pruposes to stop your siblings from harrasing you. If he offers no solution.... family counsling.
I do wish you happiness. Take good care. ~Blessed Be...
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im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
So you're kind of "Passive Depressive" (...now I don't know if that really is a term... I just made it up) I had my dark days of depression. I wrote poety (mostly depressing or suicidal poetry). I made mistakes those days... I was a cutter. Now, that is something I deeply regret. I don't think you should EVER do that because you do hurt a lot of people. Anyway, after that cry for help I went to theraphy. I'm still going (well I have two weeks off for holidays reasons). It all happened about a year ago... But ever since theraphy and since I started a new school year I really changed myself. I was hanging out with other people with negative energy... this year I left them and finally got real friends. I recommend new friends if you are in a similar situation.
Theraphy is really a good way to get yourself renewed. If you are like a teenager or a child and you dont want theraphy due to parents or financial problems or something then you can talk to your school counsler. Otherwise try theraphy. Talking to someone who will not give you any negative advice and will devoote themselves to listening to you is a good idea. OR email me (l.o.l.) if you just wan to be heard by a random stranger m0rbidme@yahoo.com
My best wishes. oh and "don't worry.... be happy.... something something.... I really don't know how this song goes.... lalalalalalalala" Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be....
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I know someone who is really big on theater just as I am, but I don't think she likes me very much. I have tried talking to her, but she doesn't listen. What should I do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
What you need to do is not focus on making HER like you but making yourself likable to all. Do something impressive on theater.... get yourself involved in theather stuff.... do volunteer work... be inspiering, be a role-model... and be really nice to E-V-E-R-Y-B-O-DY. Oh, and be heard when your friends have the "politic discussions". This builds personality and people know who you are. Being nice to everyone-including her-will make her feel either guilt or it will show her you atre better than her OR she'll be impressed by you.
I do hope everything concludes in some cool way. Take good care. My best wishes!!! Happy holidays! ~Blessed Be...
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I have chlostrophobia and my parents don't really know. Is this something i should ask my doctor about or is it just something normal?
Plz help. I keep having moments where i can't breath. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
If you feel worried about ANYTHING regarding your help (no matter how small or big) you should seek help. Now, something like that condition is a MAJOR issues. Yes, you should imidietly see your doctor.
I wish you my best wishes!!! Take good care and I hope you will see that doctor and be in good health soon! ~Blessed Be...
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im 14 going on 15/f. ive never had a b/f but ive had this one crush for 2 yrs. now! Were good friends now and lately all of my friends have had b/f. i kinda feel left out, but being single is fun 2! i kno this sounds wrong...to me it does 2, but lately all ive wanted 2 do is grab my crush and just kiss him! i think i have a problem...what should i do! please help!~ (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well I guess it can be considered a problem. but a problem a lot of us go through in occassion. I think what has happened is your mind (you're in the stater of infatuation) has gotten too strong about this boy. It will be hard to get over him or to get into other guys. You're going to have to either comfront him somehow or get some space and time apart from him so you canget a hold of yourself and later on start having curshes on other guys.
It's cool that you guys are friends, it really is, but if you stay in the relationship ou are in it can be unhealthy since it seems like you're "tied down" to him emotionally. (L.O.L. Don't I sound like a therapist. Hehe) What I am trying to say is that since you have feelings for him that you cannot control your platonic relationship will not work. What will happen is that you will never notice other guys and they will just pass you by and one day he will get a girlfriend and it will hurt you really bad. You cannot be friends until you learn to be indipendet from him.
Even if you copmfront him about your feelings you need some time apart first. You have to be prepared he'll say no OR yes. Even if he says yes you cannot depend on him so much... it's hard to explain. Anyway, whatever you decide what I would recommend or do in your place is take some time to myself. I would be a bit upset at first, but I would realize its for the best.
You know what the funny part is about having curshes and having boyfriends... when you stop wanting a boyfriend or stop having a crush-when you stop looking, they find you. When I deceided to have no crush... a week or so later I got a boyfriend.
Anyway, sorry this is too long. My best wishes!!! Take good care. Happy holidays. ~Blessed Be...
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what are some really good ways to get a guy to really like you? and don't just say flirt and be yourself i want like really good ways of flirting and things to do with them and just anything that is really helpful. Thanks I will rate you if it is good. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Good ways to get a guy. It can be complicated since a lot of guys like the "hard-to-get" kind of chick and some guys like the nice girls... SCREW THE BASTARDS THAT LIKE THE DUMB SLUTS! GRR! Anyway. I have a boyfriend now... I had other "admirers" before him though between you and I, I still do, hehe). I found that if you're nice to them they'll really remember that. Screw everything else... like if you dress weird or if you're really smart or kind of dumb... Oh! And don't just be nice to them... be nice to other people too. They'll notice that. P.S. DON'T BE SLUTTY! By this I'm not referring to what you drsss in but... like if you're flirting withlots of guys in public. DON'T DO THAT. Be decent.
Oh, and surprise them with a small occasional gift. Not an actual gift, but, like, give them a gum or a candy now ands then (not all the guys at once... just the one guy that you like one day and two or three days later some other cute guy...) I do't mean a real gift like a CD or something (...maybe a burned CD but not a real CD!)
I'm sorry I'm not of help. Ever since I realized guys DO like me I stopped thinking of the theories of "WHY" they could possibly like me. But whatever. There's always two or three guys that like you-no matter what. They're just too shy to say anything.
My best wishes!!! ~Blessed Be...
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well, my hair is straight, but the ends go all retarded and wavy and this totally kills my hair. does anybody kno why this happens and how i can get rid of the waviness? thanx lotss (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Somewhere along the genes... it's just the way your hair is. If you combed it nicely it would look really cool. I guess you don't like it, so what you can do... you can try a straightner. I personally would never use that stuff... then again my hair is ALL straight. I'd probably go to a saloon to get YOUR hair. Seriously, just comb it and take care of it and it will look badass.
My best wishes. ~Blessed Be...
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one of my boobs is smaller thab the other one about a cup size smaller..im 16 will i have to have plastic sergery?or will it cach up?pleese help swn (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I hear that is a lot more common than we girls think. I personally do not have that problem but I have known a person who did. Usually, like in her case, it corrects by itself. Of course, it takes time. Give it a coupple more years. If it doesn't correct itself and you finish the whole developing process you will have to decide whether you want surgery or not. Like I said, give it a little more time.
p.s. Remember, it doesn't matter as long as ytou feel comftrable with yourself. If you feel comftrable how you are, then cool. If you feel comftrable with surgery, no one judges you, it's all up to you.
My best wishes. ~Blessed Be...
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ok well i have this guy friend who ive kinda been liking for awhile.I tell him everything and he tells me just about everything. Well my ex bf raped me couple weeks ago and now my friend is all like mad at him and cussed him out the other day acting like all over-protective like he likes me or something. He also gets kind of mad when i talk about a guy i like i do that because i cant tell him i like him ya know? so i guess what i really want to know is do you think my friend likes me?its kinda confusing me because he likes to joke around alot n ask me out and stuff but hes only joking and he gives me like really wierd nicknames but its always " my something" for example says ur my babygurl n stuff. so do you think he does? sry if its long ill rate high (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
If your ex raped you... of corse this gu has every reason to be protective. He defenetly likes you a lot as a friend. ...Maybe he likes yoou as something more... but he is too afraid of the circumstances and stuff. It doesn't matter right now just HOW much he likes you because he DOES LIKE YOU A LOT... as a friend. If he liked you as a girlfriend... it wouldn't matter. This guy seems like he wants to give you time and he cares too much about you.
Take good care! ~Blessed Be...
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Dear Advicenators,
One and a half years ago my brother *Henry* was diagnosed with hemophilia, which means that his blood does not clot normally. If he gets a cut, it's really hard to stop the bleeding. If he loses too much blood, he could die if the blood is not replenished.
Henry and I always liked to spend time together (he's two years older than me). We'd ride bikes to the park and shoot basketball hoops. He couldn't be too active, but he was my best friend and I felt safe around him.
Anyway, he lost a lot of blood one day, and was taken to the doctor for another blood injection. The horrible part was, that the person who had donated that blood was carrying the AIDS virus. The doctor proclaimed that Henry now had AIDS.
Henry is 15 years old, is in diapers, and must be fed through an IV or a tube. He has about 4 months left to live. My entire family is sad, and angry about it. My parents must monitor him all the time, so I always have to get a ride to my volleyball games. All three of us never have extra time, because we are always there for Henry and when he must be hospitalized. I had to drop out of volleyball for him.
Henry has been the butt of the jokes from the kids at school lately. They make fun of the fact that he has been in diapers. They are unaware of the fact that his brain is slowly being devoured, and he can't feed himself. The AIDS is tearing the whole family apart. But luckily, my friends are there to console me, but I always feel resentment towards the cruel kids at school. Can I please have some suggestions on what to do about that?
Anyway, as I am spending my last Christmas with my brother, I have no idea what present to give to him. Could I please have some ideas? I want it to be special and something he'll remember when he goes to Heaven.
Also, how can I comfort / cheer up my parents? They have been having lots of mood swings lately and have been very stressed.
Any input and prayer would be great. Sorry about the length. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I'm sure you're heard "I'm sorry!" as a response a million times. ...But what you say is so shocking and depressing... I'm sorry. Nobody should go through that... nobody. Anyway... about everyone at school making fun of him... screw them. If they cannot understand you are going through the worst thing you'll probably ever go through in life, well then they are ignorant bastards. It's okay to be angry at them and despite them... maybe it will help you relieve your anger about the whole situation. Either way, try not to pay too much attention to them, instead pay attention to your friends who support you, care about you, and love you. Pay attention to your family and your brother. Your brother needs you to be there for him more than you need to worry about those asshoes who are stupid and do not understand the pain you are going through.
Now about a present for your brother... I think he would love a poem... writen by you, of course. That would be sweet and... he'll remember it in Heaven :-)
My best wihses love! You keep being strong for your brother... be there for him... when he's an Angel he'll be there for you... ~Blessed Be...
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Alright yall, i believe in God and that Jesus is the son of God. But i dont like church one bit, and i dont like the bible. I think i'm a good person, but i do also sin (obviously). And i have a wonderful relationship with God. So am i going to hell because i dont like church, and because i dont believe alot of what the Christians believe? Please help me out if you can. Thanks alot. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
How do I say this? There is no easy way to say it... I'll just say it. Yes you are going to hell.I was messing. No you are not going to hell. ...Still messing. Anyway, do you have any idea how those sentences sounded? Of course I do not know what fait awaits you in the after life! I know that there should be this book of rules that told you about these stuff, but there is not (no, the Bible is not that book). It all depends on YOUR and what YOU feel is right.
I personally do not agree with every single word in the Bible or religion... but I do not think it makes me a bad person. I'm happy with how I live my life. Maybe my neighbour thinks you have to do and live by EVERYTHING THE BIBLE SAYS. The turht is, we live by our own standards of what is right. If God would had wanted any other way... it would be that way. As long as what you do is right and you truely believe in God... I do not think you are gong to Hell. But.. that is just the way I think ;-)
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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my eyeliner is so annoying...it comes off after about 10 minutes, and it always makes a big clumpy thing in the corner of me eye...is there any way to stop it from doing this? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Yes there are many ways ti stop this. Of course, all depending on why this happens in th 1st place. You could try a different brand of eyeliner... maybe a fancier one. The cheap ones usually aren't very good. It doesn't have to be expensive eyeliner... just a different brand. Even if it IS $.99. If you want to buy the fancy kind but don't want to pay $3 everytime you go to the store I would suggest buying your eyeliners in wholesale (cheaper by the dozen).
My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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How do I get more people to like my coulmn and how does it make it more "appealing" (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Believe it or not not too many people are too crazy about my column either. (Shocking, huh? ...Maybe because on occasions I insult people... who ask for it, but it is still immature. Yes, I do get a kick out of it. But I'm usually sweet and logic.) Anyway, what you should do first is GET PEOPLE TO LOOK AT IT. Screw layout! People don't notice a layout if they don't see your column. HOW will you get people to look at your column? be active! Answer as may questions in a appropriate, polite, yet interesting way that will appeal to people. ...Maybe chattingon the site and telling people about your column... if you are a moderator then participate in the discussion board. Um, if you're NOT a moderator forget I ever said anything about that, LOL.
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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How do I change my password on advicentators? I'm a computer retard and I can't find it on the help stuff! thanks in advance! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
go where it says "Welcome (Your Username Here)" underneath the option "Profile Settings" or http://www.advicenators.com/settings.php Then the option will appear to change your password. Type in the new password you want.
~Blessed Be...
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I'm not sure what a guy looks for in a teenage girl as far as looks,personality,and do guys like girls who like or play sports? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I'm not a guy but I can give you my opinion... about the sports... some guys are attracted to girls who plays sports. I have this friend who plays basketball... she's um... very popular with the boys, l.o.l. But it STILL depends on looks and personality. A guy will not go out with you just because you play sports but your personality sucks. Only personality and looks make up for eachother. Meaning if your personality is reeeeally cool then screw your looks. Visa versa. I don't mean to be shallow but its the reality that many boys think this way. Of course, not ALL boys do. It depends on their morals as human beings.
Sorry i'm not much help... hopefully a boy answers your question and gives you ACTUAL ADVICE. L.O.L. Take good care! ~Blessed Be...
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i can you get over a guy? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I can. There's no such thing as "not being able to get over a guy". First thing you have to do is accept that even if you cannot get over a guy now it's okay. You WILL get over him in time. Then you just give yourself the time... being open minded... one day you wake up and you're over him.
Take care, you. ~Blessed Be...
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i have to do this thingy in front of my class.. which is 36 people and i have to memorize it... its a monologue. and im scared. i think imn gunna go out there and like freeze!! what do i do? 13/f (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Are you the only one who is doing it? If you are not the only one do not worry... you are not the only one freaking out. If you ARE the only one or one of the only ones doing it... practice. Maybe even recite it in public. Once you stop being emberrased that you're reciting something in public and starngers walking by look at you like you are crazy... you'll be ready to recite it in front of class. ...Or imagine everyone in their underwear. I've never done this method but... one day I will, l.o.l. What I did when giving speeches was looked down at my paper when I felt really nervous and look up at the crowd as if they weren't people ... as if I was just following procedures.
Hope someone helped. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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I really like this guy, and he just happens to be my best friend. I know everyone says that if you go out with one of your good friends, it will ruin the friendship. Well I don't believe that because I think all good relationships are based on a previous friendship. Well anyways- one of my really close girl friends is the one he likes, and I don't want him to ask her out, but I think he's going to because that's what he told me. I know I'm really good friends with her, but I just find it hard to support her in this situation. It's not that I want him to not ask her out and ask me out, but I would rather him not go out with anyone because I'm afraid he'll act different around me if he's going out with someone because normally we always flirt and stuff. Can anybody tell me how I'm supposed to tell him that and be honest with him without him getting mad at me or thinking I'm wrong to say that? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well the friendship thign is good. Its good to know someone before liking them and going out with them. It makes your relationship (if you end up a coupple) a whole lot better! So its usually a good thing to be good friends before. Anyway, all you can do is be honest AND be his friend. A suggestion: write him a note and tell him that you have feelings for him. That you wanted him to know you care more about him than he thought you did. Tell him to consider it and if he still would rather be with the other girl then you will respect his wishes and be his friend. Its uaully hard to do these things... writing letters. But the best thing for you regardless of if he feels the same way or not is telling him how YOu feel. ...Maybe he doesnt feel the same way... but if he ever does... you'll know. Maybe he does feel the same way... he'll tell you. If he doesnt you'll move on quicker and you'll have confidence in telling guys what you want. No matter what he decided if you really do care about him as a friend you'll be his friend.
I do hope he likes you back. I wish you happiness. ~Blessed Be...
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2day my family and i(14) found out that my older sister (27) has a tumour down there, and is supposed to be haveing surgery in a week. after that they will be putting her on keimotherapy(sp?) and well if none of those cure her, she will then only have 1 more year to live..im so scared of loosing her! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Wow, that is terrible. I am very sorry anyone would have to go through that. Well there are things you can do. First of all, have faith. Try to be positive... not just for yourself but for her and your whole family. Someone needs to be positive and have faith. She will live. If you believe it and want it enough... it will happen. The other thing you can do is be there for her and with her. Spend time with her... listen to her. And I mean actually listen. Think of everything she says... observe how she reacts to things... and talk to her as her little sister... ask her for advice, tell her about the boy you like, ask her about what she went thought when she had your age... Be grateful to have her with you. Not just her but everyone in your family as well. ...You're going to be scared maybe even angry, but its okay. It's how you're supposed to feel. Just love her and have faith.
My best wishes to you, your sister, and your enitre family. ~Blessed Be...
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