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Yo, the name is Kev. I'ma a sucker for beautiful eyes, a lover, poet, artest, martial artest, writer, gamer and romantic... Need i say more?
I have 17 years of age, Ima guy, and I live in Rockville Maryland and go to Rockville High Skool. I made this thing because I wanted to try and help people... I know that there are few things to help myself... So I try and help people from ending up in a hole that I many never get out of.. So, BlackBatman at your service people

advice

this will be kind of long but i really need help and will rate high. i basically have no life. i have friends but they all live so far and it's hard to make plans. someone always cancels, or i lose my ride, or something happens. i live in the middle of nowhere and attend a school outside my district. i spend my days and nights alone and i actually got a job so i could feel like i was out for at least a few hours every week. to be honest, i was hoping to make friends at the job but they gave me a job in the back of the store all by myself and that doesn't help either. i try to talk to people at my school and most of them just really don't care what i have to say. i guess i'm just not interesting. three of my friends i have not seen since they left my school and the two i do see are completely disappointing in the sense that they do nothing but emotionally harm me. i need to know how to meet people, and make more friends... i have no idea how to get out and socialize if i can't do that at work and school. i just need some advice because i feel like giving up on life. all i really want is someone i can hang out with when i'm not working to escape my pathetic excuse of a life... i don't understand why it's so hard. :-/ please help me.

I know EXACTALLY how you feel. I've pretty much been in the same situation for most of my life. Yes, it seems hopeless about 100% of the time, but you just have to keep trying. If you keep trying you'll always have a chance to get a life. In the meanwile you can try and find something that you enjoy and that makes you happy. One of the ways I escape is by doing this. Giving advice to people. Just keep trying.
-BlackBatman-

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Okay, i like this guy and ive liked him ever since i met him. well, i liked him last year and he found out. He was all like i like you as a friend. Okay, well i like him still and hes in the grade above me and like were friends and stuff. I kind of have a deadline before the school play ends (jan. 22) to get him to like me, how do i make him like me more than "just a friend"?

You can't MAKE someone like you. Even hearing it sounds forceful =/. Your best bet is just to show him who you really are inside and hope that he'll accept you and like you the way you like him.
Jus show him what you're workin' with :P
-BlackBatman-

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hey everyone. i was wondering if you can flush condoms downt he toilet? thanks

Heh, thats a nice failsafe huh? But I imagen that you probably could savely flush one down the toliet. Although in the end if it gets stuck with other things, in the future you might have a bit of a problem :P
-BlackBatman-

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for one and a half years. He still has his exgirlfriend's engagement ring in his drawer. When I ask him what he is going to do with it he just tells me he don't know. He says, "what should I do with it?" I am sick of looking at it. She has caused so many problems for us. I just want the ring to be gone. He says he doesn't want to just give it away because it cost too much money. At this point I am ready to throw the piece of metal in the dump. What would you suggest to do with it.

No matter what happend in the past you can't erace his feelings for her. Maybe he keeps the ring as a reminder of what was once there. I myself keep lil' keepsakes with me from my past loves wherever I go.. You can either accept that he has some feelings that will never fade, or try and lay down the law for yourself. I personally think you should respect his feelings, or try and talk more about it
-BlackBatman-

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my boyfriend has recently dumped me. he said it was because we dont see eachother enough. it was a shock because things seemed to be going well. i was really upset and tried to talk to him to get him to change his mind. he said he still wants to be friends, and so do i. i just really thought we could have been more than that. ive tried to really get over him but everytime i see him i think about what we were. what do i do to get over him. and do you think there will ever be a chance for us to get back together?

I just got out of a realtionship somewhat like that. I think the best thing that you can do for now is to just do other things to take your mind off him. It works for me when I get upset. I don't know for sure, and you never can tell but they're always a chance that you two can get back together. Just don't get your hopes up.

If you need more advice then ask another question, IM or e-mail me.
-BlackBatman-

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First off, if it helps, I am a 14 yr. old girl.. But Ok, so as usual, there is this guy that I REALLY like.. I mean, I have already gotten over the hard part! Thank God! lol.. I mean, I told him & everything, about how I like him. & hes fine with that, it just isnt mutual. Unfortunately.. but anyways, now I just want to hang out with him no strings attached, just chill sometime.. & have fun..become better friends. just friends. & a lot of the time he is with his older friends.. like my BROTHER, who is 18. & it doesnt seem like he really has time. I mean, we talk a lot online & its really nice, i mean he just makes me smile from that, But I dont know. It may not seem hard to you, but how could I ask him to just hang out sometime? :/

I truly do hate unrequited feelings, but that dosn't seem to bother you so it's less work for me. :P I think you should just tell him straight far ward that you jus wanna hang out with him, or you could hang with him and some of your or his friends untill you two slowly slip into jus hanging out with eachother.

Hope I helped. If you have any other questions then ask, IM, or e-mail me
-BlackBatman-

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I really like thise guy, Michael, who ive been best friends w/ for 10 years. Im afraid he likes my best friend, Erin. He says he doesnt, but whenever he like talks to her, or comments on her myspace, i get crazy and jealous. I know i shoodnt. I really cant tell anyone, just for reasons ... telling some1 is not an option. How can i like calm myself down? He will never like me back ... can i get over him?

Well for one, I'm a extreamely jealous perosn. I don't even have to like the person to be jealous. I find that theres two ways to handle a problem like this, and they are to either cope with it, or do something about it. You can try to slowly be comptable with the fact that hes going to be like that, or do something to change it.

If you want further advice then ask another question or you can either IM or e-mail meh
-BlackBatman

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Okay so Ive been raped,cheated,used and more in past relationships. But I've know this guy for about 3 years now and weve been dating almost 6 months. Were very close and well I really really think I love him...Is this possible..were sophomores in highschool and weve been best friends ever since 7th grade. We have the same family background and everything. He talks of me being his wife someday..what do you all think?

Most anything is possable, and with both your backgrounds, and seeing how close you are then sure you two and be wed.
-Vex-/BlackBatman

If you want or need more help you can ask more questions, e-mail, or IM me

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There is this guy who a little younger then me (nothing illegal or anything)...he goes to my school and we always make eye contact in the hallways and sometimes i catch him staring at me. I think he's really cute and maybe kinda like him but i dont really know him. I want to talk to him but it's hard because i'm so shy n he seems kinda shy too. I'm mostly scared to talk to him because he might not even like me, thats what usually happens anyways. I kno i shouldnt waste my life thinking what if but im to scared to make a move, it's not my kinda thing, is there anything i can do to maybe talk to him?

Well I can understand if you're shy, I used to be like that too. I sugest that you maybe write notes to him or letters. That way you don't have to talk to him directly, and get slowly get to know hime better, and feel more comtable talking to him to the point where you guys actually do get to talk. And if you do find that you two are good for eachother, go the whole 9 yards n' ask him out. But if hes not interested thne you have one more friend. It can work for you either way. Hope I helped.
-Vex-/BlackBatman

If you want or need any further advice then ask more questions, IM, or e-mail me

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im 16.. im in love with a guy that is 15. we went out for 4 months. but ive known him for almost 3 years now. i lost my virginity to him. one day we did it and everything was normal. the next day he calls me and says, "lets take a break, then when i think we are ready to make this a serious thing ill ask you back out." i was just like um okay? well then a couple days later i hear hes going out with some chick from his school. so hes "taking a break with me" to go out with some other chick. that really hurt me. because im in love with him. well i saw him and he didnt say anything to me. he kept like 10 feet away from me. and i was pissed off about the whole situation. then the next day i call him to talk about everything going on and he called me a b**** and i was like why are you calling me that? and he was like i heard what you said to people last night about me. i was like what did you hear? hes like you just trash-talked about me the whole night to my friends and family. and he hung up on me. so i call him back and left him a message, because he didnt answer, and i was crying and i said "the only thing i said to anyone was that i was in love with you". and that is the first time i told him how i felt about him. ive never told him i was in love with him before. and i havent heard from him since. what should i do about this whole situation and the next time i see him? and i see him quite often because my mom works for his dad. i dont know what to do PLEASE help. this may turn into suicide. he was the only thing i had.

frist off, i know how you feel. i had firsts with a gf that jus broke my heart to. but thinking clearminedly about this. in my opinion i think he was just using you to get what he wanted (sex of course) i think the best thing you can do right now is to see him again and TRY to work out things in a clam manner, dont go up to him and start yelling or anything like that. it just makes things work. Just try to see what made him do what he did. In the end its not something you should get hung up over. i know its hard but you just have to get up and live life again. because thats the only way you're ever ganna be happy

If ya need more advice you and IM or e-mail me
I hope I helped
-Vek-/BlackBatman

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Hi. I am having a bit of confusion with my love life. Pretty recently, my boyfriend and I split up. I also have a good friend, whom I like, whose girlfriend just broke up with him. He said earlier that if he was single (when him and his gf were still together) that he'd go out with me. Now that we're both single, I'm wondering if it's a sign that we're supposed to be together because both of our relationships ended so fast. I'm also wondering if I should ask him out. I really like him, I may even love him, but I don't know if I'll be able to face getting rejected by him if he doesn't like me. What should I do?

Welp, if your first realtionship ended really fast, i dont think you should jump into any new realtionships for a wile. Wait for a wile and see if your realtionship with him gets better and what not. Then, based on the new things that come up, deside what cha ganna do

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My boyfriend and I are really close. But he's also "close" to most of his female friends. He hugs them (Which I don't mind) and then he sometimes kisses them on the forehead. And then to make matters worse. He keeps writing these "love poems/letters" to his ex-girlfriend. I confronted him about it, and he said (and I quote), "Yeah, I still love her... But not like that." And then I read the poems. And it's so... well.. sexual and stuff. The kind of things you'd write to a girl/boyfriend. And she doesnt even like him anymore! (I'm pretty much best friends w/ her) I love him soo much.. But at the same time, people are telling me I should break up w/ him... HELP!

welp, its obviously distrubing you, so tell him to tone it down a bit or stop all together....or you could try n' make some kind of deal with him. like for ever letter he writes someone else, he has to write you one too, n' hugs and stuff.

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I really like my best friend.. and she says she likes me too... But some times the things she does don't make it seem like she feels the way she says she does. Should I go with her actions or wordS?

yeah, people are like that sometimes. as for beliving in either her words or actions you should just fallow both, because they should both be a conbinaton of how she feels, and if they dont go togeher, would it be so hard to ask her about it?

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i'm having this problem with my love life. i have a boyfriend who i love, but i am also developing feelings for someone else; lets call him Jack. i've known Jack practically all of my life. and i've known my boyfriend for about 9. i think Jack wants to be with me and i want to be with him. but i also want to be with my boyfriend because i'm madly in love with him. what should i do?

welp, thats a tricky one isn't it? tally it up and see all the good and bad points of each guy, then see where they both stand, then you can think deeper about which one would better benifit you in a long term realtionship

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Im pretty late...and I'm 16 going on 17 btw I feel like an idiot and I know its all my fault. Anyway how am I gonna break it to my parents?

do it like a bandad, one quick motion, you should just get it over with, they're going to know about it anyways, so it would be smarter if you broke the news to them rather then them questionning why your belly has gotten so big

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In Drama, we have to write and perform a two minute monologue in front of the whole class next Tuesday. I'm not worried about performing it, but I have no ideas at all on the subject. It can be on anything, you have to "get into the head of a character" and perform the monologue in the first person. Thanks in advance

what better way to get into the character then have the character be you? or someone similar to you, it would be fun and easy to bais your monologue on your life

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18/f/ohio

I was wondering if anyone would know what I could possibly get my 25 year old boyfriend for christmas. Its not really that far away and I would like some ideas so that I will know how much i should save up. Does anyone have any suggestions?? I rate high. Thank you for your time.

you should be saving up for a gift with an unknown price, just try and talk to his friends, or talk to him about what he likes, try n' be sneeky about it..that way you'll get to know him better, and have an idea about what you can get him

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So, I'm going out with this girl and everything is going well and everything. Yesterday we are talking on the phone, and she tells me that she is attracted to heavy guys, which I don't mind. I wouldn't consider myself obese, but she says she usually dates heavier set guys. Although she didnt come out and say it, she seemed to hint that she would like me heavier. Now, I'm willing to do anything for her, but I just spent last summer trying to lose weight! I'd rather not gain back that 25 I lost... Is there anything I can do that will satisfy both of us? For your information, I am 15 and male.

well, you should talk to her n' ask her if there is anything you guys could do that would benifit both of you. If not then you either have to take a stand and tell her that you just lost weight and you dont want to go back, or gain weight, your choice, though i would segest that you stay thin, for your health, and your realtionship

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I have had really bad razor bumps under my armpits for awhile now. I have tried everything! I use shaving cream, I have used creams, I have tried different types of razors. I dont know what else to do they're embarrassing. Please help!

well if they're that bad then you might want to try a doctor to get rid of them

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Okay I am 18/f and I have a wonderful boyfriend. He's 22 and he lives about 1 hour from me because he moved that far to work. He comes to visit me every weekend and calls me every night. We have alot of fun and talk about everything. We have been dating on anf off for 3 years now and are planning on getting married in about 1 1/2. Recently at my work I noticed this guy flirting with me alot, and well I do the same. I saw it as harmless, I would joke with him and stuff and he would back. He had a girlfriend at the time too, but just the other day he walked over to me and pushed me against the wall and said 'watsup babe' and laughed. I found it funny at first but a little odd, then I found out he broken things off with his girlfriend partly because of me. He also slipped me his phone number in my work folder and the other day I saw him he asked me to come to his apartment. I really find him attractive(he looks like the lead singer from my chemical romance) and really like him, I only want to be friends with him because I love my boyfriend so much and wouldnt ever cheat. But when Im around the guy at work Im much more open and talkative then I am with my actual boyfriend. Im just asking if its wrong to be friends with a guy that likes me in a way that my boyfriend wouldnt find appealing?

its not wrong that your co-worker is attracted to you, and you've said that you wouldn't cheat, so i dont really see any problem, just dont get to attached to him, and let him know that you have someone else, and are not looking for a realtionship with him like the one he obviously wants with you
bottem line is: its not wrong, but if you give into anything hes offering then things could get ugly, just tell him, and your bf how you feel and work everything out

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