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well i wanted to lose like...a couple pounds...and i know it was bad but i only did it for about a week and a half....i went anterxic.....after i got done with my week and a half...i was going to eat but,watch what i eat....well now that i am trying to eat...i dont get hungry...i dont get that stomic feeling anymore...is this normal?? will i get it back?

Well that wasnt very smart to do that,
& it sounds like you have acute annorexia.
You should tell a doctor or someone who can help you, because denying your body of food & what it needs, is basicly killing it. well obviously..
and its seroius, your internal organs can shut down.

I would get help soon.

hope i helped.

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uuh i have some blackheads on my nose. how do i get rid of them. and dont say get a blackhead facewash, because they're just on mt nose, not my whole face
ex ohhhh *

Try using astrigent on it!
that usually helps with me,
and if you get blackhead face wash,
you dont necassarily have to put it all on your face,
you could put it just on your nose.


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ok so I straighten my hair in the night b4 school but i duno when I leave it let up it gets sweaty and then it comoe back wavvvvy. My hair doesn't need straightening but it's easier to coomb//brush and it luks better..
so my question is how will i keep my hair straight during the night? Doo I put it in a bun or do i use a bandana? HELP!!!

Okay, first of all, eh its kinda pointless to straighten your hair before you go to bed. Try doing it in the morning before you go to school, thats what I always do.
Because the moisture will make your hair wavy if your sleeping with it in a bun.

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My friend and I were choosen the student directors of our middle school drama club, and we have to cast the parts for our two skits on Tuesday. This is my first time casting and directing without anyone above me. Anyways, I was wondering if anyone has casted a play before and how they specificaly chose the parts. By the way, this is not a musical.

When the people audition for the parts of the characters in the play,
look for that they know the lines, they capture the character completely, & that they happy and are just over all great on stage.

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17/f... When I was 14 I dated a guy Branden for 2 years (until I was 16/ he was 17) and when we broke up it ended REALLY BADLY! (other than that the only relationships I have had have lasted for like maybe 2 weeks...)And that relationship pretty much scared me (he was my FIRST EVERYTHING!) and now I am afraid of getting hurt, by anyone. I have a boyfriend now that I have been with for almost a month and he tells me that he loves me and I have really really strong feelings for him but i dont know why but I just cant bring myself to tell him how I really feel because I'm so afraid of getting hurt. How can I just let loose and tell him how I fell? B/C I'm also afraid that if I dont tell him I will loose him for not telling him...

Sorry It's so long... I WILL rate high for reasonable answers... Thanks...

Okay well first of all, break ups hurt.
Especially long ones, you feel like you cant trust again, I know how that feels too.
It doesnt help that you guys ended things ona bad note either huh? But I think you have problems with trust and telling people you love them because you were so emotionally involved at such a young age you know?
Its going to take some time, but you'll be able to get over branden. And this new guy that you are dating, if you explain to him the situation, what you have been through before, and tell him that you care about him a lot, I think he';ll understand, you shouldnt loosehim for not saying it, especiallyif your not ready.

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i have allways wondered..what do you have to do to become a model.. i think it would be something i really would lyk to do and i want more information on it

Well my sister modeled for a while.. and its harder than it looks. I found a big book that she had to read, about being a model. You have to be perfect almost. Your poise, the way you hold your face, your body, what you eat, how much you weigh..
I'm honestly not all that interested in being a model. But! if you are look up some modeling agencys in your town & just remember its really tough.

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I have strep throat, a pretty bad case of it too cause I waited a while before I got meds for it. I haven't eaten much in days simply because my throat hurts to bad to swollow anything more then my own spit. I've had countless bottles of water trying to sooth the pain and keep my throat moist however I'm still in great pain.
Is there a good drink ( besides like Tea, it's really sensitive to heat right now, I tried tea already) that will help sooth the pain enough so I can talk and eat temporarily? Thanks! :)

Aw if you have strep, that would hurt really badly.
I'm sorry! i hope you feel better.
But some things that work pretty good, are cold drinks, because they numb it, smoothies, and shakes are usually pretty good.
If you've already gone to the doctor & got meds, then just drink alot of liquids (the cold kind) and just wait it out.. i know you gotta be patient to get better again.

hope i helped
feel better

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ok im 13/f i weigh about 125 and i want to weigh about 110 so i want to loose weight an easy way is there an easy way to loose weight other then dieting and really hard workouts but if not can u send me some information from the internet because i cant find any thanks

Well hun, okay first of all, theres not a easy way to lose weight. It takes time, and hard effort, if you really want to lose is, you have to be willing to stick to a diet, and exercise.
You can start to lose weight though by simply changing little eating habbits, dont have snacks all the time, eat a healthy breakfast, lunch , and dinner, just dont eat too much.
Go walking, or jogging, or weightlifting..
try pilates, its a great way to tone your abdomin.

hope i helped.

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Ok. Well, my computer won't let me sign on, or download AIM because it keeps saying there is an error or something and to try again. And I can't get on my e-mail account either because there's an error there too.

Does anyone know why or how to fix this?

And I just had it fixed and when I tried to get onto AIM it wouldn't let me.. in case it helps.

If you have windows XP go to control panel add or remove programs,
and then find AIM, and click repair.

hope i helped!

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Okay this boy i've asked him if he liked me he said yea kind of that sort of thing so i asked would you ever go out with me he said oh sure yes but he said u can't or something because of his friends but what i don't get is he went out with this girl who was way shy and quiet and im very energetic and stuff so could his friends be an excuse to him not going out with me????

Boys are confusing.
Dont spend your time thinking too hard about them, when the right one comes around, you'll know.


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Alright so me and my best guy friend, we are close. Close as in he tells me mostly everything. He's such a cool guy and I love him to death. [I'm not sure if I have feelings for him, I'm sure I don't] Well, people at school always tell me that he likes me, but I usually don't believe it. But lately he has been acting strange around me. Yesterday night we had a party thing, and I asked him if he wanted to dance[It wasn't even a slow song, and I wasn't trying to make a move or anything.] And he goes, and I quote, "No. I mean do you know how akward that would be later? I mean we are in the same math class." Yes we are in the same math class, and that seems to be the number one problem. If I ever ask him something in a friendly way [Like do you wanna dance?] he always uses the excuse that we are in the same math class as a way not to do it. But he always dances with my other friends and has a good time. But refuses me. I don't understand what's going on with him. Does he have feeligns for me and is trying to hide them? Or does he just not like me at all?

Aw well I think if he liked you, he'd be thrilled that you asked. So this shows me that maybe he doesnt. But you should tell him how you feel, because if he does like you, he wouldnt want to hurt your feelings. Even though you dont like him that 'way'. And if your curious and brave enough you should ask him why he always uses the same excuse?

xoxo

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my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and iam dating this boy named Jesse and he's 16 years old,but his parents want him to break up with me becouse they think he's to young to date,but they let his twin brother have a gf and he's really immature like he cusses teachers and stuff like that.why would they let Jeffrey have a gf and not Jesse?what should I do?

Well your only a year older than him, & thats not that big of a deal I think.
And I hate to say it, but if they let his twin brother date someone and he is a trouble maker, then it could possibly be his parents dont like you? You should continue dating him, despite what his parents say because, love is love, and if its ment to be, his parents will get over it.

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hi i like this kid named travis ....and i don't know if he likes me...what do i do? my heart breaks easily...and when someone says fer say i don't like you like that...i feel like i could die...anyway when ever i call him he's like no your not going to let me go..(phone)wise...so what do you think...oh and like i will say ooops..my bad...and he will laugh and repeat it in a funny way...and like i say dude and so does he he like copies...makes me laugh...what does this mean ...??do you think he likes me...
thanks i rate high..samantha

Aww, well he could like you, or he could just be a good guy friend.
You never know with guys, itd be so much easier if they just told you right? but guys are just as afraid of rejection & heartbreak.
Okay well I think he may like you, if a guy can make you laugh, and your comfortable with yourself, I say go try it, tell him you like him. Dont ask him if he likes you. just tell him you like him :) for these things you need to be flat out, so you dont confuse him and embarass yourself.

But if he doesnt, and your heart breaks, just realize that its not the end of the world.
And watch someday you'll probably break some guys heart!, but always remember that he isnt the only guy for you. if things dont work out that is. :]

let me know how it goes :]

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do you think its weird. if you stay with your first boyfriend forever
b.c i think thats gonna happen to me
i dont mind. but is it likey to happen

Its not weird, first loves usually always feel like they could last forever.
Its kinda rare that they do though, but you never know. But people usually date quite a few before they find the right guy.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 months, friends for 4 years, and I recently tried to end the relationship. I don't see our futures working together, he has no personal ambition, and numerous other things. I thought the break up was going relatively well considering the circumstances, but then he lost it and started crying. That was the last thing I expected as he is NOT the kind of person to EVER cry. I felt so terrible for inflicting this kind of grief on someone I care so much about that I agreed to stay in the relationship. (He isn't/wasn't trying to cry in orderfor me to stay)
Now I don't know what to do but I need to get out of this. He's gone back to his normal self and has seemingly forgotten about our whole deliemma. He wont acknowledge my unhappiness and instead chooses to credit my cheerlessness to any other problem.

Please don't respond with "Just leave him" or other short answers with no reason.

Aw, well, he may have been hurt at the moment you wanted to break up with him. But now that you are back together he's supposedly 'over it' as guys are. But if you really want out, you have to deal with hurting his feelings, and remember that eventually he will get over it. Seeing as he did so quickly when you said you'd stay with him. It just might take him a little longer to get over you once you guys actually do break up. & if he doesnt care that you are unhappy, than he definitly isnt the guy for you. Try writing down why your not happy, and tell him, and then explain why you guys have to break up, and that it is for the best, because you dont see anything in the future.
hope things go well.

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Yet, I still find myself caring.

I used to go to language school early last year with this guy I met there and we spoke a bit then I left and we spoke sometimes on MSN. Well tonight we were talking and he basically joked "What's a hot sexy girl like you doing alone" and I asked if he really meant that, and he said then I wasn't hot and sexy at all, and I would be if I wore a bit more makeup. I felt very upset by this comment and got mad at him and called him a whole lot of names, and said I was only nice to him because I felt sorry for him, blah blah blah. I didn't mean a word I said.
Well he just emailed me, not apologizing or anything, but saying he was upset by what I said, and that its true i wasn't the most attractive girl there, everyone else was prettier but he doesn't try and sugarcoat things. Then he went on to say he feels horrible he wasted effort and breath on me when i was only being nice to him because i felt sorry. He said this cut him pretty badly because he thought we could've been friends.

Should I apologize to him? I have absolutely zero interest in him, but I feel guilty now. He did hurt me pretty badly though. I don't take comments about my appearance too well. Then again two wrongs don't make a right. I did insult him pretty badly. So what do I do? Sorry this is so long.

Well, I honestly would just forget him completely. Dont stress over him, dont care. I hate saying that, because feelings are a must. But sweetheart, I think everyone is beautiful.
Makeup doesnt make girls look pretty, it just emphasizes what they already have. I would be completely upset if someone had said tha to me too. But I think that his "brutally honest" excuse is just his way to be mean. And its good you insulted him, because what he said was wrong. Your right 2 wrongs dont make a right, but people cant walk all over you.

xoxo

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Last monday my ex and I broke up and now he's telling everyone what we did in our relationship.He calms he " hit it and quit it" which means he was just with me for sex. So it all back fires on me.But instead of just sitting here and letting him say that.I started to tell people that I "hit it and quit it". Does that make me a slut or does it make me look stupid?i really dont have a choice.

Honestly I wouldnt have just said nothing,
because rumours only grow if you let them,
if you ignore them they will eventually die down & become old news. It doesnt make you sound stupid that you said that, I mean your right, he's making you seem easy, and stuff. but guys are idiots like that, they want to make themselves seem big, better, and cool. But we all know they arent.
But overall let your ex know somehow how you feel maybe? if your not on talking terms (I dont htink you are)then act like you dont care.
Your real friends will know you didnt do anything.

hoppped i helped.

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what does analyze actually mean?? how would you analyze a topic?? you can't use "I".

thanks

To "analyze" a topic would mean, look at the details, how its structured,figure out what it means, the evidence.. Yeah.

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How do you make pictures all fun and colorful with cool text and graphics on it? Everyone does it but i dont know how! Here is a good example of what I mean:

http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=35029847&imageID=318601569&MyToken=86937bb4-848d-422f-9f02-ec100164a28e

If it helps I have photoshop and paint shop.

You basicly just need to let your creativity soar. Play around with photoshop&paintshop.
Get ideas from other people!
try things, you might like it.

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well;;i am 13.
and have yet to start my period.

i have had discharge for 3 1/2 years now. and have hair down there. i dont no really when i will start. when will i start? please dont tell me your lucky or everyone starts at different times.:] also, how should i tell my mom i started my period. i dont want her to be all weird about it. thannks!

Well first of all, I will say it.
Everyone has it at different times in their life,
but a way you can tell is, ASKING your mother what age she got hers, because you'll probably get yours around the same age.

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