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Having a Hard time Latching on
17/f... When I was 14 I dated a guy Branden for 2 years (until I was 16/ he was 17) and when we broke up it ended REALLY BADLY! (other than that the only relationships I have had have lasted for like maybe 2 weeks...)And that relationship pretty much scared me (he was my FIRST EVERYTHING!) and now I am afraid of getting hurt, by anyone. I have a boyfriend now that I have been with for almost a month and he tells me that he loves me and I have really really strong feelings for him but i dont know why but I just cant bring myself to tell him how I really feel because I'm so afraid of getting hurt. How can I just let loose and tell him how I fell? B/C I'm also afraid that if I dont tell him I will loose him for not telling him...
Sorry It's so long... I WILL rate high for reasonable answers... Thanks...
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Well you have to take risks to learn and sometimes you fall hard but you just have to pick yourself up again yea the bruises will hurt and eventually go away but the cuts take a while you have to give it some time...
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Okay well first of all, break ups hurt.
Especially long ones, you feel like you cant trust again, I know how that feels too.
It doesnt help that you guys ended things ona bad note either huh? But I think you have problems with trust and telling people you love them because you were so emotionally involved at such a young age you know?
Its going to take some time, but you'll be able to get over branden. And this new guy that you are dating, if you explain to him the situation, what you have been through before, and tell him that you care about him a lot, I think he';ll understand, you shouldnt loosehim for not saying it, especiallyif your not ready.
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Hi
What you are feeling is TOTALLY normal. You don't want to get hurt again, and you feel if you open yourself up to your new boyfriend you stand the chance of getting hurt. Right?
It's better to have love and lost, then to never have loved at all.
The one thing you should consider is that maybe you're not ready for a serious relationship right now. Maybe you still have healing to do. If you feel you can move on, then you need to try to trust in your feelings and tell him...if you don't, you may end up regretting it.
Love like you've never been hurt, sing like noone is listening, and dance like noone is watching.
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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